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March 25, 2002 - "Approaching Women: A Great Example"

***QUESTION***

"Hello Dave,

I just wanted to start off by saying you have very valid
points with women. I have worked at bars and restaurants
where women come in looking to hook up with men. And the
cocky-funny attitude works wonders. I'm 22 going on 23
and I have had no problem ever getting women to give me
their number. But there is one problem I do have. That is
timing "the call". When should I call? Plus I used your
"Are you single" approach with this very attractive girl.
She gave me 5 mins of her time and I found out some cool
things about her. She was very hesitant on giving me her
number, but after I sat down to talk to her, she gave me
her number. Well, I called her two days after she gave
me her number and she was on the other line. So she told
me to call her back in 15 mins. I waited 30 and she never
answered the phone. so I left a message. Should I rip up
her number and never call her again? Or should I call her
in a week? Your advise would be greatly appreciated. Plus
why would she give me her number if she planned on not
talking to me in the first place?

Thanks."

>MY COMMENTS: I personally think that this is one of the
funniest questions in the book. I mean, haven't you watched
"Swingers"? lol...

My rule of thumb is to wait at least one day, but not more
than a few. The real key is how OFTEN you call her, and,
more importantly, what you SAY when you call.

But let's talk about the psychology of why women give out
their phone numbers, and why I personally like to get email
addresses.

You must remember that attractive women are being approached
all the time by men, in one way or another.

They have an unlimited supply of guys to choose from.

I think that a lot of women who give out their numbers, then
respond by being flaky when you call are doing something
that many of us guys wouldn't have thought of in a million
years:

I think they're making themselves feel good.

Explained differently, I think that many women give out
their numbers are looking for the self-image-boosting
hit of power that comes from having a lot of men calling
them... men that THEY have the power to ACCEPT OR REJECT.

They can also use it to get attention from friends:

"All these guys just keep calling me! Why don't they just
leave me alone! Don't the get the hint!?"

Now, don't get me wrong. I know that this sounds a little
bit negative... and I don't mean to say that ALL women
do this, or that ALL women are bad, etc.

To me, it's just part of the real world that you need to
learn to accept and deal with.

Which leads me to why I get email addresses...

Keep in mind, I've tried a lot of different things when
it comes to curing this problem of hot-and-cold women
who act one way when you meet them, then totally
different when you call.

And what I've found is that if you get EMAILS instead,
you not only differentiate yourself, but you also
increase your chances of hearing back from her about
100%. No lie.

For some reason, email has a power that a call does not.

If you have my book "Double Your Dating", then you have
read about the technique for getting a woman's email
address within a few minutes of meeting her. Email is
also seen as lower risk by her... and it's easier to
get as well.

Try it. You'll like it.


***QUESTION***

"David

Being cocky is the best way to go! I have picked up more
chicks reading your newsletter then I ever have in my life.
Getting the digits is a problem i used to have and really
sweat about. But now its a breeze! and i average about 3-5
a week.

But anyway to my dilemma..! I met this chick at work, she
is very good looking and we flirt all the time. But she has
a boyfriend! He drives a killer truck and he is 22 and im
19. Recently we have been flirting and talking more then
ever. but a co-worker went up to her and said that i really
like her and that she should stop sending me the wrong
signals since she has a boyfriend. So she comes up to me
and tells me that flirting is just part of her personality
and that she has a boyfriend that she plans on being with
for a while. But it just doesn’t add up... when im around
her i get a totally different vibe... everybody around me
tells me that they can tell she wants me. Plus i already
have her number THANKS TO YOU!!!! but how do i get past
the mature rich boyfriend. Or boyfriends in general!! im
stumped on how to retaliate Please help me find out what
she wants, and how to send the bf packin! i am so stuck on
this chick that i even find myself being depressed after
that day... HELP ME!!!

your loyal fan."

>MY COMMENTS: With all the women out there that don't
have boyfriends who drive trucks... and don't work at the
same place you do (which can only lead to problems in the
long run), why are you spending your time pining away
over this one?

I know, I know. She's extra good-looking, and she's funny,
and blah blah blah.

Look, just be her friend, and keep teasing her. She's
great target practice.

But do yourself a major favor, and go find a girl who
doesn't have a truck-owning boyfriend, and who doesn't
work with you.

Then, if the stars align in the future, she won't have
Truck Man anymore, and you won't work at the same place,
and she'll be so attracted to you from all of the
teasing that she'll follow you around like a puppy.

Stop wasting your mental energy trying to get something
that has a high risk of turning very bad, and put it on
finding opportunities that make more sense.


***QUESTION***

"Hi David,

What are your thoughts on approaching groups? And what's
the best way to approach a group of girls? I just moved
to Vegas, and I've found that hot girls will frequently
travel in groups of up to 8 girls or more. What have
you found works best for approaching groups? Thanks!

S."

>MY COMMENTS: The only reasons I can see for approaching
a "Group" of 8 or more girls are:

1) You have a bunch of friends, and you're trying to hook
them all up.

2) You really like challenges and entertaining people.

I know someone who loves to approach groups of people,
and he's great at it. He uses a combination of magic,
humor, and other great techniques to charm everyone, then
leaves with the girl of his choice.

But as far as I'm concerned, it's not the group you're
after most of the time... it's one woman in the group...
so stop with the "GROUP-THINK".

OK, 8 women walk into a club together (sounds like the
beginning of a good joke). What happens over the next
2 hours?

Well, some of them peel off and dance, some go to the
bar for a drink, some go to the lady's room to powder
their noses...

There are all kinds of opportunities to meet women when
they're not in the group of 8. And I'll tell you what,
if she is standing at the bar with her 7 friends and
you start talking to her, the other 7 will go about
their business and not care.

Just go get her email address. That's all you need.

Or learn magic. Really.


***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

"David:

As a female subscriber i'd like to admit to consciously
falling for many of the techniques outlined in your
newsletter. I’m a nineteen year old college girl and have
been dating my boyfriend for four years. His occasional
disinterest in me only makes me want him more. He doesn’t
call or email me as often as i call him or think it
necessary that we spend every weekend together and i know
he has a life other than me (i find this terribly
attractive). His body language or habit of "taking up
space and leaning back" is irresistible and his cocky
attitude has been making me hot for years. I want to tell
your male subscribers not to lose the cocky/funny routine
after they have found a girl they like; not just to keep
her, but to attract other girls as well. i find it a huge
turn on when i catch other girls checking out my guy."

>MY COMMENTS: Ah, yes. Thanks for the comments. Next time
do tell more about the whole "I find it a huge turn on
when I catch other girls checking out my guy..." thing.


***QUESTION***

"Hi David,

I have a question for you. Does the techniques you use in
your book work on women of all races? I am African -
American.

Thanks,

GB"

>MY COMMENTS: I get literally hundreds of emails a week
from all over the world telling success stories, so my
guess is that "yes, they do"...

And as a matter of fact, I'd like to thank all my readers
from every corner of the planet for staying tuned, and
for sending in your questions and stories.

Often, the person sending the story doesn't speak or
write English very well, and I don't speak their language,
so I don't include them in these Mailbags... but I try to
respond personally when I can.

My answer to you is: Try it. I think these principals
are universal when it comes to women. Just take your
local customs, traditions, and benchmarks of proper
behavior, as cultures differ... and I know that our
culture in America is different than many of the cultures
around the world.


***QUESTION***

"David, I just wanted to give your book a plug to all the
men out there who are currently involved in a long-term
relationship and want to spice things up. Using the
techniques described in your book I completely turned
around a 10 year relationship that had gone stale. We
went from having sex 2-3 times a day in the first 6 months
of the relationship to once or twice a MONTH in the last
couple of years. After reading your book, I began the
whole cocky/funny routine on my wife and stopped giving
in to every little whim she had and...BAM! Just like that
she was attracted again. She tried to pretend that she
didn't like the cockiness, but her actions showed how
she really felt about it. We're now back to 2-3 times a
week and I'm loving life. Thanks buddy for a great
education."

>MY COMMENTS: Can I just tell you how much I love getting
emails like this one? Hats off to you.


***QUESTION***

I just wanted to say I LOVE YOU MAN! for emphasizing the
COCKY AND FUNNY philosophy. I've recently tried out this
internet dating thing and man I'm telling you that I turned
up the volume to the max on being "cocky and funny" towards
the hottest chicks on the web. Let me tell you man that my
profile reads like a d*ckhead who can be hilarious at the
same time wrote this stuff. I would say things like I got
"abs" and sh*t, and that I only date girls with pretty
faces and who have cute feet and straight teeth; that I
like to party and have fun and look good doing it and
that my weakness is that I can be an a**hole sometimes but
give me one reason to change? You would not believe the
response so far. I'll keep you posted.

Keep up the good advice.

V."

>MY COMMETNS: lol... You just gotta love guys who take
things to the limit, huh? I think you're starting to get
it... lol.

(And for everyone who wants to know what "lol" means, it's
the internet way of saying "funny"... the letters stand
for "laughing out loud."


***QUESTION***

"Hi Dave,

This cocky/funny stuff becomes part of you after you use
it for a while. I have gotten numerous e-mails and dates
under my belt thanks to you.

Example : I met this hot grl at a bar, mostly college crowd.
Lot of guys were hitting on her. But as soon as I saw her
alone - I approached her. Here is the dialogue:

Me: Hey, can I ask you a quick question?
Her: ya....
Me: You go to college around here?
Her: no (and then she looks away as if not interested)
Me: (I tap on her shoulder) So where you from?
Her: From...(she gives the city name 4hrs away from where
I live)
Me: How do you like it here?
Her: I am visiting friends (She looks away again and talks
to her friend).
Me: So what do you do in (her town)?
Her: I go to pharmacy school...
Me: SO YOU ARE A DRUG DEALER??
Her:(She cracks up and the ice is broken).....small talk
.....ya da ya da.
me: small talk.....ya da ya da
me: I need to go back to my friends but nice meeting you.
(I turn away)
her: nice meeting you too (I really had her attention by now)
Me: (Turn back) do you have e-mail?
her: I don't check my e-mail often.
ME: "Ha!ha!ha!" (I started laughing loud)
Her:(Little disarmed)
Me: Do you have electricity?
Her: no....(cracks up)....I really don't check e-mail.
Me: Listen grl....imagine the worst case scenario...(do as
mentioned in you DD book)
.....I just want to make friends with a DRUG DEALER.
Her: Okay...here is my e-mail.
TOTAL TIME - 3 minutes and 16 seconds to get her e-mail -
yes i timed it.

We have exchanged e-mails back and forth now. She even asked
me to come to her place to go partying/dancing.

I replied back saying: "What?? I don't even know you and u
want me already? Sorry I am not that easy. Whatever happened
to the good old days when ladies invite guys for coffee
first?"

She is special(she is hot and seems to have good personal
qualities). Problem is she lives four hours away - how do I
go about doing this long distance thing? I told her to come
on down to my town. Provided she has personality that
matches her looks - I think she would be worth my time and
I would drive 4hrs to see her.

-A."

>MY COMMENTS: I know, isn't it great that this stuff
actually works?

By the way, nice touch asking the pharmacy school gal if
she's a drug dealer.

This is a great example of EXACTLY what to do when you
meet a girl. Read it again.

And as for the driving 4 hours thing... In the 4 hours
of driving EACH WAY, you could probably go out and meet
several other nice young ladies that are a big closer.
Maybe she loves to drive?


***QUESTION***

"Hey Dave,

Unsolicited, I think you're book is AMAZING. NICE WORK!
Breaking rapport with humor is a charm! I'm having a blast
with it. Ex: Attractive older woman at the cash register
tells me to move over to the next register, then she tells
another clerk to take care of the next customer, I say,
"You just order EVERYBODY around...DON'T you?" She goes,
"I'm too old to get married, but I LIKE you! You're REAL!"
So of course, I responded, "Well, I just do what I'm told,
but I'm not so sure about you...too BOSSY." Women love
this stuff!

Question: I've noticed in three different occasions where
chicks have respond to my actions by pouting. I know that
you've had some great recommendations, i.e., saying,
"You're cute when you pout.", etc. and it works, but, in
your opinion, have you found that the pouters have a lot
of personal baggage? Or is that normal female behavior??
...or BOTH. The last thing I want to do is get too
involved with a neurotic.

Please share your experience and observation.

Thanks, DJ Chicago"

>MY COMMENTS: Well, if you date enough women, you'll get
just about every possible response in the world.

Sure, once in awhile a woman will pout if you give her a
hard time and tease her.

It's a judgement call, but if you're dealing with a fragile
personality, just say "Oh, lighten up."

Most of the time, just do what you're doing... "You're cute
when you're mad" is great. Thanks for your story, it's great.


***QUESTION***

"Dave, its working to good for me!!!....lol! You truly
know ur stuff. Ive had so many girls pursue me in the last
couple of months. Ive narrowed down my girls down to 2 and
they both cant get enough of me, but theres one i really
like out of the 2. Ive recently decided to break it off with
one of them and stick with the one i really like, but there's
a problem. With the one that i really like, no one really
has the upper hand in the relationship. I dont know what i
have to do to gain this powerful control. How can i make
this girl wait on my every word!??!?! Any help would be
much appreciated. Once again, you are the man Dave. Thanks
again.

B."

>MY COMMENTS: Ahhhhh... interesting.

The one you like is the one who won't allow herself to be
controlled. An attractive woman with a sharp mind and a
quick wit. A challenge.

Probably not a coincidence, my friend.

Of course, this is the same thing a woman is looking for in
a man... someone who is interesting, challenging,
unpredictable...

If I were you, I'd thank my lucky stars that:

1) You found a woman that's this great.

2) You learned how to be and stay attractive to her.

You sound like a guy who's interested in having a great
relationship, but I'm not a relationship counselor.

I get guys into trouble like yours, not help them deal
with it! You poor, poor dear.

...and if you're reading this right now, and you've made
the decision that it's time to get this part of your life
called "WOMEN AND DATING" handled, then I'd recommend that
you download a copy of my online eBook "Double Your
Dating." Inside I'll teach you how women think, what
attracts them, plus dozens of techniques from how to get
women's email addresses and numbers to how to meet women
online. Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now and get it. It's taken me years to figure all of
this stuff out. And you can learn it in a few hours of
reading. Check it out.

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.


March 31, 2002 - "How To Tell Her That You Like Her: DON'T!"

***COMMENT***

"David

I've read the first chapter of your book and already
I've gotten results and a clearer vision of why I date
and who I want to date. I'm leaving the "Nice Guy/Loser"
behind and really getting what I want and giving women
what they want too, a cocky /funny man that they can't
rule with their whims.

Thanks,

E."

>MY COMMENTS: It's really amazing to me that a lot of us
guys use a strategy called "Be a nice guy" when we're with
a woman that we are attracted to...

But that this very strategy prevents us from EVER experiencing
real success and mastery in this area!

What's with that?

Like you said, you're now GIVING WOMEN WHAT THEY WANT: A cocky,
funny man that they can't control. Enjoy the rest of the book.


***QUESTION***

"Dear David:

I've had a lot of success dating on the Internet, but I
would always respond with the typical, boring description
and "hope to hear" sort of introduction, and let my picture
do the selling, as I am a handsome guy. Well, last night I
was browsing and I saw a BEAUTIFUL woman. I responded with
the "let me guess, you get about 50 emails a day from geeks"
email. Well, her response back started out with "How did you
get my password, because you must have been reading my
emails", and ended with "so what do you do when you're not
writing charming emails?". I included my photo, but I think
I'm in here.

Thanks,

J."

>MY COMMENTS: Isn't that GREAT?!

I love to hear stories like this one...

By the way, you would absolutely not believe that volume of
email that comes in to me saying "Hey, I lost the newsletter
with the personal ad response in it... can you send it to
me again?" and "Everyone is talking about how well the
personal ad letter you wrote works... can you send it to me?"
and such.

If only I had the time to sit at my computer day and night
answer all of the requests...

In any event, make sure you get her on the phone ASAP, and
don't dilly-dally. Strike while the iron is hot.


***QUESTION***

"When I ask for the phone number, women often ask "what do
you need it for?" Does it mean that they are not interested
or I didn't do the talking well before or they just
challenger me? If it's a challenge, what would be a good
response?

Thanks in advance,

S."

>MY COMMENTS: To me this smells like you're giving off some
strange vibes. It's only a guess (and an educated one), but
if women are asking you "What do you need it for?" often,
then you're probably coming off a little strange.

Work on your confident, cocky/funny demeanor. That should
help. You must ask in a way that doesn't say "I'm a wuss
and I don't think you're going to give it to me".

By the way, WHAT ARE YOU DOING STARTING OFF WITH ASKING FOR
NUMBERS?

Haven't I ranted and raved enough about how much easier it
is to get email addresses, and how much better women reply to
emails than calls?

Don't make me yell at you again in public!


***FROM A WOMAN***

"I am a nineteen year old woman who searched the internet with
my now-broken up boyfriend and found your newsletter and
jokingly signed up for it under my screen name. Well, I have
been reading it and I must say...your advice to these men is
very accurate...how did YOU ever get to know all this stuff?
You say that you get a lot of women writing in that it's not
fair that you tell men these things. I personally am glad that
you do, I've searched the world over for a man who will act
like that...but WOMEN want advice TOO!! The game would be a
little more fair if women had the same cheat sheet that you're
giving the men. So, that being said...I have the "innocent"
sort of look, and as a result many of the men I run into tend
to treat me like a child. How do I get them to see me as a
woman and not as their little sister?"

>MY COMMENTS: Did I ever mention that I respect 19 year old
innocent-looking women highly?

To answer your question, I got to know all this stuff because
I woke up one day and I was SICK AND TIRED of not knowing the
first thing about how to approach women, get their number,
make them feel attracted to me, etc. And I hated it.

So I spent a long time reading, learning, and getting to know
guys who knew how to attract women. I looked for the common
elements, and I refined those (and developed several of my
own in the process).

By the way, if you want to learn the female version of how
to be attractive, read the book "The Rules." I even recommend
that guys read it. Fun stuff.

So back to your problem of being an innocent-looking 19 year
old woman who wants more respect...

Stay tuned to these emails, and use what you learn.

Oh, and call me for some private consulting. Your situation
sounds challenging, but I think I may be able to help.


***QUESTION***

"Dave,

I won't bore you with more exclamations of how you are the man
or how your techniques are the best thing since french ticklers,
so let me get right to the success story and a follow up
question. Met a sweet young thing at the university I attend.
Went from never having spoken to her at all last semester to
having her come sit by me this semester every day because I
make her laugh. Sprinkle in lots of "smileys" and "winkey"
faces in e-mail, never mentioning her boyfriend, etc. and you see
where I'm going. The 19-year old Italian ballet dancer is making
pasta for me at her place later this week, and I can't wait to
see what she has in mind for dessert.

The question is not mentioned in your e-mails or in your book
(which I did download and which does rock the house). What is,
in your experience, the best way to deal with "cock-blockers".
These are the guys that while you are talking to a girl, even
just during the brief one or two minutes, have to jump it at
annoyingly high volume with their favorite anecdotal
contribution to your humor. It wrecks not only the rhythm but
the attention of the target. Obviously bashing him/her isn't
the plan as we're not here to get into confrontations. What
methods have you found to best deal with this? Let's assume
this is a girl you really want to home in on, so at least until
you find out if she is available, "moving on to the next one"
isn't the first option.

I'd also like to mention that while you stress the importance
of not using these techniques at work, I would like to stress
that a workplace environment is an exceptional place to
practice! Avoid any of the sexual innuendo but be cocky and
funny. Find out what works and what doesn't. Find out what
girls in the age group are looking for that month. And so on.
Even if you don't ever get with any of them, they are great
"sharpening stones".

Be cool, D."

>MY COMMENTS: This is a great question, because it actually
happens often.

As far as I'm concerned, you have to just be a Jedi.

Your only purpose is to get her email address and phone number.

Don't worry about anything else.

If someone starts being stupid and distracting, just cut it
short, and say "It was nice talking to you, I'm going to get
back to my friends and leave you two to chat....

...Hey, do you have email?"

Then just get her email and number right in front of your
admiring blocker, and walk away. Take it as a signal that it's
time to get the info and hit the road.


***QUESTION***

"Lots of respect Dave,

I have and issue, no matter where i am and i see a
girl that i like, i am some how afraid to go over and
talk to her. If you could let me know what to do to
get rid of this fear as soon as possible.

Thanks."

>MY COMMENTS: It takes a lot of nerve to admit that you're
afraid in these situations. You're not alone.

Here's the deal:

Every one of us is different.

I know you want a quick solution, but a quick solution depends
more on you than it does on anything else.

I recommend that you start by chatting with women on AOL and
other instant messaging services. This is great free practice,
and it allows you to think, because IMs are slow.

Next, work your way up to conversations with waitresses,
checkers, bar tenders, hostesses, and other women who are being
paid to be nice to you.

Then, try doing something that involves a lot of people with a
common interest... like yoga, pottery, or sports. These
situations have a lot of built in opportunities to talk to
women you don't know.

Finally, start talking to women that you see everywhere.

Of course, it's very important to know what to say, and how to
talk to them. For a full explanation of the mindset and
attitude, refer to my book "Double Your Dating."

It's up to you how fast you progress. Remember, they don't bite...
(well, most of them don't).


***COMMENT***

"David i liked your email about "Are you a player" One response
that I really liked and that has worked for me is a play on
words, no pun intended. I've been asked if I a player not if
I date other women. So I have used the responses:

"Yeah, (pause) I play/played hockey, I play basketball. . ."

Or if I have already had sex with her or fooled around with her:

"Well i like playing playing with you" (then give her a little
pat on on the butt or touch her somewhere else)

Its been my experience, you may or not agree, that women find
this a play on words is not only funny, as long as you don't
sound like a dumbass, but imaginative all the while making you
more attractive to them."

>MY COMMENTS: Ah, someone who gets it.


***QUESTION***

"David,

What kind of style or clothing do you recommend to attract
women? Dark colors? Solids? Collared shirts? What kind of
pants? Shoes? Accessories like watches etc?

And still try not to spend a fortune! And just curious, does a
man in uniform have any advantages and if so, what uniform is
the best?

Thanks

B."

>MY COMMENTS: I recommend that you check out how Motley Crue
dresses, and try to copy them as much as you can. They seem to
get a lot of girls, so try that.

WHAT DO I LOOK LIKE, YOUR FASHION CONSULTANT? lol...

This is actually a great question for your FEMALE FRIENDS.

If there's one thing you can usually count on getting from your
women friends, it's good fashion advice. And they often know the
great discount places to shop as well.

My take on fashion is that you don't have to wear expensive
clothes or fancy watches, but it sure helps if you know what
you're doing and you have at least a little bit of style.

Start reading GQ when you're at the newsstand... watch how the
handsome lead guys are dressing in the movies... stay tuned to
what kinds of jeans are in, what kinds of colors are in, and
what kinds of shoes are in. It really doesn't take very much
time at all.

Then go down to your local discount clothing store like Ross
Dress For Less, Marshalls, or my favorite, The Nordstrom Rack,
and mix-and-match up some hip getups for your bad self.

A lot of the guys I know who are very successful women are
neither rich, tall, or handsome...

...but almost all of them dress well.

And dressing well doesn't mean spending a lot of money, it
means knowing HOW. Someone who knows HOW can walk into a
Goodwill or used clothing store, and walk out looking great
having spent twenty bucks.

And remember, women ALWAYS know whether you know or not.


***QUESTION***

"Hi David,

I've known this girl I grew up with since we were little, but
the only problem is that I don't know how I should go about
telling her that I'm interested in her, every time that we are
out with some friends of our every thing is all right, but when
its just me and her in the car its quiet not much to say to one
another and that if its the right thing to do to ask her if
there could be something between her and I since we are so
close what should I do.

Thanks..."

>MY COMMENTS: SSSSSSSSSSSSSTTTTTOOOOOOOOOOOOOOPPPPP!

Whoa, Trigger.

The first thing you need to do is NOT "go about telling her that
you're interested in her."

And the second thing you need to do is NOT "ask her if there
could be something between her and I".

NO NO NO NO NO.

But first, let's address the "every time we go out and it's just
her and me in the car it's quiet" thing.

The reason that it's quiet is because YOU LIKE HER, SHE KNOWS
THAT YOU DO, YOU CAN'T THINK OF ANYTHING TO SAY TO HER, AND
YOU JUST ACT LIKE A WUSS... WHICH ONLY MAKES THINGS WORSE.

I'd be quiet if I were in a car with you myself (but, unlike
her, I think you're pretty cute).

Try this:

Do yourself a huge favor, and date a few other women for awhile.

Don't call her for a week or two.

Then, when you do talk to her or see her again, just be friends
with her.

Tell her about what you're up to, that you're dating some other
women, and that you have to go... then hang up.

You need to get some other options in your life, and you need to
quit being quiet and creating that uncomfortable silence which
says "I'm attracted to you, I'm insecure about it, and I'm sure
hoping that you like me back." Don't do that anymore.

Women aren't attracted to weakness and insecurity. And one of the
best ways to communicate that you're weak and insecure is to ASK
her if she likes you, or tell her you like her.

And read my book "Double Your Dating." You'll learn a lot.


***QUESTION***

"Dave,

I have a question. A few months back I started dating
this fantastic woman. We hit it off instantly. I have
been practicing the cockiness before with great
success. She loved it and things went along great.
The mixture of romance and cockiness worked very well
but stopped working. The problem is that she has
suddenly decided she does not want a boyfriend right
now because she has many things to work out. I have
given her space, and she will email me or call after a
few days to see what I'm up to, but no indication of
when or if we will go out again. Do I give up, keep
at what Im presently doing, or just move on? Thanks

T. in Dallas"

>MY COMMENTS: This is only a guess because I don't know all
of the details, but my guess is that you DIDN'T GIVE HER
ENOUGH SPACE.

You probably called her too much, saw her too much, and acted
like a clingy-boy.

When a woman says any of the following:

"I don't want a relationship right now"

"I really care about our friendship and don't want to mess that
up"

"I like you as a friend"

"I need some time to find myself"

...it usually can be translated thusly:

"You were cool at the beginning, but you started acting like a
wuss, and I just don't FEEL IT for you."

Solution: Don't call often. End conversations first. Give her
space. Always end interactions too soon, and on a high note...

Get it?

Don't take it personally, take responsibility.

And remember, ATTRACTION ISN'T LOGICAL. Women aren't attracted
to what they SHOULD be attracted to.

If you want women to feel attraction, you're going to have to
learn how to create it.

Stay tuned.


***QUESTION***

"Hi David,

Your newsletter is really good. I come from Scotland and
although I can detect a slight 'American' influence it really
works well. I have a problem David that I just don't know will
ever be solved but I'd like to ask you anyway. I realise it is
a bit heavy but the main thing is I'm sort of OK with it. I
have a disability David that I think puts women off from the
'this is my man, an he'll provide for me, attitude' Talking
to women as never been much of a problem (I think I'm OK at
communication). ; even hooking up sometimes and more often than
not the 'back to my place thing'.

I've also been involved with a women for four years and although
the sex is great, deep down we both know we aren't going
anywhere. It gets worse because she is a good friend now and a
companion. She also helps me clean the house up and has one of
my keys. I just don't know what to do David. I don't expect
you to reply to this e-mail but if you do, thanks for all the
tips. For all the other guys out there - listen to this man -
he knows what he's talking about.

Cheers,

A."

>MY COMMENTS: I hope you see the irony in your email to me...

I get emails all the time that say:

"Oh, David... please help me... I'm a good-looking, athletic
guy, but I just can't figure out what to do with the ladies..."
and such.

And you're emailing me saying that you have all kinds of
success with women, and you're just ending a four-year
relationship... and you want to know what I think about your
situation.

Here's the deal: Sure, some women might have an initial issue
with your disability. We all have aspects of our lives that
aren't the "ideal" socially approved variety.

But you will only be as limited as you allow yourself to be.

I know and know of guys that have overcome so many incredible
challenges and gone on to be successful in all areas of life,
that I can only say "You can make whatever you want to make
of your own life and success." And this includes success with
women. You're already way ahead of most guys...


***QUESTION***

"David,

I am a 39 year old guy and am still single because of a lot of
personal problems I went thru in the early and mid 1990s (nothing
too serious--wasn't arrested, didn't go bankrupt, wasn't psycho,
etc). Now that all of this is in the past, I've been venturing
out into the dating scene again. As I'm more serious about
finding a relationship, I prefer women in their 30s and early
40s. My question is this: Do you think that the "cocky and
funny" routine works on women in their 30s and 40s too? It
seems to me that women of this age group who are divorced/single
do not want to play games as much. I'm not looking to play games
either.

Or should I take a modified approach to cocky/funny?

Thanks,

Dating in Chicago"

>MY COMMENTS: You're using the word "games" here to describe
the cocky/funny attitude, and I think that we're mixing up our
definitions and associations.

When I think of "games" as the term relates to men, women, and
dating, I think of things like lying, cheating, and manipulation
(in the negative sense).

Cocky and funny is a fun, attractive attitude that is VERY
attractive in general - to women of all ages.

And yes, women that are in their 30s and early 40s love it.


***QUESTION***

"Bonjour David,

I'm 31 and i teach computer office stuff. Most of my students
are woman from 22 to 50. I've always been the guy that is ...I
wouldn't not say an AFC, but in french we say "homme rose". So,
i've been reading your mail for a while and after i finally got
the courage to change my personality, I started acting cocky and
funny(and why not practice on my classes). Would you believe it,
in an instant my classes became a chicken farm...and i'm the only
rooster...ahahah!(picture me in front of 20 women that really
enjoy looking at me and listening to me!!!). I'm not talking
about flirting here. Their attitude toward me changed dramatically,
some of them kiss me when they get into class, they touch me a lot
now, they try to match me with the hottest in the class, it's very
funny. I have a girlfriend that i truly love for more than a year
now, but realizing that i can attract a lot of woman gave me
confidence toward what i can bring to my girlfriend. That way i
know that if our relationship ends one days(i don't want that
but...) i can just turn around and have other options...

What is strange about this new situation, now they pass the word
around that im a bad boy( i guess to them it's a way of saying
attractive man, different from others). To all of you readers.
The more you will act cocky/funny, the more this will become your
nature, blended with your own personal style.

In the history book of seduction. Your name is in it David.

S."

>MY COMMENTS: Tomorrow I'm going to call up and find out what I
need to do in order to teach computer skills to groups of women.


***QUESTION***

"Dave,

Your stuff is right on. The thing I like most about it is that
you keep your self-respect when use the stuff in your book . . .
and women pick up on this.

My question is this: Can you recommend any exercises that one
can do on his own that can keep him from behaving like 95% of
the losers that have no spine and no persistence? You know...
some "spine strengthening" exercises.

Keep up the good work,

S."

>MY COMMENTS: The best exercise is to make sure to practice with
EVERY woman you meet. From the grocery store line to the
operator on the telephone. All of them.

Test every kind of cocky/funny idea you can come up with.

If you're on the phone with the operator, say:

"Wow, thanks for your help... I think this relationship is off
to a good start."

If you're in a clothing store and a woman asks "Can I help you?"
say "Wow, this new cologne must be working... I've had a woman
walk up and talk to me in every store I've been in."

Just practice saying charming, funny, slightly arrogant things.

If you keep this up, you'll keep seeing the positive responses
that you'll get, and it will become "reflexive."


***INTERESTING STORY AND QUESTION***

"David,

I have had a lot more success with women since I got your e-book.
The techniques do work, however I realize that I have a ways to
go before I really get rid of my bad habits in dealing with
women and get to be good with your material.

Background and Question: I met this girl a year ago, we hit it
off real well for quite a while, but then she went cold on me
(you don't have to say it:) I know, I started really liking
her, and started to make all the wussy mistakes that most
unenlightened guys make--the biggest mistake was that one
night she was rather inebriated and obviously wanted sex, but
I did not make any advances on her in that state; that was when
she really lost interest in me.

So I got pissed at her for the way she was acting after that
(ignoring me completely, not doing things with me she had
committed to etc.), and didn't contact her anymore (as a side
note, I had not yet found your newsletter or ezine at the time,
nor had I decided that I had to really get this aspect of my
life dealt with--after she started acting uninterested, I
decided that I must fix this part of my life--so I bought your
ebook).

Let me explain that I am a very inexperienced guy when it comes
to women (I am very young and still a virgin)--so I have some
major stumbling blocks like getting up the courage to kiss her,
to know HOW to transition it to the next level etc.

So after a couple of months, she called me and was all friendly
like nothing ever happened. She told me she was seeing another
guy, so I wished her the best and ended the call first--but I
know she was curious at least about me (of course---she was not
used to getting the cold shoulder from me).

It went on like this for several months (on friendly but very
aloof terms for my part--I always had to go, ended the call
first etc) til recently; she called me last week and invited
me out with her to see some Flamenco dancing. I was noncommittal
and said I would get back with her the next day to confirm or
not. I was supposed to call her back the next day, but decided
to make her call me so I wouldn't look too interested. Sure
enough she called me that afternoon and I accepted. She insisted
that she pay for the tickets and treat me out (I told her that
I was broke on the phone), and so we went.

On the way there she started to tell me that she was single again
(hint) and that she was upset that she was shot down by a guy
recently. Halfway through the performance, there was a break
when we could talk and she bought us drinks, started to complain
how she had never been asked for marriage (for crying out loud,
she's barely 20, and she is certainly cute with a great figure).
She is also convinced that I have girls all over me--she kept
bringing the subject, and Dave, I must say that I very
skillfully didn't answer her direct questions, but made it into
cocky funny jokes. She still wonders...

I teased her about this for a bit and was cocky and funny the
whole time. On the way home she wanted a light from me and I
told her "for a kiss" in a funny way to which she said that she
would find her own lighter and wasn't a good kisser; I told
her she needed to be taught by a good teacher, and that I would
have to just steal that kiss and teach her (however I didn't--no
good opportunity arose as she was driving a difficult road and
there was a console between us--should I have just kissed her
anyway when I wanted to kiss her?).

Then we got home and she told me again that she was real tired
and not feeling well (which she had been saying all evening, in
fact even on the phone that day, and I think it was the truth)
and I left after thanking her and kissing her on the cheek
(there were no cues for me to make any moves so I didn't).

OK-- sorry for all the background but it is necessary. Now the
questions: Is she interested in me again as I think? Did I
handle it alright for a novice? What cues do I need to put my
arm around her and cuddle, etc., or do I need any cue from her
to do these things? She is not a touchy feely person.

And finally, how should I handle it from now on? This is most
important. There is a dance this Saturday, should I ask her out
or stay aloof?

Thanks my friend,

C.

>MY COMMENTS: Your email made an impact on me... because it covers
a lot of different real-world issues that us guys have to face
all the time with women.

Sometimes a woman will be flirting with you, then the next time
she's cold as a fish.

Sometimes it will seem like she likes you, then it won't.

Often, if you stop calling a woman who didn't seem interested,
she'll start calling you.

Here are a few things to remember:

1) Women are attracted to men for very different reasons (in
general) than men are attracted to women for.

2) Women are, in my experience, far more "fickle". In other
words, one day they'll seem interested, the next day they won't.

3) If a woman knows that you're completely taken with her at the
very beginning, she'll be FAR less likely to be taken with YOU.

You're doing just fine.

One of the most important things you can possibly do right now
is to REMEMBER NOT TO TAKE ANY OF THIS PERSONALLY... AND NOT
LET ANY OF IT DRIVE YOU CRAZY.

If you stick with it, keep learning, and keep practicing,
you will start to get a "feel" for what's going on with women.

And soon, you'll be sitting back, thinking to yourself:

"Well, let's see... I'll bet that when this girl meets guys
they fall for her quickly. Guys probably call her all the
time. I'm going to call her, get off the phone quickly, give
her some space, and if she doesn't call me within a week or
so I'll give her another short call."

And you'll know which situations to do this in and why this is
the right thing to do.

...and to anyone reading this right now:

If you're in a place where you have made the decision that it's
time to get this part of your life handled, and you'd like to
learn more about female psychology, how to attract women, how
to meet more women, how to get women's email addresses and
phone numbers, how to meet women online, how to take things
from the first meeting all the way to the bedroom, and
everything in between, then I'd highly recommend that you go
and download a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating."
Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...right now and get your copy. You'll learn the techniques
that it's taken me years to find, learn, develop, and refine.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

April 7, 2002 - "Meeting Women In Bars, An Unorthodox Approach"

***COMMENT***

"My best friend and I have always been on the "nice guy"
kick. I'm sure you already know exactly what's that
gotten us too. Before I started getting your newsletter,
he and I had noticed something about a great many women.
While true, we saw a lot of nice looking women with nice
dressed men, we noticed more with scummy looking, tattooed,
pierced all over kind of guys. Your logic hadn't exactly
occurred to me. We figured maybe we should grow our hair
long and nappy. Get visible tattoos and piercings. Drink,
maybe drugs would help too. And smack em around a few
times just to let em know "we care", as many women in
abusive relationships seem to defend their man. Although
we'd never actually DO those things. Your way seems to
work a lil better. I've always been kind of a smartass
anyway. Women DO seem to like it. But, usually I'm not
that way with them until I get to know them better. Or,
let them get to know ME better, as it were..."

>MY COMMENTS: I know... it doesn't really make sense at
first glance, does it? I mean, why would an attractive
woman overlook all of the successful, nice guys that are
available... the guys that would like to buy them things
and take them out... the guys that would kiss up to them
and do anything for them... and instead choose abusive
jerk-types for dating and sex?

The short answer, in case you don't already know it is:

WOMEN DON'T FEEL A GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION FOR "NICE" GUYS.

Attraction doesn't follow the same rules as friendship.

Attraction is triggered by something other than "nice."

And one of the biggest obstacles to guys "getting" this
is that we don't realize that attraction works completely
differently for women than it does for men.

Stay tuned for more.


***SUCCESS STORY***

"Hey Dave,

I've gone from a shy, only-talking-to-girls-I-meet-online-
fellow, to a talk-to-you-at-the-drop-of-a-hat type of guy,
and it's all thanks to you! I came up with a rather
cocky/funny approach about a month ago and since then I've
met 6 girls for coffee. 2 of them happened to be
physical therapy majors and both of them offered to give
me some "sexual healing." Anyway, I work at my school's
gym so I get to see girls in there little shorts, hehe. I
would call the prospect over to the desk I'm at and ask
her if she's single. If she says yes, I respond, "so if I
did this, (start running my finger through her hair while
I whisper in her ear I wanted to lay her down and kiss her
from head to toe and back up again) "you wouldn't have to
deal with telling your b/f you've begun seeing someone
else?" And being that they're on their way to the cardio
room, I have just enough time to use use your "gimme your
e-mail & phone number thing." By the way, I'm a relatively
short guy (5'5) so really, it is all your approach. On a
side note, I have 4 girls from online that I've made plans
to link up with for a midnite rendezvous. 'course the number
is higher but only these four are in my area. Anyway, KEEP
UP THE GOOD WORK PLAYA!!!!"

>MY COMMENTS: Well, now you've done it...

Your story actually sounds UN-real! lol... but I'll also
tell you something from personal experience...

I'VE SEEN GUYS DO THINGS THAT MAKE THIS LOOK TAME - MANY
TIMES, IN PERSON, WITH MY OWN TWO EYES.

It's so hard for most men who have never had any success
with women to identify with a story like yours. They'll
say "Well, it's because you work at the gym" or "He's
probably in good shape" or whatever.

While these things may be true, you also mentioned something
else in your story: YOU DIDN'T USE TO BE THIS WAY, AND NOW
THAT YOU UNDERSTAND THE MINDSET AND HOW TO USE IT, YOU ARE.

By the way, isn't that Marvin Gaye technique SWEEEEEET?


***QUESTION***

"Dave,

Keep up the good work! It helped be bag (or should I say
bed) a 25-year-old cutie. I'm 35.

After sleeping together five times during the last three
weeks, she suddenly asked me if she could start introducing
me as her boyfriend. I like her, don't really need to sleep
with other women (for now), but got uneasy: I currently
fear commitment of any sort, having recently left a
five-year relationship.

So what I said, without losing a beat, nor my humor, was,
"Gee, I guess you could call me anything you want!"

Not sure this was the best way out. Your opinion?"

K."

>MY COMMENTS: So you used the old bag-and-bed technique on
her, eh?

Even though I don't discuss the big "R" word very often
(relationships), I'd like to make a quick comment.

When I first start seeing a woman, I like to tell her what
my perspective is on relationships. I feel that it makes
everything go more smoothly, whether it turns into a
relationship or not. And it goes a little something like
this:

"I think that people get into relationships too fast. I
think that two people should wait a MINIMUM of a few months
before they even think about it. I have to know someone
before I'm running around calling them my g-friend."

This is a very condensed version, but you get the point.

A point to remember: I REALLY BELIEVE THIS. So I'm not just
saying something I don't believe in order to manipulate her.

And, as a side note: I promote the idea that men should
understand how the whole men-women-attraction-sex thing
works... but I don't like the idea of lying, manipulating,
and misleading people just to get what you want. It's a
challenge to stay in the zone of having integrity, being
honest, and staying true to yourself... while at the same
time learning new techniques that can, at first, feel like
you're "manipulating". You don't have to lie, cheat, or
mislead in order to be successful with women. So don't.


***QUESTION***

"Hey Dave,

I'm your typical average looking "nice guy" who has
never been overly successful with the ladies. Oh, it's
always been easy for me to make friends with the women,
even the drop-dead gorgeous ones. But it's been next
to impossible to turn those friendships into anything
romantic or sexual. All that has changed dramatically
since reading your eBook. Thank you.

My question is concerning older women. I am 34, but due
to my job I get to meet a lot of older women (40s and 50s)
of the upper class "country club" persuasion (many former
trophy wives in this group). With a combination of
superiors genes, personal trainers and plastic surgeons,
a large percentage of these women are extremely attractive
(and wealthy). So far I haven't tried out the cocky/funny
routine on any of them -- being a little intimidated by
the age difference -- but there are several I would love
to date. Any comments or advice on using this technique
on older women?"

>MY COMMENTS: Older, more sophisticated women will LOVE it
if you use a sophisticated cocky+funny approach.

I mean, cummon... what are all of these women looking for
more than anything?

MEN TO STILL FIND THEM SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE.

Cocky+Funny is the universal code language for "You're
kind of hot... so let's get party started".

By the way, the problem you mentioned at the beginning of
your letter here of it being "...next to impossible to
turn those friendships into anything romantic or sexual..."
caught my eye.

THE PROBLEM IS THAT YOU CAN'T GET THERE FROM HERE.

Trying to turn a woman who you've made friends with and
convinced beyond the shadow of a doubt that you're a nice,
wussy-boy is like trying to get your MOM do date you.

EEEwwwww. All this talk of friends, older ladies, dating,
and moms just isn't working for me. You get the point...

Start out by turning on the ATTRACTION... you don't want
her to see you as "friend" EVER!


***QUESTION***

"Hey David,

...what do I say when a woman I haven't talked to in a
while (whom I'm interested in) asks about my love life?
I want her to know I'm single, but desired by others.
Some cocky/funny ideas would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks,

J."

>MY COMMENTS: I'm going to let you in on a little secret:

If a woman knows you're dating other women, she'll be FAR
more likely to be interested in you.

Yep.

So don't downplay it.

Remember, we humans (and especially women who have
competition) LOVE a good challenge. Even though we whine
about it, kick and scream, and resist, there's nothing
that will get a person's attention like a challenge that
they're willing to face.

You're on the right track looking for a way to bring the
cocky+funny mindset to the table.

How about these:

Her: "So, tell me about your love life."

You: "Have you ever heard of James Bond? You get the idea."

OR...

Her: "So, are you seeing anyone special?"

You: "What do you mean by "special?" No, I wouldn't call
any of them "special"... unless you're talking about
not being the sharpest tool in the shed... in that
case, yes, I'm seeing a couple of 'special' women."

Get the idea?

Your answers are saying "I'm confident enough to
make jokes about it" while still implying that you're
going out with several women.


***QUESTION***

"Hello,

I truly believe that this is a great site. I am
learning a whole lot about the opposite sex. I saw
myself in the last story. I had meet this beautiful
girl at a club. I walked up to her we started
communicating for almost 30min. So i asked her to
dance she then told me no. So i thought to myself why
would she say no after having a great conversation. I
then asked for her telephone number-she again said no.
She then went and danced with another guy after she
told me she is not in a dancing mood. While dancing
with this guy she kept looking towards my direction.
But i played it cool-as if i did not have a care in
the world. So i left the club- The following weekend i
saw her again-but did not look into her direction but
she then walked up to me and started talking. So i
kept the conversation brief by telling her that i am
talking to my friends. She then asked if i want to
dance, i told her again i am talking to my friends.
Anyway by the end of the night she asked for my number
and i gave it to her. Now we have been hanging out for
a few weeks but here is my question.

We have chilled at my place and her place. Eat dinner,
she has spend the night at my place and i at her
place. But no Sex. She refuse to have sex (as she say
not yet b/c it changes things). I mean we have kiss,
undressed each other but no sex. I do believe that she
is playing a power game. She wants to control the sex
part. I think i pamper her too much and i am losing
control of my stance(open doors, cook dinner-breakfast,
out to eat etc). I really like her.

What you think.

O."

>MY COMMENTS: lol... please forgive me for laughing at
what must be a painful experience for you... LOL!

Ouch.

OK, so here's my analysis:

1) She knew that she owned you from the very beginning.

2) You did the right thing by not acting overly-anxious
at the second meeting.

3) She probably said to herself: "Oh, he's playing hard
to get, huh? Well, I'll bet that he's really just a
wussy-boy that I can have some fun with... so let's
find out."

4) SHE KNOWS THAT YOU WANT HER BADLY. And, as you
probably learned in economics, price goes up as demand
goes up.

5) You sure do have a keen sense of the obvious with
your assessment of "I do believe she is playing a power
game" and your ability to discern that she's controlling
the sex.

6) You need to turn the tables around, stop needing her
so badly, and STOP ACTING LIKE A WUSSY!

OK, so how do you do this? Well, the short answer is:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

Spend a few hours with that material, and you'll know
what to do. I guarantee it.


***QUESTION***

"Thanxs dave for the awesome tips!!!!!! But I have one
important question on my mind I need to ask you. When
I approach a girl that I find attractive. What are
some things I can say to make a bit of a long
conversation between me and that girl?

Well, I hope you can answer this one, because
sometimes it leaves me with wonders and stuttors of
what to say next.

sincerely,

T."

>MY COMMENTS: WHY IN THE WORLD would you want to
"...make a bit of a long conversation..."?!

Long conversations are for girly-men who want a woman
to see them as a friend-only. Conversation isn't the
answer when you first meet a woman.

You want her DIGITS! The info!

Use the 3-Minute email technique, get her email and
number, and email her later.

How do I know that this is the right answer for you?

Simple. If you had the skills required to engage in
a long conversation with a woman you've just met...
in a public place... and have her leave feeling
attracted to you, then you never would have asked
this question in the first place.

Once you've learned how to make women feel ATTRACTION,
then go try things like "...long conversation with women
you've just met..."


***QUESTION***

"Hello David! Your cocky/funny strategy works like a
charm! Since i've been on your email list, the number
of messages on my answering machine have been steadily
growing. YOU ARE THE MAN! And to tell you the truth, the
question I have in mind actually stems off of the; over-
the-top-success, of your cocky/funny strategy. So here
it goes: Im sure every guy who's ever dated has heard of
the infamous "three day rule".... and to some extremes,
the "one week rule" (this rule is so famous im not gonna
bother to explain it). Through my experiences in using
your cocky and funny techniques, it creates a VERY LARGE
amount of attraction, so much in fact women often call me
right after the first date... sometimes it only takes a
couple hours. Now from what I understand usually women
don't call after the first date, and usually waits for
the guy to call. But when im in the situation where
women call/email me frantically, should I just ignore
them and follow the "three day rule"? Or would this give
off the unattractive "wussy/desperate vibe"?

M.
Houston, Tx"

>MY COMMENTS: You're a very, very, very bad man.

Making those poor women pine away over you for three
whole days?

OK, here's the deal:

When most guys go out with a woman, they do boring
things, take her to a boring dinner or movie, act
nervous and uncomfortable, kiss up to her, and do all of
the things they can possibly do wrong.

If you do these things, you're going to need to employ
things like "the three day rule" and such.

But, if you do what YOU'RE DOING, and treat a woman to
a challenging, fun experience of cocky+funny, you're
going to see something interesting happen.

Women are going to start thinking about you... A LOT.

And if you don't call right away, they're going to be
wondering if you like them, trying to get in touch with
you to see if you're with other women, and all kinds of
unexpected things.

Being scarce is a good thing.

If I were you, I'd call her a day after she calls or
emails you. That should create sufficient tension and
amplify the attraction.

My personal perspective: Don't call a woman more than
two or three times a week, and don't see her more than
once or twice (for the first ten dates or so). It just
makes things work out a lot better in my experience.


***QUESTION***

"Dave,

Great book. I'll get right to the point.

How can you tell if the girl you're dating is a wacko
(I'm sure you've met a few)? By 'wacko' I mean the
following: How do you tell if she's the type that really
wants slight emotional abuse? How do you gauge her
self-esteem quickly and early? How do you tell if she's
the type that can't take it when you try to do something
nice for her? How do you tell if she's a female player?

Clearly, I've discovered, that I have no chance with
women like these. So it's important to be able to see
these things as early as possible. Any signs you look
for?


Thanks,

J."

>MY COMMENTS: This is a GREAT question. And I think that
it's a timely question as well. It seems to me that there
are more and more un-healthy people running around out
there. It's a good idea to look out for them.

One of the reasons why I suggest not getting too
involved with a woman too fast is that SHE MIGHT BE A
PSYCHO!

Don't laugh... I've had it happen to me. Once upon a
time I fell for a woman too quickly, moved in with her,
then found out she was basically a psycho. It was a huge
bummer.

So what are the warning signs?

Well, watch out for women who:

1) Talk too much about who they know, how much money
they spend on frivolous things, and what social events
are important to be seen at. Bad news. These are
usually signs of a very unhealthy personality.

2) Say they're sorry for everything, make excuses for
everything, and act overly-self-conscious. Low self
esteem here... which is difficult to deal with.

3) Want to spend every minute with you, and want to
know where you are at all times. Overly-jealous,
possessive women will make your life hell.

4) Get very emotional. Women who get upset about things,
let other people's drama affect their lives, want to
complain about their situation, etc. will drag you down.
If a woman starts getting too emotional about something
too early on, consider hitting the road.

5) Are too shy. If a woman is too shy, it's going to be
hard for you to ever have meaningful communication or
fun. Women who are shy have often not learned how to
communicate well... which makes it hard to enjoy your
time with them.

As a rule of thumb, TRUST YOUR STOMACH. If your stomach
tells you that something is wrong, then something
probably IS wrong. Don't assume that just because a
woman is attractive she's also psychologically healthy.
That's the fast lane to trouble.

Thanks for the great question.


***SUCCESS STORY***

"First of all Hi.

I am not from a English spoken countries, so my
English is not to good but I hope that you will understand
me.

One of the last newsletter QUESTION was.
"When I ask for the phone number, women often ask "what do
you need it for?" Does it mean that they are not
interested or I didn't do the talking well before or they
just challenger me? If it's a challenge, what would be a
high-quality response?

So here is one response that works..

SHE: "what do you need it for?"

ME: well, I can tell you a what will happened to you
in the future, if I only take a quick look at combinations
of digits of your phone number..

SHE: yeah right...

ME: OK.. allow me to prove you. (and I gave her a
paper and pen, she wrote it down, I put the paper in
my pocket, smile to her and say. well it was nice to
meet you. but I have to go now to find my friends, and
I turned my back. than she grab my sleeve and asked.

SHE: hey. and what about my future..???

ME: I smiled to her and said "I thought that you don't
believe in prophecy "

(I take out the paper look at it and said) I can tell
that since now you didn't have much luck with males.
But don't worry your luck is about to change, an very
sexy looking and intelligent guy is about to call you
in Monday to go out with him, and he will completely
change your life and make you happy.

sorry again for my English but I hope that
you understand what I was talking about.
if you find this text as interesting and liked to
publish it in newsletters you have my permission to
change and adapt it to people from English spoken
areas..

M."

>MY COMMENTS: Well, your English may not be perfect,
but your way of dealing with this situation is great.

Perfect.


***QUESTION***

"Dear David,

I have been using the cocky funny method for some time now
with tons of success. For example I will go up to a girl,
start walking with her, and say "Have you ever walked with
a more sexy man?" OR "Does it upset you to be walking with
such a sexy man because nobody is looking at you and
everyone is looking at me?"...or if a girl just looks at
me I will go over and say something like "I know you want
me for my sexy body, but I am tired of feeling like just
an object to women. I am tired of women always staring at
me and wanting my body." Anyways I just keep playing
along like that and I have really mastered the technique.
I have some of the hottest girls talking to the average
looking guy (me) and what is best is they are always
laughing, smiling and giving me their numbers and emails.

Now to my question. I have found 2 girls (after getting
many numbers and emails...and emails are the best to get!)
that I really like. How do I and when do I transition
from cocky/funny to a relationship? It seems like what
cocky/funny gets me is more girlFRIENDS (emphasis on
FRIENDS) not relationships because I don't know how to
make the transition from cocky/funny to relationship.
Always having fun.

Thanks,

J."

>MY COMMENTS: Well, the problem isn't that cocky+funny
leads to friends, it's that you're NOT TAKING THE NEXT
STEP. I think you're a bit pre-mature to think that you
have to go right to a "relationship."

I have several friends who are very funny... and women
love them... but they just won't take things to the
next level.

Have you used The Kiss Test?

Have you used the other methods I teach for taking
things to a physical level?

Have you read my book?

From the sounds of it, probably not.

There are 10 major steps from the first meeting to the
bedroom. And there is a way to "bridge" each of these
so that the transition from one to the next is smooth
and easy. If you understand the steps, then things
will be likely to work, but if you don't, then things
are probably going to be harder for you.

If you get a copy of my eBook "Double Your Dating"
you'll also get three bonus booklets along with it.

One of them is called "Bridges", and it's all about how
to smoothly move from one step to the next.

Another one is called "Sex Secrets". It's all about
how to make a woman feel very sexually aroused and
attracted to you.

Check these out. They'll be a HUGE help to you.


***EMAIL OF THE WEEK***

"David-

I saw a great example of your advice to be cocky and
funny in initial contact with chicks.

I was at a country/western bar last Thursday. It was
"Ladies Night" but there were not a lot of ladies in
there. At the edge of the dance floor I saw a table
with five women and an open table right next to them.
I talked a little bit to them while the band members
were warming up their guitars and checking the sound
system.

The band played a set, but only one couple danced. I
was trying to figure out a way to ask one of the women
in the group to dance, when this other guy saunters up
to their table, points with his thumb back toward the
bar and says, "The boss told me I'll have to ask you
women to leave." Well...that got their attention. All
of them wanted to know why. So, this joker says, "Because
none of you even knows how to dance." The women were
beside themselves by now, really jacked-up, and everyone
of them told him they knew how to dance and that they all
danced well. This guys shakes his head, then looks at
each one of them and says, "Okay, prove it. I'll dance
with each one of you everytime the band plays a new song.
If you know what you're doing you can stay...if you are
just here to look beautiful and recirculate air...then
I'm bouncing you outside."

Now, none of these women were overly attractive, but he
just kept it up. He points at all of them and says "Show
me you're more than just a pretty face." The guy danced
with all of them, and pretended he was checking them
off by giving a thumbs-up to the bartender (who didn't
know what the flip the guy was doing.)

By now, the women had caught on and invited him to just
stay there and sit with them. He spent the rest of the
night making them laugh about every other minute with
stupid stories about his guard dog rotweiler named
"Muffy"...fish he'd caught that looked like Hillary
Clinton or Hollywood actresses...and other malarkey.
Once, when one of the women cracked a one liner, he
pointed at her and said, "I'll do the jokes around
here...thank you very much." Which made them laugh even
harder.

Now check this out. He goes out on the floor and swings
with two of them. When I asked another one of them to
dance, we come back to the table and this guy says, "Man,
I turn my back for a second and some cowpoke starts
bird-dogging my lookers." The girl I danced with cracks up
and says, "Well, you already had one for each hand."
This hammerhead doesn't miss a beat, he says, "Hey, I
got a belt loop in back you coulda hung on to, you know."

David, this guy was the poster boy for what you preach.
Keep it up, buddy. Cocky and funny make it happen

C."

>MY COMMENTS: I don't know what to say. Read this story
again... it's great!


***SUCCESS STORY***

"David, just a quik note, I have been skeptical of the
advice, but Saturday Morning, i had to give it a try,
couldnt resist. and well, damned if it didnt work. I work
at a large motor company, where we were doing a 2 hour
radio remote just south of Atlanta. The radio crew
consisted of 2 djs and about half a dozen Hard bodied girls
on location. As a professional photographer, i brought a
camera rig to do some promo shots for the car dealership.
Things went well, used all the "cocky but funny lines with
the chicks, had them laughing and rolling. At the end of
the promo, they asked me to stand in with them for a photo,
(which i did oblige) and really, i loved this one, as i was
surrounded by all these gorgeous babes, i used the line"
normally, women like you are intimidated by my charm, and
good looks" Worked like a charm!!! got half a dozen email
addresses. gonna down load your book now, my friend, Thanks

C.

Mcdougnah, Ga"

>MY COMMENTS: You're trying to tell me that you're a
PROFESSIONAL PHOTOGRAPHER, and you're just now learning
how to hook up with the fabulous beauties that you take
pictures of? Better late than never... lol.


***QUESTION***

"Hi David,

Let me start by giving you my thanks. Your book not
only changed my life, but it greatly improved it. I
had no idea that arrogance and humor was the key to
success with women. I have read many dating books out
there, and yours BY FAR was the most beneficial. The
others included a lot of non-sense, but yours just
MAKES SENSE. That is why I ordered it.

Now, to my question. This cocky / funny attitude
works like a charm, but I find it somewhat conflicting
with the subject of chivalry (opening doors for the
ladies, pulling out the chair, paying for their
dinner, or as other books call it: being a gentleman).
You have already addressed gifts as not necessary,
which I agree with, but you have not addressed
chivalry or have you? If you did, could you give me
the page number? I think many of us are wondering
what to do when we are on those really formal dates
that come up from time to time. In some instances,
wouldn't it be insulting not to pull out the chair
for instance? Thanks a million bro.

your fan,

S.
Seattle, WA

P.S. GUYS, FOR YOUR OWN GOOD ORDER THIS GUYS BOOK. IT
MAKES SENSE."

>MY COMMENTS: Chivalry does not conflict with my
concepts. In fact, one of my favorite things to do is
SEND MIXED MESSAGES.

I think Chivalry is great. Open doors. Pull out chairs.
Walk on the outside of the sidewalk. Open HER door if
SHE'S driving (big hit). Order for her.

Mix this with the other things I teach, and you'll have
dynamite.

Oh, and for the benefit of all other readers, I'm going
to repeat part of your email to me:

"P.S. GUYS, FOR YOUR OWN GOOD ORDER THIS GUYS BOOK. IT
MAKES SENSE."

It amazes me that a man will eagerly spend fifty or a
hundred bucks to take a woman out to dinner... and do
this over and over again... KNOWING that he doesn't
understand what to do in order to make a woman feel
attraction... but that same guy will hesitate and think
about it when it comes to spending $39.95 to learn
how to actually be successful with women (And the book
comes with a 100% no-hassle money-back guarantee, while
dinner dates do not). Go figure.

If you're ready to learn how to do things SMARTER, I'd
recommend you download a copy of my eBook "Double Your
Dating". Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...and get it. You'll be glad you did.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.


May 21, 2002 - "What To Do If She's Not Interested"

***QUESTION***

Hey D,

I couldn't believe what i just saw on the new Star Wars 2
movie. Anakin Skywalker returned to see Queen Amidala
after 10 years of being apart. He acted very nervous and
said that she looks beautiful, of course she rejected him
harshly. Later, he stared into her eyes and smiled and
she said "Don't do that again, it makes me uncomfortable,"
which is the 2nd rejection. Finally they are in a room
together and he tells her that he has had feelings for her
his whole life, that he dreams of her, and he is being
tortured inside because he likes her so much.....at this
point i was laughing to myself thinking "wussy boy is
going to be rejected the third time." however, i was
surprised when she kissed him and said she has feelings
too. So my point is that I'm glad you're helping us guys
out because most people would think "wow, maybe i should
do everything that Anakin did," but we know that telling
your feelings to a girl is a definite no no. that movie
was very misleading since Amidala fell in love with Anakin
when he did such a stupid thing as confess his feelings.

Thanks for showing us the real truth

>MY COMMENTS: Ah, the wonderful movie fantasy world.

You know, there are so many movies that would be great
examples for men, except for the fact that they all
end very unrealistically.

They always start out with the guy doing all the right
things, being cocky and funny, presenting a challenge,
and generally being ATTRACTIVE...

Then, at some point towards the end, this guy who was
doing all the right things all of a sudden gets the
bright idea to start sharing his feelings, and acting
like a totally Wussy. Of course, in the movies the
woman that he's confessing his wussy feelings for
somehow sees the light and falls for him.

Sounds like in this one (which I haven't seen yet
because I was soooo disappointed at the last one...
Jar Jar Binks has to be the biggest mistake that Geoge
Lukas has ever made in his prfessional career) started
out all bad as well...

Some great movies that would so SO KILLER and show such
awesome examples of how things really work (without the
wussy endings) are: The Tao Of Steve, Crouching Tiger,
Hidden Dragon, Cruel Intentions, Top Gun, Chocolat...
and about forty seven million others.

I just can't recommend them because the male leads
always figure out how to do the wrong thing at some
critical point in the movie, and it somehow always
leads to the woman liking them... which, of course,
would never happen in the real world.

Whatever.


***QUESTION***

You are the Man,

That is what I would like to let you know first off.
Your dating theories are dead on target. What you
have done is simplified thousands of methods most men
already knew about but were to stupid to figure out on
our own while they were working for them all along(me
being one of them). I am like these guys who finally
woke up and realized what it is that worked. "Cocky
and Funny" Playing hard to get, etc.

I have a situation, I really like this girl I have
been seeing for a while. We have been dating for
almost 2 months and haven't slept together yet. The
thing is she was on and off again with her ex of 3
years until I came into the picture. The problem is
she knows I care for her because I have been kinda of
a wuss, but how can I correct the situation and make
her want me so bad she can't take it. At the same
time making her forget the guy who took her virginity
for good.

Don't Want to be a rebound.

Miami

>MY COMMENTS: Trying to back-pedal and UN-Wuss yourself
in a woman's eyes is tough work.

Once you start behaving like a girly-man, the switch
shuts off in a woman's head, and it BREAKS.

This of course makes things even worse, because then
nothing you do seems to make any difference at all.

That best hope you have is to start dating some other
attractive women, don't call her for awhile, and when
she calls you let her know how you're doing and what
you've been up to.

Then, if she begins to miss you, you'll have one
single, solitary opportunity to begin behaving like
a man again.

If not, then you got on with your life, and you kept
your self respect.

Move on. It's the best thing you can do.


***QUESTION***

Hi,

I am 18 years old and I just recently graduated
high-school. In high-school, I never really took the
oppurtunity to talk to girls that much, but I reason
that I should have. Right now I work at blockbuster
video (no girls my age there) and then I come home
afterwards. I only have about 3 friends and they are
all male and are just sort of my pals and I am the
best friend to all of them, so this doesn't give me
much opportunity to get out to parties and meet new
girls. My first question is "where should I meet
girls?" Mind now, I am 18, 5'11, average looking and
I have very few connections with other people.

Now for my second question; whenever I go and talk to
a girl that I like even a little bit, the conversation
always gets boring with long moments of silence in
between. I try to be cocky and funny, and I succeed but
every second minute of when talking to girls has too
much silence in it. I mean we just run out of things to
talk about, and this is because the girl and I both
can't think of anything relavent to talk about. This is
very true for when I am talking to girls I don't know.
First we talk about how things are going and then what
schools we went to and then jobs and then that's about
it. What other topics are there to talk about with
strange girls...what do they want to talk about?

Thanx
J.C.P.
Australia

>MY COMMENTS: Wow, I sure whish I would have been
thinking about this when I was 18...

If I were you, I'd get an instant messenger program
like AOL, MSN Messenger, or Yahoo Messenger and start
chatting with women online.

You can learn so much by talking to women every day,
and when you do it online you have time to think and
create interesting conversation.

It's the best simulator there is, because it's real.

Now, as far as conversation goes...

You need to learn about history and how to tell
stories, learn how to tell good jokes, learn how to
make interesting comments, pay attention.

I'm not sure what kind of area you live in, so I
really can't tell you where to go to meet women (I
haven't been to Australia yet), but I'd say that
maybe you should go check out a pottery or art
class, go to an aerobics class, and find the local
health spa. Look for a coffee shop that's nearby,
and bring along a book... see if all of the spa-
babes come in for tea and such.

If you just take a little time to think, then look
around, you can find places where attractive women
congregate. I'm sure you'll find some!


***QUESTION***

I love your stuff. I have been trying it on one chick
where I had totally wussed out before, because I figure
what the heck, it’s a safe place to experiment, since I
have nothing at all to lose, the stakes are low. Now
this same chick is calling me all the time (I have to
cut off the calls), wanting to stop by the office to
visit, etc. and I am amazed, like developing a super
power you don’t know what to do with (go Spiderman).
Its actually against my regular instincts, but that’s
what’s so interesting about your methods. But I want to
advance to the next level, at least for me.

My question is about humor, not just the cocky-funny
style type that you have been talking about. I
personally get a laugh out of self-deprecating humor
(David Letterman for example or Rodney Dangerfield).
That’s what I personally like in a comedy club or
whatever, so since that’s what I like, I tend to use
that style when in a group. I am actually pretty self
confident and (up until now) I thought that the ability
to make fun of myself showed that I had ample self
confidence. But maybe that’s an “over thought out” and
wrong theory. Maybe chicks are just too literal minded
to get ironic humor. I make a lot of ironic jokes and
just get this blank stare, no reaction, they don’t get the
humor. Maybe they think you are serious when you make fun
of yourself too (its actually sort of like giving them a
hard time). When around the babes, do you recommend using
or dropping this style of humor? (I can always save it for
my guy friends, who do appreciate that style).


dm

>MY COMMENTS: Good observation. "Cocky and Funny" does
not imply making fun of YOURSELF.

If you're going to make fun of anyone, make fun of her
and others. Just make sure it's funny.

When you bust on yourself, it comes across to women as
you trying to show off by making fun of yourself... but
it's usually just weak.

Like you said, you can always save the self-depricating
humor for your guy friends... maybe they'll be attracted
by it!


***SUCCESS***

hi there freind. being a cynic i doubted the techniques
and doubted whether the success stories were even real...
but my god..after reading the E-mails i had to get the
book! the 3 minute routine works a treat, i never knew
getting number atfer number and e-mail after e-mail of
girls could be so easy! My freinds have seen me in
action and call me "smooth" it seems that the more you
do it the more confident you keep getting..i have no fear
of getting blown out. the cucky+funny routine is
definateley an amazing way to realy get girls and to get
them realy intrigued about you...i realy mean this when i
say thanks a lot i am realy enjoying myself with this
knowledge!

MY COMMENTS: You're welcome. I smile every time I get
an email from a guy that says: "I can't believe it! A
woman actually gave me her email and number!"

I can remember when I had no idea that it was even
possible to get a woman's number right after meeting
her...

Great job, and thanks for the email.


***SUCCESS***

Dear Dave:

I am from Peru, and I have been receiving your mails
for a while now. I haven’t downloaded your book yet,
but I will do it shortly.

About my story: The day before yesterday I was called
for a TV quiz show, with a car as the main prize. I
was in the post nearest to the public, and they were
girls from a high school. But the teacher, she was
really a hot babe! mid-twenties, long hair, long legs,
gorgeous! She looked at me and I held the look. When
the show began, I was really nervous, and I failed the
first answer. After they cut the recording, I was
upset, but I said to myself "what the hell, if I don't
get the car at least will try to get the girl". So I
went to her and told her sternly "if you want to give
me the answer, at least give me the right one!" She
looked at me astonished (she hadn't even open her
mouth), and then I said: "OK, I forgive you. But if I
don't get the car, you owe me a ride home" She smiled
and said OK. I couldn't believe it! The rest of the
show she and her students were cheering me, and not
the other guys. And guess what? I got the car! and she
ran to me really thrilled and gave me a bear-hug and a
great kiss! I was so excited, both for the car and the
girl, that I didn't remember that I can't drive (never
learned) and when I told her, she said "Never mind, I
will ride you home anyway". Now she is my driving
teacher.

Thanks by your "cocky-and-funny" attitude. It really
works. BTW, if you know any Peruvian person, the show
will be aired this Sunday, by Channel-13 in Peru.
(Yes, I am the guy with glasses and a bit
overwheighted). Whoopeee!!!

G.R.

Lima, Peru

>MY COMMENTS: And another one of my favorite stories
to hear is about guys like you who are on a different
part of the planet using these materials to help you
succeed with women and dating.

I love your idea of turning the fact that you can't
drive into an advantage by making a cute girl your
DRIVING TEACHER. Nice.

Let me know how the "lessons" turn out.


***QUESTION***

Hey David,

I have been reading your newsletter for more than 3
months now. I have been learning from your techniques,
cocky & humerous attitude that a lot of your readers
claim to have success with. But you know.... I am just
trying to be myself in front of girls...and I dont think
being cocky and humerous is really being me. Is there
any way i can change my mentality? or my attitude? will
reading your books help me to change my mentality?...

Thanks for reading my letter,

J.

>MY COMMENTS: I hate to have to be the one to break the
bad news, but if "being yourself" isn't getting you any
success with women, then it's probably time you tried
doing something a little different.

I got an email recently from a guy who asked me:

"Do you really think that a guy should change how he
acts, just to get more dates with women?"

My answer is: Only if it's worth it to him.

If you're not naturally behaving in a way that attracts
women, then what are your options?

I mean, if women don't find you interesting, and don't
feel attraction towards you, what do you want me to
do?

Maybe I should whip up some fairy-dust that you just
sprinkle on yourself and it attracts babes and makes
them not notice that you're boring them to tears.

I can only lead the horse to water. You're the one
who has to drink.

And yes, I think my book would help you out a lot. It
will explain to you why the Cocky+Funny attitude
actually makes women feel ATTRACTION, and how to use
it and other techniques to help you meet and date
more women. I highly recommend it.


***SUCCESS STORY***

David,

After finally buying your book about a week ago, I just
finished reading the book and the three booklets that
accompany it. First of all, I would just like to say WOW!
I was so surprised! It all made so much sense! Reading
your books gave me the information that I really wanted
(and needed) concerning the few past relationships that I
had been lucky enough to have. All the things I did WRONG
and all the things I did RIGHT! (I was glad to see that I
was actually doing some things right!) Your books really
put things into perspective! I plan on reading them all
again (maybe two or three more times) to fully grasp the
information. Thanks for the great information. I can't
wait to get out and try some of the stuff!

NK

Ohio

>MY COMMENTS: You pointed out something that I hear
quite a bit: "Well, I'm doing SOME of the things you
talk about... but she still doesn't like me."

If you don't have the whole puzzle together, then
things just won't work smoothly.

You can be close, but if you're missing a key piece,
and you don't know about it at all, you might go for
years without knowing why things just won't work out
with women.

It sounds like you're having some big "Ah Ha's", and
I can't wait to hear a Success Story from you soon.


***QUESTION***

whats up Dave, I have been getting your newsletter for
about 2 months. Wow! I have had more success than ive
ever had, particularly with this 1 girl whom I have
been friends with for over 2 years. I knew she felt
something for me to the start, but I was so pathetic.
I was the "nice guy" and expected her to realize how
good of a person I am! OMG what the hell was I
thinking! I have got farthur with her in 1 week than
the 2 years I was the "nice guy"! I flirt with her
all the time and I think she enjoys it. Question is,
when do I know when to ask her out, I'm not sure if she
really likes me yet (she is a flirt to a lot of her
guy-friends) I want a relationship with her...something
tht will last. But how do I go off to ask her out to be
my girlfriend. Could you give me some tips/stratagies
to knowing the right moment? Thanks to you man, Im
finally not a wuss. You the man Dave!

>MY COMMENTS: WHOA! Stop right there!

Before you go and screw up something even worse that
it's taken you two years to get this screwed up...

Where have you heard me say "Ask her to be your
girlfriend at the first sign of her flirting with
you"...?

That's right... NOWHERE... NEVER.

You need to lean back, give her some space, and
play it very cool.

You need to give her some attention, make her laugh,
tease her a bit, then don't call for a few days.

Next, you need to go out with her, and bust on her
like she's an old friend. Don't do anything that
would lead her to believe that you're interested.
Even talk about other girls.

Finally, if things keep going well, use The Kiss
Test to take things to a physical level... and then
give her some space again.

If things continue to go well, and you use what
you've learned from me (and in my book "Double
Your Dating), SHE will be the one to start making
"relationship noises."

This is when it might be a good time to consider
it...

But don't you dare screw this up by moving too
fast and turning into needy-wuss-boy right in
front of her.


***QUESTION***

I have been using the techniques I've learned from your book
and from your emails for the last few weeks now and I
managed to land myself a hot one. To make a long story
short we went out three days in a row and on the third date
we were intimate. I could tell she liked me because she was
calling me a few times a day...and was really responding to
my cocky funny attitude which I left on her answering
machine the first time I called her telling her I'm that
incredibly attractive had sexy guy from last Saturday...ect.
When we were out she would whisper to her girlfriend a lot
and before that would get to me and I would ask the friend
corny stuff about whether her friend liked me, and I would
constantly wonder if the date was going OK. No more... I made
her a guest in my reality and just relaxed and had a good
time. After date two she saw me getting attention from
another girl at the bar and she got really upset... but just
like your book said I remained calm didn't apologize for
anything and laughed at her. To my surprise she was calling
me the next day apologizing for the way she acted ect. And
on Day three she called me and left a message and when I
didn't respond immediately she left me another message
indicating to me that she hoped everything was still all
right ect and that she still hoped to meet up later that
night ect.

This is my question. On day four I dropped her off after our
night of passion and she told me that she was going to work
and that she would call me later that day. Well, I didn't
hear from her. Should I call her today with a funny cocky
routine about how she used me for my body ect...I know women
will play different games to see how interested a guy really
is ect (and no I don't consider myself a bad lover..I have
had no complaints in the past, and I'm usually the first to
end my relationships). I just don't want her to think I'm
hooked or anything. Your advice would greatly be appreciated.

Thanks,

G Texas

>MY COMMENTS: Interesting situation.

I don't mean to bad-mouth women, but this is a VERY COMMON
game that they play...

They say "I'll call you later"... but they never do.

It's an oooooold game. She's trying to see if you'll call
her and say "Hey, why didn't you call me?"

She probably wants to know if she's "Got you."

Part of your idea was great...

Wait a day or two until she calls you, THEN say:

"Oh, I see. You just used me for my body, huh?"

There's nothing more fun than taking typical female
games and turning them around in a semi-serious way...


***QUESTION***

hey dave,

your technique is magical! last year I was lucky to even
talk to any girls aside from in classes that I took when
it was necessary. Now I have about 15 girls going crazy
and fighting over me, which I find very amusing. Anyways,
with all these girls fighting over me, I finally picked
one. But me and her are both in the same like, group of
friends,and it's hard to get her out of the group,
because when ever I try to invite her somewhere one on
one, with that magical, 'lets get together and make
friends' approach, she tries to invite other people in
the same group, or we run into other people in the group
and they decide to just tag along. Another question...
If your at a party with a bunch of friends, how do you
get into a one on one situation with a girl there? People
tend to walk up and start talking to you, interrupting
your conversation, as well as what ever progress you were
making with the girl. EVERYONE BUY THE E-BOOK! it's a work
of art! Keep up the good work dave!!

-J.R.
-New York

>MY COMMENTS: lol... you're a funny guy. And I quote:

"With all these girls fighting over me, I finally picked
one..."

Yea, you picked one of the ones that WASN'T fighting over
you!!!

Duh!

Well, it's not the first time, and it won't be the last
time a guy has only been interested in the one single
woman in the world that just won't seem to come to her
senses and chase after him.

Why don't you just pick the best of the 15, and call it
even?

My guess is that you're communicating in some way to her
that you're into her, and she's playing hard to get (which
is what YOU should be doing, my man).

...and if you're reading this right now, and you'd like
to have problems like this guy, I'd recommend that you go
and download a copy of my online eBook "Double Your
Dating." It's full of great techniques for meeting and
dating the kinds of women that you've always wanted...
Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now and download it.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

ONE DEFAULT THING TO DO IN ANY SITUATION
One of the concepts that I really think is valuable to
get a handle on is called "Always have one default thing to
do in every common situation."

It's amazing to me when I watch a guy interacting with a
woman, and everything is going well... and then it's time
for him to either step up and make something happen, or
walk away like the wussy he is for NOT taking action...

...AND HE JUST DOESN'T DO IT!

Ohhhhhhhh I hate it when that happens.

I'm sure you've never had this happen. Neither have I,
of course.

I was out yesterday at the cel phone store getting a new
phone (because a certain company who's name starts with "S"
has the worst customer service on the planet)... sorry, I
digress... and I witnessed a painful episode of "Wuss Drops
The Ball" right before my eyes.

A tall, blonde model-type girl was waiting to get
herself a new antenna for her phone, and Mr. Smooth started
a conversation with her by saying "What kind of phone do
you have?"

The conversation was going along well, and they were
both smiling and laughing about phones and such.

Finally, Ms. Model walked up to the counter and got her
new antenna, then said "good bye" to Mr. Wuss-Of-All-Time,
who proceeded to smile dorkily at her and wave as she
walked out of his life forever.

He just watched her walk all the way to the other end
of the store, out the door, and out of sight.

You've probably seen the "I'm SUCH a loser" look.
Well, he had it.

IT WAS GOING SO WELL FOR HIM! WHY DIDN'T HE JUST ASK
HER FOR SOME INFO? EMAIL? NUMBER? ANYTHING!

He had that look in his eye of "Damn. I really should
have just asked her for her number."

Twenty bucks says that he thought about that girl all
day long, and imagined 47 different great things that he
SHOULD have said in the moment - but didn't.

The only reason I'm so sure of this is because I used
to do this exact thing myself all the time. And now I
know that many, many guys go through scenarios like this
every day - but never get any positive results because
they're not READY TO ACT IN THE MOMENT.

For some strange reason, many guys feel compelled to
come up with some UNIQUE and ORIGINAL way to handle
every situation. And you know what that usually leads
to... (right, a date with Rosy Palmer and her 5 sisters).

So what's the answer?

The answer is to have ONE DEFAULT THING TO DO IN
EVERY COMMON SITUATION.

One way to start conversations with women.

One way to ask for emails and/or phone numbers.

One way to take things to a physical level.

One place to go out with a woman...

...etc., etc., etc....

I can hear it now:

"But David, it sounds kind of corny to ask every woman
for her number the same way..."

I get it.

I used to feel the same way.

But here's the deal: If you will just take the time to
learn and prepare ONE simple way to handle each of the most
common situations, you'll be about a hundred times more
successful than if you try to "figure out something unique
and original on the spot" every time.

And here's the irony of the situation...

Once you get a default way to handle each common
situation, and you start experiencing SUCCESS on a regular
basis with women, you'll GAIN the ability to create
better ideas on the spot.

Action Steps:

1) Choose the one situation that happens most often, the one
that you'd like to have an EXACT default sequence of words
and behaviors to use to get you to the next level.

2) Close your eyes, and mentally run through the last five
or ten situations like this that you were in.

3) Brainstorm 10 or 20 great ways that you could handle
this particular situation in the future.

4) Choose the one single best idea on the list, and refine
it down to an exact sequence.

5) Close your eyes again and mentally rehearse it. See
yourself doing it in your mind's eye. Move around and play
it out... if you need to stand up, do it. Actually imagine
that a woman is in the room with you, and pretend that
you're getting her number, kissing her, or whatever.

6) If your mom comes into your room, quickly transition
into "Macbeth" and claim that you were improvising on
Shakespeare!

Seriously, it's ULTRA important for you to know what
you're going to do next time you're talking to a woman and
you want to ask for her email of phone number.

If you don't know what you're going to do and exactly
how to do it, then you're probably going to come across
like Mr. Smooth in the cel phone store...

Here's the irony of this situation:

WOMEN WANT YOU TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP!

But if you don't, then they won't either.

A woman will think to herself... "He seems nice, funny,
interesting. I wish he'd ask me for my number... Oh, he's
nervous... how cute. Well, if he can't get up the nerve to
ask me for my number, then I'm not going to overcome his
inner WUSSY and do it for him. Poor thing."

And I'm not kidding about this.

Find an attractive woman and read this newsletter to
her. She'll laugh her ass off at what I just wrote. Really.

Of course, if you would like to take a look at the
"Teacher's Edition" of the high-school algebra book and
learn some of the secrets that it's taken me literally
YEARS to learn, then I'd recommend that you download a copy
of my online eBook "Double Your Dating." It's full of
literally DOZENS of the very best ideas for taking things
from one step to the next. Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now and download your copy. It's the very best investment
you can make in your dating success.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

MEETING WOMEN IN DIFFERENT PLACES
***QUESTION***

Hey David,

I was wondering if you could offer any wisdom on what
you've gained from writing and responding to online
personal ads. I'm not having a great deal of luck so
far. Specifically, my questions are:

1. How brief should your descriptions of yourself
and/or your ideal catch be? I've heard it said that
"brevity is the soul of wit", but you also want to be
memorable, right?

2. When writing descriptions, should you stick with
C&F? I've noticed that humor often doesn't translate
well in written form, so I wasn't sure how to go about
all that.

3. I think I read in a previous newsletter that you
recommend not posting a picture. At the same time, I
tend to avoid ads without pictures due to having one
too many blind dates which ended with me throwing a
stick and shouting "fetch!" in order to distract her
long enough to get away. Don't you think that by
committing a picture on your ad, women might pass you
up for the same reason? Or am I mistaken?

An apprentice,

J.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You've asked some questions that really require more of an
in-depth treatment... but here are a few pointers that have
taken me YEARS to figure out:

1) You'll get more responses in general by replying to
personal ads placed by women than you will by placing your
own ad (Unless you're a master of writing personal ads).

2) If you're going to use the personals, look at the new
ads that are placed daily, and respond as soon as a woman
places her ad. Attractive women typically get 50-100
responses per DAY to personal ads, and it's very easy to
get overwhelmed. You'll notice that a lot of women take
their ads down after just a few days... this is why.

3) Be charming and funny (also known as COCKY and funny) in
your replies (or in your ad, if you write your own). Say
things like "I was looking through all these ads here on
the internet thinking to myself "Look at all the poor,
desperate, lonely women..." and then I saw your ad and
thought to myself "Hey, here's a poor, desperate, lonely
woman that's actually CUTE..." so I thought I'd write and
see if you're as interesting on the inside as you are in
this picture..."

4) I mentioned in one of recent newsletters that I got an
email from a guy who had his picture taken with some
dolphins... and that he's getting tons of responses from
that. I've never done it myself, but it sounds like a great
idea!


***QUESTION***

Dave, love your book. I have learned more about women in
the last two months than I knew in my lifetime. The teasing
and being cocky/funny really turns them on. I have know
this girl for some time and we were mostly friends. Just
lately she said to me "I love you R,". Is it ok for me to
tell her I love her too or is it better to say nothing and
just smile which I did so far.

R.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Take a cue from Han Solo...

Say "I know".

You might throw in a sly half-smile to let her know that
you're having fun after you say it.

As far as your question of "Is it OK to tell her that I
love her too?" I can't answer that. You're at a stage
that is past our topic here.

I think that love and relationships are great, but since
this isn't the area that I choose to talk about, you're
going to have to decide for yourself.

Just don't turn into a wussy... that's bad no matter what.


***COMMENT***

It seems like a lot of the guys who subscribe to your
newsletter and buy the book - myself included - are average
guys who have trouble with girls just because they are
afraid of getting rejected. I've got an idea that might
help. Get two or three good friends together and have a
'contest' where the goal is to get shot down. Spend a day
or a night out in clubs, coffee shops, malls, etc. going up
to girls with the sole intention of having them reject you,
and whoever gets rejected the most times wins. Try out any
approach - good or bad - you can think of. Be rude, crude,
funny, serious, a nice guy, a jerk, whatever you want, and
take notes on how the girls react. If she slaps your face,
that's fine because that's the goal. And if she doesn't
shoot you down, that's even better. After a night like
this you'll become a bit 'numb' when you are rejected in
the future, and you'll have a better understanding of how
girls react to being hit on. If necessary go to a
different city for the weekend and try it out there, so
that you aren't afraid of running into these girls again.

- C.L.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I think that the basic idea is good, but I'd say that you're
probably better off seeing who can get the most email
addresses - instead of seeing who can get shut down.

If you go out with the specific idea of being rude, crude,
a jerk, etc. I think you're working on the wrong outcome.

I get what you're saying about how this might make you "numb"
to future rejection...

But I think you'll learn a lot more if you take the approach
of "We're each going to approach 50 women today, and let's
see who can get the most email addresses". Focus on what you
want, not what you don't want.


***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

First off, I want to thank you for spreading your
wisdom. I bought your book two weeks ago after
reading several of your newsletters, and it was the
answer to most of my prayers. I've gone from dating
a girl maybe two women in a year, to dating 3 women
at once, all 3 call me every day, and this was before
I even bought the book, just from the advice from
your emails!! You have definitely "Doubled" my
dating!!

My question, one girl in particular I find really
attractive and the most challenging (which I like)
still has a "Control Freak" boyfriend, with whom I
think she’s afraid to break up with. He's the kind of
guy that would threaten to kill himself if she were
to leave him, but basically uses her for sex, and
controls most aspects of her life. Should I just
stop talking to her? Or keep bustin her balls about
why she’s still with him? Because I find myself
feeling some sort of sympathy for her, and its
affecting my "cocky and funny" routine (with her
at least).

Thanks for your help!!

C. from MD


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Let me ask you a question...

Why in the world would you want to be with a woman who has
a "suicidal control freak" boyfriend fetish?

When you meet a woman like this, the warning bells should
be going off in your head... "Danger Will Robinson, Danger!"

Do yourself a HUGE favor. Find a woman who's interesting
and "challenging" like her that DOESN'T have a psycho
neurotic boyfriend... and don't turn into one.



***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

I just wanted to say thank you, from all the
women out here in single land. Out of curiosity, I
clicked on a link from [another website] to see what
all this great advice was about. just from reading
about your "kiss test" I knew you had figured it out.
I like being hit on by a confident assertive man.
I also like a man who can figure it out that I'm not
interested. Honestly, I will fall over and spread
my legs for any man that does the right things
whether he's extremely attractive or not. I would
never tell him how to do it. I guess that's your job.
Anyway, like I said, I just wanted to thank you.
I personally hope I get hit on in the grocery store
by someone who has read your book!

Thanks,

K.H.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, thank you for your letter. I truly appreciate your
honesty and directness.

Most men can't believe that what you're saying could
actually be true, but as we both know, it quite often is.

The interesting thing you say (which I agree with) is:

"I would never tell him how to do it."

In other words, A WOMAN WILL NEVER TEACH A WUSSY BOY WHO
DOESN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO THE SECRETS OF GETTING HER.

Translation for guys: If you don't know what you're doing
when it comes to women, LEARN.


***QUESTION***

Dave,

I have been reading your articles and from other guys
out there trying to improve their macking skills, your
articles and tips are on point on how to be a mack
with the ladies, but I feel that because of a negative
experiences with women in my teenage and college years,
really hold me back from being the mack that is inside
of me along, now in my mid-twenties, I need to get
passed this negative experiences with women, I have no
problem talking to women or having a conversation, but
i don't have my own place, my income is very low at
this moment, this make it even harder for me, could you
give me some advice to get pass this fear that because
i have very little now plus the past experience with
women in the past, plus I live in nyc where women are
into themselves, and a man without his own place, car,
and little money are looked at like "why are you talking
to me, you have nothing to offer me."

M.

nyc

>>>MY COMMENTS:

First of all, YES, there are women who will only talk
to you if you have money...

BUT THIS IS NOT THE RULE... IT'S THE EXCEPTION.

If a woman feels the magical emotion of ATTRACTION, then
it matters not how much money you have.

I used to believe that it was probably only guys who had
nice cars and lots of cash got to go out with all the
women...

But then, as I got to know more and more guys who were
VERY successful with women, I realized that it came down
to their personalities more than anything else... including
looks, height, money, etc.

In fact, MOST of the guys who I've met that are very
successful with women aren't rich at all.

You need to learn how to make women feel ATTRACTION by
using your personality. That's the ticket.

Really.


***QUESTION***

Hi Dave:

I have been reading your material for a few months now.
One of the best things I learned about your work is how
to get e-mail addresses and phone numbers from women. I
have great success at this point. This has also helped
my business.

I need help in two areas that involves taking it to the
next level. I want to meet a nice girl and settle down.
Firstly, how can I figure out which one of these girls
is the BEST for me in terms of personality and chemistry.
My last relationship lasted a year and a half and did not
work because we were always busting each others chops.
Secondly, I think there is a point when we just need to
stop playing games and be nice to these women... What do
you think?

B. NYC


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, I'm not the relationship expert, so I'm not going to
address how you should choose a woman to settle down with...

But I will comment on your question of whether or not there
is a point when you should stop "playing games" and "be
nice to these women".

The mindset and techniques that I teach are not my idea of
a "short term technique to get laid". Once you start using
the methods, you'll find that women respond to them on an
ONGOING basis. In other words, if you can keep up the
charming, Cocky and Funny attitude, it will keep a woman
feeling attracted to you FOREVER.

"Nice" is not a word that you want associated with yourself,
in my opinion. Women aren't ATTRACTED to guys who are "nice".

Be interesting, unpredictable... even thoughtful and original.

But don't be NICE.

Think about it.


***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

Well, let me start with my story. I'm average guy, 22
years old. I always had the fear to approach beautiful
women. I'm funny by nature, but only with my friends.
I've totally changed my behavior with women, when I've
read your book. I now meet women on every step (bar,
caffe, library,...), using your C&F approach and a lot
of them are in my bed in a week or so. Now the only
problem at the moment is, that all of those women want a
commitment. But I would love to be just a "sex-buddy";).
Of course, they don't want to hear about that. So after
first sex, when I try to explain to her, what I want,
either she gets mad and I can go ;) or I am the biggest
male egoist... bla bla bla.

So, tell me, is there any way to do that with success?

Tnx again,

B. from Slovenia


>>>MY COMMENTS:

If you're at that stage where you'd like to use your newly
found success to attract only "sex buddies"... and you
don't want the women you date to think of you as their
"boyfriend", then DON'T ACT LIKE ONE.

Don't call more than once or twice a week. Don't stay on
the phone for more than 5 or 10 minutes. Don't see her
more than once or twice a week.

In other words, DON'T ACT LIKE A BOYFRIEND.

I know this sounds rather simple, but think about it...

Women are just as interested in sex as men are.

In my experience, if a woman knows that you're only
interested in sex, she'll be OK with that.

The problems come up when you start calling all the
time, seeing her a lot, and acting like you care for
her...

At this point a woman starts to become emotionally
attached to you. She thinks that you're becoming her
boyfriend.

If you don't want to be a boyfriend, then don't act
like one!


***QUESTION***

Hello,

Your are the man. I have been using your cocky funny
method on girls i already know and see the difference in
the way they act towards me, they seem to definatly be
more interested. My dilemma is that i run out of cocky
comments and little jokes. For eg i went to the coffee shop
yesterday with one of my buddies and there were two cute
girls in front of us who smiled at us when we where in
line and i looked back and smiled but i had no idea what
to say to them or what to make fun of and they got what
the wanted and left. I simply had no idea what funny
comment to make.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Here's the answer...

List the 10 most common situations you find yourself
meeting women in... and list 10 cocky and funny things
to say in each situation.

Next, mentally rehearse each of the comments so you
have them ready!

If you are at the stage where Cocky and Funny doesn't
come "naturally", then you're going to have to PRACTICE.

Why do Michael Jordan and Tiger Woods make their sports
look EASY? Why do they TOTALLY dominate all of the other
players around them?

Practice, of course.

Stop trying to create magic from nothing, and start
practicing. Practice makes magic.


***QUESTION***

Dave,

Because of my job, I am on the road a lot. Lots of
times I like to drive with the windows down, music
blasting and just taking in the sun. Many times I find
myself waiting at a stop light with a good-looking
girl waiting next to me. Some of these girls, we make
eye contact, others just glance over. Sometimes I'll
drive for miles with the same girl to the side of me.
The problem is I never really know what to do next. So
I guess my question to you is this:

1. How do I get her to roll down her window?

2. Once she does, what should I tell her?

I drive an average car (VW Jetta) so I know they're
not looking at that, but I'm just uncertain how to get
her attention.

Thanks for the help.

R. in So Cal


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, you can have a lot of fun with this one.

I have a good friend who can't drive up next to a woman
without flirting. He likes to "waggle his eyebrows" at
every woman he sees.

Next time you're next to a cutie, waggle your brows
and wave. When she smiles, make the old fashioned motion
of rolling down your window to her, and roll down yours.

Finally, take out your cel phone, point to it, and say
"What's your number?"

I've done variations of this myself, and had some great
fun success with it.


***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

You ARE da man! Although I have not purchased the e-book
yet, I will soon, as I have seen the magic work firsthand,
just from the newsletters I have been getting. Check this
out! About a week ago, I send an email to a totally rad
chick suggesting that we meet for coffee. I used the
movie "You've Got Mail" as part of my "schtick", and
although it was "cute" and "funny," I realized later that
it was actually quite "wussy-ish." After getting NO REPLY
for almost a week, I sent her ANOTHER email, this time
busting her balls a bit by saying, "Well I guess my
dazzling good looks and wicked sense of humor didn't catch
your fancy, eh?" The response was lightning fast and
almost instantaneous!!! She wrote that she had every
intention of returning my email, but she was "out of town"
blah blah blah, and she would meet me for coffee sometime.
I really believe that if I had not sent her that second
email, I never would have gotten a reply to the first one.

Here's the question (and problem): In addition to the "ball
busting" in my second email, I also told her I liked her!
(a big faux pas, I know, but I never expected a reply!) She
had taught a class of which I was a student, and I made a
comment like, "Well I'm probably not the first of your
students to have a crush on the teacher." Now that the
cat's out of the bag, how do I diffuse this damaging
admission? I already sent her a reply email, in which I
poured on the cocky/funny, but I wanted to get your input
and hopefully I made the right choice by my reply.

Thanks Dave!

--C.K.

San Francisco, CA


>>>MY COMMENTS:

lol... the best thing you can do is GO MEET 10 MORE
WOMEN!!!

Duh!

And what are you doing writing to me asking for advice on
how to un-screw-up your situation... and you haven't even
read my book? Go to http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
NOW and get it. You are doing great, you just need to get
some of the details together.

And as for your teacher, STOP SAYING THAT YOU LIKE HER!
And start acting like the Cocky and Funny guy that make
her respond to you!


***QUESTION***

Dear Dave,

I just started receiving your newsletter. And I was just
curious about the letters that are coming in. Are these
letters from real guys or is it something that 's written
by your staff just to sell your ebook? I can't honestly
believe a book can really do that much for a guy. I get
another newsletter on dating women and this guy doesn't
seem to profess the "cocky" attitude you write about.

Anyway, just to let you know who I am. I am a 50 yr young
man. I'm 5'7" , good shape and health. Have all my hair
and teeth. I'm a nice guy but I want to shed that image but
not be an asshole if you know what I mean. I don't want to
even tell you how long it's been since I've been laid. Can
your book really help a guy like me. I've been going on the
online dating seen but don't always see what I want which
is a sexy young woman. Also, how young can I acceptably go.
Anything you can tell me would be a help.

Sign me,

Not getting enough


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I love letters like this one...

OK, to answer your first question... EVERY SINGLE LETTER
THAT I PRINT IN EVERY SINGLE ONE OF MY NEWSLETTERS IS
REAL. I NEVER INVENT THEM.

I have every one of the originals saved to prove it.

To answer one of your comments of "I can't believe that
a book can really do that much for a guy"...

IT CAN'T. The BOOK isn't what does it.

It's a combination of the material in the book and
actually TAKING ACTION ON IT AND USING IT.

It's taken me YEARS of trial and error... trying just
about everything under the sun to learn the things that
I've put in my book. I really went out there and did
the work. I tried and tested everything I could find.

I think it's the best investment you'll ever make in
your dating life, personally.

And hey, it comes with a simple money-back guarantee:

If you're not 100% satisfied with your purchase, just
email and ask for a refund.... AND YOU CAN KEEP THE
BOOK AND BONUSES FOR YOUR HASSLE.

I want you to write me a success story in the future,
not ask for your money back!

So do yourself a favor, and get it while the gettin's
good...

And if you're reading this right now, and it's time for
YOU to get this part of your life handled... and finally
start enjoying the kind of success with women that you've
only dreamed about it the past, just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...and download it now.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

Q&A: HOW DO I GET HER TO COME HOME WITH ME?

***QUESTION***

Again, you're da man! I've found a new bar and grill here in
Miami where all of these HOT college girls hang out at. I've
been using you're C & F approach to get the conversation
going with these hot chicks and 9 times out of 10 they fall
for it every time. After about 5 minutes into the
conversation, they get this look on their face like "I can't
believe I've been actually talking to this guy this long". I
mean... look at me, I'm not buffed out or have killer abs,
just your average Joe. But then it gets better, with most
of these girls the conversation gets so funny and cute and
so comfortable that I take it to the next level "The Kissing
Test". That's right! I'm sometimes kissing on the lips
(sometimes with my tongue down their throats) HOT CHICKS in
public! (I used to watch other guys do this and be envious
of them, I used to be a playa-hater) And sometimes it
happens twice or even three times with 2 or three different
girls. This especially happens when I'm freak dancing and
teasing some hot chic. I'm just waiting to take some of
these girls home from this new bar that I've been hanging
out at.

I have just 2 questions for ya...

1) I seem to be more successful after a nice haircut and
trimmed mustache and goa-tee and putting on a nice shirt
for clubbing. I know women look at physical after
personality but let me ask you aren't looks or appearance
still important to enhance the C & F?

2) Once the conversation is comfortable enough to where we
are actually 2 strangers kissing in public (one HOT CHICK
and one Average Joe) what can I say to get her to go home
with me?

Thanks...

V.K.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You're a very, very bad man.

Kissing women you've just met on the lips?

In public?

You gotta love that.

And you're not rich or handsome? I don't believe it!

Of course, I've seen things like this happen so many
times that I actually DO believe it. In fact, most guys
would be very surprised if they realized just how open
many women are to kissing and "getting physical" when
they meet the right guy.

On to your questions...

ON LOOKS

As far as I'm concerned, LOOKS MATTER.

But interestingly enough, they matter for a different
reason than most guys think.

You see, women are always reading into things. They're
trying to figure out what things MEAN.

If a woman asks you if you have a close relationship
with your mom, she's not making casual conversation... she
wants to get deeper insight into how you handle
relationships. Are you with me?

My personal perspective is that IT'S NOT WHAT YOU'VE GOT,
IT'S HOW YOU USE IT. In other words, it's more important to
take care of yourself than it is to be naturally tall,
handsome, etc.

If you want to take your success with women up a notch or
two, I definitely think that it's a good idea to pay
attention to the personal presentation.

You don't have to go overboard and get plastic surgery,
liposuction, and hair implants, but a little attention to
detail can go a looooong way.

Think about it...

Generally, a stylish haircut doesn't cost any more than
an outdated haircut... but they say two completely different
things about you.

Clothes that fit correctly and flatter your particular
body type don't cost more...

Confident, dominant posture and slow, unhurried movements
don't require any more energy...

But all of these things, especially when combined and
used with other simple ideas can make a HUGE difference.

So to answer your question: Yes, looks can make a
difference to your success. If you have such a strong and
attractive personality that you attract women no matter
what, then you can look however you want. But if you're a
regular guy like me, then do everything you can. I mean,
hey... it really doesn't cost anything to look your best!
And women definitely notice.

ON GETTING WOMEN TO COME HOME WITH YOU

My focus isn't on "getting laid" alone, but I have a few
ideas that can help you.

A good friend once told me that a woman won't really want
to come DIRECTLY home with you. Women like to feel like
they've "been out" with you first.

So, to answer this concern, he goes out with women on
"mini dates" as soon as he meets them.

So, for instance, he might meet a woman at a bar or a
nightclub. Maybe they've had a few drinks together and
danced a few times... and things are going well.

He might suggest that they go to ANOTHER bar that's
close by...

When they leave TOGETHER and arrive at the other bar
TOGETHER they are now "TOGETHER". It creates a completely
different psychological setting and comfort level.

When they first met, they were just two people that
happened to be at the same bar. When they got to the
next bar, they were kind of "out on a date".

To a woman, this is a HUGE difference.

Then, after spending some time at the next bar (it's
late by this point), he'll ask her for a ride home, or
maybe suggest that she come over for a drink.

Because they've now "been out together" she tends to
feel a lot more comfortable coming over.

I usually recommend that guys approach women, get their
email and number, and move on. You can get 5 or 10 emails
and numbers in an evening, and then have dates during the
week (where you don't have to deal with distractions,
competition, etc.).

But if you're at the point where you're confident in your
skills, and this is what you want, then try the technique I
just explained. I know more than one guy that uses it, and
it seems to be a big winner.

And, if you're NOT at the point where you are confident
in your skills, then you need to get my online eBook
"Double Your Dating", and read every single page. It will
teach you all the secrets your mom and dad never told you
about... and show you how to have success with women that
you only dreamed possible.

In my book I talk more about how to improve your
appearance, how to dress, and even what types of colognes
to wear...

Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

DATING TIP: REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY ATTRACTS WOMEN

We all know what Reverse Psychology is, right?

Try this one on...

I once read that the surgeon general's warning on
cigarette packages may be one of the reasons why cigarettes
are so POPULAR.

Here's the logic: When a person sees that warning that is
telling them that it's dangerous to smoke, they think to
themselves "Hey, I'm living in the fast lane and I can
handle the danger... I'll show everyone how cool I am by
smoking these dangerous cigarettes..."

Interesting idea, isn't it?

Well, it doesn't really matter if you believe that
particular example. What does matter is that you learn
how to use the idea of Reverse Psychology to your
advantage when it comes to your success with women.

Reverse Psychology is powerful because it GOES AGAINST
COMMON LOGIC AND REASONING. Because of this, it's not
usually obvious (unless you make it obvious).

One of my favorite ways to use Reverse Psychology is
in situations with attractive women.

Most guys don't really think about the fact that most
attractive women are being told ALL THE TIME that they are
beautiful, attractive, stunning, etc.

And they don't realize that when they give an attractive
woman a compliment, it often backfires on them because
they are INSTANTLY seen as being the SAME as all the other
guys out there.

We humans like unique, interesting things... we don't like
the same old same old.

Let me ask you: Would you like to eat the same thing every
day for breakfast, lunch, and dinner? I mean, even if you
got to have your very favorite food for all three meals it
would get old very fast.

The same goes here. Let me explain...

Let's say you're standing in line at the bank next to a
stunning woman. What would be the best approach to use to
open a conversation and get an email address, phone number
or a date?

Well, what most guys do is either:

1) Do nothing because they don't know what to do.

2) Say "You're beautiful" just like all the other guys.

3) Say "I'll bet you have a boyfriend, huh?"

Bad, bad, bad.

It would be MUCH better to say "Your shoe is untied" or
even "What time is it?" than any of these common, lame,
predictable comments or questions.

You probably realize that most of your communication is
not the words you use, but the body language and voice
tone that you use.

Well, it's important when you're meeting a woman for the
first time to stay cool, calm, and collected... and to
EVEN DO THINGS THAT SUGGEST THAT YOU'RE NOT INTERESTED.

This will make her say "Hey, this guy isn't trying to
horn in on me... he seems DIFFERENT."

You can then continue to do one of my favorite things of
all time, and say "Hey, you seem nice... like you might
make a nice FRIEND. Give me your number and I'll call
you next week and maybe we can be FRIENDS."

I hope you understand what I'm saying here. By being
unusual and challenging, you immediately separate
yourself from the 'average' guy who just acts all
starstruck.

Now, this is just one example, and there are many
exceptions to this idea. If you look like Brad Pitt you
can say anything you want. And this type of approach
works best on VERY ATTRACTIVE women.

Now that you have the idea, how can you adapt it to
your particular situation? Take some time to think about
it, and I think that you'll realize that you can use
reverse psychology in many different situations to
separate yourself from the crowd.

In my book "Double Your Dating" I dedicate an entire
section describing the exact character traits and
techniques that help to separate you from all the other
guys in the world.

Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...for all the details.

I'll talk to you soon.

Your friend,

David D.
www.doubleyourdating.com

P.S. When you come to my website, make sure to read the
sample section about teasing to learn more about how to
use Reverse Psychology.

MAILBAG: HOW TO AVOID BEING "JUST FRIENDS"
***QUESTION***

I started to talk to this girl that i met when i went out with
one of my friends' brother. we went down town and hung out.
everything was going good and i got her # by the end of the
night. We hung out the next weekend and went to a club. we
got in the club and she asked for 6 dollars to by her a drink.
I asked her "what do i get out of it?" and there was the laugh
and then i decided to give her the money. after the club i took
her home with my friend and her friend. I asked her for a
Kiss goodbye she gave it to me. Then i told her that i was goin
to call her the next week because i knew of a party the
following week. After calling her next week i had trouble
getting ahold of her and she didn’t pick up her cell phone. It
has been about 2 weeks since i have talked to her. And the
weekend that she was suppose to hang out has just passed. Do u
see a problem in this or if i messed up some where?

thank you


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, as a matter of fact, I do see a problem.

What are you doing giving a woman six bucks for a drink?

You were SOOO right no target when you answered with "What do
I get out of it?" SHE LOVED IT!

But then you had to go and SCREW IT ALL UP by giving her the
money... ouch.

When she laughed you should have said "Well?"

And WHATEVER she answered with, you should have said:

"SORRY, not good enough... buy your own drink."

STOP TRYING TO BUY ATTENTION FROM WOMEN.

It makes you look like a WUSSY SCHMUCK BOY.

Oh, and will someone remind me to practice being more honest
and direct with people? I sometimes feel that I'm too shy
and don't want to hurt their feelings...


***QUESTION***

David,

I have been trying your cocky and funny stuff it works
like a charm But theres a problem with this one chick that i
like she is a flirt. whenever im around her she always be
flirting with me but the only problem is that i dont know
how to take the next step. if i take the next step im afraid
that shell probably move away. i dont wanna feel like a
dic*. so i wanna know how should i make a move on her and
not getting rejected. (I really need your advice)

-Student in NY, 21 years old


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I feel your pain on this one.

For the most part, men are expected to take ALL THE RISK of
being rejected at EVERY IMPORTANT STEP from the first meeting
to the bedroom.

And we always know when one of those risky situations is
staring us right between the eyes...

"Should I kiss her? Maybe she's not ready and I'll screw up
ALL of my chances with her."

"Should I call her so soon? What will she think?"

"How should I ask her out?"

...I get it. These are what I call "Critical Moments" or
"Moments Of Truth."

If you don't know how to handle each of them, you're VERY
likely to get hung up, not know what to do, and wind up
not doing ANYTHING to avoid the chance of screwing up.

Of course, not doing anything usually leads to a woman
thinking "He's a Wussy... can't even kiss me."

And on the other side, if you're too aggressive and "fast"
for her you might offend her and scare her off... RIGHT?

My solution is to create "Bridges" to get you from one
Critical Moment to the next... smoothly.

There are things you can do at each step that make it
NATURAL for things to progress.

Try this: Sit down with a piece of paper and write down
ten ways that you can "Take the next step" in any given
situation. Then choose the one or two that you think will
work best, and mentally rehearse them until you can
CLEARLY SEE how they'll work in your mind's eye.

OR, you can download a copy of my eBook "Double Your
Dating". It comes with a bonus booklet called "Bridges"
which contains my favorite ways to take things from
one step to the next...



***QUESTION***

I recently have had several of the same experiences in the
club/bar scene. I'll get a nice conversation going with a
girl. We will have a few drinks, laugh and seem to connect.
This dance goes on for awhile. Out of nowhere the girl
will say that she is tired and leave. What does this mean?
How does a woman communicate that she wants you to leave
with here?

GC, WashDC

>>>MY COMMENTS:

It means that you should STOP doing the following:

1) Having "nice" conversation.

2) Having a few drinks.

3) Laugh and "seem to connect".

And you should START doing the following:

1) Focus on getting emails and phone numbers, not getting
"nice conversation."

2) Avoid "having drinks". Instead have FOCUS (on your
outcome of getting her info).

3) Talk for a minute or two, then tell her that it was
nice meeting her, but you're going to get back to your
friends. Then turn around and say "Hey! Do you have
email?" Take out a pen and have her write it down.

When you're at a club, it's SOOOOO much easier to get
10 emails and numbers, then follow up later than to try
to land the big fish that night. Once you're the super-
duper-mack-daddy-from-hell you can go back to chat and
drinks... but for now get the info!

You'll find that things work a lot better when you're
having a conversation with her ALONE over a cup of tea
rather than in a loud bar full of sexually frustrated,
drunk men who want to show off and fight over women.



***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

After reading your emails for a few months. I decided
to go the whole hog and buy your book. I have had some
success, after reading your book. I have come over
most of my fear about talking to woman. I did get one
girl's number, but it was a message service. I tried
calling her a few times. But never got hold of her. I
have also just gone to the local bar, with the idea:
"Ok i am not looking for a girlfriend, i am just going
to have a good time. Be cocky and funny..." so far i am
getting mixed reactions. So i have a couple of questions.

1) With the girl, who gave me her message service
number and situations like this how many time would
you say call. Before you say she is not interested -
Next. ( I did leave cocky funny messages )

2) The area i live in, the girls always wanting to
know my age. As per-book. I have tried to avoid a
direct answer. How about a cocky funny response, as i
tried a few of my own. But so far nothing works.

Many Thanks,

Nice Guy on the Jedi Road.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

As for the girl who gave you the "message service", you
need to interpret that as follows:

She didn't find you interesting enough to give you her
REAL number. That's OK, you're doing a great job... but
you need to get EMAILS and REAL NUMBERS in the future.

One thing you can do is say "Is this a phone that you
actually answer in person?" If not, then give it back
to her and say "It's OK, give me your number."

When a woman asks your age, just say "Old enough to
know better than answer a question like that one...
how old are YOU?"

If they insist, just add 20 to your age and tell them
that. Be serious about it and really bust their balls.

Keep it up, you're probably close to a breakthrough!



***QUESTION***

David, "the Man" Cocky funny works like magic. I was
trying to pick up a former Teacher Assistant of mine at
university for about a year. Sending nice email after
nice email, and getting totally stood up and/or blown
off. So I took the cf to the extreme. "I know you're
scared of meeting such an intelligent charismatic
rockstar like myself, because you'll fall so hopelessly
in love you couldn't take the rejection, fall into
habitual drinking, and eventually kill yourself... but
really its okay I'll treat you like an ass and you'll
hate me, and life will go on" Totally worked, the next
week she met me, and we hit it off really well, I kept up
the cf routine and we've been having a blast together.

My question is last night she really needed someone to
talk to, a lot of personal family issues to deal with.
Of course I lent and ear and in the end she felt a lot
better. But back when I was a wussy I used to do this
for women all the time, and as you can quite well
imagine I was always the 'friend'. Any thoughts?


>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is an AWESOME example of how to be COCKY AND FUNNY!

You're the man. My hero even.

To answer your question...

This is one of those issues that doesn't have a "right"
answer, but in GENERAL it's not a good idea to be the
"girlfriend" early on in the game.

After date number 10 do whatever you want. (In other
words, it's safer to help her with a situation like this
without being unconsciously thought of as "girlfriend-
man" later in the relationship. Just don't do it too
often or you'll become a Wuss candidate.)

Here's a good way to deal with "a woman that you're
getting to know who wants help with her problems":

As soon as you hear the "I have a problem and want
someone to talk to about it" tone of voice, IMMEDIATELY
ask "Is this something you want to solve or is it
something you want to just TALK about?"

If she just wants to TALK about it, say "I'll tell you
what, I think that you'd be better off talking to a
girlfriend about this, because I don't want to turn
into an old married couple so soon."

There's a fine line between being a cold human being
and letting her know that you're not her personal
free therapist.

Personal free therapists who "listen" are thought of as
WUSSY-BOY-GIRLIE-MAN-FRIENDS (as you well know)... and
their behavior doen NOT create ATTRACTION.


***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Hi, i'm M. (from Italy: here to visit my family),
I'm 23 college student / waitress; judging by the e-mails
you been sending my brother about picking up women, it
seems as if you know what you're talking about, but being
a women I usually rely on guys just approaching me, but
there's a problem. Although I get my share of guys
approaching me, there is always one that I would have my
eye on that will NOT approach me... this seems to be
happening time and time again. I don't know if you're an
expert on THIS side of the field but I try to get his
attention by going a little closer, but it doesn't seem
to work. This is extremely frustrating to me, if you gave
me any explanation I would be very happy.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Sorry, but I'm only using your email for the benefit of
myself and my MALE readers... lol. (Maybe I'll find it
in my heart to give you some advice after I'm finished
taking ruthless advantage of you...)

This email is very interesting to me because I have a
few friends who are VERY good with women who have
STOPPED APPROACHING WOMEN ALTOGETHER.

That's right, they don't approach women anymore, but
they're AMAZINGLY successful with them.

These guys have taken their skills, personalities, body
language, and communication skills to a level where
women actually want them before they've even spoken!

I'm betting that the men that this 23 year old Italian
college student/waitress is referring to have something
about them that is MORE than just their "looks". (By the
way, if you're reading this right now, please email me
again to confirm this)...

See, women are about ten times better at using body
language to communicate than men.

Next time you're out with a woman, point to a couple
and say "What's going on between them". You won't
believe all the body language she'll point out and
then interpret for you.

The point I'm trying to make here is that you can go
BEYOND just learning techniques to "approach" women.
You can actually learn how to get them to approach
you... really. It's all about body language... and
how you use it to communicate all the time (because
you are, in fact, communicating at all times... you
can't NOT communicate).

And as for you, my poor Italian 23 year old college
student and waitress...

Just walk up to a guy and say "Give me your number...
and MAYBE I'll call you sometime."


***QUESTION***

OK Dave, I have read all these news letters and it
sounds interesting... but, I don't want a girl. I DON'T
WANT A BOY EITHER BY THE WAY! I want a woman! These
tactics seem so juvenile and childish. Something that
a high schooler would be intrigued by. What's in it
for the guy that is not into child's play. Other
useful information is how many megs of memory do I
need to get all the "books"?

gj


>>>MY COMMENTS:

LOL! [That's "laughing out loud" in internet-talk]

What are you doing whining about the techniques before
you've even tried them!?

From your short email I can guess the following:

1) You don't have a lot of success with women.

2) You over-analyse things instead of just going out
there and trying them yourself.

3) You need to download a copy of my book before you
die of no-date-itis (It's less than a meg total, not a
huge file at all). http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

The concepts work with women of all ages. Will you do
yourself a favor and quit arguing in your mind... and
get out there and TRY IT!


***QUESTION***

I bought the book, and it makes a lot of sense. Would
you give some examples of how an online meeting/conversation
on a personals board might go? I need a little help in the
imagination department.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Sure. As a matter of fact, let me tease you a bit...

In my Los Angeles seminar last month, I included a whole
section on meeting women online (to go along with the portion
of the seminar where I TAUGHT everyone how to do it)...

I included several examples of things I've done PERSONALLY,
with exact transcripts, profiles, etc. Here's a little piece
of a conversation I had online with a woman awhile back,
right from the workbook:

HER: what do you look like
ME: I'm 4' 11 and I weigh 345
HER: lol, what ever
ME: I have long facial hair and a hairy back too
HER: what do you really look like
ME: Hold a sec.
HER: k
ME: Read your mail
HER: not bad
ME: I don't recall asking for your opinion

...that's a little example of how I communicate with women
online. You need to be EXTREME with the humor online. Really
turn it up. The message you're communicating is "I must be
a pretty confident and interesting guy to say that I'm four
foot eleven and weigh 345..." Get it?

Try being over-the-top Cocky and Funny. It's fun, and it works
like a charm.


***QUESTION***

hi David

I am an 18 yr old who thinks u are the BOMB. You have
given true Players a voice.. you are the "MESSENGER". I
have been reading your newsletters for over 7 months
now and you are spot on. This is the deal, there is this
really beautiful blonde i have been friends with for a
while now I see her out a lot at clubs(College). she
always wants to dance with me (i am a decent dancer) i
have been cocky funny la la the works but now i am in
trouble, this girl fancies me and i know it, how do i
work it so that i remain in control of the situation
without getting to WUSSY ?

M.N from London


>>>MY COMMENTS:

If you start to feel the INNER WUSS coming out, just remember
to LEAN BACK. Call less, see her less, and make yourself a
little less available.

Attractive women are used to being approached and pursued
all the time... you need to be different.

Of course, when you're alone with her, you need to take things
to the next level, and always advance.

But don't turn into a needy, clingy, emotional wreck.

Remember, LEAN BACK when you feel the INNER WUSS coming out.



***QUESTION***

Dave,

First thanks for taking the time to be the # 1 male
to get enough balls to figure out women a little better
to make it easier on the rest of us. I'm 21 yrs.old and
since I got your book i've been steadily increasing my
dates w/college girls at my university. My question
though is: I go to the college bars thurs-sat w/my
buddies and we always talk to as many girls in the bar
as possible. The problem is all the other guys are doin
the same thing. I use your technique to be cocky+funny,
and get a number or e-mail address, but the girls have
talked to so many guys and after all they drink they
don't remember which guy I was even though I made a good
connection. Any tips?

Sincerely,

UD


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yep, got a great tip for you...

Don't worry about the other guys. They don't matter.

What matters is that you use what you learned in the book
when you FOLLOW UP.

Sending interesting, funny follow-up emails is a KEY to
getting women to meet up with you again.

"Hey, nice meeting you last night. I think that you MIGHT
just be more than an another pretty face... let's get
together for a cup of tea and some stimulating conversation
this week."

Are you with me?

49 out of 50 of the other guys there either won't get her
EMAIL address, won't follow up, won't remember anything about
the girl, or will send a DUMB-ASS message...

If you do the right things over and over, you will find
success VERY often.


***QUESTION***

Dave,

Thanks, I have more self confidence than ever. I'm meeting
tons of 7's and 8's. When I go out with friends they get
pissed at me for "showing off." I have no problem meeting,
dating, and getting women home. In fact, some of my friends
have nicknamed me the "Pu$$y Patrol." (joke or no joke, I'll
take it as a compliment)

To everybody out there, Cocky/Funny is the key. BUY THE
BOOK!!!!!

Here's my question. Lately for some reason, I've had a
little difficulty sealing the deal. I've had two 8's in my
bedroom this week (today is friday). Door locked, hot &
heavy. Somehow, I'm batting 0 for 2 this week I keep on
hearing from the girl, "Lets take it slower." and "I don't
want to be that girl." How do I overcome these challenges.
B/c I believe its sort of like the final test that I must
pass. And apparently, I'm failing.

I need help ASAP my Avg is suffering,

"Pu$$y Patrol"

Cincinnati


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, when you downloaded my eBook "Double Your Dating" you
also got three bonus reports. One of them was called “Sex
Secrets— How To Turn A Woman On, Satisfy Her In A Big Way,
And Get Her To Do The Things You've Always Wanted”.

In that booklet I describe a sequence for REALLY getting
her aroused... and I mean REALLY.

You need to learn how to build anticipation and then
AMPLIFY it. It's really pretty simple once you're to this
stage... and ANTICIPATION is the key.

Again, read the report. It's the way.


...Well, hasn't this been an interesting one...

As always, if you're just learning about some of my ideas
and you'd like to really start being more successful with
women and dating, you need to read my book. Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

and download your copy. It's the very best place to start,
and you'll get a great education in how to start meeting
and dating the kinds of women that you've always wanted.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.




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...don't just hit "reply" to this email. Thanks!


SHE SAYS: "I LIKE YOU AS A FRIEND"
***QUESTION***

Hello,

My name is O. im 20 years old, living in
Cyprus. Actually in my college i got interested to a
gal.

She was also good with me and many times did
somethings that means, at least for me, she is
interested to me too. Recently I got her mobile number
and i called her the day after it and she talked to me
normally BUT after a few days when i called her again
she did not answered to my call (she didnt pick the
mobile up). then I sent her this SMS:

Without U life is Black not White.Without U the world
has no hope,no light.Without U I cant go left or
right.Without U I lose my sight.THANK U MY GLASSES!

I called her 2 or 3 times after it in 3 days but she
didnot answered again.Then I sent her this SMS:
DAYS R 2 BUSY
HOURS R 2 FAST
SECONDS R 2 FEW
BUT THERE IS ALWAYS TIME 4 ME 2 REMEMBER YOU!

2 days after it I again called her and this time she
didnot pickup the phone as well,So I decided to say
her every thing and tell her the truth and at least I
will know is she really likes me or not,then i sent
her this message:

Hello my A.,I sent you lots of messages BUT you
did not answered to me.Im worry about you,is every
thing all right? I want to tell you a truth...
I like you, in fact I love you. You are always in my
mind,you are everywhere,I never forget you...I REALLY
MISS YOU!

Then, after 2 hours she replyed me with this message:

Hey O. I got all your messages I'm all right for asking>.Sorry for not replying.Anyway I want to
tell u that I just want a be your friend.Sorry if I
Gave u the wrong idea, I didn't want u to
misunderstand me

With this message she told me that she doesnot want to
be my girl friend so in reply to her I wrote this(I
said good bye):

Thanks for answering.I hope you be successful in your
life everywhere with anybody and thanks for every
thing 'cause you taught me many things!

I was not expecting any reply from her but she sent
this sms right after my sms:

I enjoy being your friend.I WISH U THE BEST.Have a
nice holiday.Sorry if I made u feel bad:(

did not send her any sms but after 2 days she sent me
this sms, which really made me quite confused:

* * * * *
* * * * * *
*....FRIENDS
are like stars....
you do not ALWAYS SEE
them but you know they
are ALWAYS there!!!

I really need your advise. The girl who did not EVEN
wanted to answer to my calls now sends me such
messages!

Now,I beg you please tell me what does she mean by
these words? and What should I do?

I really loved her but when she told me that she want
just to be my friend,however,it was hard for me to
believed but I accepted it and said goodbye to her
with my last message.But as you can see....!!!!

I need your idea totally,
What do think about her? and IF you suggest me to
continue being her friend What should I do now after
sending that goodbye sms? What should I reply to her
last message,what should I told her? honestly, I still
like her! but I think Im not sure is she playing with
me? and the last question, If she want me just as
friend Am I so important for her that she do not want
to lose me? and Why?

I'm looking forward to hear from you. Please tell me
what do you think about her from her messages.

Very Sincerely Yours,

O.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Even though you live all the way on the other side of
the world from me in Cyprus, I can still feel your pain.

I think that probably every man can identify with the
following sequence:

1) Meet girl.

2) Get along well with girl.

3) Feel attracted to girl and think she is attracted to you.

4) Tell girl that you like her (after getting up the nerve).

5) Girl disappears.

6) Call girl 47 times, but still no response.

7) Finally girl turns up and says "I only like you as a
friend and sorry if I hurt you".


...Ouch. I know it's a bummer, but you might take comfort
knowing that this has happened to me and just about every
guy I know MANY times.

Let me take a shot at explaining what's going on here,
and hopefully help you and the others reading this to avoid
this kind of thing as much as possible in the future.

From my perspective, there are a few main issues going on
here all at once...

1) Women are complex and often illogical (so are men, but in
different ways).

2) Women are attracted to men for reasons that most men
either don't know, don't understand, or won't accept.

3) The way that women communicate isn't always as "direct
and straightforward" as most of us guys would like.

4) It's difficult to un-do one of these situations once it
has reached this point.

5) There are things you can do to avoid this kind of thing
in the future.


So, let's deal with these one at a time as they relate
to your situation...


1) Women are complex and often illogical (so are men, but in
different ways).

Women act on emotion and intuition more than men. They
don't do the "logical" thing as often as men.

Women walk into Starbucks and order a "fat free" cafe
mocha, and then get WHIPPED CREAM on top. No kidding. I
see it all the time...

Women will go through a full closet of clothing trying
to choose something to wear to the supermarket, then
conclude that "there's nothing to wear in here"...

Women spend $200.00 on shoes that are going to be worn
a few times...

Again, man have their bizarre behaviors, and I'm not
trying to "badmouth" women... but in my experience women
are usually not very LOGICAL about things... and they're
ESPECIALLY illogical when it comes to relationships.

Men are perfectly logical. They want to have sex with
everything. Women aren't. They only want to have sex with
men who DON'T want to have sex with them. LOL!

My point is that you have to put your ideas about how
things "should" be OUT OF YOUR MIND. Start a new way of
thinking about things based on REALITY and not LOGIC.


2) Women are attracted to men for reasons that most men
either don't know, don't understand, or won't accept.

As I like to say, "Attraction Isn't A Choice".

We don't think about who we'd like to feel attraction
for, it just happens on it's own in most cases.

But the thing to remember is that ATTRACTION has a
pattern. It's like a combination lock or a puzzle. There
is a way to create it if you know the "recipe". On the
other hand, if you DON'T know the recipe, then you're not
likely to figure it out by trial and error. And the reason
for this -- again -- is because IT'S NOT LOGICAL.

While men are attracted mostly to LOOKS, women are
attracted mostly to PERSONALITY TRAITS.

In your situation, you displayed the personality trait
that I refer to as WUSSY a little too early in the game.

Women generally aren't attracted to men who get too
lovey-dovey and emotional too quickly. There's not mystery
or challenge when you fall in love immediately.

And when you call 31 times a day, it only makes the
problem worse. What you need to do in these situations is
LEAN BACK more and give her some space. Give her room to
think about you and miss you.


3) The way that women communicate isn't always as "direct
and straightforward" as most of us guys would like.

If a woman wants to tell you that she isn't interested in
you in a romantic way, she'll often NOT tell you as her way
of telling you. In other words, she might just disappear for
awhile. Or she might not return calls quickly. Or she might
talk about other guys with you...

Once again, you have to put the concept of pure,
rational LOGIC out of your mind when it comes to the world
of ATTRACTION.

Women are subtle. They read into things and try to
tell you things indirectly. Women don't generally take what
you say at face value. They want to know what everything
REALLY means.

If you meet a girl, and after the first date you say "I
really like you, you're beautiful and I have feelings for
you" they think you said "I'm a Wuss because I fall in love
too quickly".

On the other hand, if you say "Good night, give me a call
sometime" she'll think you said "You were kind of boring,
and if you want to talk to me again you're going to have to
call me".


4) It's difficult to un-do one of these situations once it
has reached this point.

Unfortunately, once a woman has "made up her mind" about
a guy, it's usually VERY difficult to change that mind.

If you're in a situation like this where a woman has
said "I only like you as a friend", then you're best off
going out and meeting some other women, and getting on
with your life IMMEDIATLY! Don't wait. Get on with it.

If you disappear from HER life, then turn up a month
or two later... and you're dating a few other attractive
women... she might see you in a new light.

Jealousy is a VERY powerful motivator to women, and
this is often what it takes to get a woman to see you in
a new light once you've let out your INNER-WUSSY too early
in the game.

Point: Don't try to un-do it. Just get on with your
life and quit obsessing over her.


5) There are things you can do to AVOID this kind of thing
in the future.

The most important step you can take is to LEARN HOW
ATTRACTION WORKS! You need to learn this game so you know
what's happening in future situations... and, most
importantly you know what to do to make women feel attracted
to you from the beginning (and, of course, how to NOT let
your inner WUSS rear its ugly head too often).

As you know, some of my favorite ways to do this are by
being Cocky and Funny, teasing women, busting on them in a
particular way, playing hard to get, etc.

But if you want to learn how ATTRACTION works and to
make it work for YOU, then YOU'RE going to have to go out
and do it. No one else is going to do it for you.

...and if you want to learn all of MY very best secrets
and techniques, then you MUST download a copy of my online
eBook "Double Your Dating". It's jam packed with all of the
things it's taken me literally YEARS to learn about how to
make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

I did the trial-and-error thing. I tried all kinds of
stuff. In fact, I've probably tried more different ideas for
meeting women than anyone I know.

The real shift towards success came when I started making
friends with guys who were very successful with women... and
then watching what they did in person.

I found that these guys did things that THEY WEREN'T EVEN
aware of... things that made women literally pursue THEM. I
then took all of this information, and combined it with the
other things I had learned... I worked like a mad scientist
for a few years on this because I really wanted to get this
area of my life figured out.

Well, as you can imagine, I developed some pretty
amazing techniques for meeting women, getting emails and
phone numbers, taking things to a "physical" level, and
everything in between.

My eBook "Double Your Dating" is the best of the best
of those ideas, all explained in detail. I personally use
every idea, concept, and technique in that book in my own
personal life. It's not a bunch of BS techniques cut
and pasted together.

If you want to really take your success with women to
the next level, then it's a "must read". Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now and download your copy. It's the best possible
investment you can make in your dating future.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.


DATING TIP: GETTING OVER FEAR OF WOMEN

To me, "Fear Of Women" is a particularly interesting
challenge to me. It's interesting for a few reasons:

1) As men, we're expected to overcome fear, slay dragons,
and generally act tough in the face of those things that
cause us to fear.

2) Men like to act "tough". They don't like to admit that
they need help. Us guys want to do it ourselves. We see
needing help as a sign of weakness, which we think is BAD.

3) When you combine these two things, you get a man who is
afraid of something that he LOGICALLY shouldn't be afraid
of (it doesn't make sense to fear a woman), but who is
unwilling to admit that he has the fear - which leads to a
state of "quiet desperation". It's a trap, and there's no
way out.


And to confuse matters further, we get messages like "Be
more confident" all the time - as if this thing called
"confidence" is the solution to fear (and in this case,
fear of women).

I dealt with this issue personally for several years.

If I was out and saw a woman that I wanted to meet, I
would get instantly nervous and fearful. I had no idea what
to say or do, and it would LOCK ME UP.

I decided that the problem I was dealing with was my "low
confidence", so I set to work to gain more.

I assumed that if I could get more confidence in myself,
that my fear and nervousness would go away, and I would be
able to just walk up and start conversations without any
problem at all.

After reading several books on the topic, and trying all
kinds of things to raise my confidence level, I WAS STILL
HAVING THE PROBLEM.

Around this same time, I was getting to know a lot of
guys who were successful with women. I found something
VERY interesting: Many of the guys who are good with women
still get nervous when they approach them! They have just
learned how to manage that little biological nervousness
and get on with what they want to do in the situation.

This was a major revelation to me.

Just realizing this allowed me to think from a new
perspective. It also made it "all right" for me to go and
approach women, even though I was still getting nervous.

And, by approaching a lot of women, I became very
familiar with the situations, which led to my nervousness
getting less and less...

All of these things led me to a personal realization:

FOR ME, IT WASN'T ABOUT GETTING MORE CONFIDENCE, IT WAS
ABOUT REDUCING MY INSECURITY.

In other words, instead of trying to get this "thing"
called confidence, I started working on eliminating my
personal insecurities.

I began to realize that the reason I was getting
nervous was because at an unconscious level, I was
PERCEIVING that:

-She has the power, I have no power.
-She has what I want, I have nothing she wants.
-She is attractive, I am average.
-I want her, she doesn't even know who I am.
-I will be interrupting her if I start talking.
-I don't deserve a woman like that.


It was all about insecurity, uncertainty, seeing myself
as less than her, and thinking that as an attractive woman
she has no reason to be interested in me.

In my mind, I was always trying to think of some kind
of unique, original thing to say so I would IMPRESS her...
and she could see me as the interesting, creative guy that
I imagined she wanted.

Well, after working on this for a long time, I have come
to the following NEW realizations:

1) The opposite of fear isn't confidence. The opposite of
fear is absence of fear.

2) Confidence can help, but it isn't the only answer to this
particular issue.

3) The MAJOR issue is insecurity. Once a person can get past
their insecurity, they are more free to develop and succeed.

4) The only power a woman has over you is that which you
give her - either on a conscious level or on an unconscious
level.

5) If you have issues with fear, nervousness, insecurity,
etc., it's a good idea to put aside your tough, manly,
"I don't need any help" side, and go find a solution.


ABOUT CONFIDENCE

If you want to go to the extra effort to cultivate actual
CONFIDENCE, then you need to realize something: Confidence
isn't a THING, it's a SKILL and a complex emotional/physical
state that can be learned, which can then be transferred into
an unconscious state and state of mind.

But there is another side to things...

WATCH OUT with confidence, because humans that become
confident often become intoxicated with their new-found
power, and they over-use or even abuse it. Overconfidence
leads to real arrogance... and to the dark side. So if
you're going to learn how to be confident, learn how to do
it in a way that respects other people, not in a way that
turns them into objects for you to manipulate.

As you learn these skills, don't get addicted to your own
power and let it turn you into a manipulator.


GETTING PAST INSECURITY

So how do you go about getting past insecurity?

Great questions... and I have an exercise for you to use:

1) Go out and talk to 100 women over the next 30 days, and
keep a record of everything that happens. Talk to 3 new
women every day for 30 days.

2) DON'T make any attempts to pursue these women in a
romantic way. In fact, make sure you approach each situation
with the idea that you are NOT going to have any
interactions with the woman ever again.

3) Your only objective when talking to one of these 100
women is to MAKE THEM SMILE. A good friend of mine who goes
by the nickname of "Orion" taught me this. Your goal is to
give each woman the gift of a smile.

4) After making 100 women smile WITHOUT THE POSSIBLITY THAT
ANYTHING ELSE CAN COME IF IT, you will begin to realize that
you DO have something to offer a woman who doesn't know you,
and you'll see evidence that you can give it to her.

5) Keep a journal of all 100 interactions, so you can see
your progress.

EXTRA CREDIT:

Write me an email at: SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com
and tell me about your journey. I want to hear your story.


Of course, there are a lot of other things you can do to
eliminate your insecurity. Self-Image exercises, real-world
drills, visualization and affirmation, mentors, and all kinds
of other great options are out there.

In my eBook "Double Your Dating" I teach some of my own
personal Self-Image exercises and other techniques for
eliminating insecurity. In fact, Chapter 2 is all about
the "inner game" and learning how to overcome some of these
issues. If you haven't downloaded your copy yet, just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...and get it now. (Of course, it's also jam packed with
techniques for meeting and dating women!)

And I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David D.
THE MAILBAG: GREAT TECHNIQUES FOR MEETING WOMEN
***QUESTION***

Dear David

First of all, although you've probably heard it a million
times - thanks for your work. It's really great stuff. I
have a question for you: Why is it that women like dancing
in night clubs, and many men don't? Is it important that a
guy should be able to dance even if lets say I don't like
dancing. How can one practice C+F attitude (which I love and
I know works) if everyone has had a lot to drink and it's so
damn noisy & crowded & it's impossible to have a conversation
with a woman? Also is it true that if you are able to dance
well, that women will be attracted to you?

I myself hate dancing, but every attractive woman I have
dated loved dancing, some of them I think even dancing
provocatively to make me jealous. The strange thing is that I
have also noticed my mates that can dance don't particularly
get anymore success with women in night clubs than I do. My
female friends tell me that I must learn to dance, but for
what as I don't enjoy it and my mate's that do don't get
lucky.

So please can you explain what it is about dancing that women
like, and is it worth becoming a good and confident dancer in
order to get more dates with women and succeed once on those
dates.

Thanks in advance.

A.

A British fan


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, sounds like you have two different issues that you're
dealing with:

1) To dance or not to dance.

2) The noise and crowds of nightclubs.

Interestingly, my perspective is that the answer to both
questions is basically the same...

There are some guys that like to go out to nightclubs to
pick up women to take home THAT NIGHT.

Now, most of the guys I know who go out with this objective
don't actually wind up "bringing home babes" as often as
they'd like. In other words, unless this your sole objective,
and you're an ABSOLUTE PRO, then you might start thinking
about this situation differently.

When I go out to a club with the idea of meeting women, my
main objective to get emails and phone numbers. That's it.

You can start a quick interchange with a woman, get her
email and number, and be done with the whole thing in about
3 or 5 minutes. You can do this all night and wind up with
information from 5 or more women each night you go out.

The interesting thing is that you don't actually have to
even use Cocky and Funny very much if this is your plan.
You can save it for get-togethers over tea, or phone
conversations.

Of course, if you can use your Cocky and Funny attitude,
all the better. But if you're dealing with noise and
crowds, where you may not even be heard, just get the
info!

And as for dancing, if you're getting her info in the
first few minutes, then you won't have to dance, buy her
a drink, or get into a long conversation that you can't
understand. Getting emails and numbers quickly is usually
the best way to go in these situations.


***QUESTION***

Hey Dave, I was just curious, i'm an average man who tells
jokes like crazy to girls, I make tons of people laugh and
friends with everyone. I can talk to a girl in a second but
some are harder then others, How do you get real secrets out
of them, and know what some deep things are about em. So I am
asking when I go up and make fun of them teasing and being
cocky, what are some more things I should say to get the
conversation rolling and want them to talk to me even more.
If I get a conversation its easy to tell a little joke here
and there.so what are some easy ways to just to get an very
high interesting topic to talk to them about?

Thanks......... D


>>>MY COMMENTS:

First of all, why do you want to know "deep" things about
a girl you've just met? And why do you want to get "real
secrets" about her?

Read my last comments above... just get the info!

You can follow up later, and if you want to know "secrets"
and "deep things", you can work on that later.

By the way, secrets and deep things are best not discussed
early on, unless you're trying to get into a relationship
in 5 minutes.


***QUESTION***

I just wanted to let you know you information is the best
material I ever decided to invest in. I know you told
people that you have tried everything and these techniques
work best, so let me make a comment to any of the skeptics
out there. I have personally invested money in material
which discussed being touchy feely and complementing women
as many times as you can on a first date while making lots
of cheesy smiles to show attraction. I've also purchased
book & tape packages which told me to touch women in
various places while in clubs talking to them, to get them
aroused (I am surprised I didn't get a drink thrown in my
face!), I memorized paragraphs (literally) of things to say
when out with women(once a women told me I seemed false)
and NONE of these get the reaction I get from using the
material in your book. Oddly enough....the only reason I
didn't want to get the double your dating material in the
beginning is because it wasn't as expensive as the other
BS material I wasted so much money on, so I figured it
can't be as good. I am in grad school right now and I
realized after reading your newsletters(which had questions
from the rich to average) that making good money was not
going to give me success with women, and besides I don't
want anyone putting me in the long-term lover withhold sex
category explained in your book anyway.

Since I have been using your techniques I have been seeing
a women that is very attractive and used to date a pro
athlete. She just told me recently (without me asking of
course) that the reason she felt so attracted to me was my
care free, take no crap off her attitude I developed from
your book. She tried to throw a tantrum when we were
leaving a club wanting me to chase her, so I laughed and
told her "when you think you can control your alcohol
maybe you can regain your privileges of talking to me
again!" then I walked off grinning (love it!). She
explained to me later that she was putting me through a
series of test and I was doing things that other guys just
didn't do (by the way....she called ME first thing the next
morning to apologize.) She told me the others just kiss
her ass and try to make her happy. Now I just reread your
book so I remember not to become one of them.

This brings me to my question. I know you don't specialize
in the long term stuff but I would like your opinion. Her
birthday is coming up and I wanted to know what would be
something special I can do without over doing it. Fathers
day just passed (I have a daughter not from her)and she got
me a designer shirt, so I don't want to do anything lame
either. Can you help me.

Thanks,
N.
Texas


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Wow, great job.

It's not often that an attractive woman will actually TELL
you explicitly that she's testing you. You have a gal
there that is unusually open.

I included your email because it's a great example of how
women test men. Most guys FAIL MISERABLY when tested, and
they lose the girl in the process. It's sad, but true.

When a woman tests a man, it's like a blind psychological
experiment. She's doing the testing, but she knows that
she can't TELL you what's going on, because then you'll
know it's a test and not respond authentically.

How else could she find out the TRUE nature of your
character? How else could she find out if you're actually
a strong-willed man with inner power, or just another
actor playing pretend in order to conceal the INNER WUSS?

Think about it.

As for the gift idea...

Women typically love SURPRISES and THOUGHTFUL expressions
of your feelings. As you know, I don't like to comment on
the relationship stages, but if you want to make her see
you as different from other guys, plan a few thoughtful
surprises for her. Think about experiences that she's
always wanted to have, or things she really likes, then
combine together to create a time she won't forget.

It doesn't take money to do this, and it's actually
better if you DON'T spend a lot.

Remember, what I'm talking about here is to be used when
you know a woman and have been dating her for at least
a little while. This is the kind of thing that has the
word "relationship" all over it, and you don't want to
do things like this too soon, or you run the risk of
coming across the wrong way.

[As a side note: I want to re-affirm that even though I
choose not to comment on the "relationship" stage very
often, that doesn't mean that I don't like relationships or
have a problem with the idea. I think that a great
relationship with a great woman can be one of the best
experiences in life... But I also think that to attract a
really amazing woman you need to know what you're doing.
And that's what I focus on: How to be more successful with
women and DATING - not women and RELATIONSHIPS.]


***QUESTION***

Well I got a question here. I have a great resource to
meet women, but I am unsure on how to go about milking it.

I work at a children's museum. Occasionally a group of
some kind would come in, kids camp, YMCA, etc. Well usually
with these groups there are quite a few women my age. They
are usually supervising the children they bring in.

Last time a group came in some women made a point to kino.
Some would brush against me when they walked passed me
even when there was a lot of room on either side of me. Or
if I was in the way they would touch my back rather than
say something. This happens more than often to be a
coincidence.

I have no idea how I should milk this resource. I am
friggin stumped.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, if I were you, I think I'd sit down and make a list
of all the kinds of conversations that you could possibly
get into with these women, then create Cocky and Funny
lines for each. Finally, come up with some great ways to
get emails and numbers.

You might say:

"Where did you find time to have all these children?"

...or some other line hinting that these are her own
children.

Then, after a little banter, say:

"You know, I don't usually date women that already
have 27 kids, but give me your email, and maybe we can
talk about it."

You have all kinds of great options. Just think of some
great things to say!



***QUESTION***

David,

I was in a VERY noisy club the other night in Cabo San
Lucas (I'm on vacation) and spotted this babe dancing
alone away from the crowd. I approached her with your,
"Hi! I noticed you over here and thought I'd take a sec
to find out what you might be like... are you friendly?"
with a cocky sort of smile. She warmed up instantly and
conversation flowed into an eventual makeout session
there in the club. It was the first of three successes
I've had in one week... more than I typically had in 6
months before reading your book... so Muchos Gracias!

However, I want to get REALLY good at the Cocky & Funny
(C&F) thing and hone that skill so I come across that
way in ALL of my interactions with women (not just when
I happen to be "on"). Can you recommend some
drills/exercises or some kind of action plan to RAPIDLY
hone this skill in the next couple months? How did you
develop it?

Thanks,

E.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

The book that I always recommend is called "Comedy Writing
Secrets" by Helitzer. It's such a great book, and it has
a bunch of great exercises inside to help you increase
your humor skills. As you're working on it, just think
COCKY and Funny.

I personally developed a lot of my Cocky and Funny skills
by chatting online over instant messenger services with
women. When you use one of these IM programs, it gives you
a chance to think of great things to say, because the
conversation is about 1/5th the speed of normal
conversation. It's great practice, and you can write down
different lines to try, then get online and use them...
with real women, even!

Great job, and keep it up.



***QUESTION***

Hi,

I'll try to keep this short. First of all, your book is
great. Great tips, great guidelines. Second, as a proof
of success, a few nights ago I went out with some friends,
and tried something new, based on your guidelines. I saw
this hot girl at the bar, asking for a drink. And instead
of complimenting her on her great physical looks, I said
hi to her and told her I liked how her unusual belt looked
on her. That's it. And then turned around and walked away.
I didn't even let her talk. Ten seconds later she comes
to where I was with a friend and said to me "the good
thing is that it keeps my pants in their place", and
everything worked from there. We began to talk, etc.
I would have never done that before. I gave it a try, and
the outcome was good. That same night I stayed away from
the usual "you are pretty, blah, blah" and focused on
other things, trying to start a conversation in a C&F way,
and it works better than the usual stuff. I met about 4
girls that night. Got the hot girl's email address.

I also wanted to ask you for advice on something. After
that night's success, last night I went out to a dance
club and this is the scenario. Crowded place, loud music,
pretty girl seated in a table with other friends (guys and
girls). Can't quite assure if good eye contact is being
made because of the club lights. Let's assume there is. I
did notice she looked at me about 3 times. She never leaves
the table, she is seated between her friends (hard to
approach her). I didn't know what to do in order to have
her leave the table to try some talking. This is a major
problem. You can't just go there and approach her in front
of all her friends (can I?) I had to do something! I waited
over an hour to see if she moved, but she didn't. So I
decided to write a message on a napkin and have the waiter
give it to her. I thought this at least would define is she
was interested or not, and then move on to other target if
she wasn't. I wrote something like this: "Since I haven't
been able to run into you apart from your table, I decided
to send you this note..." and then complimented her on a
prop she had, etc, (C&F) I thought that if she was
interested she then would move to the bar, or somewhere
else where we could meet and talk. A few minutes before I
was going to send her the note, she and one of her
girlfriends stepped away from the table. While I was
watching where she was going to stop (I try not to hit on
a girl while she is moving), I realized she was leaving the
place. I thought she might come back because she didn't say
goodbye to her other friends. She never came back. She left
with a girl, but she isn't lesbian or bi either (I know who
she is). So at the end of the night (2 hours later) I
approached one of her girlfriends and asked her to give
the note to the girl (I wrote down my email). I told her I
was going to talk to her and give her the note personally,
but she had left and I couldn't do it. Her friend asked me
"so this message is from who?", I said "the guy with the
black shirt, necklace with a shark tooth, from the table
next to yours". I don't even know if she will remember, or
if she noticed because of the "unconfirmed" eye contact.
I need feedback on this, man. How do you approach a girl
in a scenario like this? What would you have done? I think
what I did is wrong, giving the note to her friend, but what
the hell. We all have to make mistakes to improve on this,
right? Thanks!! Keep up the good work. Waiting for Episode
II of Double your Dating.

R.M. from Miami


>>>MY COMMENTS:

First of all, I admire the hell out of you, because you did
SOMETHING instead of NOTHING. Nice.

Now, as for what to do in a situation like that one...

I have a friend that does something interesting. He'll call
the waiter over, and say "Can you deliver this napkin to
that girl over there? But don't tell her who it's from." Then,
he'll draw a tic tac toe game, and put an X in one of the
squares. (Always tip the waiter a dollar!)

The napkin almost always comes back, and the game is on...

It's fun, mysterious, and the girl always wants to know
who's playing with her.

I've used this before, and it's great fun.

At some point, depending on whether you're winning or losing,
you can come over to her table and say something like "Well,
I had to meet my worthy opponent" or "I hope you talk better
than you play" etc.

Also, if a woman gets up and is about to leave, that's a
GREAT time to go get her info!!!

Just walk up and say "Hi, I was going to come talk to you
earlier but I got busy... what's your name? Do you have
email?" Easy. And it's so natural to ask, since she's
obviously on her way out...


***QUESTION***

hey david.

In your last news letter u talked about reverse psychology.
A couple of days ago (before i got this email on reverse
psychology) i was talking to a friend of mine online (a girl)
and ive liked her for a while. (shes somewhat of a player
and shes REALLY HOT!!!) when i was talkin to her we got into
a conversation about sex. as we were talkin i told her that
i didnt want to do it w/ her (but i did) and she said y not,
and i said because. she kept on asking me why not, and i just
said because. so she gave up and quit asking me. so then we
went on w/ our conversation, and a little while later just
right out of the blue she said we'll probably have sex some
time in the future. i said "ha maybe", and left it at that.
we havent done it yet but we do talk about it (just havent
found the time yet) but i plan on doin it soon. so my point
is, the reverse psychology thing really works. and to all u
guys who think david dosnt know what hes talkin about, your
wrong he know exactly what hes talkin about. buy his book!!!

J from IN


>>>MY COMMENTS:

One of the most amazing things you can do when a woman brings
up the topic of sex is to tease her about it, ask her why
she's bringing it up, and accuse her of having a dirty mind,
etc. It's great!

You must realize that this is one of the very best ways to
tease an attractive woman. They usually love it.

Attractive women often bring up the topic of sex to see if
you're comfortable... or to test you to find out if you'll
get nervous or insecure.

The best thing to do in these situations is accuse her of
trying to get sexual too fast, tell her you're not interested,
and bust on her. It's all kinds of good fun. And the added
benefit is that it makes her more and more curious about you
and why you don't seem like all the other losers who roll
over and act stupid.



***SUCCESS***

Dave,

Oh my God, I'm gushing...Dave you da man. I showed up at one
of the local bars tonight armed with your info and voila, I
wasn't really trying and still got the phone numbers of two
of the hottest babes, including a girl I've been eyeing for
about a year. MAYBE I'll call her, then again, there's so
many women and so little time. ;-)

Cheers,

I.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Gushing?

Cool. I think.

What else can I say? Nice.



***QUESTION***

Dave,

Thanks for all of the advice. I recently went to Australia
and constantly used your advice. Even on the plane ride
over. I was blessed to be sitting next to a hottie on a 14
hour flight across the Pacific. We started talking and
hitting it off. Lots of chemistry. She pulls out her
scrapbook and I tease her about everything. I come across
some pictures and she keeps looking hotter and hotter and I
keep teasing her about her looks, saying that she must not
travel well, becuase that cannot be her. Then I come across
her in a lepoard bikini. Im thinking, THANK YOU GOD. On the
other page she has word association games and her comment
is P- Bootylicious. So I look at her ass and say, " Im not
so sure about that... youll have to prove something like
that." So she turns her back to me and pulls her pants out
and says "NO look. " My response was, " well, I just dont
know if I have a good angle to make that kind of judgement.
" You know coach seats and all. So the flight just progress
from there. It was like a 10 hour lap dance. I got her
email... of course and home cell. We actually emailed all
over Austrailia except I was going one way and she was
going the other. We actually almost met in one city... She
lives about three hours away from me and will be coming
home in about two weeks. Dave... I need a magic line to
get her to come up and visit me when she gets back! I've
been C/F in all of the emails and she has responded for
the last month, but any suggestions for a winner proposal.

M.

San Francisco


>>>MY COMMENTS:

What are you talking about?!

You need a magic line when you had this hot girl doing
lap dances on a commercial flight for you?

OK, OK, why don't you tell her that you have a BIG
surprise for her, and she needs to come up your way
so you can show it to her.

Then show her the Golden Gate...

...or something.

I and every other man who's been on a long flight seated
between two overweight women with bad breath hate you.



***SUCCESS***

Dave,

I was first a bit reluctant to use your cocky+funny
attitude to attract girls...guys this is perfectly normal
but GET OVER IT!!! THEY LOVE IT!!! And, I'm becoming more
and more aware of it every time I try it.

Now, I had to travel across town today for a summer school
class and while waiting at one of our many long stoplights,
a cute blonde pulled up next to me. As usual, I checked her
out and noticed that she had 5 or 6 pairs of yellow, green,
purple, and pink sunglasses hanging from her mirror. I
yelled at her, "Hey, I like your glasses!!". "Thanks", she
said, "I really...". I then cut her off in mid-sentence and
said, "Yeah, I think my bratty 6-year old sister has a pair
just like those!" Using Dave's Cocky+Funny attitude DID
catch her off-guard but she laughed a good bit. After a bit
of small talk, I asked her for her number and out to lunch.
Now, I have a date next week! THANKS DAVE!!!

Thanks,

D.F. in Indiana


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, nice save!

You are truly starting to get it. Cocky and Funny. Cocky
and Funny. Cocky and Funny.

Repeat after me...



***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey Dave,

First off, I bought your book (read it twice) and think that
there are some excellent tips/ideas included for meeting and
seducing women. I feel that it was well worth the
investment, particularly being that it is matter-of-fact and
right-to-the-point, making it very easy to assimilate the
information.

Now, on to my success story. The reason I'm writing this is
to show guys how a little bit of confidence can do wonders in
any situation. This happened in my fraternity, before a
party. I was with a few brothers, drinking a few beers and
just hanging out. Low and behold, in walked this beautiful
specimen who was a "friend from home" of one of my bros. I
was sitting on the floor, she was standing up. Normally, I'd
putter around in my attempts to pick up a babe that was that
incredible. On this fateful day, though, I was in the Zone!
I immediately made eye contact with her, smiled, held the eye
contact a 'little too long' and winked at her. The effect
that this 7-second process had on her was astounding. She
blushed a little, smiled and gave me this (I'll never forget)
"take me now" look. I stood up and said "Guy's were going to
go for a walk." I took her hand and led her out of the room,
into the hallway, and down four doors to my room. The rest
of the night, we had sex twice, danced later that night at
the house party, and just kinda hung out together after that.
If I would of done my normal procrastination process before
attempting to pick up this babe, there is no way things would
of unfolded like they did. A recap of what happened: I saw
an incredible-looking woman, made my interest known
immediately, acted on my signals within the first minute of
the encounter, showed total confidence in my approach, and
proceeded to move and interact with her as if the forthcoming
night's encounter was meant to be.

Best of Life,

CD

Pittsburgh, Pa

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You are the man. Since most guys probably missed the KEY
part of your story, I'll recap and explain.

Most men hesitate when they see a woman that they're attracted
to. This is mistake number 1.

Next, most guys don't like the idea of letting a woman know
that they're INTERESTED in a woman romantically. So they try
to come up with nice, friendly, wussish things to say so they
don't come across like they're attracted. This is mistake
number 2.

Now, of course you don't want to jump on a woman or approach
her in a menacing way, and of course you don't want to act like
you're so attracted to her that you'd lay down in traffic for
a date with her...

But what you did was neither.

When a man realizes the things you've realized, and then takes
action like this, it has an INSTANT AND POWERFUL effect on a
woman. It triggers her ATTRACTION mechanism DIRECTLY... no
talk, no lines, no BS.

The problem, of course, is that most guys have no idea how
this dynamic works, and therefore never take the specific
correct actions that lead to this kind of awesome success.

Thanks for the email.

...those were some great examples of how to do things right.
This week I've been getting an unbelievable amount of email
from guys who have read my book "Double Your Dating" who
have written to tell me their awesome success stories. I
wish I could include all of them, but I literally get
hundreds of emails a week, and there is just no way that I
can include them all. If you've been reading these
newsletters, and you'd like to get ALL of my very best
thinking on how to be more successful at attracting women,
then I'd recommend that you download a copy of my online
eBook "Double Your Dating". It's packed with all of the
secrets it's taken me years to learn and discover. Just
go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now and get your copy. You'll be reading it in just a
few minutes from right now, thanks to the power of the
internet.

Thanks for tuning in, and I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.




***If you'd like to send me a Success Story, Question,
or Comment, follow these guidelines***

1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max.

2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your
question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuff is great"
and "I don't need to tell you how well your stuff works"
comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of
the specifics... because this helps other guys to see
what's working in different situations.

3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in
the subject line of the email. I read these first.

4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell
me where you're from.

5) Send it to me at:

SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com

DATING TIP: "EYE CONTACT AND OTHER KEYS"
***QUESTION***


Just wanted to share a little bit of what your lessons have
done for me. I read your book and started concentrating on
what I thought was my weak points. I did as your book
recommended and started picturing myself as the cocky funny
person I wanted to be. I even did the whole daydream
practice thing everyday. I work at a fitness center so I
see lots of hot women all the time. My biggest weakness is
that I look away quickly after eye contact is made. I
decided that before I started trying to approach women I
would make it my goal for a couple of weeks to just make
eye contact and hold it until they looked away. Ok, here is
the good part. After practicing eye contact for a couple of
weeks and doing the whole mental exercise thing, I was at
work one day working out after my break and was practicing
my eye contact thing between sets with this really hot girl
near the dumbbell rack.

I knew she noticed but it never bothered me cause I had no
intentions of acting. Well, I had to go over to get a set
of dumbbells for my next exercise and as I got close to
where she was she suddenly turned around and said "I have
a boyfriend" and turned around. Normally I would have kinda
stood there in shock and said nothing but, I guess all that
mental practice paid off. With out even thinking or pausing
the words just came out. I said "Hey that's great I am happy
for you. (Pause - and in a lower tone) I know this is
probably a major accomplishment for you but to the rest a
the world this is kinda normal so you might not want to go
telling every stranger you see." Then I just walked off
with my weights to do my sets. 5 min later she comes over
to me and apologizes and asks for my number. Turns out she
didn't have a boyfriend but was just tired of being picked
up by losers while she was trying to do a workout. Thanks
for the pleasant surprise!

KAL


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Niiiiice one.

Your letter is really a wonderful affirmation and
summary of some of my favorite concepts:

1) Read my book "Double Your Dating"
2) Actually use the material and mentally rehearse
3) Start from where you're at
4) Be Cocky and Funny
5) Show complete indifference
6) Use illogical Jedi-Level mind power to create ATTRACTION


First of all, your story would make no sense at all to
most guys. They would say "Yea, whatever. She was probably
abused as a child and wants you to be her daddy" or "Well,
if I worked at a gym I could do that too".

Of course, you realize that this had nothing to do with
either... this was a result of you learning about how
women work, then preparing, then taking action. I couldn't
be more impressed.

Now let's talk about some of the things that were
happening that most people would MISS when reading the
story.

You mentioned your exercise of keeping eye contact
until women look away. This is very powerful. I am guilty
of not addressing this issue more often, and I'm glad
you mentioned it here.

If you can learn this skill, it will communicate
powerfully for you. Great job.

You said "I guess all that mental practice paid off.
With out even thinking or pausing the words just came out."

This is the result of preparation and mental rehearsal.
This wasn't "luck". Even though the words were unique to
the situation, the MESSAGE was delivered clearly. By
learning how to better communicate in the language that
women understand, you created magic.

And as for the words themselves...

You just gotta love saying: "Hey that's great I am happy
for you. (Pause - and in a lower tone) I know this is
probably a major accomplishment for you but to the rest a
the world this is kinda normal so you might not want to go
telling every stranger you see" to a hot woman at the gym!

You INSTANTLY took a situation that would normally strip
a man of all his composure and personal power, and then
REFRAMED her words in a way that caused HER to look like
the socially inept one.

Then you did something equally powerful:

YOU WALKED AWAY.

In effect, you busted on her, then PROVED BEYOND THE
SHADOW OF A DOUBT THAT YOU COULD TAKE HER OR LEAVE HER.
Actions really do speak louder than words... most guys
would have messed up that situation by standing around
waiting for her to say something. You did the right thing
by walking away.

When you combine all of these factors together, you
get a totally illogical outcome: ATTRACTION.

She realized that you weren't just some other loser
who hoped to maybe get a date by kissing up to her...
you turned out to be on of the EXCEPTIONAL men in the
world who have more personal power than her, and one of
the even MORE exceptional men who also know how to
create ATTRACTION.

This combination made her feel a feeling that you
can't create by DECIDING that you want it. It can only
be created by TRIGGERING IT.

Finally, I'd like to comment on the fact that SHE
asked YOU for YOUR number. You realize that it's not
typical for a woman to approach a man, apologize, then
ask for his number.

Women will often ask a man for his number just to
get rid of him. But not in a situation like this one.
This was different. She apologized, then told you that
she's tired of being picked up by losers... then asked
for your number. This was, in effect, her telling you
that she sees you DIFFERENTLY.

All because of your eye contact, followed by a perfect
execution of the Cocky and Funny attitude, followed by an
excellent physical demonstration of indifference.

Again, to most men this would make no sense at all.
If you consulted most relationship books, they would
argue that this type of approach would NEVER work. I
mean, men are supposed to "court" women, compliment
them... pursue them with gifts and favors, right?

Yea, right.

The problem is that the mainstream relationship
books forgot to title the chapter that suggests this
kind of behavior "HOW TO BE THE WUSS WOMEN RUN FROM" or
"HOW TO CONVINCE THE WOMAN YOU DESIRE THAT YOU HAVE NO
BACKBONE AND WOULD PAY ANY PRICE FOR HER ATTENTION" or
"SIMPLE TECHNIQUES FOR GIVING A WOMAN YOUR REPRODUCTIVE
EQUIPMENT ON A PLATTER".

The question I have for you is...

CAN YOU PUT ASIDE YOUR PRE-CONCEIVED NOTIONS ABOUT
WHY MEN AND WOMEN "SHOULD" BE ATTRACTED TO EACH OTHER
LONG ENOUGH TO SEE WHY THEY ACTUALLY ARE ATTRACTED TO
EACH OTHER?

And can you do what it takes to get yourself from
where you are to where you actually need to be in
order to attract the kinds of women that you would
like to meet and date?

It can be done, but you're going to have to do it.

As I mentioned above, the first step is to read
my book "Double Your Dating". That's the best head
start I can give you. Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now to download it. You'll be glad you did.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

DATING TIP: DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ATTRACTION AND AFFECTION

If you've been reading my newsletters, and you've
read my book "Double Your Dating", then there's a good
chance that somewhere along the way you've said to
yourself "Does this guy think that long-term relationships
are healthy?"

To set the record books straight, I want to say:

Yes, I think that long-term relationships are wonderful,
healthy, and can be a great source of joy and happiness.

In fact, I've had many of them myself, and have enjoyed
some great times as a result.

But here's the distinction: If you don't learn how to
a woman feel ATTRACTED to you at the VERY BEGINNING, then
you are taking a HUGE risk. Namely, that you're going to
invest all of your time, effort, energy, emotions, gifts,
money, and life pursuing someone who may or may not ever
feel the same way about you.

If, on the other hand, you master the art of making
women feel that GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION using only your
personality, then you won't be GAMBLING as much when it
comes to women and relationships.

NOTE: My experience is that many of the things that
us guys do to try to attract a woman, i.e. buying gifts,
doing favors, etc. actually lead to the woman finding us
UN-attractive, because she sees these as needy behaviors
performed by a weak man that hide ulterior motives.

I think that long-term relationships are great. I
just don't like the idea of investing a lot of time,
energy, and money if I have no idea whether a girl even
likes me! No thanks.

How much better it is to know how to make a woman
feel that excitement, tension, and attraction at the
VERY BEGINNING. This way you're not out-of-control,
wondering where you stand. Then, if you decide that
this is someone that you'd like to spend more time
with in the future, you can start doing more
traditional "relationship" things (if YOU choose).

A relationship based on two people enjoying
each other's company and personalities is FAR stronger,
in my opinion, than one based on gifts, money and
favors.

Take a moment right now, and think about the
difference between ATTRACTION and AFFECTION. Think
about the things that make you feel ATTRACTED to a
woman, and then think about the things that make you
feel AFFECTION for a woman.

Big difference, isn't it?

Here's one for you. Do nice women stay with jerks
because they feel affection for them? In most cases I'd
doubt it. It's because the jerk is ATTRACTIVE in one
way or another.

What I've done is take the parts of the 'jerk'
personality... the parts that are ATTRACTIVE to women,
and use just those without the ABUSIVE components.

Teasing, busting her balls, creating tension,
playing hard to get, not giving her what she wants,
being unpredictable, being cocky and funny are all
ways to push the "attraction buttons" without being
abusive or mean.

Then, it's up to YOU whether you'd like to buy
gifts, pay for dinners, and do favors. When gifts
and favors are presented in the context of being an
already attractive, cocky and funny man, then they
take on a whole new meaning. They lead to a stronger
feeling of affection, devotion and commitment...

WARNING: Don't turn into a wuss just because you
decide that you really like a girl. Don't start
calling her 47 times a day and saying "Ohh, baby I
really miss you." Use gifts, favors, and romance
like a spice... not the main dish.

OK, here's the plug: If you haven't downloaded
your copy of my book "Double Your Dating", then get
to it! Go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...right now and get it. I promise that EVERYTHING in
these newsletters will make more sense to you after
you've read it. You'll learn all about how to make
women feel that illogical, mystical, GUT LEVEL
ATTRACTION with your communication and personality.

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

MAILBAG: ALL ABOUT APPROACHING WOMEN
A COUPLE OF QUICK THINGS:

Just wanted to mention a couple of quick things before we
get into another great Mailbag:

1) The New York seminar is almost finished being arranged.
It looks like it's going to be Friday-Sunday, the last
week of September. I'm planning for a Midtown Manhattan
location... it's central to everything, and it looks like
I'm getting a VERY reasonable hotel rate for guests. Keep
your eyes open for more info soon. If you have any
questions, send an email to NYSeminar@doubleyourdating.com.

2) From time to time I want to remind you that every one
of the emails contained in my newsletters is real and
authentic... I don't have my mom write these, and I don't
sit and come up with them myself! Also, I get literally
thousands of emails per month from various sources, and
it's just not physically possible for me to answer every
email. If you have a Success Story and question for me,
just email it to SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com and
keep it short. Share something that's working for you
first... I like those emails best!


***SUCCESS STORY***

Hello David,

Just wanted to let you know of a little twist of fate I
experienced. After reading your techniques, I made a
decision to try them out on a good female friend of mine.
Her and I used to be a couple, but four years into it
things got sour and the relationship ended. I was
absolutely crushed and felt emotionally numb. A few months
went by and I decided to get over the possibility of us
getting back together. I had pondered possible reasons
as to why our relationship ended. It had seemed as if she
just one day awoke and saw me as a friend instead of a
mate... but I came to the realization that I had become a
wussy and just stumbled into that self defeating
clinginess. We remained friends, but I was obviously still
attracted to her. Well, I purchased your book and decided
to move on with my life and let her go forever. Ironically,
after some intense practice, I ran into her at the mall and
we started talking. It had been a while and I had moved
on, so I (naturally) acted like I didn't want her, and I
busted her balls in every way possible. She laughed so hard
and got really excited. Well, the next month she called me
about 10 times to try to set up a time to meet. Finally, I
visited her house for old times sake, applied cocky funny
(which was downright second nature at this point), and she
started crawling all over me! I wasn't even pursuing her.
Four years of me being a wussy and your techniques pulled me
out of it. Very powerful stuff! Just emailed to let
everyone know that this stuff works. It also helps if you
actually get a grip of your life and don't let past loves
drag you down. Get over it and move on...it will only make
you more attractive! Take care and thanks.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Congratulations. One thing that really stood out for me
in your letter was:

"It had been a while and I had moved on, so I (naturally)
acted like I didn't want her, and I busted her balls in
every way possible. She laughed so hard and got really
excited. Well, the next month she called me about 10
times to try to set up a time to meet."

Women have a very specialized and highly advanced "Wuss
Detection System". One of the clues that they use in
Wuss-Detection is when a guy is overly clingy or shows
TOO MUCH interest.

I know that this doesn't make a whole bunch of LOGICAL
sense, but then again, almost NOTHING makes logical
sense when it comes to ATTRACTION.

Keep up the good work, and I hope you're able to put
your relationship back together... sounds like it was
a great thing.

Just remember to NOT BE A WUSSY anymore!



***QUESTION***

Dave,

I purchased your book and received most of your e-mails.
Your book is an excellent guide for success with women.
After reading your book I began to see things more clearly
regarding women and dating.

I am currently dating four women at the same time. They
are all pretty hot and very into me. I use your Cocky and
Funny approach with a touch of sarcasm. I have bedded
these girls down within one or two dates. Their ages range
from 19 to 26 and sex is a daily thing.

However, I grow tired of scheduling all these women. What
should I do? I don't want to go without sex like I use to
before reading your book.

Yours Truly,

G.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Awwww. You POOR, POOR DEAR.

You're dating four hot women ages 19-26, and you're having
sex daily.

Yea, I can sure see how all that scheduling would get you
down.... sounds like a TOTAL BUMMER.

Hey, I have an idea...

Maybe you should rent a 5 bedroom house, and then rent out
four of the rooms to your dates. You could mark up the
rents so you could cover the entire cost... FREE RENT FOR
YOU!

But wait... that's not even the good part.

You could run down to Office Depot and get one of those
big "white boards", create a huge monthly calendar, and put
it up in the kitchen. This way, all of your dates could
SCHEDULE THEMSELVES.

It would be great. No more HARD SCHEDULING WORK for you!
You could just let them work it all out amongst themselves.

Now THAT'S thinking. I should send you a bill.

OK, look man... give me a break!

You want to have a lifestyle that almost NO men have,
but you don't like all the tough "scheduling work".

Either higher an assistant, or get over it.


***QUESTION***

Sup Dave,

Man you got some skillz with the ladies. I'm
learning so much from you, now friends are asking me for
'advice', that's wild. Well for the past couple of weeks i
just decided to give the cocky and funny thing a try, to
great reviews from the ladies. I was getting tired of
hearing "you are such a nice kid." My problem is trying to
figure out if i went too far with joking with this girl.
in her book i wrote " what's up girl, i can't lie, you
look good, almost as good as me (haha). Give me a call so
we can chill, go to the movies, makeout...whatever. It was
tight being in classes w/ you, your energy and great smile
can really light up any situation. Have a tight summer.
peace"

It seems like in the past weeks she has started to
like me. The thing is, she is one of the most liked girls at
our school, i always played it coo around her, jus being
friends (oh ya, i got the email). It's not like i'm a bad
looking guy either so... "was it the right thing for me to
right this?" yeah, and if i messed up and she is mad at me
or something what should i do to fix the situation w/out
sounding like a 6'3 tall wussy? "oh yeah, and "how do i kno
when these girls like me or not, they throw out mixed
signals" one day they're all over a brotha, next day
they're not talking to me...weird. Anywayz, if you can
understand my conumdrum and give me some advice, i would
be greatly apreciative.

Peace,

your friendly neighborhood black guy


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Let me drop the knowledge...

First of all, get used to attractive women sending you
mixed signals. It's part of life.

One of the reasons why a woman will be "all over you
one day but cold the next" is because during the time
she was "all over you", YOU ACTED LIKE A WUSS.

A lot of guys don't get this.

They get all upset because a girl was friendly one day,
but totally acted different the next.

What often happens is something like this:

1) You do the right things, and make her feel ATTRACTION.

2) She starts acting affectionate. Maybe you make out.

3) You start saying "Wow, I really like you" etc. and act
all smitten with her to her face too early on instead of
just leaning back, enjoying, and playing it cool.

4) She CHANGES HER MIND and sees you in a different light
because you turned into a WUSS right before her very eyes.

You feel me?

Better way: Keep doing what you know works. Keep leaning
back, being unpredictable, playing hard to get, etc. And
don't start acting smitten too early on!


***COMMENT***

hey dave

just to let you know that your stuff is genius...Ive never
had so much success before. I used to do EXACTLY what not
to do, in fact i didnt do anything right. You see I was
the "Nice Guy" I kissed girls asses to make them like me,
and i could never figure out why they acted ignorant and
ignored me. Now thanks to you man i figured out what I
did wrong. I now have confidence and i am willing to talk
to chicks i never would before. Just wanted to thank you
for all you have done for us, i speak for everyone when I
say that you are the man. I hope that every man knows
this stuff, but if not more women for us right?

-J


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Thanks for your email.

I know, I know... it's soooo easy to do the wrong things
with women and NOT EVEN REALIZE THAT YOU'RE DOING THEM.

Unless you get clued-in about how this game works, it's
very difficult to figure this stuff out by "trial and
error".

Keep up the great work.



***QUESTION***

Dear Dave,

I downloaded your book and all I can say is WOW! I was blind
and now I see. I've always been known as a "nice" guy and
looking back I can see how much of a wuss I really was.
Here's the story. Some friends of mine and I go on a camping
trip every year. This year one guy brought a surprisingly
attractive 20-something with him.(I'm 36). Later that night
she and I were the last ones sitting around the fire after
everyone else had crashed. We had a few drinks and I found
out that she and my friend were not a couple. Then she came
out and said that she knew that I was attracted to her but
that I "wasn't her type". Before your book I would have
become embarrassed and tucked my tail between my legs and
fled. Instead I turned it around on her and started busting
her balls using C&F. We ended up talking until the sun came
up and when it came time for her and my friend to leave she
asked me if I had a pen. She gave me her phone #(I never
even asked for it) and asked me for mine. That never would
have happened in my previous life! Everyone out there: Get
this book!

Thanks Dave!


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah, isn't it exciting when you do something that you NEVER
would have done in the past... and it WORKS!?

Of course, you're just getting started... you're going to
take things to a whole new level, I'm sure.

Just make sure that you don't start calling this girl
every 20 minutes, and that you give her space to miss you
and think about you.

Keep it up.



***QUESTION***

Hey
,
I have been a subscriber of your newsletter for a while
now. I have pretty much perfected your techniques and have
had tremendous success with them. One thing I recently
realized is that after you have them hooked you can keep
them on the line even more by using strange timing for
telephone calls etc. What I mean by this is that I have
found it beneficial to return their calls at weird hours
when you wouldn't expect them to be home or awake if they
are so that you leave a message. Then when they call about
half the time all I do is pick up the phone and say "can't
talk sorry bye," hang up, and go back to watching
sportscenter. The girls who are calling obviously want to
see more of you, so being hard to reach makes the game all
the livelier. If you mix being hard to reach with the
occasional phone call it seems like a shortcut to taking
it to a more physical level because they aren't sure when
they will see you next. I was wondering if you have used
this and if you think it is a good idea or if there is some
unforeseen way this could backfire?

Thanks.

Z


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You horrible man!

You actually tell women that you're BUSY, and hang up so
you can go back to watching SPORTSCENTER?

You're killing me over here.

I can't believe it, I think you're one of about five men
alive that have gotten to the point where you don't need
to stop everything just for a little attention from a
woman!

Hell, I'm starting to feel attracted to you.

Easy, boy.

You are doing EXACTLY the right things. Keep it up.

Being unpredictable, hard to reach, and mysterious is
MAGIC when it comes to creating ATTRACTION.

Of course, no technique is perfect, and if you do these
things long enough you will have something come up as
a result. But overall, this is a WINNING combination.

If and when you do have a problem or setback, don't
worry about it. These things happen. You'll have so
much success that it won't matter.

As a side note, I want to mention a quick little
something...

I think that there's a line between doing things that
make women feel attracted to you so you can enjoy a
more interesting romantic life and actually give women
what they want...

And using the ideas you're learning purely to manipulate
women into doing things.

Most women would really prefer if guys would do this
stuff and be more interesting, but there's a danger of
using this information, and making people into toys.

I honestly believe that you can live whatever lifestyle
you want... all the way from dating several women at a
time to being married for years... and still do it with
integrity and honesty.

Do the right thing, and be a good guy.


***QUESTION***

David,

Hey there! Thanks for the tips/advice so far. I have
an interesting story about an amazing girl i met online...
we started chatting and we hit it off so well that we
chatted for many hours the first day and by the end of the
second day she wanted me to call her and i did and then by
the end of the week she wanted to meet me and she came
over to my house and well we kinda got straight into it
(everything but sex)...anyways the next day i called her
and we were still talking pretty hot and heavy etc...and
we kept this up for a couple of days and we were supposed
to meet again (to go to a movie) but then she backed out
and said she wanted to slow it down...i kinda figured this
was the end of it and i was feelign pretty shitty (she's
a hot ass stipper for god's sake!) and i was kinda
confused and then she emails me the next day...i hold off
responding for a sec cause i'm confused and then she sends
me another email late at night telling me to call her so i
did and she tells me how she wants to "cuddle" etc... and
i'm kinda acting a little distant maybe cause i'm confused
about what the hell she wants ands then all of a sudden
she turns on me like that and doesn't want anything to do
with me whatsoever... and now she won't respond to my
emails or calls...what the hell can i do to get her again
cause i totally want to party with her!

Thanks man... help me!

want more of her


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, your problem is simple.

YOU SPENT TOO MUCH TIME TALKING TO HER AT THE BEGINNING.

As a rule of thumb, when you first meet a girl, DON'T
talk to her more than once or twice a week, and don't
SEE her more than once or twice a week.

If you're chatting online, don't chat more than a couple
of times a week.

And DON'T talk for hours and hours and hours in ANY of
these situations!

Why not?

Because when you talk for hours, you start talking about
all kinds of WUSSY things.

Do yourself a favor next time...

After a woman comes over to your house and gets physical
with you, LEAN BACK.

Don't call the next day and talk hot and heavy. Give it
some time and space.

Here's one of my favorite quotes:

"Give her the gift of missing you."

I love that quote.

I wrote it.

OK, I think you get the point. Stop acting like a needy
WUSS BOY, and start leaning back, being unpredictable,
and GIVE HER THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU when you're in a
similar situation in the future.



***QUESTION***

David,

Hi i have been reading your newsletter for about two months
now and i really wish i could tell you that i've had
outstanding success with the cocky and funny approach but
im afraid i cant. You see i just cant even picture myself
seeing a gorgeous woman somewhere and just starting some
kind of conversation with her out of no where like that. I
get really nervous around women and never know what to say
to them. And i just can't help but see myself get rejected
by her and all the different ways she can turn me down.
Any suggestions?

M. from AZ


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I have a question for you...

"What if you COULD picture yourself seeing a gorgeous woman
somewhere and just starting some kind of conversation with
her out of nowhere?"

Is the problem that you can't picture it? Or is the problem
that you won't just DO IT?

I mean, what do you think is going to happen?

Do you think that gorgeous women have magical powers and
she might turn you into a frog or something?

Here, try this:

Next time you see a beautiful woman, walk over and say:

"Excuse me, can I ask you a question? I'm trying to
overcome my shyness, and it's my goal to ask five women
today what it takes for them to feel attracted to a man.
Do you prefer it when guys try to BUY your attention with
gifts and food, or do you prefer it when a guy teases you,
makes fun, makes you laugh, and keeps you guessing about
what's going to come next?"

Don't even worry about getting emails, numbers, and dates.
Just go ask that question.

As a homework assignment, go ask 100 women this question.
You'll see that women aren't so scary after all, and you
will get some really interesting answers from them.

Now, I don't usually advise asking women for advice on
women... but in this case I'm not telling you to ask
for advice for advice's sake. You're overcoming shyness
at the same time.

After you ask the first 50, I want you to try something
new...

After you ask the question, and she answers, I want you
to say "Because, you know, I'm really tired of women
just treating me like a piece of meat... like some kind
of sex symbol or something. I need to understand what
I can do so a woman likes me for WHO I AM!" ...in a
serious, sarcastic, Cocky and Funny way.

Watch the responses you get. You'll have fun.



***QUESTION***

Hello David. Well, let me put it this way: I got your
book, and it made a HUGE impact on my life. I'd like to
assure anyone who doubts you that you are not full of crap,
you really know your stuff. Anyway, I have a little
problem, and since I feel you've mastered the understanding
of the minds of women, I need your help. First of all,
I've always had a razor-sharp wit, but I didn't have the
confidence to show it to most women, and instead felt sorry
for myself that women never got to see the real me. Now,
once I was introduced to you and learned the whole cocky
routine and seen it's effects, my confidence is sky high.
I charm women like you wouldn't believe... while I was
happy with this at first, it seems that I have gotten TOO
good with women. I know I sound awfully full of myself,
but... here's the scoop. When I use my dazzling charm
combined with cockiness, new women that i meet CAVE IN to
me and become my WHIPPED SLAVE after a short period of time.
They lose their sassy and fun personalities, and become
obsessed slaves that would do anything to please me. while
its sometimes flattering, overall I do not like this. Don't
get me wrong, I want them to want me, but I DON'T want them
to become my drooling little groupies who think about me
when they get up and eat breakfast and are still thinking
about me when they get under the covers at night... it seems
like their obsessions sap their personality. What I was
wondering was whether or not you knew a SPECIFIC BEHAVIOR or
trait that i may be amplifying that causes women to react this
way... I want to TONE DOWN whatever it is that's getting them
to drop their religion and worship me.. any help appreciated.
by the way, i am NOT EVEN EXAGGERATING, i really do see
myself as TOO sexy and its ANNOYING.. i want women to be
challenging again! (P.S: while im not ugly, i sure as hell
am not the type of guy that girls whisper and giggle about
upon first glance... so don’t attribute any of this to my
looks)


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Wow, another sad, sad story. Makes me weep.

Women chasing you around like groupies and acting like
slaves... you poor thing.

Well, I do actually know what you're talking about.

Here's the deal...

Most women are used to being in CONTROL of men. And when
a guy like you shows up and uses his magical powers of
COCKY AND FUNNY, they are taken off guard.

You are pressing the ATTRACTION button inside of a
woman, which has an interesting side effect when done
with Cocky and Funny:

IT MAKES THE WOMAN ACT LIKE A WUSSY!

This is a tough one for most guys to buy, but it's the
absolute truth... and you know what I'm talking about.

When a woman realizes that she's not going to control
you... and in fact, that she's feeling ATTRACTED to you
and she doesn't know how to handle you, SHE'LL start
getting nervous.

And in my experience, there are only a very FEW
exceptional women out there in the world. I think that
you just need to keep up the search. You'll find yourself
a firecracker if that's what you're looking for.

I personally believe that it's important to understand
this stuff NOT just because you can meet a lot of women
using it...

I think that IT'S TOUGH TO FIND AN EXCEPTIONAL WOMAN
these days, and you're probably going to have to date
quite a few to find one. Knowing these techniques will
help you see through tough exterior female personas,
and start making you realize what you actually want in
a woman.

You're on the right track, stick with it.



***QUESTION***

Hello, I do agree with the Cocky Funny in theory.
However for me it is proving to be difficult in
practice. One of the biggest hurdles for me seem
to be the initial walkup. I am a very shy, nervous,
and easily embarrassed person. Often when I see a
beautiful women my heart starts to thump and my hands
sweat, and face goes red. I have had 2 opportunities
in the past few weeks where I had women come up to me
to ask me for something, once for directions, and once
for a light. I can think of a few things after these
happened, like I could have told the girl asking for a
lighter "those things are bad for you, you
know"....The girl asking for directions was a golden
opportunity missed, I could have been more detailed and
then got her email, but instead I just kind of froze
up and gave her quick instructions. When this happens
I start to get regrets and beat myself up for not
thinking more on my toes.

I do think that places outside of nightclubs are good,
because women don't expect it, and you catch them
off guard, but I was on the tub this morning (subway in
the USA) and saw this absolutely stunning Brazilian, I
thought perhaps I could do the "are you single, my
friend would like you" but all the people around me
made me hesitate and put it off. If I had done it
right at the beginning instead of oogling her in
disbelief I probably could of done it.

For me at this point, just to make an attempt would be
good to give me a boost. I realize I have become such
a wuss. How do I get out of this nervous rut which
keeps me from going for the women of my dreams.

J.P in London


>>>MY COMMENTS:

If it freaks you out too much to approach women in
public, then figure out how to meet them in other ways.

Get online and start instant messaging women...

Go to a pottery or yoga class (if those things interest
you)...

Get a part-time job as a bartender.

Take dance lessons.

There are all kinds of great ways to meet women...

By the way, one of the best things you can do is get
together with a friend, and go out for a day and
meet 50 women. Just approach every single woman you
see and use one of the techniques you've learned.

Then go do it again.

You might get sick the first 5 times, depending on
how deeply-rooted your fears are, but this will help
you get over it.

Part of the problem is that you don't know what to
expect. It sounds to me like you really don't know
how women will respond to you.

By approaching a lot of women one day, you'll find
out that women are usually pretty nice, and you'll
be able to handle whatever happens.

Otherwise, use one of the ideas I gave you above to make
meeting women easier. It might be a good place to start.



***QUESTION***

Now then Dave,

I'll keep it short but first want to echo the feelings of
everyone else on this e-mail by thanking you, your advice is
seriously changing my life. Your stuff is great for people
you've just met or that don't know you to well. However, I've
just got back in contact with a girl I used to work with 8
months ago. We got on great and regularly went for coffee on
our lunch breaks, so knew each other well. The only problem
was that at the time she was in a relationship, so I had to
fight the attraction I felt towards her. I have now found
out that this has recently finished and want to make a move
on her in the near future before someone else snaps her up.
I've been 'cocky and funny' with her since we met, so that
approach may be less effective than usual. Can you please
give me some tips in how to take this further than just
friendship.

RW

England


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, first I have to ask you... Does she feel ATTRACTION
for you?

When you talk to her now, does she flirt with you?

Next time you talk to her, say:

"You know, I know you want me. It took you 8 months to
finally get up the nerve to admit it, huh?"

See what she says. Bust on her and tease her about how
you know she's been trying to figure out how to get
with you all this time, and see how she responds.

Then, when you're alone with her, lean back, bust on
her, have fun, etc. When you're alone, use the Kiss Test.

You'll figure it out soon enough.

Just make sure you don't ASK her. No, no, no.

No Wussy behavior please!



***COMMENT***

Hi David,

I have only one word for you to start with, and I guess you
know in which context to place it:

==> "Damn" <==

When I was reading your book, say about a month or 4 ago, I
thought to my self, this wisenoze thinks he knows it all, I
hope he don't expect me to believe all that sh**.

Now, 3 months later, I must confess......"Damn"

E., Belgium


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, thank you.

I think.



***QUESTION***

hey david

u really know what ur talkin about, this stuff works like a
charm. In your last news letter you had a girls email in it,
and she said that she would fall over and open her legs for any
man who used the c&f whether he was GOOD LOOKING or NOT. so my
question is how much does looks really matter. lets say u got
pimples like crazy and ur really fat and u have hair all over
ur body (not that i have a lot of this) can u still attract hot
girls if you've mastered the cocky and funny stuff? thats my
question. i was just wondering. thanx.

J from IN

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Let's see...

I don't think that if you're fat, have pimples like crazy
AND have hair all over your body that Cocky and Funny will
work.

Maybe if you JUST have hair all over and pimples, or pimples
and you're fat, OR EVEN hair all over and fat.

But all three? No, I don't think so.

Cocky and Funny is really intended for the slim, hairless,
and those of clear complexion.

What the hell kind of question is this?

If you're fat, pimply, and hairy, then I think you might
want to stop eating so much Pizza Hut, and maybe take a
shower or something. Maybe some Oxy for the zits, man.

"OK, OK, let's say that you're REALLY ugly... like worse
than the Pre-Cogs in Minority Report... And let's say that
you have a REALLY REALLY small weiner... And let's say
that you're a total dumb-ass...

WILL COCKY AND FUNNY STILL GET YOU A DATE WITH 47 PLAYBOY
PLAYMATES EVERY WEEK?"

If you wish for me to make fun of you further in front of
an audience of thousands, feel free to email again.



***QUESTION***

I've got a great success story I'd like to share... more
like 20, and that's not an exaggeration! But I also need
some help. Then I'm gonna bust on you some! Yeah you Yoda!

For those of you who haven't got this book yet, get it!

I got burned on 2 other books before I got smart and got
Double Your Dating, and Bridges is absolutely a must read!!!
For those of you who get Dave's emails and haven't gotten
the book.. and maybe you've gotten lucky by scoring a few
emails and numbers and then choke cuz you don't know what to
do next I've got 2 words for ya....HA! HA!

Get off the fence and get his books! They work!!! As for
the guy who is 50 and wonders if it will work for him and if
he can date young sexy babes...Duhhh.

I'm 47, only average looks, and in the last 3 months have
gone out with babes from 27 to 47. I even had one gorgeous 32
year old take me to lunch! Take Me!!!! It turned into an all
day date, with me leaving her place the next morning. Again,
you need to read Bridges!

It happened just cuz I busted on her when every one else was
drooling over her and buying her drinks and telling her she
was beautiful, blah, blah, blah. She was singing Desperado at
a karaoke bar with about 8 cowboys drooling all over
themselves and hovering around her. She is drool worthy, a
true "10" a gorgeous face and a body that is straight out of
Playboy, she does some modeling part time.

I was trying to figure out an approach when she happened to
turn and looked right at me, so I got off my bar stool went
over and said "Can I ask you something?" She said "Sure, what?"
I then asked "Are you going to sing any more Eagles songs?'"
She says " I guess I can do a request" (semi-teasing). I say
"Then please don't sing any more Eagle songs, cuz I really
like them", then I turned and walked back to my bar stool.
Almost immediately I heard "Hey a**hole!!!" I turned and there
she was, madder than hell, I started cracking up- she started
laughing too, sat down with me...and the rest is history.

I've gone from dating an occasional 6 or 7 up to 8's and 9's
regularly!!! (at least one a week). I go to one particular bar
regularly, and it has proven to be a gold mine for me. 8's and
9's a plenty.

So here is my problem. There are four "10's" that have recently
started coming in to the bar that I want to meet, but I choke
when it comes to approaching. I totally freeze.

I'm afraid if one of the "10's" shoots me down, the 8's and
9's will notice. I get numbers and / or leave with an 8 or 9,
but am kicking myself on the way out for not taking the chance
with the "10's".

I don't want to blow it at this place, since I've become
popular there with most of the women.
(all this in 3 months!!!!)

Is it better to stick with good looking babes, or do you go
for broke with the awesome mega babes? (what a great problem
to have right?) I've been very lucky at this place, and have
only been "shot down" once when I first started going in. What
would you do Dave?

Now to bust on you....when are you coming to Texas? Seminars
is LA and NY? Why not Dallas? I'll be the first one in line
to buy a ticket!

Happy but Frustrated


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You're doing such a great job... don't turn into a WUSS now!

The way you busted on that woman with the Eagles songs was
great. Just keep it up.

Attractive women can smell fear. You have absolutely NOTHING
to lose by talking to the "10s".

Here, try this. Next time you're out at the bar, ask one
of your friends to rate the "10s".

You'll find that your friends don't think that all of them
are 10s. We each have different taste, and YOU just happen
to think that these women are 10s. I can guarantee you that
there are other guys who think that they're 7s or even 5s.

Getting "shot down" is a state of mind.

I prefer to feel sorry that a woman has missed out on an
incredible experience... not that I was "shot down".

And if a woman is actually RUDE to you, just laugh. Say
"Oh, sorry... you looked like you might be an interesting
person, but I was obviously mistaken."

Feel bad for her, and move on.

In other words, keep up the great work.



***QUESTION***

Hi Dave. I am a younger one. 18 to be exact. I am
interested in this book because I have never really been a
ladies' man. I am somewhat above average height; 6'1", and
I weigh 205 lbs. I am not a bad looking guy, but I just
get really tense around women. (You've probably heard this
before) After I say hi, I'm clueless. Can you help me Dave?
Are these techniques as good as they sound? (Your
newsletters seem quite convincing) Please help out one of
your youngest romantically retarded friends. Thank you.

PS: If this does work as well as you say, then expect to
hear a success story from me.

P. J. K.

San Francisco, CA


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I know what you're talking about. I used to be VERY tense
when it came to women.

I could be out in a public place, and a woman could even
START THE CONVERSATION WITH ME... and I didn't know what
to do.

I always felt like I need to say something that would
"impress" a woman... or act "cool" so she'd like me.

I went through this for most of my adult life, actually.

I can't say that my techniques will absolutely work for
you without question. You're the one that has to use
them...

But I will say that if you get out there and try them, I
think you'll find that they work better than anything
else, and that you'll have more success than you have
now. It took me YEARS to really figure out what women
respond to, and I really believe that ANY guy can use
the material to attract women.

Depending on just HOW shy or nervous you are, you might
need to get that handled... but once you start working
with the ideas, I think you'll be VERY pleased with the
results.

Of course, I offer a 100% no-questions, no-hassle,
no-risk guarantee. If you're not THRILLED with your
purchase, just email and ask for a refund... and you
can KEEP the materials for your time. I don't think
I can do better than that.

Just go to...

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now for all the details and to download it.


And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.



***If you'd like to send me a Success Story, Question,
or Comment, follow these guidelines***

1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max.

2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your
question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuff is great"
and "I don't need to tell you how well your stuff works"
comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of
the specifics... because this helps other guys to see
what's working in different situations.

3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in
the subject line of the email. I read these first.

4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell
me where you're from.

5) Send it to me at:

SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com

DATING TIP: A SECRET TO USE TONIGHT

This Dating Tip is going to be short and to the point.

There's a HUGE mistake that I see guys making ALL THE
TIME when it comes to women and dating.

And it goes a little somethin' like this...

GUYS OFTEN MAKE THE MISTAKE OF "SELLING" TOO FAR IN
ADVANCE INSTEAD OF JUST GETTING TO THE NEXT STEP.

For example, let's say that a guy is talking to a woman
at a coffee shop. Maybe she's sitting at the next table over
and they strike up a conversation about the weather.

Further, let's say that the woman is unusually attractive
and the man is unusually AVERAGE in his approach and method
of communicating that he's interested.

This guy might say something like:

"So, let me guess... you have a boyfriend, right?"

Or...

"OK, I have to tell you... I find you really attractive
and I'd like to take you out sometime."

I'm sure you've seen this kind of thing a thousand times
in your life.

But what's going on here? Is the guy actually asking a
casual question?

HELL NO.

The guy is literally communicating that he'd like to
PURSUE A RELATIONSHIP with the woman.

Yea, and even worse, he's doing it within a few minutes
of meeting her!

Explained differently, the guy is trying to sell the
woman on a relationship in the future based on five minutes
of conversation.

And what happens? Of course...

The woman puts up the resistance INSTANTLY.

It's all kinds of wrong in all kinds of ways.

It's WUSSY behavior in its purest form.

It's one of the biggest mistakes men make, period.

And of course this is only the tip of the iceberg.

Guys do this kind of "selling too far ahead" stuff all
the way along.

Guys ask things like:

"So, am I your type?"

...and...

"How do you like me so far?"

...and...

"What do you look for in an ideal partner?"

Ahhhhhhh!

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!

You can't do this stuff! If you do you'll create an
instant barrier to success!

So what's the alternative?

I really thought you'd never ask.

The alternative is to know all the steps from the
first meeting all the way to the bedroom (and beyond), and
ONLY WORK ON GETTING TO THE NEXT STEP in each situation.

If you're talking to a girl, just get her email.

If you're talking on the phone, just arrange a meeting for
a cup of tea.

If you're kissing, just go back to your place to be alone.

Never again try to sell past the very next step.

THE HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT

If you own a copy of my eBook "Double Your Dating", then
open up the bonus booklet called "Bridges: How To Go From
One Step To The Next... From The First Meeting To The
Bedroom" and read it again.

Get a clear picture in your mind of each of the 10
steps that are listed in that booklet, and get a clear
mental image of how each step fits into and flows into
the next.

Notice how you might be doing things at different steps
that are trying to sell too far in advance. For instance,
you might realize that you always get too deep into
family and relationship talk with women before you even
kiss them.

Think about how you're going to ONLY GET TO THE VERY
NEXT STEP in your particular situation... and then plan
exactly how you're going to do it in the future.

In the booklet you'll get some great ideas for how
to transition from one step to the next, so use them.

If you HAVEN'T YET downloaded your copy of my eBook,
then you need to do that first. Go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...to get it.

Read it, then go back and do the homework. This one
piece of the puzzle will make a big difference.

Talk to you again soon!

Your Friend,

David D.

DATING TIP: SECRETS MOM NEVER TAUGHT YOU
***QUESTION***


Dave,

Why is it that a woman who is only interested in the funny,
cocky and challenging (i.e., interesting) men, later in
life tries to raise sons that are sweet, thoughtful and
"nice"? (i.e., run of the mill)!!

WS
New York


>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a VERY interesting question, and I'm glad you
emailed to ask it.

I'm going to give you my personal take on this, but
more importantly I'm going to talk about how these kinds
of paradoxes exist right in plain sight all around us...
and how to interpret them so you can increase your own
personal success with women and dating.

So to answer your question first...

I've spent a lot of time researching this topic, and
doing a lot of personal testing to see if I could find
some answers.

Right now, today, on July 13th of 2002 I think that
it goes like this:

"Being Nice" in the way that you're describing, which
I'm going to say encompasses things like giving
compliments, buying gifts, providing food, doing favors,
tolerating emotional manipulation, pretending to be in a
good mood even if you're not, etc. is mostly a SOCIALLY/
CULTURALLY CONSTRUCTED set of rules.

In addition, these are typically very FEMININE things
to do...

So what's a mom in today's culture to teach her son?

Of course... how to be "nice" to girls.

The bottom line is that most of the people walking
around on this planet have NO IDEA how ATTRACTION works,
and therefore will never be able to TEACH another person
how this fabulous process works.

This includes mothers. Mom loved you and wanted the
best for you, she just had no idea how to explain what
makes women feel ATTRACTION. Mom may have gotten the
tingles when she saw Clint Eastwood shooting everyone
and Neil Diamond running around with his sneer, hairy
chest that sock in his jeans... (and that reminds me...
EWWWWWW... your mom is gross, dude)...

But this doesn't mean that she can or would explain
to her boy how to make this happen with other women!

Now let's talk about what we can actually LEARN from
this kind of phenomenon.

The thing that really fascinates me about people is
THEIR ABILITY TO HAVE NO IDEA WHAT'S GOING ON IN PLAIN
SIGHT ALL AROUND THEM, AND EVEN ARGUE VIOLENTLY WHEN
IT'S PRESENTED TO THEM.

I've read some fascinating books about the concept
of "self-deception", and I've come to realize that we
humans have an amazing capacity for not seeing what's
there... to the point where it can be very bad for us.

This mechanism is, of course, a survival mechanism
that helps us to weed out all of the useless information
that's coming in through our senses at any given time,
but it can go overboard, and prevent us from seeing
USEFUL information as well.

Even worse, a lot of our cultural and social
programming is off-base to some degree, which causes
us to see things and interpret them incorrectly when
we do see them.

Finally, humans don't like to change their beliefs
about things. They don't like to admit that they might
be wrong in the first place, and they feel unstable or
insecure when they realize that a fundamental truth
they have held all their life is incorrect.

Lump all of this together, and you have moms who
teach their sons the "proper" way to act and men who
have NO IDEA how to be successful with women.

Wow, I'm really going on an unusually intellectual
rant today! Nice. I feel pretty smart... I think I'll
keep it up...

So what's this information good for?

Well, to start off, I think that it's important in
life to continually question your beliefs about how
things work and what is possible.

I think it's also good to constantly question your
limiting beliefs.

Unfortunately, most people do the opposite... they
question their ability to succeed and they doubt their
own greatness. Most people constantly self-sabotage.

If instead you question your LIMITATIONS and your
LIMITING BELIEFS, and you constantly look with your
own eyes to see if there's something going on that
nobody mentioned to you, then you'll begin to see
things that will blow your mind.

It took me about 4 or 5 years to realize that
ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE. But as soon as I say it,
you can immediately get what I'm talking about, and
maybe even have a profound realization that will
lead to success.

Now, I didn't figure that out by having someone
TELL it to me. I figured it out by questioning the
things I was hearing, and by following my own intuition
that there was a solution to this puzzle called "women
and dating".

So here's an assignment for you:

1) Write down all of the things that SHOULD work when
it comes to making women feel attracted to you. This
might include buying gifts and food, giving constant
compliments, and acting "nice".

2) Write down your own personal experience of what
ACTUALLY HAPPENS when you do these "socially correct
things that mom taught you" with women.

3) Pretend for a moment that everything you've been
taught about women is wrong. Further, pretend that
women are actually wired in REVERSE. If this were
true, what kinds of things would result in a woman
feeling ATTRACTION for a man?

Does this open up some new possibilities for you?

I invite you to question "common sense" and "what
your mother taught you" about women.

I further invite you to come learn some of the
VERY ILLOGICAL, YET INCREDIBLY POWERFUL techniques
that I've learned, developed, refined, and described
in my eBook "Double Your Dating". I've spent YEARS
thinking about this, working on it, and really getting
to the bottom of what makes women feel that magical
feeling called ATTRACTION.

Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now to download it. In my book I also explain in detail
how to overcome negative programming, how to improve your
self image, and the exact steps to go from where you are
to where you want to be with women.

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.
DATING TIP: HOW TO GET HER NUMBER FAST
"How To Get A Woman's Phone Number And Email Address Within
Three Minutes Of Meeting Her"


Let me start off by telling you something interesting:

I've personally stopped focusing on just getting phone
numbers. I've found that EMAIL addresses are far better (I
still get the phone number too, of course).

Let me explain.

I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of
years ago.

If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her
number in about a minute or two (if I'm in a hurry). I found
out later, after working like a mad scientist on this that
GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESNT'T EQUAL SUCCESS.

You see, women have many different reasons for giving out
their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot
of men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are
actually interested. But the universal feedback that I get
from men, and in my personal experience, women act different
on the phone than they do in person.

When you call a woman for the first time, she'll often
start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude. It's
almost like she's a different person than the one you met.

I've found that getting an EMAIL address is not only
easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It's
almost as if women appreciate it that you've taken the time to
think about what you're going to say when you write an email
to them, and they think of you more like someone they know.

The other benefit of email is that it can be written and
answered anytime.

If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an email
can be answered anytime. And I've found that emails are
answered FAR more often than voicemail messages.

HERE'S THE HOW TO:

After I've talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes,
I'll often say something like "Well, it was nice meeting you.
I'm going to get back to my friends."

They usually don't know what to do, as they're used to guys
clinging to them. Most of the time, they say "It was nice
meeting you too..." Then, just as I'm turning to walk away,
and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say "HEY! Do you
have email?"

The "HEY!" is a bit surprising, and "Do you have email"
is non-threatening. In fact, I'm technically asking her if
she HAS email, not if she'll GIVE IT TO ME.

If she says "yes," I take out a pen and paper and say
"Great, write it down for me" and I have her write it down.
(This is great, as I just treat the 'yes' that they
give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And they've
almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE'S IN THE
MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say "Write your number down there too."

When you ask for email, it's very low risk for a woman,
so she'll think "Fine, I'll do that." Most women will give out
an email address without thinking about it, because they know
that they can choose later to just not answer.

The magic of asking them to write their phone number down
WHILE they're in the middle of writing down their email is
all about the psychology of human behavior.

She's already mentally said "OK, I'll give you my email
address"... and she's in the middle of writing it down. When
you say "And just write your number down there too" it's only
NATURAL to just write it.

In other words, it's a MUCH smaller step than giving out
the phone number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to
figure out this simple move, but it works like magic! You
will have women writing their phone numbers down without even
thinking twice.

Here's a great add-on to make sure you're getting a real
phone number and not a pager or voicemail:

As she's writing down her phone number I say "Is this a
number that you actually answer?" If she looks at me and
hesitates, or says that it's her "voicemail or pager number,"
then I say "Look, write your real number down. It's going to
be OK, I'll only call you nine times a day..." They laugh
and usually give me their real number.

Now, if she answers my first question and says "No, I
don't have email" then I bust on them and say "Well, do you
have electricity?" This is a GREAT opportunity to use humor.

Then I say "Well, OK then… I like email better, but I'll
take your regular phone number. It's so damn hard to reach
people on the phone these days."

Just realize that all you have to do is ask.

Like I said, I've tried all kinds of things. And I've
gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact
sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her
phone number. I've gotten to the point where I can often do
this in a minute or two - no kidding!

Now that you know the sequence, write it down with the
words and the steps, and rehearse it in your mind over and
over until you know exactly what to say for each step and
each response.

Many guys have asked me "But what do I tell her as a
reason why I want her number or email?" I've never had a
woman ask me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows
why you asked. If she doesn't give it to you, then she also
knew why you asked.

Just assume that this is the case.

If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth,
assuming, calm way, you'll get a lot of emails and phone
numbers.

Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the
Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because it's small, classy, and
women love it!

If you haven't downloaded your copy of my online eBook,
just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook

...and download your copy right now. Learn the secrets
that thousands of my readers all over the world are using
right now to meet women and get more dates. You'll learn
how to approach women, how to get more dates, places to
take women that are fun and FREE instead of paying for
expensive dinners, how to get physical with women, and a
lot more.

Keep your eye open for your next dating tip.

Your Friend,

David D.
www.doubleyourdating.com

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***QUESTION***

Dave,

When I first started reading your advice, I felt that they
were wildly off base. All my prior success had been as what
you would consider a "wuss". However, curiosity drove me to
try out your techniques and I found they increased my dating
considerably. I went from only occasional dates, to having
3-4 dates every weekend. However, I have two questions
which I have not found the answer to in your book.

1. How long should I keep up the cocky/funny attitude?
It's really unnatural for me, and I'm not sure when I should
drop it, and show a girl my true self.

2. I have a good friend who I've been friends with for a
while. I guess she would consider me a "girlfriend-man" I'd
always be the one with the sympathetic ear, listening to her
problems and such. Is it possible, after getting this deep
in the "friend-zone" to become more than friends with her?
I don't want to risk ruining a friendship, but I've very
interested in dating her. How do I do it?
Thanks,

S.S., Maine


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great questions. To answer your first question, WHY WOULD YOU
WANT TO STOP DOING WHAT'S WORKING? I realize that you may not
have been "naturally" Cocky and Funny before recently, but if
it's working so well, why would you want to change it?

I get a lot of questions about this topic, and I can really
understand the point. You'd rather be able to do what "comes
naturally" to you and be "yourself" around women.

But if you look at your second question, you'll find that you
actually spell out what happens when you just "be yourself".
You turn into "girlfriend-man". You become a "friend".

I don't think that's what you want.

But instead of thinking as Cocky and Funny as a process of
"not being yourself", instead think of it as "being
considerate of what a woman wants" and providing it. I
think that you can really learn to enjoy being Cocky and
Funny, and make it part of your personality.

To answer your second question, it's quite a task to turn
a girl "friend" into something more... but it definitely
can be done. I personally have better things to do with my
time, but if you're HELL BENT on doing it, then do this:

1) Stop talking to her so much.

2) Stop acting like a WUSS when you do talk to her.

3) Start busting on her more and being indifferent.

4) Tell her about how well you're doing with the ladies.

5) If she beings flirting back, then progress to The Kiss
Test and move things to a physical level.

You need to stop acting like a "girlfriend" and start
acting like a guy who makes women feel ATTRACTION at a
GUT level. But be careful, because if you screw this one
up, you'll probably lose her friendship as well.


***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

I am a girl. My boyfriend receives your newsletter. We came
across the advice you had given to the man about what he did
wrong with this girl by giving her six dollars for a drink
and she didn't answer or return her calls. I would think it
would be wiser to have a girl give advice seeing as how it is
advice on girls being given! The advice you gave him was not
only wrong, but it was bitchy. The joke he gave her was not
right. It was rude. I think you should find someone else to
give the advice on this site.

-J, OH


>>>MY COMMENTS:

First of all, let's re-visit the original question and answer
that we're talking about... here it is again so we can review
before I make fun of you and your Wussy boyfriend:

*******ORIGINAL QUESTION AND ANSWER*********


***QUESTION***

I started to talk to this girl that i met when i went out
with one of my friends' brother. we went down town and hung
out. everything was going good and i got her # by the end of
the night. We hung out the next weekend and went to a club. we
got in the club and she asked for 6 dollars to by her a drink.
I asked her "what do i get out of it?" and there was the laugh
and then i decided to give her the money. after the club i took
her home with my friend and her friend. I asked her for a
Kiss goodbye she gave it to me. Then i told her that i was goin
to call her the next week because i knew of a party the
following week. After calling her next week i had trouble
getting a hold of her and she didn’t pick up her cell phone. It
has been about 2 weeks since i have talked to her. And the
weekend that she was suppose to hang out has just passed. Do u
see a problem in this or if i messed up some where?

thank you


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, as a matter of fact, I do see a problem.

What are you doing giving a woman six bucks for a drink?

You were SOOO right no target when you answered with "What do
I get out of it?" SHE LOVED IT!

But then you had to go and SCREW IT ALL UP by giving her the
money... ouch.

When she laughed you should have said "Well?"

And WHATEVER she answered with, you should have said:

"SORRY, not good enough... buy your own drink."

STOP TRYING TO BUY ATTENTION FROM WOMEN.

It makes you look like a WUSSY SCHMUCK BOY.

Oh, and will someone remind me to practice being more honest
and direct with people? I sometimes feel that I'm too shy
and don't want to hurt their feelings...

********END OF ORIGINAL QUESTION AND ANSWER**********


Now back to your comments and me making fun of you...

The advice I gave was RIGHT ON.

If a woman asks for money early on, then you need to either:

1) Cut her loose and run, hand on wallet, for the hills.

2) If you're feeling up to the challenge, then say something
very Cocky and Funny while refusing.

My advice was to follow up the question of "What do I get
out of it?" with "Sorry, not good enough... buy your own
drink", which is VERY funny when delivered with the correct
sarcastic tone.

It also raises the bar and says "What do you have me confused
for an ass-kissing loser who needs to buy your attention with
money? Here, let me fix that for you."

This is the kind of reply that creates tension, electricity,
and ATTRACTION.

Now will you tell your Wussy boyfriend to stop letting you
read his email AND respond to it too? You're just upset
because I'm messing up your game... my answer here is probably
going to cost you thousands of dollars in food and drinks
this year alone.

Please don't be mad at me, I don't think me ego could stand it.


***QUESTION***

I owe a lot of my success to you. I try the cocky funny thing,
and it does work thank you for that. But I don’t like the
whole one night stand thing. I want to get a girl and do the
whole boyfriend thing. My question to you is HOW? I've met
my share of 7's and 8's, but they just aren't what I’m looking
for.

Thank you in advance.

J.B. CA


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, you're not alone. I believe that MOST men would prefer
to meet a great girl and have a fulfilling relationship. I
really do believe this.

In my estimation, 80%-90% of men are ultimately looking for
a fantastic woman to enjoy a relationship with.

One of the main reasons why I advocate learning how to be
successful with women and dating is IT'S NOT EASY TO FIND
A HAPPY, HIGH QUALITY, EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY WOMAN!

You usually have to meet a lot of women before you find a
woman that is a great match for you... a woman that you
don't feel like you're "settling" for.

In order to do that, you're going to have to have some real
SKILLS and understanding of how the dynamics of male/female
ATTRACTION works.

Stick with it, you're in a great place right now, and I'll
bet that you're going to meet someone that you like very
soon. But have fun while you're at it, because life is just
too short to run around feeling unsatisfied.



***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

Ive been reading your emails and i have been applying
some of it and i have found that most of it works. That is
great and all but I really don’t like being cocky and funny
i just like being my sweet self. i like complementing left
and right. What i wanna know is why do women like it when a
guy is a little rude or just plain "full of himself". And
another thing. Why is it that when a woman starts complaining
about her man or what ever why is it that women Say they want
a sweet and sensitive guy who respects her feelings? But in
reality she doesn’t. It really doesn’t make a whole lot of
sense to me.

Laterz

DAL Florida


>>>MY COMMENTS:

With all due respect, please do all the women you're meeting
a couple of favors:

1) Stop "complimenting left and right".

2) Stop being "your sweet self".

...unless, of course, you look like Brad Pitt or have over
$10 million dollars. In these cases, do whatever you want.

For the first several interactions with a woman (through the
first 10 dates or so), DON'T ACT LIKE A WUSSY!

When you act like a wuss and give lots of compliments, you
are doing what 98% of all the other guys she's meeting
are doing. You're being average. You're boring. You're
coming across as fake and weak.

If you want to know why it is that women are attracted to
jerks, then read my book or come to my seminar in New York.
The short answer is that WOMEN CAN'T HELP IT. They come
wired at birth to respond to many of the behaviors that
many jerks display. I believe that you can create
ATTRACTION inside of a woman by doing some of the things
that jerks do WITHOUT the abusive part.

Stay tuned for more.


***QUESTION***

Dave,

I sent my brother your tips and that same day he bought the
books. He was explaining to me how great your advice i.. He
went out the first weekend that he bought the books.... then
he is calling me at 4 am... he is in 7th Heaven expounding
how wonderful he feels and how great your advice is...and he
is overweight and not attractive at the moment. He has not
been this happy in over 5 years. Thanks for helping my
brother feel good about himself again.

My question is, .. I am in a serious relationship and want to
keep the energy alive. I have been pouring myself to this
woman and she loves me, but I know that I am into her more
than she is into me (just a little) and I want to turn that
around..... I am probably going to ease up a little and make
her beg for it ..... is that the right approach and can your
book help me too?

M on Oahu, Hawaii


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, I think that the materials can help keep relationships
healthy and interesting, even though I avoid giving
relationship advice or talking about the topic.

As I've said before, it's not that I don't like relationships
or don't think they're healthy...

I just happen to specialize in the stages before the
relationship, so that's what I talk about.

Thanks for your email, and I'm glad to hear that your
brother is getting this part of his life together.


***QUESTION***

Hi David,

I figured I'd give this a try since I'm running out of ideas.
About 3 months back I met a beautiful spanish girl from Miami
after spending 2 months of talking to her online. The night
before we met I really screwed up by getting in an argument
with her and telling her not to email me again. (Idiot I
know!) The next day I regretted it terribly but I got an
email back from her saying it was ok and she was happy, and
that God told her I wasn't the guy for her anyway. I felt
horrible. I ended up getting her to meet me the same day,
brought her a rose, and just walked around the mall and
talked with her. She was absolutely beautiful and I could
almost feel tears in my eyes because I wanted her so much
and yet it seemed there's nothing I can do. We spent about 3
hours just talking and then we departed because she had to
leave in a hurry to get home. We talked online again and I
managed to blurt out "Are you ever going to tell me why you
aren't interested in me?" and she responded by saying "lol
it's a long story. it's like I've known you all my life,
just not as a boyfriend." I know I tried to move too fast,
and I did make some mistakes. But now I feel it's hopeless.
She wants to be friends with me, but nothing more and I can't
see it turning into more. It's like in front of me is this
bag of a million dollars that I just want to take, have a
great time with and so forth..but I know the money isn't
mine and all I can do is stare at it, wishing it was mine.
I know it's stupid but just thinking how much I want her and
knowing I don't stand a chance almost makes my eyes misty. I
can't even meet her in person anymore because I keep
imagining her finding a boyfriend and then I'll have to
pretend I'm happy for when I know it would kill me. I just
want to forget about her but I can't.. I don't know what to
do, it's driving me crazy.. I've never wanted anyone in my
life so much, and it's the only girl that I want is the one
I can't have. Is there anything I can do? Is it time to give
up? How can I forget about the most beautiful woman I've
ever met in my life? Thank you for any help it is greatly
appreciated.

Kind Regards,

S

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh lord. I'm slapping my head right now... somebody stop me.

Someone needs to shake the Wuss out of you!

Wake up, and stop this immediately!

You need serious help before you hurt yourself. Go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...before it's too late. And maybe read a couple of Wayne
Dyer books from the 70s so you can get control of those
emotions. You're freaking me out over here.


***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey dave you rock man i have been using your techniques
for about 6 months, and i can't believe how good it
works..Not only that but most of my friends want to know
what the hell i am doing to get all these girls, I have
actually picked up and slept with three different girls
this week , and if i had more free time it could have
been more like 4 or 5. There are 2 problems though that
i do find, when i have girls always hanging around me i
find that there are always guys that want to hang around
me too, and no word of a lie i have had guys buy me
drinks just to hang out with me, Maybe you should write
another book how to keep the pathetic males away from
the c$f technique, i'll never let the cat out of the bag
the best i can do for them is give them your website :)
2) The more girls i date the more confident i get which
means loooook out ladies...lolol :) seeeya dave keep up
the good work, also try to get a seminar in Toronto k


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well then, you're tearing it up out there.

Your techniques are working so well that even GUYS are
attracted to you. I don't know whether to kiss your or
tell you to tone it down.

Maybe neither.

Whatever.

Thanks for the email, and maybe you're going to have to
beat all those guys off with a stick.

I know, I know, but sometimes I just can't help myself...


***QUESTION***

I met a lady and was funny and cocky, but I was too
forward about sex and she blew me off. The next time I
met her, I said "I only want to be friends", then I
gave her a foot, leg and a head rub. She allowed me to
continue this as I explained why we could only be
friends. I later gave the kiss test and it was fireworks
from there. My question is: Why did telling her I only
wanted to be friends totally change how she reacted to
me?

Confused and Satisfied.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, don't get me started on why reverse psychology works
with women...

Here's a little insight for you:

WOMEN DON'T GENERALLY TAKE ANYTHING AT FACE VALUE, THEY
ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT EVERYTHING "MEANS".

In other words, if you say "You're beautiful" a woman
might think "What he REALLY means is that he wants to
get into my pants".

If you say "I just want to be friends" a woman might
thing "What he REALLY means is that he's not attracted
to me... maybe there's something wrong here because
most men fall all over themselves. Maybe I don't look
good today. Maybe I'm losing my beauty. Oh yea? I'll
show him... I'm going to MAKE him feel attracted to me!"

Put that in your pipe and smoke it.

In the land of female perception and interpretation,
things are strange. But if you can get it through your
head to stop trying to communicate directly and
explicitly most of the time, you'll do much better all
the way around.



***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

I starting reading your Dating Tips from a guy friend who
prints them out and has them at his house. Mostly for the
sake of curiosity and to see if you were really right. And
any girl that disagrees is totally not being honest, all
your stuff was right on. Your kiss test, perfect, the cocky
and funny attitude, I love, even if I act like I don't
sometimes. Your approach to women is exactly what girls
like. It's awesome how your helping guys out by sharing
your experience and giving them pointers so they can become
more confident. There is nothing less attractive than a
wuss, I will totally be into a guy until he starts acting
like a wuss and I loose all interest in him. I'm glad your
letting guys know that.

I don't know if you give advice to girls but, while I'm
writing, I have a really good guy friend, we hang out
probably twice a week (he always calls to hang out, I won't
call guys unless we are in a relationship) he
confuses the hell out of me. He'll tell me about his dates
and ask advice from me, which makes me think he just
considers me a friend. But then I'll be laying in his lap
and he'll be rubbing my head and playing with my hair. What
do you think he thinks of me? May seem like an obvious
answer but he really does confuse me. Hey, maybe he reads
your stuff.

Anyway, I thought I'd write and let you know that your
right on the money, which you probably already do know, but
I read that email from that other girl (the one with the
grammar and spelling problem) and was kind of ticked, she
obviously doesn't know what she's talking about and is
probably twelve by the way she was talking. Thanks for
helping all these guys out and telling them what we really
love!

V.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I love honest women. You forgot to include your phone
number and several classy-yet-sexy pictures of yourself
with your email.

Why is it that I tend to believe you more than the
girl at the beginning of this mailbag who was all upset
because I'm messing up her game?

As for your guy friend, I think he knows EXACTLY what's
going on.

And because he's not acting like a typical loser wienie
wussy boy, you're REALLY getting into him.

I think you should play hard to get a little more, and
start dating other guys, then tell HIM about it! See
what his reaction is. This will settle the matter for
you...

Thanks for your email, and don't forget the pictures.


***COMMENT***

Dave,

Just a quick note to say this stuff works just like pressing
a button. I have two teenage sons entering the dating world.
So, wanting to make sure they would be big "Mack daddies",
like their old man, I got your book. And of course I had to
preview all the material to insure quality and readability.
I laughed my a.. off! Even though I am happily married, I
could not resist using the C&F, just to mess with them.
Now I've got to stop! Ladies of all ages, some nearly half
my age (43), coming on to me. And I mean heavy duty
obsessions. I am AFRAID! Guys, be careful with this stuff!

Guy in Florida


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Amazing.

What's up with you being the coolest dad that I've personally
ever heard of in my entire life?!

Emails like this one actually warm my heart.

Of course, I love making fun of girly-men too, but this is
just out of control.

If you're a father of teenage boys, do them a favor and teach
them the skills they'll need later on.

At this stage you can weave ethics and responsibility into
the materials, and make sure that they learn how to use
the power with responsibility, rather than just learning
to be jerks later in life who abuse women.

It's a great idea.


***SUCCESS STORY***

I met a woman through the internet. She had several pictures
and a good profile posted. I tried to keep our conversation
fun. I suggested that we meet some time for coffee or a
toddy. She told me she didn't want to meet me because I
would then stop sending her such great emails. I sent her
an email, "What makes you think they won't get better"? She
sent her phone number. I didn't ask to meet her again for about
a week. She mailed me and said, How will you know if you like
or don't like me?" I mailed back, "I will know when we touch".
I met her for a drink. I sat across from her. We talked for a
long time. Then I asked to see her hand. I took it in mine and
lightly kissed it. She was trembling. I went to the mens room
and when I returned I sat next to her. I touched and fondled
her hair and commented that it was pretty and she was also. I
reached for her hand again. She was trembling. I knew I could
safely kiss her then.

JB Little Rock, AR


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You have harnessed one of the most important concepts for
creating ATTRACTION:

ANTICIPATION.

Women respond VERY powerfully to anticipation, and you've
used it masterfully.

You kept on teasing her with ideas, then leaning back and
not letting her know when things were going to progress.

Your short paragraph is an amazing example of what TO do.

Thanks for the story.



***MORE SUCCESS***

You are the man! I am an 18 year old who just graduated
from high school, I downloaded your book about 2 months
ago. In that time I have gotten with 3 hot chicks and made
the 2 most gorgeous girls at my high school to dump their
boyfriends and come crawling to me just by busting their
balls WHENEVER I talk to them, or any girl, whether it be
online or in person. I have dated many girls, including the
2 gorgeous ones, and things would go good for awhile, but
then I would get wussy syndrome and they would give me the
boot. Now I am in total control of the girls from my school
and I cant wait to go to college this fall and use your
techniques to make the GORGEOUS girls come to me. I'll keep
ya posted about all the success I will have with college
chicks. I have more confidence than ever. Every guy should
buy this book.

Thanks again,

J.K. Michigan


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well what else can I say? I have to agree with you that
EVERY guy should buy this book.

It's taken me literally YEARS to figure all this stuff
out, and you can learn it all in a few hours of reading.

You'll learn everything from how to get your self image
in shape to how to approach women to how to take things
to a physical level without rejection.

Just to to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now and get yourself a copy. It's the best investment
you can make in your dating future... and it comes with
my 100% no-hassle money-back guarantee. If you're not
THRILLED with your investment, just email and ask for a
refund. It's that simple... and I'm that confident that
you're going to love it.


And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.




***If you'd like to send me a Success Story, Question,
or Comment, follow these guidelines***

1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max.

2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your
question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuff is great"
and "I don't need to tell you how well your stuff works"
comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of
the specifics... because this helps other guys to see
what's working in different situations.

3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in
the subject line of the email. I read these first.

4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell
me where you're from.

5) Send it to me at:

SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com

DATING TIP: "NICE" GUYS FINISH DATE-LESS
Q&A With David D.: Why Being A "Nice Guy" Doesn't Work When
It Comes To Dating... And What To Do About It


This week I got a great email from a guy who has gone
through an interesting process. He found himself single
after 11 years of marriage, and he's re-learning the skills
it takes to attract women. Even though most of us aren't in
this exact situation, I think you'll learn a lot from this
Q&A session... and the story has a great twist at the very
end... Enjoy!


***QUESTION***

Hi,

I've read your newsletter for a few months now and
just recently got your book which is fantastic. First
off a little background here. I was married for 11
years (I'm 33) and basically was either dating or
married to same person for 13 years. I have been
divorced now for a few months, and was actually
separated for over a year before I got divorced.
Having been out of the dating scene for so long I was
pretty much clueless (a lot has changed). I've always
been a very funny guy and cocky to an extent, but in
many ways what you would consider a "wuss". I've
always considered myself a nice guy, considerate,
caring, etc. You know, how mother taught you to be.
I've realized that those qualities are great of
course, but don't help a lot in the dating scene. Once
I started more of the cocky routine, it's been
amazing. Like I said, I've always been funny so I
guess I have a head start already.

Anyway, I've had some really "hot" dates in the past
couple months with the help of your book, but one of
the biggest problems I have in getting dates is the
fact I have been divorced and have 4 kids. I don't
consider this a problem whatsoever, they're a huge
part of my life, but I know the way women think
sometimes and view this as "baggage". Is there any
advice you could give me on how I can incorporate some
of your philosophies and techniques into over coming
this persona of "baggage" and help me attract more
women?

On a side note. This is a strange success story here
(if you can consider it that haha). Like I said
before I was married, and she is a really beautiful
woman. Just for the hell of it I decided to start
using the c&f routine on her every chance I could (we
still get along pretty good as "friends", btw). I
thought it would be good "practice". Anyway, last
weekend I was over dropping off my kids, and she says
"JC". I said, "what?". I walk over to her bedroom
(where she was at) and she says out of the blue "get
on the bed now!" She was kidding and it threw me for
a loop, but I just said "in your dreams!" Shocked she
said, "WHAT?" I replied with, "maybe in our next
lifetime". I then proceeded to end the conversation
and leave quickly after that (had a date haha). Two
nights ago she calls me at home, and basically asked
me out. I said what the hell! So, we went out last
night (kids were at her sisters), and let's just say
that after 3 years of not having sex with her, I
forgot what I was missing!! So there's one for you,
"how to get your ex wife in bed with you again!!"
LMAO In case you're wondering, no way no how, will I
ever go back to that relationship (but sex on the
other hand..hell yes!). There's a different kind of
"success" story for you!

J.C.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

In your email you point out something very, very, VERY
interesting. You say:

"I've always considered myself a nice guy, considerate,
caring, etc. You know, how mother taught you to be.
I've realized that those qualities are great of course,
but don't help a lot in the dating scene."

Well said.

It is SO important that guys understand the distinction
between "dating scene" and "long-term relationship scene"
when it comes to women and interacting with them.

Many of the things that make a long-term relationship
great will KILL your chances INSTANTLY with a woman that
you don't know. I'll talk about this more in a moment.

I think that as guys, most of us want to do the right
thing, treat others well, and live with integrity.

There are, of course, exceptions to this rule, but I
think that most of us know at a very deep level that
treating others well, being honest, having integrity,
and living an authentic life leads to happiness... while
being dishonest, treating others poorly, putting our
integrity aside for selfish reasons, etc. leads to that
constant, negative, dragging state of body and mind.

The problem arises when we go out into the world to
find a mate. It matters not whether we're looking for a
wife or a one-night stand...

As soon as we see a really attractive woman, most of
us guys become nervous, self conscious, and insecure. We
feel excitement and fear at the same time. The first
impulse is to approach and give compliments in a way
that says "You are a beautiful goddess, and I am a mere
mortal man... Please, if you would, see your way clear
to give me a chance to show you how much I adore you."

If the goddess indulges us for a moment, the next
impulse is usually to provide gifts and food, and to
show her what a great provider we are.

Of course, not every man experiences things in exactly
the same way, but you can probably empathize with what
I'm saying.

Here's the deal:

I USED TO BE EXACTLY LIKE THIS. I know EXACTLY what
it's like to want a woman's attention but not know how
to get it... so I'd give compliments, offer gifts and
food, and try every other "nice" trick in the book.

I did this for a long time. Many years, in fact.

I used this strategy long enough to realize a few
key things:

1) Approaching women this way doesn't usually work. They
immediately sense your insecurity, and mentally classify
you as "average" and "like the other 10 guys that
approached her today", etc.

2) ATTRACTION is a completely illogical process.
ATTRACTION also isn't a choice. ATTRACTION is a response
to certain things... and it happens on it's own.

3) Being a good guy is an important part of life.
Treating others well and always doing the right thing
leads to things like: A) Liking yourself, B) Happiness,
C) Good friendships, etc.

4) Being a "nice guy" when it comes to women and dating,
especially when it is used enough to make you qualify as
a WUSSY is a REALLY REALLY BAD idea.

5) There are certain techniques that can be learned
which will help you get past the initial meeting and
dating period... and help you not only stand out as a
"not average" guy, but also create the magical emotion
of ATTRACTION inside women.

6) The great news is that you don't have to be ultra
handsome, rich, or famous to do it.

The gist of what I'm saying is that if you know how
to create this ATTRACTION inside of women, then you can
overcome just about any "social stigma" that might be
attached to you (yes, even 4 kids!).

Some people get upset when they read about my
techniques... they don't like the idea of making fun of
a woman, busting her balls, being Cocky and Funny, etc.

They just want to "be themselves" and have a woman
"like them for who they are".

Of course, these same guys ALMOST ALWAYS like to
buy women flowers and dinner, give compliments, accept
manipulative behavior... and generally do ALL KINDS OF
THINGS that I consider "very manipulative" and "not-at-
all-being-yourself" kinds of behavior.

Go figure.

The point is that when you made the comment about
the qualities that make up "nice guy" don't really help
you out when it comes to women and dating, you REALLY
hit the nail on the head.

It's not that you have to be an abusive-loser-jerk, but
you must realize that there are certain qualities that
aren't what one might consider "nice-guyish" that PUSH
THE ATTRACTION BUTTONS inside of women.

These are the things like being Cocky and Funny,
teasing women, busting on them, and generally being a
challenge.

If you decide that a woman you've met is "long term"
relationship material, then you can start doing the
things that you'd do with someone who has earned your
respect and trust. It's at this point that doing "nice
guy" things makes more sense.

BUT WATCH OUT! Don't unexpectedly turn in to Mr.
Wussy just because a woman wants to have a relationship
with you. Nothing can make a woman want to be "just
friends" faster...

No matter what you do, you still must maintain a
balance.

So to answer your question about how to overcome
the objection to four kids...

First, realize that the women you're meeting fall
into roughly a few categories:

1) Those that aren't interested at all, no matter what.
Maybe they're gay, happily married, not interested...
or all of the above.

2) Those that are interested in being with you for some
short term fun, but aren't interested in a relationship
at all.

3) Those that are interested in short term fun while
they're single, but would like to pursue a relationship
if they meet a good match. Here we have two sub-
categories: A) Those that object to the four kids thing,
and B) Those that don't.

4) Those that are only interested in a long-term
relationship. We also have the sub-categories here...
Those that object to the kids, and those that don't.

My first question to YOU is: "Which type of woman are
YOU looking for?"

Sounds to me like you're looking for a #3, option B...
a woman who's interested in some short-term fun, who would
like to pursue a long-term relationship if she meets a
good match... and is open to the kids. (If you're only
looking for a woman who's after short term fun, then the
kids don't really matter. Just don't bring them up.)

My perspective: Date some women, and BLOW THEIR MINDS
with the techniques you've learned. Use the Cocky and
Funny material... dial up the ATTRACTION... if you get
physical with them, make it UNFORGETTABLE.

My experience is that if a person is REALLY ATTRACTED
to another person, they'll put aside all obstacles in
order to be with the object of their desires.

Yes, this means 4 kids and an ex.

If I were you, I'd project the attitude that you're
not interested in any woman that can't adapt to the
situation. Communicate that YOU'RE the one doing the
selecting, and it will cancel out a woman's objections
before they even arise. Think about it.

If you're reading this right now, and you're in a
situation in life where you'd like to get back on track
and start having more success with women and dating,
then I'd recommend that you download a copy of my online
eBook "Double Your Dating." It contains all of my very
best ideas and techniques for attracting women, and I
think you'll find that it will DRAMATICALLY increase
your success with women and dating.

Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...and download it now.

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.
DATING TIP: COCKY&FUNNY SUCCESS STORY

***QUESTION***

Yes, there is indeed a big difference between what you
have made of me now through the powerful insights expressed
in your newsletters, and who I was before I had met you. I
always thought that being nice, sweet, and courteous was an
ultimate-irrefutable way to get the girls we long to have,
but the irony is that we never make that dream come true.
Thanks my dear David, for showing me the Tao of being a
superb success with women, for walking with me hand by hand
through this mysterious path when it comes to women, because
really, most of the times they make no sense. I owe you my
present success with them, and I thank you in advance for
the foregoing prosperity that the future holds for me with
them.

I have always been funny, and separately, cocky. I never
put them together, like you put it, as a formula. So far,
that formula works. I am not a chemist, but the components
of our table salt, taken separately, is deadly to us.
Sodium and Chloride: death to us. Yet, if we put them
together, we will have its savory benefit. Same happens
when we use only being Cocky, and just being Funny: no
success, and it kills any possibilities of meeting girls.
When I talk to my friends about you, I say, "Guys, let's
make sure we use the Davidian formula, fusing the atoms of
Cockyness+Funny." Believe me, that is how we call it:
Davidian formula, lol. We have named it after you, because
you are its founder.

One of my favorite places to meeting people is
Barnes&Noble. It's easy to ignore someone you don't feel
attracted to, oh yes, very easy. It is all the opposite
when you do feel attracted to someone. Now, at Barnes&Noble,
in Downtown, I meet a lot of girls, from everywhere. Is
there a way to make fun of their beauty? I meet a lot of
hot girls, that seem to be perfect. My type are those with
Irish ascendance, because they are mostly honest and have
freckles. So, when I meet a girl with freckles, eyes like
a furious deep blue sea, or green eyes, like the stem of a
flower, petite women with attractively dainty build, nice
butt (we guys like it, come on), and round [breasts] (we
like that too). How can you make fun of that type of sexy
girl, when you notice that her body has a harmonious
symmetry, that does nothing but inspiring within you
pleasure and admiration?

I might feel nervous, but I don't show them my
nervousness. You have never told us not to feel nervous,
but not to behave nervous. I feel nervous, hell yeah, but
they can't tell. As a matter of a fact, one way I could
start a conversation with a hot girl is like this... e
of them don't work there)

Me- "Excuse me, MS, do you work here (I know she does not
work there)?"

She- "No."

Me- "Good, I want you to help me find this book [I don't
say, 'Can you please help me...' I go with a demand of
authority... they like it]."

She- "What book is that," she asked me, as she gave me
that wondrous look.

Me- "Wow, you are indeed gorgeous ... you remind me the
PowerPC girls (she would be shocked, but liking it). See,
my problem is that I am a very shy guy, and I am trying to
get over it."

She- "What do you mean you are shy? You don't seem shy to
me." (By the way, this happened to me in real life, and
she was hot for real)

Me- "Aren't you shy?"

She - "Yeah."

Me- "You don't seem shy to me either."

She- "It depends on the situation, and with the person you
are talking to. Whether or not you feel comfortable."

Me- "Oh, so, I am the right person, you like this situation,
and overall, you feel comfortable."

She- "See, you are not shy at all."

Me- "I gotta go." Like you taught me, I turned around and
walked 3 steps away from her and went back to her, "I want
your e-mail address, because I feel less shy talking to you."

She- "Oh, sure, I would LOVE that."

Me- "You would love it? Hummm, so you like guys in the
evolutive process of not being shy, eh?"

She hit me on the shoulder, and I accused her, "Hey, that
is sexual harassment."

She laughed, and I said to my mind, "Kids, so easily getting
amused." She had not written her e-mail, and I asked her,
"Have you not written the e-mail because you forgot it?
Geeez, young people these days." (She is 29, and I am 21,
lol.)

She- "Oh, my...You are too much."

Me- "For you to handle?"

She stared at me.

I slightly smiled at her, and said, "What? You like my lips?
They are not average... You should be grateful if I touch
your forehead with them."

She was laughing so hard that her face turned red, but I
never laughed, rather, would smirk.

She gave me her e-mail, and I said, "Have a good night."
She replied, "You too, bye."

I said, "Wait, are you leaving like that without saying
'it was pleasure meeting you?"'

She said, "Wow, are you always like this?"

Me - "Do you mean offering kisses?"

She laughed, and said, "No, silly ... like being with this
sense of humor."

"All the time, " I said. She was quiet, staring at me, and
said, "I wish all men were like you." I said, "No, I am glad
they are not like me. They fail in trying to imitate me"
(I wanted to leave already, even though I was having a good
time). She asked me, "Why you say that?" "Hey kid, " I said,
"I really have to go ... but you forgot to write down your
phone number."

She sighed, in a good way, and wrote it down. To make
this short, I called her the same night, and she was, "Wow, I
was not expecting your call." I said, "No, I am calling you
because I forgot to wish you sweet dreams, and also checking
to see if you made it home safe." "That is so sweet of
you...," she said, and I told her that I ought to go. She
did not want me to, but I did leave. We met again, at her
house, and half an hour of me being there, and talking, I
said, "Look, I have to go." "What?! Why?" she asked. I
said, "Maybe you want to take a rest, or lay on your bed, and
you don't do it because I am here, unless you promise me that
if you lay in bed you will take me with you." She did not
say anything, nor smile, but jumped to me and kissed me.
Needless to say, I swear David, we had sex. It was great.

I did not mean to make this e-mail too long, but hey, I
could not help it. Mind me that I get mad when you tell us
not to make it over two paragraphs, and I see people (like
me) writing long speeches. I am not sorry, whatsoever, lol.
I know you feel great, and proud of yourself when you see
people like me being successful by following your techniques.

I will rephrase my question, "What funny+cocky statements
shall we make, when it comes to an-almost-perfect-girl?"
"How should I react, when they hit my shoulders?" "What
should I say, when they say I am too funny?" By the way, I
am not having anything serious with that girl I just talked
about... I told her that I want to have fun with her, and
she agreed. I told her that it means that if she wants to
see someone else, she can do it. She did not complaint.

I will see you soon, David. I won't miss this seminars
in New York. Keep the excellence of your masterpiece works.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, man. First I have to tell you...

YOUR EMAIL IS A TOTAL FREAKSHOW!

But you know what? I actually like it. I like it because
it's the real deal. You did things that I wouldn't have
necessarily done... and you did things that typically
"shouldn't have worked", but it obviously all came together
and worked out in the end because you did ENOUGH OF THE
RIGHT THINGS.

Let's revisit some of my favorite quotes:

"My type are those with Irish ascendance, because they are
mostly honest and have freckles."

Mostly honest and freckles, huh? Interesting fetish.

"So, when I meet a girl with freckles, eyes like
a furious deep blue sea, or green eyes, like the stem of a
flower, petite women with attractively dainty build, nice
butt (we guys like it, come on), and round [breasts] (we
like that too). How can you make fun of that type of sexy
girl, when you notice that her body has a harmonious
symmetry, that does nothing but inspiring within you
pleasure and admiration?"

Eyes like a furious deep blue sea? Or green eyes... like
the stem of a flower? Harmonious symmetry? Whoa.

"I have always been funny, and separately, cocky. I never
put them together, like you put it, as a formula. So far,
that formula works. I am not a chemist, but the components
of our table salt, taken separately, is deadly to us.
Sodium and Chloride: death to us. Yet, if we put them
together, we will have its savory benefit. Same happens
when we use only being Cocky, and just being Funny: no
success, and it kills any possibilities of meeting girls."

This is an interesting way of saying it... again, a
little bit of a complete FREAKSHOW, but I like it. If you
use too much of one and too little of the other things just
won't work out.

Now that we've revisited my FAVORITE lines, let's
review some of the EFFECTIVE things you did and said.

This was funny:

"Wow, you are indeed gorgeous ... you remind me the
PowerPC girls..."

Something tells me that you actually meant the "Powder
Puff Girls", but hey, close enough.

And this whole sequence is great:

"She hit me on the shoulder, and I accused her, "Hey, that
is sexual harassment."

She laughed, and I said to my mind, "Kids, so easily getting
amused." She had not written her e-mail, and I asked her,
"Have you not written the e-mail because you forgot it?
Geeez, young people these days." (She is 29, and I am 21,
lol.)

She- "Oh, my...You are too much."

Me- "For you to handle?"

She stared at me.

I slightly smiled at her, and said, "What? You like my lips?
They are not average... You should be grateful if I touch
your forehead with them."

She was laughing so hard that her face turned red, but I
never laughed, rather, would smirk."

This is real COCKY AND FUNNY in action.

LOL! "What? You like my lips? They are not average... You
should be grateful if I touch your forehead with them!!!"

Now that's funny.

You started out going down the road of "What? You like my
lips?" which sounds very cocky... over the top even. But then
you transition into the unique and original "You should be
grateful if I touch your forehead with them."

Again, it's off the wall, but it's funny and it works.
The shift in direction is funny and confusing.

Even though it's obvious that you speak English as a
second (or so) language, you get the concept... and you're
making it work for you.

To answer your questions, I really think that you're
doing the right things. When that girl hit you, you turned
it around and made it funny.

Telling a girl that she's cute like a cartoon is a
nice touch (I'm still hoping that's what you meant).

If a girl tells you that you're too funny, just say:

"That's impossible."

...or...

"I'm glad you noticed. I realize that this is making you
very attracted to me, but please control yourself."

Just keep coming up with new creative ways to tease,
bust on, and be a challenge.

Thanks for your email. It's a great example of how to
be creative and use the materials in a real-world
situation.

...and if you're reading this right now and you'd like
to learn more specific techniques for meeting women,
including my personal favorite Cocky and Funny lines to
use in common situations, then I'd recommend that you
download a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating".
It's full of great ideas and techniques for meeting and
dating the kinds of women you've always wanted. Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...to get it.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.


P.S. I just read an email from a guy who went and watched
the small video clip of me teaching live at my Los Angeles
seminar. He gave me some great feedback, and it dawned on me
that I should be asking for more. If you're thinking of
coming to the New York Seminar in September, do me a favor
and go watch the clip of me, and the clip of the four
attendees talking about their experiences... and give me
some feedback. I'm trying to keep it real, and neither of
these clips was "staged". They're real, candid, and genuine.
You can see them at: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/seminar/
Let me know what you think when you send in success stories.
Just email me at SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com.

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This week we have a FANTASTIC Mailbag. All kinds of good
stuff, so enjoy.


***COMMENT***

Dave,

All I have to say is that the Cocky/Funny attitude is
seriously the golden ticket to getting girls. I can honestly
say now from acting this way towards girls my success has
skyrocketed in just a matter of time. Just from reading your
newsletters I have gained so much self confidence in myself
in meeting and approaching girls. I at first thought your
newsletter was a bunch of bs at first because (stupid I)
thought girls liked "nice guys". Not the case at all, I
can't thank you enough for all these tips you have shared
with us, and I'm buying your book at the end of this week!
Oh and I've seen some people comment that the cocky/funny
approach doesn't work, your 100% wrong, just try harder and
believe in yourself.

CB, New York

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Thanks for your email. It's hard for some guys to even
entertain the idea that being Cocky and Funny with women
could actually make them feel ATTRACTION. I wouldn't have
imagined it in a million years...

But the fact is that even though it doesn't make logical
sense, it works. I'm actually writing another book right
now about the concept of ATTRACTION and how it works...

I've done a lot of research, thinking, experimenting, and
watching to get to the bottom of how and why ATTRACTION
exists, and more importantly how to create it with your
behavior, communication, etc. There's a lot more to come,
so keep your eyes open for it.


***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

I've never really liked your approach, even though I have no
doubt that it works... personally it rubs me up the wrong way,
and I'd rather go out with a guy who'd listen to my problems.
But hey, maybe I'm a one off. However, though I'm a girl I've
been trying out your C&F routine for a while. Funnily enough
it works just as well for men as it does for girls... I think
partly because guys are so shocked that a girl would go about
ball busting them, but also be flirtatious at the same time.
My favorite move is to always refuse any free drink offers,
yet keep up the C&F routine. ("why, do you think you have to
buy me or something?") It seems to send guys into a tailspin.
Keep up the good work.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Hm, first you tell me that Cocky and Funny rubs you the
wrong way, then you agree that it works, and even on men...
then encourage me to keep up the good work.

Hey, would you do me a favor and write a book teaching
women how to use your "Don't accept free drinks" technique?
I think it would go over very well!

No, really... I think you should do it. It's just the kind
of wisdom that our women of today need. And you're just the
person to do it. You'd be helping women all over the world.


***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

Dear David,

One of my friends wants to slap the sh** out of you!
Your advice to the guy at the gym was totally out of line
and rude. The guy looked at a woman too long. The woman then
told him she had a boyfriend. He then said, "I realize that
is a major accomplishment for you, however, it it quite
normal for a woman to have a boyfriend."

First of all, the comment insinuates that the woman is
a lesbian, or does not deserve a decent guy in her life.
Lesbians in this country are in a minority and their rights
are protected by law. All women have the right to choose
their partner, whether male or female. Women also have the
right to choose the most compatible male available. This
person, in my friends opinion, does not deserve the time of
the day from that particular woman for being so insulting
to her face.

Second, the comment slaps the woman in the face.
The woman at the gym may have problems finding and keeping
a boyfriend. She may be shy. That comment is a good way to
injure a woman's delicate psyche.

I urge you to reconsider the advice given to that
man. I am not the only one to say this. Maybe you should
quit writing this column and give the job to a woman!!!

Thank You,

B.R.

Belleview, Florida.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, I smiled with joy when I read this one.

This woman has gone on to email me again twice ranting
about my newsletters and materials. The latest one was
a bizarre misinterpretation of a part of my book. It was
great.

But let's stick to the email at hand...

And to be fair, I'll reprint the original section that
you're commenting on (before I mock you in front of many
thousands of male readers who are already biased against
you because they know I'm going to mock you):

***ORIGINAL EMAIL***

Just wanted to share a little bit of what your lessons have
done for me. I read your book and started concentrating on
what I thought was my weak points. I did as your book
recommended and started picturing myself as the cocky funny
person I wanted to be. I even did the whole daydream
practice thing everyday. I work at a fitness center so I
see lots of hot women all the time. My biggest weakness is
that I look away quickly after eye contact is made. I
decided that before I started trying to approach women I
would make it my goal for a couple of weeks to just make
eye contact and hold it until they looked away. Ok, here is
the good part. After practicing eye contact for a couple of
weeks and doing the whole mental exercise thing, I was at
work one day working out after my break and was practicing
my eye contact thing between sets with this really hot girl
near the dumbbell rack.

I knew she noticed but it never bothered me cause I had no
intentions of acting. Well, I had to go over to get a set
of dumbbells for my next exercise and as I got close to
where she was she suddenly turned around and said "I have
a boyfriend" and turned around. Normally I would have kinda
stood there in shock and said nothing but, I guess all that
mental practice paid off. With out even thinking or pausing
the words just came out. I said "Hey that's great I am happy
for you. (Pause - and in a lower tone) I know this is
probably a major accomplishment for you but to the rest a
the world this is kinda normal so you might not want to go
telling every stranger you see." Then I just walked off
with my weights to do my sets. 5 min later she comes over
to me and apologizes and asks for my number. Turns out she
didn't have a boyfriend but was just tired of being picked
up by losers while she was trying to do a workout. Thanks
for the pleasant surprise!

***END***

[I didn't include my answer, because it was a few pages
long... as you may remember]

So let's consider your first comment of:

"First of all, the comment insinuates that the woman is
a lesbian, or does not deserve a decent guy in her life.
Lesbians in this country are in a minority and their rights
are protected by law. All women have the right to choose
their partner, whether male or female. Women also have the
right to choose the most compatible male available. This
person, in my friends opinion, does not deserve the time of
the day from that particular woman for being so insulting
to her face."

Lesbians are a minority? The comment insinuates that she's
a lesbian? Women have the RIGHT to choose the "most
compatible male available"?

Can I ask you PLEASE PASS ME THE CRACK PIPE, because it's
obviously some good stuff. I mean, you MUST be high.

My comments are only taking away from the beautiful
comedy that you've already created in this heartfelt
paragraph, so I'll continue with your next...

"Second, the comment slaps the woman in the face.
The woman at the gym may have problems finding and keeping
a boyfriend. She may be shy. That comment is a good way to
injure a woman's delicate psyche."

The only problem that the woman at the gym was having is
the ability to TELL THE TRUTH! Hell, she opened her
mouth and lied to a complete stranger without even being
spoken to.

The reason she might have a problem "finding and keeping a
boy friend" is that she's a liar! I don't know a lot of
people that feel compelled to lie to people they've never
met or spoken to, but this is a little red flag, in my
humble opinion. And it's surely NOT a sign of SHYNESS.

LOL! You're killing me.

Yea, ALL of my shy friends feel compelled to start
conversations with strangers by lying. It's a fundamental
part of the "shyness" complex.

CRACK PIPE PLEASE.

Oh, and this "woman's delicate psyche" B.S. is really
nice. How nice of you to frame all women as "delicate
psychological flowers" who are wrongfully injured by
brutally interesting men who bust on them.

And to wrap up, you go with:

"I urge you to reconsider the advice given to that
man. I am not the only one to say this. Maybe you should
quit writing this column and give the job to a woman!!!"

Yea, you're right...

I'm reconsidering right now.

Oh, already came to a decision... I was right on.

And you know, I really think your idea of me turning over
this "column" to a woman is a great idea. Maybe you could
handle it for me?

Let me guess, you're actually writing this from your laptop
inside the "Carter" building... you know, the one in New
Jack City that was taken over by gangsters and converted
into... what else?

A CRACK HOUSE.

Wow, I could work with this material all day. If I can
stop laughing maybe I'll dig up your other emails that
you've sent me since this one for the next mailbags... I
couldn't imagine better material if I tried.


***QUESTION***

Hi,

Could you give an Cocky and Funny example answering "What
time is it?" from an obviously interested (well, more or
less) chick?

DJ

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a great question.

I think it's a great idea to come up with some great
comebacks for common situations like this. Think them
through.

There are probably 10 or 20 situations where women start
talking to you, and you should be ready for all of them.

To answer your specific question... try these:

"I will tell you the time, but I just want to let you
know that I see right through your little ploy to meet me.
I realize that you probably don't see such attractive
men often, but you didn't have to use such an obvious
line to meet me."

"It's time for you to get a watch."

"What an unoriginal pickup line."

...now come up with 10 of your own. And come up with
others for the other common situations where women start
talking to you.



***SUCCESS STORY***

i juz thought u might like to hear about a very recent
success story...earlier today actually....i was in school
(college summer classes) not plannin on pickin up girls at
all....i mean i was there in basketball shorts and
slippers, wut can i say, i was tired, i didnt feel like
gettin all dressed up for school...well anyways...on to the
story....there was this new girl there, id hafta rate her
about an 8, the body was bangin....neways i went outside the
class to work and so did she so i layed deep into the C&F.
like soon as the door closed im all "why u following me?
geez" well we got to talkin cuz as we all know...bookwork
is very boring...after about an hour shes all "take me to
lunch, i'm buying" so i was like "naw i got a lotta book
work to do u need to get to work slacker" and that did it.
she was like "be a slacker with me, cmon, please??" it was
great so after awhile of her begging i went out and let her
buy me lunch....well i juz thought u'd like to hear yet
another success story.

J.B. Nor Cal

>>>MY COMMENTS:

One of the greatest things you can do is play hard to
get when a woman is doing something uncharacteristic...
like offering to buy you lunch or take you out.

It's ESPECIALLY powerful if the woman is unusually
attractive. Attractive women have NO IDEA what to do
when a man isn't being a typical wussy... it creates
a situation that is both mysterious and challenging to
the woman.

I've had plenty of success in my day when I was not all
dressed up. When you're dressed casually and it's obvious
that you don't care what others think... AND you're being
Cocky and Funny is kind of says "I am a person that has
power regardless of my appearance". It's powerful.



***QUESTION***


Dear Dave,

Your techniques are right on target. Your guidelines
helped me become successful on everything from approaching
women to being confident and having fun doing it. I went
from the nice guy "wussy" that women practically ignored, to
something along the lines of well, a player! The cocky
funny routine matches with my sarcastic personality and
women cant seem to get enough of it.

Ok, well Ive done the routine and picked from about the
10 hottest girls and now have a very hot g/f , but now there
is a dilemma. My chemistry teacher now wants me, Im dead
sure of it (shes only 3 years older than me). But this is one
of the biggest challenges ive ever come across and I think
it needs your expert opinion. First, she is every guys
fantasy and a 10,000 on the 1-10 hotness scale...(yeah the
girl is that hot) The problem is she definitely knows this.
I have heard many guys hit on her and she has shot all of
them down, I heard it with my own ears. She already asked
me indirectly twice if I was going to a local place to watch
a game, unfortunately I couldn't make it both times. And it
seems like the more I ignore her the more she flirts. I want
to build the tension to the absolute highest level before I
decide to show the slightest bit of interest, how do I do
this effectively?...

Your Friend,

J.R.
New Jersey

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Hm. Yea. I think I know what to do.

I think that it's just too dangerous for you to start
something with your teacher. And if she's this attractive
there's only one thing I can think of to do.

I'm going to be in New York in September doing a seminar,
and I would be willing to do you the personal favor of
coming to N.J. and escorting this woman myself. I'll handle
it, and you won't have to worry about her anymore.

I'd do that for you, since we're friends and all...

OK, try this:

Next time she asks you where you're going, just say
"Isn't it against the rules for you to keep asking me
these kinds of questions?" and give her a sly smile.

Then laugh, and say "Hey, do you have email?"

Get her email, and write her an email that says:

"Hey, I'm busy today and tomorrow, but I might have some
time this weekend. Maybe we should have a cup of tea and
some stimulating conversation... and you can help me with
my homework."

That should do the trick.

Oh, and if you decide that you just aren't up to it and
don't want to risk it, let me know. I'm here for you.


***QUESTION***

Dave, I want to thank you for your book and for always
answering my questions. Since reading your book, I have been
working out, dressing nicer, and attracting women. I am only
5'5 but, when I am using your techniques women seem to focus
more on my build, clothes, and personality rather than how
short I am. My question is; my car lease is ending and since
I won't have a car for a while, how will I be able to date
women? The meeting and attracting I am beginning to master,
but how do I take a women out on date and what to I say to
them if I don't have a car or access to one. Thanks for all
your help and everyone should go buy this book. It is
awesome!

FJ, NY

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, don't stress about it.

If I were in your situation, I'd tell women something like:

"OK, do you have a car? Good, because my lease just ended
and I'm between cars... and a woman without a car just
isn't an option for me."

Turn it around and make it something funny! Make it a
qualification that a woman has to meet...

I would. Great opportunity for Cocky and Funny!



***QUESTION***


Hi David -

DYD, and your newsletter, rock!

I was wondering if you are planning any seminars that might
be closer to where I am than L.A.? I am based in Tokyo,
Japan...

How about Hawaii?

B.T.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, I'm getting GREAT feedback for the New York seminar,
and I'd love to do others.

I've gotten emails from all around the world saying "Come
do a seminar in Australia" etc.

I would have to have enough guys coming for it to make
sense, because doing a seminar costs more than one might
think. And doing one on the other side of the world from
me would be pricey.

OK, for kicks I set up a few email addresses to get some
feedback (I just did it on the spot). If you'd be interested
in attending a seminar with me, do this:

1. Go to http://www.doubleyourdating.com/seminar/ and read
about the seminar, price, and details.

2. Send an email to one of the following addresses to let
me know which you'd be interested in attending:

Australia: auseminar@doubleyourdating.com
Europe: europeseminar@doubleyourdating.com
Japan: japanseminar@doubleyourdating.com
Hawaii: hawaiiseminar@doubleyourdating.com
Chicago: chicagoseminar@doubleyourdating.com

Again, go read about the seminar, then email one of the
above addresses to tell that you'd be interested in
attending... thanks!



***QUESTION***

Hey Dave!

Just wanted to say that your C+F techniques work like magic -
they have such a strong impact that sometimes a girl can just
say "I love you" literally half an hour into the conversation.
or things like "you are the only person who seems to
understand me", or "i've never met anyone like you before!"
I especially like situations when they ask you for some favor
like a drink, to take them out to a club/bar, or simply to
hold something... immediately I say .."... And what am I
gonna get in return?" They freeze for a sec and then usually
say: "A hug", "a kiss", "or anything you like" lol depending
on the situation I may say "Nah, not good enough..." and then
say "go do it yourself" or something along the lines.
Anyways, I was sitting in one pizza place with one of these
chicks and she asked me to take her to some exclusive place
I know and I said my phrase (above). I was expecting she'd
say "anything you like when we get there" but instead she
backfired: "ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!" - I froze for a sec - and
then I said that it wasn't good enough... lol and she nodded
and smiled (it's like she knew I was in the game) but still,
it was the first time I heard such a response and I was
wondering what you would say the best response is to this
sort of situations/comments! Everyone get the Book! It's a
treasure!!

B.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a fantastic observation. When you are "in the zone"
with your Cocky and Funny, and you're really being an
interesting challenge while at the same time making her
laugh, you'll get all kinds of amazing responses.

It's not uncommon to have a woman say "I've never met
anyone like you before". It's true they usually haven't!

Most guys kiss up to them, act fake, try to buy them
dinners and gifts to get their attention, and generally
act like Wuss-Bags.

Some see Cocky and Funny as being "too manipulative",
but when it's done right it's the opposite. It's learning
how to be fun, interesting, challenging, and magnetic.

And your question of "What am I going to get in return"
is must magic. It catches women totally off guard... and
it's charming. It's very suggestive, while still being
classy. Great job.

Thanks for your email.



***COMMENT***

Hello David,

Much of your information is insightful, and educational.
However, I think the heart of the matter in regards to men's
fear of women, is the fact that men see what attracts them
in a woman, only it requires a theatrical performance that
puts them on stage. The real fear is a result of one's own
inner psychology working against their conscious brain, that
if the verbal presentation isn't met with approval then the
result is personal rejection by a woman who meant so much in
one's own mind, which is taken personally due to it's sexual
ramifications, an absence of sex. Comedians call it shtick,
and without a well rehearsed comedic routine, then there
indeed is something to be nervous about. Women are very much
like a rabid dog, keenly smelling fear and able to inflict
personal pain, the key is to approach not only without fear,
but with indifference so as not to get bit with total
rejection. Men are better at dealing with physical scars
than the psychological ones, which take far longer to heal,
and some don't. Unlike a man, women are totally unforgiving,
and every man knows this, and this is the "fulcrum of fear",
knowing we are coming in for the approach without power and
it must be done to her unknown mental terrain... right now.
The difficulty for women is the fact that society places
beauty on a pedestal, which automatically inflates their ego
far beyond what they can handle. Pretty girls get off on
rejecting men, it feeds the ego quite nicely. It's the
equivalent of the school bully beating up all the other boys,
only women do it psychologically using their beauty and then
rejection. And unlike the physical presence of a battered
victim, the feelings are invisible and go unnoticed, without
any regard for the psychological result. Absence of fear
(calmness)and indifference (self control)eliminates a woman's
psychological control. This power is what they are born with
if attractive. Combine this with a biological hormonal
imbalance and you have... a beautiful rabid bad dog. They
are also in a unique circumstance that is making them more
dysfunctional with the progression of time especially in the
United States. They are gaining more power in the world as
playing the role that men have (psychological strength), and
yet are to be receptive sexually to a man's advances
(psychological submissive). This is a total dichotomy whose
result is confusion in their own minds and rejection feeds
the new power that fuels the immediate psychological
satisfaction through self gratification. This is far more
prevalent in the industrial countries than in the third
world, where a woman's naked breast is a thing of beauty
that is not even noticed. Here in the U.S. a nude breast is
taboo, and met with nervous arrest. Thus the difficulty in
attempting to communicate with the opposite sex is three
dimensional, being biological, psychological, and cultural.
Did I mention their interests are the opposite of most men?
Don't get me started....

T.W- the Phoenix

P.S. Me....well, I burned out about five years ago, and hope
to eventually rise from the ashes to re-enter the
psychological arena and do battle once again.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Phew. That was kind of intense.

Clearly the words of a guy who's been there.

I would like to comment on one thing. You said something
in the middle that stood out as a gem:

"Absence of fear (calmness) and indifference (self control)
eliminates a woman's psychological control."

This is a profound thought. I think that men everywhere
need to get this idea at a deep level.

I was listening to India Arie's album, which I think is
pretty cool (As Butthead would say "Chickth Dig It").

She has a song on the album called "Back To The Middle".

I think that us guys tend to get too far to one extreme
or the other when it comes to women.

We either see them as "innocent girls" who just need a guy
to be nice, buy them dinner, protect them, etc. in order
to get their love and approval...

Or we see them as cold, hardened, ice-hearted control
freaks who emotionally and psychologically manipulate us.

My experience is that most women fall in the middle of
this range, and they will act differently in different
situations. If you act like a wussy, call 47 times a day,
devote yourself to her, and become a complete emotional
suckerfish, she's likely to get so repulsed that she'll
walk all over your sensitive little feelings with her
stiletto heels.

If you she favors you and becomes emotionally attached,
then you take advantage of her and abuse her emotionally
and psychologically, then you might see the more frail
and weak side.

On the other hand, if you "Come back to the middle" and
cultivate more indifference while lessening your
insecurity, you can bypass a lot of this extreme and
unhealthy stuff.

"Absence of fear (calmness) and indifference (self control)
eliminates a woman's psychological control."


***COMMENT***

I'm not sure whether to thank you or berate you. You may
not realize this, but while you are helping thousands of
clueless guys you are also hurting the entire male
population by raising the bar. The more mentally attractive
guys there are out there, the less attractive they all seem.
If everyone drove a Ferrari, then Ferraris would be as boring
and commonplace as a cheap Ford, no matter how physically
beautiful the car is. No one wants boring and commonplace.
That's partially why C&F is so attractive to women (As if you
didn't already know this). Now I know that you're barely
making a dent in the population of wusses out there, but word
is beginning to spread. You might consider toning down your
marketing or not giving out so many of the info gems. Or you
may ruin everything you're working for. Can you imagine a
world where wusses are the attractive ones... just because
they're different? The thought makes me shudder. Anyway,
I'd give you a success story but I think I've said enough.
If you start cloning Jedi, then you'll have a clone war on
your hands.

-BJS in Houston


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, I don't think you have anything to worry about. My
guess isn't that being a wussy is EVERY going to make the
ladies feel attracted to you.

And it's going to be a loooooong time before enough guys
in this world learn how to actually make women feel
ATTRACTION. I think you're going to be OK.


***SUCCESS STORY***

David, I've only had your book for a few days now, and it's
paying off. Let me preface by saying that I've been able to
do the cocky-funny thing my whole life, but somehow believed
that I had to keep it in check and be a 'nice guy' in order
for women to really fall for me (Ouch!). Anyway, I've seen
lots of people ask you about how to get dates with
waitresses or bartenders etc. and thought I'd share: Friday
night I'm playing a gig with a band at a local venue, so I
show up early for soundcheck. There's [an attractive]
waitress there, and she starts talking to me (Didn't even
have to worry about approaching her!) so I decide to pour
it on. It went something like this:

Her: "God, I'm tired. I need to take a nap."

Me: "Well, you can't sleep here or we'll have to ask you to
leave. You know, I've been sitting here waiting for 5 minutes
for you to get me another drink. No tip fior you, I guess."

Her, laughing: "OK, hold your horses." (gets drink) "So
what's your name?" (introduces herself)

Me: "Oh, trying to pick me up already, huh? You know I hardly
know you, and I don't give my phone number out to strangers."

Her, laughing, looking at me in disbelief: "That's bullsh**!
I'm just trying to be nice!"

Me: "Sure you are. Well, if you insist, you can give me your
number. I mean, who knows, maybe we can be friends?"

Bingo.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, Bingo.

But hey, Bingo doesn't usually have prizes like this one,
does it?



***QUESTION***

Hi, I've been getting your letter in my e-mail for a while
now, one thing that I don't understand is the Kissing Test.
How do you do it? I must have missed something, but I'm
curious from all of the success stories that use it.

Thx. (You da man)
E.L. OK


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Just go to my main website and enter again. It's on the very
first page after the entry page.



***QUESTION***

David,

I've been having some really good success getting women from
online personal ads to respond. I used your formula, modified
with some of my own material.

Then I follow up with my email version of cocky&funny. I
wanted to share a recent email that I received:

"You've managed to intrigue me. Give me a call when you get a
chance...555-1234

I like your confidence!
M."

This was just her 2nd email to me. And I didn't even have to
ASK her for her #, she just volunteered it. I'll be calling
her this evening. Obviously, I have changed her phone number -
I don't want all your subscribers calling her too!

Here's my question:

Many times she won't volunteer her #. In your book, you
suggest that the next step is to get her number so you can set
up a meeting. I have found that sometimes you can skip the #
part and arrange the meeting via email. But some women are
more open to this than others. Is there a good rule of thumb
here?

Thanks for everything,

S.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Good job.

I personally like to email first, then have a telephone
conversation. I think that the email establishes an
interesting and unusual relationship... and the telephone
firms it up and is a better way to set up the next meeting.

I've tried all kinds of combinations, and this is my
personal experience.

Email first, then call to set up the meeting.

You're doing a great job, and thanks for your email!

...and if you're reading this right now and saying to
yourself:

"You know, it sure would be cool to get this part of my
life handled and to figure out how to actually make women
feel attracted to me..."

...then I'd recommend that you go and download a copy of
my online eBook "Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should
Know About How To Be Successful With Women". It's jam
packed with all of my very best ideas and techniques for
meeting and attracting women.

It's not a bunch of recycled pickup lines and stupid
ideas that you don't work. It's taken me years to figure
it all out, and you won't find the materials anywhere
else.

Best part? 100% money-back guarantee. If you're not
THRILLED with it, just email and ask for a refund. It's
that simple. Just go to:

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...now and download it.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.



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***COMMENT***

Hi Dave,

I have been reading your emails for some time and have found
them most enlightening.

Something you wrote in your last Mailbag - How to avoid
being "Just Friends", caught my attention. You mentioned
that some friends you knew, now no longer need to approach
women.

I went through a stage when I was younger, 16, 17 & 18,
where I knew I didn't need to talk to women. I'd be with
friends at the shopping mall, where I'd have girls asking me
my name, phone number etc. I was always noticed, which I
knew had something to do with my body language and the way
I conducted myself.

This was all very well until I took a fall from grace after
being accused of being egotistical, and then spent the last
few years searching for this confidence that I'd lost.
Unsuccessfully.

After reading your column, I used your cocky funny theory to
chat with a few women and suddenly found my feet again, it
was amazing. Like jumping back on a bike after years of
driving a car.

I recently started a new job in which I knew I was not going
to stay. I asked out the most attractive woman in the
company, knowing I had nothing to lose, I have been out with
her once and now have her wanting to go out again, after
I've left.

Now I'm iching to get out again on the weekend and meet some
more hotties.

I do have some advice for your readers, don't sit there on
sidelines, put yourself in the game, playing is the only
way to learn.

Thanks,

The new master
Sydney, Australia


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I have always found situations like yours fascinating.

It seems to me that a lot of times, we know exactly what
to do to get the results we want... but for whatever reason
we just don't do it.

Here are some common reasons for this:

1) We get bored. Boredom is one of the most common causes
of failure in my experience. Here's how it works: You start
doing something, get great success, but start to think that
you need to do something new because YOU'RE getting bored
with it... not because others are.

2) A negative emotional experience. When a negative
experience is coupled with a strong emotion, it creates a
deep IMPRINT. In your case, you were accused of being
"egotistical". I'm assuming that for whatever reason this
caused you to feel BAD, which led to you deciding that you
needed to behave differently.

3) By trying to make small improvements we lose the original
formula that created success... or we just plain evolve to
a different strategy that turns out to not be as successful.
I've done this many times in my life. By trying to make
something better I actually make it worse.

4) Just plain forgetting. Let's say that you are single, and
you're going out a lot, meeting a lot of women, and really
having a lot of success. Then let's say you meet a really
nice woman and have a relationship for two years... but then
break up. It's easy to forget all of the little nuances that
made you successful in the past... and to just "start over"
from scratch.

5) Feeling like we need to be original and unique in every
situation. I've watched many, many situations where a guy
will see a woman that he'd like to meet, but he doesn't know
what to say to her to start a conversation because he feels
like he needs to come up with something catchy and original.

Of course, there are more reasons than this, but these
are some of the most common ones I see.

So what's the answer? What can you do to avoid losing
the great game that you've created?

Here are a few techniques that I and some of my friends
use:

1) Keep a journal. I know, I know... you don't want to
look like a homeless poet or some out-of-work screenwriter
sitting in a cafe with nothing better to do than write to
yourself...

But keeping a journal of your best ideas and how they've
worked is a GREAT idea. You don't have to get fancy, and you
don't need to take a lot of time with this.

Just remember to write down things that work for you.

You might be out for tea with a woman, and casually bring
up a book you read about unusual sexual practices... and
notice that it gets a great response. Write it down in the
"interesting ideas" section of your journal so you remember
to try it again. (I haven't tried this particular one, but
I have found that women love to talk about sex in general)

The point is that if you keep a record of all the best
things you do, then you can look back at it and refresh
your memory any time you want. It's a great idea, and I
do it. It's one of the single best things I've done to
improve quickly with women.

2) Have one good default thing to do for every common
situation. Have one way to start conversations, one way
to get emails and numbers, one great place to go for a
tea/coffee meeting, etc.

If you can't think of something original in the moment,
then you have something to do that will work well. If you
don't do this, you'll wind up hesitating and losing all kinds
of opportunities.

The journal is a great place to write down all of your
"default" techniques, plan them out, and organize them for
easy refreshing.

3) Put negative experiences into proper perspective.

When you have a negative emotional experience, it can be
intense... and it can have an impact on your behavior. It's
important to remember that just because you had a negative
experience doesn't necessarily meant that you did something
wrong.

The best stock traders lose money on many trades.

The best sports stars lose games often.

The best weather forecasters are often wrong.

But do they let temporary setbacks deter them from
being successful?

Of course not. They get right back on track and keep
going.

If you get turned down for a date, or a woman stops
calling you back, or a woman says that you're a rude and
arrogant bastard because you made fun of her... you need
to stop and think about the situation.

If you're successful most of the other times, then you
need to decide if this was because you're truly not doing
the right thing or if it was just one of those situations
that happens once in awhile.

I heard a great quote awhile back, but I can't remember
who originally said it or wrote it:

"I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure
is trying to please everyone."

4) Keep learning all the time. If you stop learning new
things, your mind starts becoming set in it's ways.

The way to keep improving and becoming more successful
is to putting innovative ideas into your mind. You must
continue to learn in order to continually become better.

And on that note, if you haven't downloaded your copy
of my online eBook, then you're missing out on one of the
best learning opportunities there is in the area of meeting
and dating women. To get your copy, just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook

And by the way, make sure and forward this email to a
friend and encourage them to sign up for my free newsletter.
They'll appreciate it, and I'll appreciate it.

I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David D.

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***QUESTION***

Hey -

I am 18 years old and just graduated high school. I used to
be a MAJOR wuss and when I was younger I was always a shy
kid who was picked on a lot because I was a short, skinny kid
that never stood up for myself. And worst of all, I never
took advantage of high school to get girls! I started
getting your newsletter earlier this year and the cocky +
funny attitude changed my life in more ways than one. I hang
out with guys that get the hottest high school girls you can
ever imagine. Not only do they get 9's and 10's, I see
these girls obsess over them. I was around them so much
that I tried to model thier behavior around girls and I
noticed that EVERYTHING you preach about, comes to them
NATURALLY. Every tip of advice you’ve given to guys ACTUALLY
works, and Ive seen it first hand.

I started using cocky + funny myself and even use lines
that Ive seen my friends use in past cases. I saw a HOT
girl in the mall and she was checking herself out in a
pocket mirror so I said "don’t worry, your hair doesn’t look
THATTT bad". She started laughing even though I just made
fun of her! I asked for her email and when she said she
doenst have the internet, I used your line "well do you have
electricity"? AGAIN the girl laughed, and I ended up
getting her phone # and I hooked up with her that weekend!

MY QUESTION - my natural personality has transformed
from a wussy shy nice kid to a guy that’s gonna bust your
balls, but a nice guy at heart. I made a lot more girl
"friends" too, but whenever they try to tell me their sad
stories, I let them know Im not their boyfriend and do not
care. Whenever I gain the courage to use cocky+funny, it
WORKS but my problem is even though I’ve seen this work in
action, I fear I don’t know enough cocky+funny lines to keep
up a conversation with a girl. Also, do you recommend
hitting on random strangers you see, because my friends say
they never really hit on strangers unless they have a
reason to go up and talk to them. My friends also say to
ALWAYS have 5 "project girls" and never focus on one girl.
Is this true? please write back.

E from NYC

>>>MY COMMENTS:

It's interesting, because I actually discovered the Cocky
and Funny technique by watching guys who were good with
women. In fact, a guy who is now a good friend was trying
to explain the concept to me a few years back... and he
was the first one to say "Cocky and Funny". Of course, I
had no idea what he was talking about at the time. It
really made no sense to me.

But after I started working with it and watching other
guys who were really successful with women, I learned
how it worked.

It sounds like you're really getting it - congrats!

As for your questions...

Don't worry about being able to "come up with enough
lines to keep up a conversation". Just do what you can,
and enjoy yourself. A few Cocky and Funny lines used
here and there are MUCH better than nothing at all.

If you feel like approaching strangers, great. If you
just realize that most women are going to be nice, but
some will be either unavailable or unfriendly then
you'll be fine. I have personally had great success
meeting "strangers", and as my good friend Rick says:
Every friend you have started out as a stranger...

And as for the "5 project girls", you're cracking me
up over here. If you like the idea of staying single
and dating a lot of different women, then this is the
way to do it! Just make sure they don't turn into your
personal "psychological projects".

Thanks for your email.


***QUESTION***

Hey Dave....

I’m a premed student who has been subscribing to your
newsletter for quite a while now. I've been meaning to buy
your book but im not in the habit of using a credit card so
ill have to open an account especially for this. Anyway,
i've been going out with this girl for 9 months now. She is
smart, attractive, and funny. the way i landed her was by
being cocky funny. EXTREMELY cocky funny. i was always one
step ahead of her. It was kind of like "Dont even TRY to
challenge me, im already inside your head!". everything was
cool. but to tell the truth (and no offense) i just kind of
got tired of the constant effort.....so i cooled it off a
bit not always seizing the opportunity to remind her just
who it is she's dealing with. And i think i got screwed.
Now i feel like i've turned into a wuss....and i HATE IT !!!
no..I LOATHE IT !!!!!!!!!! When i turn on the macho act
she's a pussy cat again. You see i want someone to whom i
can genuinely be....just nice to, with her appreciating it
and NOT taking advantage. i mean since this is a long-term
relationship i want someone who will give me a smooth ride
without all that continuos maintenance. I dont wanna be
cocky and tough all my life with her, sometimes a guy just
wants to relax. Is it possible??

F.Z, Lebanon

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ooooooo, good question.

I've seen a trend in the way guys who are learning to be
Cocky and Funny and to stay in control change.

As they're learning the techniques, they become more and
more attractive to women. Then, they meet a really amazing
woman - a woman that was previously "out of their league",
and they decide to start a relationship.

As soon as they start getting closer, the guy begins to
put aside the things that worked, and start being more
and more submissive... which, of course, drives this new
woman away.

Then I get an email saying "I want to be nice and sweet
and a good guy but still have all the super hot women
calling me 24/7".

Here's what I say:

"BEING YOURSELF" IS A PRIVELEGE THAT YOU HAVE TO EARN,
NOT A RIGHT.

And the way that you earn it is to learn what it takes
to make women feel ATTRACTION, learn what it takes to
NOT drive women away, then make these things part of
"YOURSELF".

Are you with me here?

The problem is that "being yourself" for a lot of guys
means "being the type of guy that women don't feel any
ATTRACTION for".

If you can't make a woman feel the emotion of ATTRACTION,
then there's really nothing I can do to help you. If
you're not willing to do the work and make the changes
more or less permanent, then you're going to have a long
uphill battle.

And in your case, you have to realize that this woman
was attracted to you for a REASON, and if you stop that
REASON, then you're going to stop the ATTRACTION.


***QUESTION***

Whats goin on Dave?

I would love to say how great your stuff works, but I
haven't had much luck with it as of yet. I have seen it put
to good use though. My bro does the whole cocky/funny
routine naturally and I see all its power. Most of the time
I was Mr. Nice-Guy. and, of course, it didn't work as much
as I would like. Which is why I'm writing this e-mail.(duh)

My problem is I'm missing the key ingredient to your
'super recipe,' funny. The way I see it, cocky is like
garlic, by itself it is repulsive and disgusting. But when
used as a seasoning to another main dish (funny), it can do
wonders. I'm missing the main dish. Anyone can be cocky, but
I lack in the funny department. So where do I start to fix
this?

Thanks,
P in NJ

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Humor has a structure, and it can be learned. Some people
have an easier time learning how to be funny than others,
but I've seen some not-too-funny people become VERY funny
with practice.

Read some books, watch Comedy Central, and practice. Start
a journal and write down funny lines you hear so you can
use them later.

Get with your Bro and watch him. Ask him for advice and
ideas. Practice. You can learn how to be funny, and it's
important that you do if you want to attract women!

As I'm sure you know, my book has some of my very favorite
"standard" lines for different situations, plus more on
how to create specific humor for specific situations. Go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/ for all the details.


***COMMENT***

Dave,

I know that you put real stories in these letters because
I sent one in and it appeared exactly as I had written it.
I laughed till I cried over the "fat, pimply, and hairy"
story.

You are "Da man" I look forward to your wit in these
letters and I must admit I'm going to buy your book.

GJ

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, all of the email letters I print in my newsletters are
ALL real. Every single one of them. I wish I had more time
in the day, because I get hundreds of them a week...

Thanks for the compliments, and enjoy.


***QUESTION***

Ok David, first off, I would like to say thank you for
taking the years that you did to get all of this great
info., and then be generous enough to spread the knowledge.
Here is my situation. I knew this girl back in high school,
and I haven't seen her since graduation (about 2 yrs ago).
I bumped into her the other day and WOW (she is a 9.5 easy).
Well, having not yet tried out any of your techniques, I
thought "What the hell, let's go for it." It worked. The c/f
technique was golden. Got her email AND number. Well, we
eventually went out and had a great time. A couple of days
later, I went over to see her new place, and well, things
got a little wild. (it all started with your amazing kiss
technique- thanks again) So here's the deal. She likes me a
lot, and I like her a lot, but I have been playing back in
order to keep the ugly head of the "wussy" out of the
picture. When is a good time (or is there a good time at
all) to be serious with her? Do I bust on her all the time,
b/c I don't want her to think I am a jerk? Any help you can
give is great.

Thanks again.
ME

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, I don't exactly know what you mean by "serious".

If you mean "When can I talk about how I'm sad because
my dog got run over and my inner child needs a hug", then
NEVER is the answer.

Well, maybe you can have one "serious" conversation like
this on the 10th date, and it can last no longer than 5
minutes.

Just stay away from heavy emotional issues, problems,
drama, and general WUSS topics.

If you need a friend, GET A DOG!

lol... I forgot where that line is from, but I love it.



***QUESTION***

Mr. DeAngelo,

Well, I've got to say, after trying many, many different
methods, yours have been the first ones to work. I cut and
pasted your online personal add and sent it out to a few
women on a college-oriented site. This is after trying
(unsuccessfully) for many months to get any sort of response
from the women on the site. Before reading the newsletters,
I would've typically sent out about 20 e-mails, and got 1
response if I was lucky. This time, however, I sent out
about 5 or 6, and got 3 replies the next day! Unbelievable!
Now, for the tricky part...getting the number and the date.
I've got some leads, and I want to keep my C&F attitude up.
I'm just normally funny, but need practice at being cocky.
(I'm either too subtle, or too extreme, so I'm practicing at
finding a middle ground.) But, in the meantime, what kind of
C&F response would you give to a University-aged woman?

G.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Good job.

There are all kinds of great topics you could work with.

You could make fun of the classes they're taking, bust on
them for taking easy classes, accuse them of taking 10
years to get a 4 year degree... the list is endless.

Since you're going to be meeting these women at some
point, make sure you go and do things with them that have
"built in conversation value". Go to interesting, fun
parts of town with unusual and interesting shops.

This kind of thing creates all kinds of opportunity
for great comments... and it keeps the energy up all by
itself.

Now that you're meeting women online, do yourself a
big favor and practice your skills CHATTING with women.

Chatting is great because it slows the conversation down
to about 1/5 the normal speed, and gives you time to plan
out what you're saying.



***QUESTION***

Dear Dave,

I'm real sorry but I still cannot figure out how to build
bridges after getting the email address. Normally the next
day I send the lady an email, she replies and then I can't
think what on earth else to do. My overall goal is to get
with her - so can you help me man?

I.M.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, I think I can help.

1. Set up a meeting for tea.
2. Have her stop by your place on the way to tea.
3. Have fun, interesting conversation.
4. Invite her back to your place.
5. Use the Kiss Test.
6. Use your creativity and imagination.

Don't focus too much on "getting with her", just focus on
getting to THE NEXT STEP.

In other words, when you email don't say something like:

"Hi, it was great meeting you. I'm single and nice, and
you seem like you'd make a great girlfriend for a sweet,
desperate loser like myself."

Stay off of heavy conversation. Don't talk about
relationships and marriage, etc. Just talk and enjoy
yourself. But keep progressing as you do.

As long as you relax and make each progressive step
easy and natural, you'll be fine.

Again, just take it one step at a time.


***QUESTION***

Hi David:

I’m 42 and a bald, average, confident guy. After being
recently divorced (Dec/01) after 24 yrs and thoroughly
confused about dating and what women want. I bought
[another dating book] and was even more scared to do any of
what was asked to do. I bought your course and coupled with
watching the players in clubs I knew C&F was the answer.
I used it successfully on over (9) women since Jan/02 all
resulting in them wanting much, much more* than I was
willing to give. They all call from time-to-time for fun!.

*Here is where I have the problem and it might help others
trying for this type of relationship. I am single and love
my Space and I want to have fun for a while and eventually
marry again I’m looking for Her and it takes a while to see
if she is Her I get them hooked way too fast and not trying
to do so This is how: Women are attracted to C&F, They want
fun and excitement; I think I know why they want funny for
the fun things to do in life (too many boring guys out
there) and the cocky part piques their inner flames to what
could happen as far as passion. If when you are passionate
with them you have to be a Leader and show them as bad a boy
as they can handle. This has in all instances so far lead
them to call me and pursue me: the next day and weeks ahead.
They want a far deeper relationship. They want C&F in their
lives. These are not clingy people (7-9’s)(24-44yrs) and
profess to want to be friends first. Email is great as it has
a way of helping them say things they wished they could say
in person. Do you have any wisdom on how to do C&F and not
hit all of her senses?

Thanks Again for C&F
J.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

lol... you poor, poor dear. Sounds tough, really.

I think you're doing fine. You're on the right track, and
I think that you're going to find an outstanding woman to
have a longer-term relationship with.

I personally think that the problem isn't the techniques
you're using, it's that you're now seeing that YOU CAN
CHOOSE A WOMAN, rather than having HER CHOOSE YOU... and
it's making you far more SELECTIVE than you were in the
past.

When you're seeing several attractive women at the same
time, you begin to realize that you can have whatever
you want. You no longer have to settle.

This has the effect of making you a lot more picky about
what you'll tolerate... and it makes you see negatives
a lot more clearly in women.

Again, I think you're doing fine. Just stick with it
and you'll find a great woman to marry again, if that's
what you want.


***QUESTION***

Hi Dave.
I don't think the cocky/funny technique will work for me.
I'm 19 y/o, 5' 3" and 117 lb. I have an average build, dark
hair and blue eyes. I also have a fetish for girls with big
bellies. What do you think? Be honest.

SO

Birmingham, England

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, if I can get myself to stop laughing, maybe I can
answer you!

OK, let's make sure I have the facts straight here...

You're five foot three, weigh 117, and LIKE WOMEN WITH
BIG BELLIES?

Honestly, I think you're right... I don't think that the
Cocky and Funny technique will work for you... in fact

...I DON'T THINK ANYTHING IS GOING TO WORK FOR YOU.

Make sure you don't tell any of your other guy friends
about this. It might get ugly.

By the way, you may not have considered this, but women
with big bellies usually got them from eating a lot...
and my guess is that they might be expensive dates.

Watch out.


***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave:

Dated someone for 4 years. Turned into a wussy boy a couple
times, and both times she left me for the same guy. This guy
was a selfish, conceited jerk, but he was the ONLY guy she's
ever dated who she couldn't wrap around her finger. He was
an impossible challenge...and so her sexual attraction to
him was enormous. (Hmmm...is there a lesson to be learned
here...?) Since we broke up about a year ago, I've been
reading your newsletters and your ebooks. Now I'M the
challenging one. I don't flatter women with compliments, I
don't buy drinks or flowers, I split the dinner tab, I
don't always call (or call back) every day, I keep my social
life busy and interesting. And I never ever EVER lose my
composure with a woman - no matter how much I'm attracted to
them. (In truth: I caved to one woman, told her how
attracted I was to her, and instantly found myself in the
"just friends" pit of no return. Oops. Had to learn the
hard way.) Now every time a woman tries to test my level of
"wussiness" I completely annihilate them with a cocky+funny
comment...and they LOVE me for it. And...of course...guess
who suddenly wants to date me again...

Thanks D,
M.S.
Chicago

P.S. Took this off the end of the 1st paragraph above...it
was getting too long, but I love this perspective from a
woman: While investigating this illogical phenomenon, I
asked a somewhat-attractive female friend of mine "so...can
you shed any light onto the whole 'why women are attracted
to jerks' idea?" And her answer (quote): "Because we're
too leary of a nice guy. Nice guys creep me out. They seem
like I can walk all over them and I hate that. Women want
a bit of a challenge."


>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is truth from the mountain. Read it 100 times a day.

Print it and tape it to your computer monitor.

Put a copy in your wallet... next to the money so you see
it often.

Put one on your car sun visor and mirror.

And go read it again now.


***QUESTION***

Dave:
I downloaded your book a couple months ago, and read your
newsletters regularly. I have had success with women and
it's great. Here's my question. It's a common fact that
humans never stop learning, and you are no exception. What
new information have you learned recently that can
supplement the book? Can your subscribers expect a follow-up
booklet in the near future? I don't mean to be ungrateful
but now that I have read your book I feel like the most
well-informed man in the dating game. Knowledge is power and
the more I have the more power I have. Watch out ladies!!!
Can you help me out? I know you have the knowledge
thanks a lot

G- Texas

>MY COMMENTS:


***QUESTION***


Yes Dave, you are 100% correct. Even us older, fatter,
grayer, slower wusses can learn new tricks. I went from a
4 time loser to being called biggest old stud in town! Now
that was a hell of an ego boost! Especially since I'm 48
and close to 300 lbs. and yes, at the moment, I have steady
dates for 3 days of the week every week and 5 others
professing their love for me if only I will come take them
away.

Here are what I found to work:

1) Women over 35 expect you to be extremely inventive with
a cocky funny line or extremely truthful. They all claim it
is because they have had so many used on them, they are
totally immune to them. I tend to go the extremely truthful
route. the ie. you look like the type of woman who would
like a funny witty, intelligent, romantic friend. Have you
found any lately??? I want to shake their hand. Or something
similar.

2) If you are emailing back and forth and they want your
picture within the first couple of exchanges, run do not
walk, that lady to the discard pile immediately. Most of
those are so shallow they can not and will not see what
they are doing, no matter how funny and blunt you are. I
even tried the "what’s in it for me?" line, only to get the
reply of "me stupid, but only if I like your picture"

3) When the lady says I don't think I'm really your type,
you look them straight in the eye and say "ok, plenty more
where you came from" and turn and walk away. 9 out of 10
of them will be calling you in 48 hours.

4) They all know about arranging dates for the week and
finding the dates on the weekend. So tell them you only
have like Friday, Saturday OR Sunday open but not all.
Most will tell you to rearrange your week to fit them in.
The ones really really interested will call you on Saturday
to see if you can go out on the spur of the moment.

5) I tell them all I am too much to handle and too much to
love, so being friends is just perfect. But I have zero
experience in this dating more than one woman thing at a
time. Do you have any advice. Especially since I am sure
to make a lot of mistakes. Yeah, they all want to arrange
more time with me.

So you see, your techniques work. Even my 21 y/o daughter
who reads these occasionally says, "I can't agree all the
way, but damn he sure got the last 5 guys I dated nailed"

Keep up the good work Dave.

M.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Wow, more priceless wisdom.

To answer your question, the way to see more than one
woman at a time is to NOT SEE ANY OF THEM TOO OFTEN.

When you see or talk to a woman more than once or twice
a week, it kicks in the natural "relationship" emotions
and patterns of communication and behavior.

If you keep things to once a week, and sometimes twice,
you'll tend to avoid this.

It's also good to tell the women that you're seeing that
you don't think it's a good idea to get into a relationship
too quickly with someone you just met (I believe this is
a very important idea, myself).

Thanks for the great ideas.


***QUESTION***

Hi David,

I thoroughly enjoyed reading your book...very enlightening.
I've always found myself attracting girls I'm not
romantically interested in, while crashing and burning with
the hotties. It was very confusing until I read your book.
I realize now that I was a wuss with the hotties by being a
typical "nice guy", and that the more I acted indifferent
with the girls I didn't like, the more they ate it up. You
gave me a new perspective on what makes attraction work,
and I'm glad to see that your book pointed out that you
don't have to be a jerk to be successful.

My game has improved but it still requires some refining.
Lately I find I'm stalling out between the first and second
date. So I'm wondering if I'm screwing up the date itself or
the follow-through. Here are the steps I take after a date:

1) I call within two days to say I had a good time and
basically make contact. I end the conversation first, and
let her know I'll give her a shout in a couple days...just
so I don't seem like I'm rushing into a second date.

2) I let two or three days pass and call to make
arrangements for a second date. At this point I usually
get a vague answer like "lets set something up for next
week"...and then it never happens.

Where is this falling apart and what kind of follow-through
do you use?

Thanks for the help,

SF
London, Ontario


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I'm going to have to guess at a few things, but I'll give
it a shot.

From the sounds of it, you need to:

1) Stop with the "I had a good time" type comments when
you call for a follow up. You might experiment with
waiting longer to call... or waiting less time to call.
See what works best for you. But don't be so "nice".

2) Do more things to make your date feel ATTRACTION. Use
what you've learned to really turn the dial up. You might
test progressing further on the first date... maybe start
getting physical faster.

3) Make sure you keep her laughing, and keep busting on
her and treating her like a "friend" at first. Remember
the idea of acting like she's your Bratty Little Sister.

It sounds like you're doing something on those first
dates that's making the women resistant to seeing you
again... you need to figure out what it is and STOP IT.



***QUESTION***

David,

On vacation in Mexico, a girl asked me if she was "super
hot" and I said "Yeah, you're alright." Next thing you know
she made it her business to prove to me how hot she was,
including some freaky dancing, even flashing me, and a
little lip action. Moral: Never give them what the want. I
moved in to kiss a girl a little too early and she backed
away. So I went back to teasing her and on the next attempt
I went straight for the neck, ears, hands in hair and well
you wouldn't believe it; but it worked that time. Your book
has a lot of very good information, thank you for putting it
together. So here's my question: This girl at my gym is of
those that I've always wanted to talk to but never really
had the chance. She was bartending the other night and I
told her I'd seen her at the gym. She said "yeah, but I
don't make it in there as much lately." I replied "Yeah, I
can tell, you're really letting yourself go." Then she gives
me a shot and asks me if I'd help her with her workout." She
also said she remembered me from the gym and I said "So you
were checking me out?" So I get her number, not bad, eh? So
I'm in the bar for another hour with some friends and I was
going to order a drink from her later, but it might've
seemed like I wanted to talk to her again. She seemed busy
and didn't look at me. Seemingly wuss behavior or she's just
busy? Who knows. That was on Saturday and I called her on
Wednesday, still no reply and today is Friday. I'm thinking
either calling her once more over the weekend, asking about
playing hard to get and if she just randomly gives out
shots, or maybe going back to her bar in a week or two with
some friends. Again, thank you for all you've done and
thanks in advance for any suggestions.
A.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I'm going to tell you something here, and leave it to you
to figure out why it's important:

YOU SHOULD HAVE LEFT RIGHT AFTER YOU GOT HER NUMBER.

This is SUPER ULTRA EXTRA important... and I want you to
consider it in your mind until you figure out why.


***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I got your e-mails for about a month before i actually
bought the books and I regret waiting so long. I have never
been so confident around women. I stand as a security guard
at the entrance of a retail store and 8's, 9's, and some 10's
pass by me everyday. I used to turn my head and stare away.
Now I know what they want from reading your book and I can
look at them, talk to them, and bust their balls even without
ever meeting them.

I do have a problem though. I took this beautiful girl
out on a first date, the C&F technique worked so well all
night from the movie to the dinner to the goodnight kiss
(tongue included) that we both definitely wanted a 2nd date.
So what's the problem. She can't stop thinking about me or
leaving me alone. I'm getting 10 text messages a day from
this girl that I really only want to date a few times. I'm
enjoying this bein single dating around and she wants me to
be with her everyday. How can I slow this down, without
losing the C&F personality?

Thanks Dave.

MM
Kentucky

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Wow, another guy who my heart goes out to.

I need to write a book called "Cut Your Dating In Half: A
guide for guys who are too successful with my materials."

I think what you need to do is get together with her and
say: "Look, you're acting like we're married, and you need
to cool it. I think you're great, but I'm not interested
in a relationship right now, so if you want to keep seeing
me, then you're going to need to chill."

I realize that it sounds a little bit harsh, but it's the
truth, and you need to be direct in a situation like this
one.

...and this about wraps it up.

If you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself:
"I'd sure like to have problems like that", then I'd
recommend that you go and download a copy of my online
eBook "Double Your Dating". You can download it directly
to your computer and be reading in a few minutes. Go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...to download it now.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.



***If you'd like to send me a Success Story, Question,
or Comment, follow these guidelines***

1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max.

2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your
question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuff is great"
and "I don't need to tell you how well your stuff works"
comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of
the specifics... because this helps other guys to see
what's working in different situations.

3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in
the subject line of the email. I read these first.

4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell
me where you're from.

5) I love emails from women!

6) Send it to me at:

SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com

MAILBAG: AMAZING SPECIFIC DIALOGUE EXAMPLES
THE MAILBAG: Amazing Specific Examples Of What To Say To
Women... Cocky and Funny For Many Situations


This is a world-record Mailbag. The longest (and maybe the
best) one ever. Enjoy!


***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

You are the Man! It took me about a month of reading
and re-reading your book. I am (was) very shy. I really
think it was more a lack of self confidence than shy. I
think I was using the word shy because I didn't want to
admit or didn't understand that it was a lack of self
confidence. I set a target date of when I was going to
let my inhibitions go and put my (your) plan to work. I
got more email addresses and phone numbers in 3 hours
than I got in 3 years. Just felt compelled to write and
say Thanks.

Hope to see you in NY
E.M. in Va.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I love letters like this one. Good for you!

It sounds to me like the process of getting this area of
your life handled has you pretty excited. Let it spill over
into the other areas of your life.

Great job!


***COMMENT FROM WOMAN***

Dear David,

Remember the woman that had a friend that wanted to slap
the sh** out of you - you know, the crack pipe chick? That
woman was right about one thing - someone needs to get
slapped.

She does and so do all of her milk toast, clueless and
probably dog-ugly friends! How in the world did she get
"lesbian" twisted into all of that? I read the e-mail for
crying out loud, and it sounds to me like this girl's in a
slump that makes the Devil Rays look like World Series
contenders.

Injure a woman's delicate psyche? Give me a break. I hope
you guys out there don't believe a word of this girl's
whiny crap. If your girlfriends agree with her, I hope you
don't mind turning squishy and you better find a good
recipe for strawberry daiquiris and start planning for a
life filled with tupperware parties and purse shopping.

Let me set all of you guys straight who might still
possibly be on the fence at this point. Get David's book.
I haven't read it yet - I'm still crackin' up over the
newsletter. I'm an attractive woman architect who works
in a man's world and would have it no other way! I'm
athletic, but still feminine. I'm pretty conservative and
don't cuss (anymore) so I'm proof that it's not just the
rough women that get turned on by the sport of a
challenging male. David's right - I have a lot of male
friends and most of them want to be more than friends. I
could never put my finger on it before I started reading
David's newsletters - they were nice and I've certainly
dated guys that weren't nearly as good looking as them,
but it's clear to me now. My guy friends are wusses.
Cocky + funny = SEXY! Don't ask me why, just do it. I
wish more of you would.

By the way, David, the chicks out here that read (and
appreciate) your newsletter, need a formula, too.

Sincerely,

ks in Kansas City


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, first of all, WHY THE HELL DIDN'T YOU INCLUDE YOUR
PHONE NUMBER?

I was just thinking to myself:

"You know, it sure would be great to meet an athletic,
feminine woman with a good job... maybe an architect or
something."

I don't know about the conservative, no cussing thing...
maybe I could adapt.

But to my credit, I'm NOT squishy, I have NO IDEA how to
make a strawberry daiquiri, and I hate purse shopping. I
do, however like to host an occasional tupperware party.

Think about it and get back to me.

Oh, back to your comments...

Thank you for writing in and providing another perspective.
I wish that more women would be as open and honest about
what attracts them.

I personally think that women like you who have their
lives together are too busy ENJOYING life to take the time
out to teach the mass of WUSS-BAG men out there how to
stop with the purse shopping and tupperware.

Thanks again for your email... I love sharp, honest women.



***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Hey, I've been receiving your emails for awhile, and have
been thinking, does this stuff work on guys as well? I'm
an attractive 18 yr old, and I don't often have problems
attracting males attention, but that’s about it. I don't
often get approached in clubs/bars, just looked at from
afar. Do guys think woman are promiscuous etc if they
make the first move? I mean does that kind of confidence
in a woman scare men off? A little help would be most
appreciated!

Ta!

JD
New Zealand


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Wow, now I've got attractive 18 year old women who are
trying to figure out how to get men to talk to them.

IS ANYONE OUT THERE LISTENING?

I've actually met MANY women who say that they either
aren't approached often, or when they are it's the same
old lame, boring stuff time after time...

"Can I take you out sometime?"

"So you probably have a boyfriend, right?"

Or guys just watch with the "I wish I wasn't such a
total and complete WUSSY because you're very attractive
and I'd give one of my front teeth in exchange for just
one chance to talk to you" look.

Ugh.

In any event, YES, this stuff works on guys. In fact, it
works on just about everyone. Damn shame you even need
to ask.


***QUESTION***

Hi David!

I just broke with my wife of six years. So I’m starting
the game again. I went to a club this past weekend and
saw a very nice looking girl. She was looking at me a
lot. So I waited around ten minutes and then approach and
asked her, "Are you shy or something?" She said, Why? And
I told her "Because I've been standing here for around ten
minutes and you still haven't said hi to me." As you can
imagine she burst laughing. So I said, Hey, I'm glad you
know how to laugh. She said, So, is this the way you go
out meeting girls. I said, Nah, it's that every time I go
to some place that have girls present they all seem to
get very shy around me, since I'm such a great looking,
sexy man, AS you can see. (Said with a wink).

She kind of blush and smile. We talk for around ten
minutes and I then said, Well, let me see if I can find
my friends around here, It was a pleasure talking to you.
When I was leaving I did your e-mail close and it ran
smoothly. She put her phone number too and a note that
said, "No, I'm not shy, call me soon, C."

E.Q. From Puerto Rico

PS. In your last mailbag there was a guy who used the
c&f routine with his ex wife as practice and it worked to
get her interested in him again. I was wondering what
stuff he told her and how he did it. I'm very interested
to know his technique to see if I can get my ex wife
interested in me again.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, I LOVE the story. That's pure gold.

If you're reading this right now and you want a KILLER
example of Cocky and Funny, read this about 25 times.

As for your ex, I don't know what the specifics were,
but I will tell you this much:

After you've been in a relationship with someone and
acted like a WUSSY for many years, it makes a HUGE
impression when you stop it and start busting balls.

You know the formula, now think up some techniques.


***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave, You're going to luv this one....bought your book
and like a kid in a candy store was eager to prove it
out....

I'm on this date with a 9/10 who selected this outside
Italian Cafe and insisted that it was her turn to pay.
Well, I started busted on her from the time i sat down. I
enjoyed myself immensely as i had NO expectations and
therefore could not be disappointed. I slipped my AMEX
card to the waiter without her noticing and when the
eqchay comes, she looks at me and says: It was my turn to
pay....if you don't let me pay ...I'm not going out with
you anymore(serious look). My response: (serious look
back) If i let you pay what do i get in return? Her
Response: We're going back to your car and I'm going to
give you a BJ like you've never had and you don't even
have to worry about making a mess cause i swallow. My
Response:( in my mind...holy sh** this stuff really
works...well lets turn it up a little..i'm enjoying
this..i'm a natural teaser) No, lets be friends
first...(inside hahaha ...I could tell i was messing her
up real good) Her Response: Nothing(i believe she was in
shock) My response:Now If you say please, i'll let you
pay.....Her Response: Please...Please... (so i let her
pay) Next Day: I receive an email from her saying that
she likes me even more than ever before. Talk about
amplifying the attraction and anticipation.....I'll do
her when i decide....hehehe...for now we're friends.....

Thanks Good Buddy

K

Toronto, Canada


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, I'd say that you're starting to get it.

If you keep this up, you're going to have this poor
woman camping outside your door!

It's all about amplifying the attraction and the
anticipation, and I'm glad you understand what the heck
that means.

This is another stellar example of Cocky and Funny in
action... combined with some other more advanced
techniques. Nice.


***QUESTION***

Dave-

Your material does a great job bringing to the masses
what are innate qualities in the
naturally-successful-with-women types. Your book is
almost a study of human behavior, like something Dale
Carnegie would write (I doubt he was as successful with
women though). Anyway, I have a problem with one half of
the magic formula, the 'cocky' part. I've always had
success with deadpan-style humor, with no facial
expression whatsoever, and most of the time people can't
tell if I'm being funny or not based on my expression.
This is where I hit my problem: if I make a cocky/funny
type comment, I'm afraid I'll come off as arrogant if I
don't give a smile or something. But in your book it says
something along the lines of things being funnier if it's
difficult to tell if you're joking. So my question is: Is
it okay to smile while being cocky and funny and busting
on girls? Or should I keep a straight face all the time?
I'm not sure if this email makes any sense, but I think
you'll be able to figure it out. Great stuff, and hurry
up with the next book!

BW

Seattle


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Here's the deal... when you're being Cocky and Funny,
you must give up your fear of coming across as overly
arrogant. The secret lies within the FUNNY ingredient
of the formula.

A great model for Cocky and Funny is Triumph the Insult
Comic Dog. If you haven't seen him, go search online and
find his Star Wars video clip. You'll laugh until you
cry...

Then, go find the Bon Jovi clip. Another masterpiece.

You'll notice that Triumph is RUTHLESS with the sarcastic
comments... but THEY'RE ALL FUNNY.

And when he feels like he may have gone over the top, he
might throw in an "I kid, I kid". It's rare, but he does
do it on occasion.

If you feel like your comment might have been taken too
seriously, try a "sly smile". It's a combination of
squinting your eyes a little, pursing your lips, and
doing a slight half-mouthed smile. It's a nice touch.

In any event, you need to get over your fears, and get
out there and do it! You'll find the balance.



***QUESTION***

David:

I have been using the techniques like C&F and have had a
huge success. Honest to God, i now have several girls on
the ropes, and i have the luxury of choosing my choice. It
is wonderful. You are a genius. (i figured your ego needed
a little boost)

Now i have a situation on my hands. There is a new girl at
my workplace, who is very attractive and funny. We get
along great. The other day i told her about a concert that
i am going to and she begged me, not just begged but
pleaded with me to get her a ticket. Then within the next
5 minutes she was asking me for my number and email
address. That is right asking me. I made a smart remark
along the lines of "I've only been training you for 3 days
and you are already hitting on me, damn that has to be a
new record...(dramatic pause) Most girls only take a
couple of minutes to see my un-resistable charm." I realize
it isn't the greatest line ever but it worked. She was all
over it. And retorted with "I always was the stubborn
one." So now she is emailing me, and calling me and always
talking to me and flirting with me at work. So far so good,
here is where the problem kicks in. The other night i am
walking out from work and locking the building and she
looks over rolls her eyes, and sighs that her boyfriend is
here to pick her up. the next day she came to work and was
telling me that she and her boyfriend are going to be
breaking up soon and she doesn't know when. What do i do?
I mean to me all the signs are there, how do i field this
one? Do i even DARE field this one? HELP

n.s ND


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, two rules of thumb:

1. Don't dip your pen in the company ink.

2. Avoid women who are involved.

Why? Because it's usually just plain short-sighted to do
these things.

Some boyfriends are jealous and crazy, and if a workplace
romance goes bad (which they usually do), then it can
create all kinds of weird vibes. Trust me.

I have to comment, though... you're technique and flirting
is FANTASTIC. You're really onto something with this line
of humor. I love it.


***QUESTION***

I may be a little skeptical, but I am 37 yrs old and
have been divorced for 7 yrs. Although I have been told
many times that I am an attractive guy I have had one
date in the last 3 years, and I think it is because I am
also overweight. I am 6'1" and weigh around 340 lbs. I am
convinced that women these days are not attracted to big
guys like myself. I am also one of those "nice guys".
Do you really think that this cocky funny attitude that
I have been reading about would really work for a guy
like me? I am willing to try anything at this point

D.E.
Scranton (Pa.)


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, I think it would DEFINITELY work for you. In fact,
I think it will work for anyone who applies themselves
and figures it out.

We each have our own particular situation in life. No
two are the same.

Some guys are rich and look like Brad Pitt, some guys
are older and gray, some are overweight, some are bald,
and some are inexperienced.

We each have our own strengths, weaknesses, and particular
challenges in life.

This is one of the great things about being alive. We get
a particular hand dealt to us, and it's one of the great
joys in life to figure out how to best play it.

Honestly, from the way you explained yourself, I think that
you're unhappy with your weight. In other words, it sounds
to me like you've got MENTAL limitations and self-image
issues... so simple techniques alone probably aren't going
to solve your whole problem.

I'll bet that if you start working on your weight, while at
the SAME TIME practicing the techniques you've learned here
with women, the COMBINATION will yield better results.

When you improve two or more areas of your life at the same
time, you'll find that you often have far better than just
twice the results. But try to solve problems at the root,
and not just at the branch level alone.



***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey Dave,

Wanted to let you know a technique I've come up with that
combines two points you've made in the past:

1) You can create attraction with contrast (e.g. busting
on her verbally while your actions are gentlemanly)
2) Don't dip your pen in the company ink

So I use the hotties at work as target practice, honing
my game. BUT - I tone it down a bit and always do really
nice things for them, like if they need someone to carry
a box or open a drawer. So now they think I'm kind of
attractive, but also a bit of a wuss boy: not attractive
enough for THEM to date (keeping me out of trouble at
work), but PERFECT for a friend of theirs. Hotties hang
with hotties, and so far I've been set up with three
fiiiiiine young ladies this way (note: it helps to work
for a big company so you have a good selection and
distance between parties). Now, the friend has heard that
I'm a nice guy, so she's a little leery going into it -
then WHAM! I bust out as the Full Jedi Master. Once again,
contrast added to c+f. (As one said, "I heard you were
kind of cute, but she didn't tell me how hot you really
are!" For the record, I'm slightly above average.)
So far I'm 3-for-3 scoring major action on date one. I'm
keeping it cool, because there is the 2nd-hand work
connection, so it can be a little tricky, but that's part
of the fun. I let NO ONE get too close too soon, and
things continue hot 'n' heavy at MY pace, and everyone's
happy. I don't know if this will work for everyone, but
it's sure worked for me. You rock!!!

M.B.
Chicago


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great points.

Attractive women know other attractive women.

And practicing on women at work is great! You can also
practice on waitresses that work at restaurants you
frequent, hostesses/receptionists at places you go
often, etc.

Women LOVE to have fun, chemically-charged interactions
with men... even if it's not leading to anything. So do
practice whenever you can.


***QUESTION***

Okay....i bought the book, i read it and re-read it and
re-read it. I had always been funny but a lot had been
self-deprecating or witticisms that were hysterical but
required women to think and make the leap from A to B. So,
based on your book, I changed my ways. I added "C" to my
"F". Now, I'm a Lindy Hop Swing dancer. I dance at the
clubs 4 times a week. go to workshops. I own instructional
tapes. I listen to swing music constantly. I even dream
I'm dancing sometimes. So, when I go to a club i'm not
just going to meet women but also because i love dancing
Lindy Hop. IT WORKS!!!

Before I ask my question, here's my success story. After
reading all the e-mails over and over and the book over and
over, i made it a point to be C&F even when i'm not
interested. One girl I asked to dance at a club said she
had to leave but "do you come here often?" she asked. I
told her that we only knew each other for a few minutes and
ALREADY she was trying to pick me up. I didn't mind, i
said, but she should use a more original line. Another girl
I danced with messed up as she was dancing and her hand
touched my ass by mistake. I spent the rest of the dance
accusing her of trying to grab my ass because she liked it.
(her e-mail i got but i messed up the next bridge). But the
clincher in my mind that C&F works is this: I take a 3-hour
dance class once a week and it usually has the same people.
One is this cute 19-year old. She's not my type and i'm
not interested, but i still employ C&F whenever i see her,
for practice. Well, this week out of the blue she says "I
was talking to [Bob] about you the other day." Oh yeah?
what did you say? i ask "I told him I like you because
you're a smart-ass." My jaw practically dropped. I
maintained composure while on the inside i was screaming
"HOLY SH**!! THIS STUFF WORKS". "smart-ass" was obviously
"C&F". So, thank you and i plan to continue using this.
MY QUESTION!! So, here's the thing. Dancing this much is a
blessing and a curse. A lot of women want to dance with me,
but they ONLY want to dance (i've gotten quite good). Plus,
i'm into the dancing so i'll dance with several different
women a night, and most likely each women multiple times.
How do I use C&F in these situations when A) Unless it's a
slow song, you don't really have the opp to talk DURING the
dance B) If I get an e-mail/number, i'm still gonna be at
the club the rest of the night. Do I ask her to dance
again? or do i ignore her? What if she asks ME to dance
again? C) If I ignore her, i'm gonna see her as i walk
around looking for dance partners throughout the night, do
i say anything as we pass by? do i even smile at her?
D) Can I use C&F on multiple women throughout the night
and get more than one e-mail or is that a bad idea? If
dancing were a means to an end for me, it might be easier,
but i'm really into this. My job is just a means for me
to be able to go dancing (that's how into it i am).
I know that I've got a potential gold mine at my feet
since I dance. I've heard that "if you can dance you can
get any woman you want." Well, I couldn't, but i'm only
now starting to see how i can thanks to C&F. But it's only
a beginning. Please help!!

By the way, i'll see you at your next LA seminar!!!

G.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You've gone over your one question limit, but I'm going to
give you a great idea anyway.

First off, making jokes about a woman trying to pick you
up, not being that easy, being offended that she used such
a cheap line, etc. is GREAT stuff.

Here's the idea:

If I were you, I'd learn how to be Cocky and Funny WITHOUT
SAYING A WORD. If you're a great dancer, then I'm SURE you
can come up with 100 ways.

Maybe you could notice mistakes that a girl is making, then
imitate them over and over while keeping a look on your
face of "Look at how cool I am".

Maybe you could incorporate some bizarre dance steps into
a dance, then insinuate that she's dancing that way.

One thing I like to do is MIRROR a woman, then EXAGGERATE
some part of what she's doing.

If she has good posture, I might sit up EXTRA straight
and say "You're slumping".

Cocky and Funny isn't just a verbal thing.

Ohhh... now I'm letting the cat out of the bag.

By the way, if you're reading this right now and you've
got some good examples of non-verbal Cocky and Funny,
write me an email. Send it to me at:

SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com


***QUESTION***

Dave,

Your insight into women and how to attract them is dead-on.
Being cocky and funny works. Upon adopting your approach,
my dating life improved dramatically: I went from dating one
woman last year to dating 10 women in three months at the
beginning of this year.

While dating is fun, like most guys, I eventually find one
that I like and want to pursue it further, i.e. become more
serious. The problem I've discovered is that a lot of
women in the age group I date (27-33) are resistant to this
due to the residual pain they carry with them (the
proverbial "baggage") from previous failed relationships or
marriages. Rather than take a risk by pursuing a
relationship, they prevent it from progressing any further
to avoid any emotional pain that might result if it fails.

Is this a common problem men my age (late '20s, early '30s)
experience (and should continue to expect to experience in
the dating world), or am I just being a wuss and need to
get over it by dating younger women with less baggage? Is
there a way to employ the C&F routine to MAKE these women
overcome their indecision and want to be with you?

LOL,

B


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, as much as I avoid "Relationship" questions, I just
have to comment on this one.

First of all, I believe that MOST guys would prefer to be
in a relationship with a great women (over being single).

The problem is that amazing women are as rare as amazing
men...

If you REALLY want to make a women become attached to you,
then you might want to try a paradoxical move...

Stop looking for a relationship.

If you communicate that you want a relationship, the natural
response is going to be for a woman to play Hard To Get.

If YOU do the playing of the Hard To Get, and you HOLD OFF
on showing the "relationship" level of interest, you'll
find that the woman will pursue the relationship with YOU.

Think about it.



***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I like your newsletter and I really enjoyed your books. I
have one problem though. My sister, who is a socialite and
seems to have a ton of really attractive friends, has this
one friend. She's one of my sister's best friends and is
my age. The woman is incredible...definitely a 9 or 10.
She's got this really sweet personality, but also goofy at
the same time. I know she's dated pretty boy models and NHL
hockey players before, but I know she's not too superficial
inside, since she broke things off with them after she was
unhappy. So even though I'm probably a 6 or 7, I think I
may have a shot, as I've heard she's recently single.
Anyway, my problem is that I have absolutely nothing I can
bust on her about. I don't know her well enough to rag on
those Ex bfs or anything. Most of our conversations revolve
around our mutual admiration for my cat....So any past
encounters we've had have been in 'wuss' mode. What would
be your approach to this situation?

Thanks,

C.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Say what?

You have "absolutely nothing" you can bust on her about?

You really need to get a couple of books on comedy, my
man.

What color hair does she have? If it's blonde, learn some
blonde jokes... if it's brunette, learn some brunette
jokes.

Is she tall? Bust on her height.

Is she short? Bust on her vertically challenged-ness.

And by the way, WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH A CAT?

Don't even get me started on the jokes you can make about
her being more interested in the pussy than in you. I
could write a book of lesbian jokes based on your one-
paragraph email alone... and I've never even met this
girl myself.

Are you starting to get the picture?


***QUESTION***

Dave,

I bought your book and I have been able to successfully use
your method.

Last knight I picked up this girl at a lounge by accusing
her of being a liar. I struck up a conversation and started
doing the small talk thing (no wuss topics). I then ask her
about her age, she leaned over and whispered in my ear
that she was 20 years old. I heard her loud and clear. But
when she turned her attention elsewhere I ask one of her
friends that she was with(who was also very hot) If the
girl I was speaking to was really 26 years old, (all at
the same time giving of the impression that I wasn't really
convinced) Surprised she turned to her friend saying "You
told him you're 26?". I then of course accused lying so
that she could have a better chance of hooking up with me.
I then proceed to tell her how often girls do this to me
and how she would have a much better chance with me by
simply being herself. The boys at this point were cracking
up. This was all done in good fun and in a FUNNY COCKY
way, the girls knew I was joking but at the same time they
were not 100% sure, this really played on their curiosity.
My Question, Should I make eye contact with a girl before
talking to her or should I just make her feel like she
doesn't exist first and then proceed to hitting on her?
Also is it bad to stand at the bar and check out the
women? Does this make you seem needy? In other words
what's the best way of working the room before I start to
talk.

thanks. CA


>>>MY COMMENTS:


Another masterpiece of Cocky and Funny. This is great...
I can feel more and more guys are getting it.

And about eye contact.

Eye contact is VERY powerful.

I recommend that if you make eye contact with a woman
that you keep it until SHE looks away. This is a great
exercise, by the way. Just go out and make eye contact
with as many women as you can... and keep it until they
look away.

If you're already talking to a woman, you're going to
have to work with the situation.

In some situations, you're going to want to be aloof,
and in some you're going to want to be intense.

Just remember not to look away because you're nervous
or afraid. Women can detect weakness very quickly, and
they turn off like a light switch when they do.

If you want to "check out women", just make sure you
don't look like a looser that has no life and is
planning to use the images you're taking in for future
solo fantasy role play.

Don't look desperate.

Women are turned off by guys who have that "I'm not
worthy" look... and they're turned ON by guys who have
that "You are interesting to me, but not so much so that
I'd give blood just to talk to you" look.


***QUESTION***

OK, Dave, what's wrong? Why won't you put my letters in
your mailbag? I NEED HELP!!!! But, yet, you refuse to
help me! Your stuff makes sense, yet it seems impossible
to use. And so, I get all depressed because what you say
makes me feel like a loser. I have zero confidence in
myself and I can't make anyone laugh. I am 20 years old.
I have never had a real girlfriend. I don't have any
friends. My 5 guys I am forced to live with are not
friends (but we get along fine). They all get girls, but
won't help me. They all make me feel like a complete
loser indirectly. Just like you do. Oh, using C&F is
totally unnatural as hell for me, and I could never use it
enough to be very successful. But, I also realize being
the nice guy and buying stuff for women is also unnatural
for me. I NEVER flirt. I NEVER compliment women for any
reason whatsoever. I NEVER buy women gifts. I do, however,
pay for women on dates (which I haven't been on any is 18
months). I can't make myself talk to girls unless I have
a reason other than because I wanna date them. I can't ask
women out on dates. I am convinced I will be rejected, so
I don't even try. Even when I do talk to women, I can't
make it move on to the next level. Women never even become
my friends! They never move beyond acquaintance level. It
just offends me VERY much that you won't even attempt to
give ME personal advice!


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I'm going to use my psychic powers to guess the correct
spelling of your name.

Keep in mind, I don't even know your name, so getting
the spelling correct could be considered to be basically
impossible.

Oh, I'm getting something...

W...

U...

S...

S...

Y...

Wow, what an unusual name. I don't recall ever meeting a
guy with that name before.

Oh, wait a minute... maybe I HAVE met a guy or two with
that name.

Hey, in fact, I've met a LOT of guys with names like
yours.

OK, enough of the obvious. Let's talk action.

You really need to get over your victim mentality, man.
Read some self-help books, do some visualization and
affirmation exercises... maybe go to a seminar or ten.

Before you're going to have ANY success with women,
you're going to need to overcome your negative view of
reality and life.

Women HATE all of the qualities you're demonstrating
right now. Qualities like:

-Negativity
-Pessimism
-Whiny-ness
-Victim Minded

Get the picture?

I'm giving you some tough love here, but you sound like
you really need it. Women (and people in general) don't
want to help those who whine and complain. Start working
on yourself, and keep going until you begin to find
techniques that make you feel more secure, stable and
self-sufficient.

It's probably going to take a pretty big commitment, but
I believe that anyone can get to the next level if they
really want to.


***COMMENT***

Dear Dave:

I've noticed a lot of emails lately (and I hear this from
my friends all the time): "This stuff is great, and it
attracts women, but when do you just get to be yourself?"
You reply to these emails something like this: "Never.
Make the C&F changes permanent." My contribution is an
analogy that might help the guys who resist this advice
see the error of your ways:

Let's say that you meet a beautiful, intelligent, and
above all, SEXY woman. You start going out with her and
loving it. Suddenly, though, as she gets comfortable with
the relationship, she stops dressing sexy and wears only
jogging outfits. She stops working and starts over-eating;
soon she's fat. To top this off, she doesn't feel the need
to "impress" you anymore and frankly talks about her
health problems, etc. (her conversations begin to get
annoying). She even farts and belches around you.

The point of this is, the things that were attracting you
to her all stopped as she got comfortable with the
relationship. She feels so "comfortable" that she doesn't
feel the need to exert any effort in keeping you attracted.

See the parallel? It's obvious to me, but let me explain
for the benefit of the thick-headed: When you stop doing
the things that attracted her to you, you are exactly
like the hottie that lets herself go. The degree to which
you "let yourself go" will determine whether or not she
dumps you or starts cheating on you.

Hope this helps.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You know, I think I'm going to hire all the guys who wrote
in this week and just let them write these newsletters
from now on.

What do you say?

Your analogy is great. I wish I would have said that.


***QUESTION

Dave,

First, I have purchased your "double your dating" from your
website. Your book and extra's have enriched my life.

I had a beautiful woman sit down next to me on the train on
my ride into work. I could feel she was interested but I
was scared. I didn't want to make an obvious come on with
so many people around. So I did nothing and missed an
opportunity to meet an ultra beautiful woman. How can I
prevent this from happening in the future? How can I
discreetly approach a woman in this situation? I'm not
interested in becoming comic entertainment for the morning
rush crowd.

G

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Say what?

You didn't want to make an "obvious come on with other
people around"?

What, did you want to become her friend and shopping
buddy, then two years later spring an "I love you" on
her in the middle of the girdle aisle at Macy's?

Or did you miss the part where I said in Double Your
Dating not to hide the fact that you're interested?

You really need to get over this idea that making it
obvious that you're not just interested in "friendship"
isn't considered bad by women... and that if you try
to hide it, you're only shooting yourself in the foot.

And by the way, if you're "not in the mood" to make a
woman laugh in front of the morning crowd, then what are
you going to do... charm her with your boring, un-funny
creativity?

Think about what you're asking me.

You need to get over what other people think, and get
into making things happen regardless of who's watching
or listening.

This alone is a trait that creates ATTRACTION.

Of course, if you REALLY REALLY REALLY want to be "discreet"
about it, you could hand her a note that says "I was going
to say some funny stuff, but I didn't want anyone to think
that I was picking up on you. If you couldn't tell, I'm
kind of a Wuss, but don't let that stop you from calling
me later."

In short, the way to prevent this in the future is to BE
READY for the situation. Plan out what you're going to do
NEXT TIME, and be totally ready when it happens. If you
mentally prepare for the 10 most common situations that
you find yourself in, you'll DRAMATICALLY increase your
success.


***QUESTION***

Hey dave I really enjoyed reading your e-book. It taught
me so much more than all your newsletters have. To every
one reading this right now buy the book it's the best $40
I have ever spent I would even have paid up to $200 for it
im serious. I went to the beach the next day after reading
your book and used your techniques, but I am kind of shy
but I figured out how to have women approach you... give
up. Volley ball. It's so awesome the chicks will just
approach you and ask to play, and you have an excuse not
to wear a shirt show off your body and not make it look
like your showing off. Me being only 5'2 with a muscular
built. I will always say "I'm prejudice of the fact that
your taller than me...but I can accept you for who you
are" awesome line for all you short guys. I do have a
question though I can't seem to figure out a cocky funny
line if A girl tell you that you have a big/nice muscles.
Also I can't come out with any thing to say while playing
volley ball. Most of what I say comes off as arrogant.
For example if she would miss I would say "what the hell
was that" yes I know smooth lines. I would appreciate
your help on this one I think other guys would to. I cant
wait until your next book and seminar tapes come out.

your friend
CL - maine


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, very nice. Great thinking.

And if a woman says "You have nice muscles", just look
back at her with a serious face and say:

"You know, I'm really tired of you women treating me
like some kind of piece of meat. I have feelings too,
and I don't just like being thought of as a sex object."

I have a friend that uses this with amazing success.

Oh, and if there's anyone else out there who had purchased
my book and found that it was worth $160.00 more than they
paid, feel free to contact me and I can arrange to accept
the additional payment.

If you haven't yet gotten your copy of my online book
"Double Your Dating" (yea, the one that everyone in this
newsletter is talking about), then what the heck are you
waiting for? Go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now and get it. My book is the result of about five
years of personal research, testing, and refinement. It's
jam packed with all of my very best techniques for
attracting and dating the kinds of women you've always
wanted. Check it out.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.




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comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of
the specifics... because this helps other guys to see
what's working in different situations.

3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in
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This week I want to talk more about what makes women
feel "attracted" to men.

And if you've read my book, or have been tuned in to
this email newsletter, you know that I believe that there
is a big difference between what women SAY that they want
in a man, and what makes a woman feel that ELECTRIC GUT
LEVEL ATTRACTION INSIDE for a man.

In other words, if you ask most women what they "want"
in a man, they'll say "Oh, I want a nice, honest, thoughtful
guy who can communicate well..."

And the truth is, this IS what most women "want." But
remember, there's a BIG difference between what women "want"
and what makes a woman feel ATTRACTION inside.

ATTRACTION is a mysterious thing, (as are all emotions
in my humble opinion). Pascal said "The heart has its
reasons, of which reason knows nothing."

What he was getting at here is that our emotional
systems have developed over millions of years through a
complex process of evolution and selection... and that
the emotions we feel are triggered by things that are
usually not at all "logical."

As a quick example, let me ask you... what makes YOU
feel that INSTANT ATTRACTION for a woman? For most men it's
a certain look, a body part... maybe a voice tone or a
touch.

Most of the single guys I know don't say "Hey, let's go
out Friday night and look for some women with great morals,
stable families, and good conversation skills."

If we humans were purely LOGICAL creatures, then we
wouldn't care too much about looks. As a matter of fact, we
might even think things like "Well, she looks TOO good...
she probably spends a lot of time tending to her looks,
which means she won't be a very attentive partner and
parent... I choose not to feel attracted to her."

And then we all woke up.

And back to reality... as you've probably heard more
than enough, men are attracted more to looks, and women are
ATTRACTED more to personality, style, and communication.

Sure, Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise are handsome in a way
that turns women on, but these guys aren't the RULE, they're
the exception.

Men read Playboy, women read romance novels.

"Yes, but what about PlayGIRL?" you might ask.

I saw an interesting study once that found that most of
the readers of Playgirl magazine are GAY MEN. Interesting?

The fact is that women's attention is captured by romance
novels because they offer something that satisfies a DEEPER
need. And this deeper need is both emotional and complex.

Since we only have another few paragraphs, I'd better
break it down for you...

If you run down to the bookstore and pick up some of these
romance novels, you'll find something interesting... the
stories usually start out with a male character that is wild,
often abusive, untamed, and generally a not-very-nice kind of
guy (Sure, by the end of the book he's usually calmed down a
bit, but you always know who he REALLY is).

I'm sure you've either experience or seen the situation
where a guy says "For some reason the women I know date these
jerks, then I'm the 'friend' that gets to hear about it."

Why is it that women date jerks, then tell their "nice guy"
friends the stories instead of just dating the nice guys in the
first place?

ATTRACTION. ATTRACTION. ATTRACTION.

OK, so what are some of the things that make women FEEL
that GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION?

More importantly, how can us guys do some of these things
to make women feel attracted to US without having to be abusive
jerks?

My answer is to learn about how the "Attractive Jerk"
personality acts, but leave out the ABUSIVE aspects... and mix
in a few other surprises to make an irresistible combination.

Here's an example:

Women are attracted to men who aren't easy to pin down,
who are busy with their lives, and who they have to work to
get and keep the attention of.

It's hard to get a Jerk's attention because he's so
consumed with himself. He's busy being selfish, so it's just
natural that a woman will find it hard to get his attention.

If you want to use this psychology to your advantage, you
can do things like:

1) Talk about times you're busy before talking about times
you're available.

Example: You're talking on the phone and making plans to get
together. Most guys will say something like "How about
tomorrow at 3?" The smart guy will say "Let's see, I'm busy
tomorrow morning and the next day. And I'm going out of
town this weekend... But I can do it tomorrow at 3."

See the difference? It may not sound like much, but when
you start saying things like "Well, I'm busy at this time...
and I'm busy at that time... etc." the person listening starts
to unconsciously think "Uh oh, it sounds like they're busy...
I wonder if they're going to have time for me..."

2) Leave her alone once in awhile when you're out together.

Example: You're out together at a store window shopping. Most
guys will stick right along side of the girl that they're with
the entire time. Instead, walk away from her into a different
part of the store once in awhile and let her come find you.

Again, see the difference? At a subtle level, walking
away from a woman communicates "I'm confident and independent.
I do what I want with my life, and I don't need to stay right
next to you every second to get your approval."

In the two above situations, a Jerk might do these things
anyway, but it's always from a SELFISH, OFTEN ABUSIVE place
inside.

It's funny to me, because Jerks attract women by accident.
By acting like Jerks, they often naturally attract women, then
say "Hey, cool. I can act like a Jerk and women love it."

Unfortunately, acting like a nice, sensitive guys usually
won't lead to women falling all over you... so you don't have
that same experience of figuring out what works early on by
"accident."

If you want to learn dozens of other ideas to make women
feel that ILLOGICAL GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION, then I would highly
recommend that you download your copy of my online book
"Double Your Dating." You'll learn the secrets that have
taken me YEARS to figure out, all in an easy, simple format
that anyone can use to attract women. Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

now and download your copy.

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.
DATING TIP: RIGHT AFTER YOU GET HER NUMBER
DATING TIP: What To Do RIGHT AFTER You Get Her Email Address
And/Or Phone Number


And as a quick note, I have to say that I love the emails
that I get that say things like "Please don't print this in
your newsletter... but send me a detailed answer as soon
as you can" and "I'm upset because you didn't email me
back with free advice". lol... I have hundreds of emails
in my SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com inbox from just
the last couple of weeks. So if you're upset that you're
not getting a reply, please get over it. And don't expect
to hear back from me if you say things like "Please don't
print this in your newsletter", because my newsletter is
the vehicle I use to respond to questions. Duh. You can't
even give away free advice these days without someone
whining...

Onward.


>>>THIS WEEK'S QUESTION:

The Guy in the bar Story...

"Why should he have left the bar as soon as he got the
waitress' phone number?"

This is "Ultra Extra Important" you said. I think I know
why he should have left, he was probably starring at her
all night and she was turned off by it, but give me your
complete insight on why he should have left immediately
after getting her e-mail.

Thanks, R.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

As I said in the newsletter you quoted above, this
concept is VERY important.

Understanding why you need to leave at this point
is part of understanding the dynamic called ATTRACTION.

So before I get into the specifics, let's talk about
the underlying process that creates ATTTRACTION...

1. ATTRACTION isn't a choice. It's an emotional reaction.

ATTRACTION is natures way of taking over our minds and
bodies long enough to make sure that we mate with
someone with the best possible genes.

2. ATTRACTION isn't logical, in the sense that it isn't
created by things that "should" create it. Buying women
dinner and gifts, giving lots of compliments when you
first meet a woman, and kissing up to women to get their
approval are examples of "logical" thing that SHOULD
create attraction... but don't.

When you understand how attraction works, you begin to
see that it has a logic all its own.

3. Women aren't attracted to guys who act like needy
Wuss-Bags. When guys give lots of compliments, seek
approval, act clingy, or try to go out of their way
to be overly "nice", it usually backfires. Women run
from wussy men.

4. Unfortunately, many guys are mentally programmed to
a sort of "default wussy" mode of behavior when they
encounter a woman that they're attracted to.

When you combine this default wuss mode with nervous
body language, you create an almost impossible barrier
between you and success.

5. Just like a painting or a song, too much can ruin
an interaction with a woman. You must know when to
leave. Leaving at the right moment creates tension,
anticipation and mystery.


Of course, there are more ingredients to ATTRACTION,
but these will set the stage for where I'm going with
this...

In every situation, you can do something to INCREASE
the ATTRACTION... and you can do something to DECREASE
it. In other words, there's always a way to dial up this
magical emotion.

And yes, you can increase the ATTRACTION even when
you've just met. In fact, this is often the best time
to do it.

Let me ask you a question...

What would most guys do in the situation with the
waitress (or maybe a bar tender)?

Imagine it.

You're in a bar, you're chatting with the cute gal
serving drinks or behind the bar. You're being Cocky
and Funny, busting on her, etc. and she's enjoying your
company. You say "Hey, do you have email?" and she
writes it down for you...

WHAT DO YOU DO?

You could...

1. Sit there and keep talking.

2. Stay and talk to her a few more times.

3. Wait around hoping that you can go home with her.

4. Leave.


So let's do a little critical thinking about this
situation before I comment (or maybe this will be the
comment, we'll see).

If you (1) sit there and keep talking, what's likely
to happen?

In my experience, unless you're the ultimate Mac
Daddy of all time, the only place to go is DOWN.

Think about it... you got her info. You did it.
She's working. She's only going to get busy, which
will probably make the conversation more difficult.

And then there's the risk of saying or doing
something stupid, getting too drunk to make sense,
or just having the interaction go cold.

All in all, you have very little chance of
anything good happening, and a great chance of
having something not-so-good happening.

Doesn't sound like a very good idea to me.

If you (2) stay there in the bar (maybe join friends
that show up), and talk to her a few more times while
ordering drinks, etc. what is likely to happen?

Again, we're dealing with a situation that almost
can't get any BETTER. Remember, she already gave you
the info. Now she might start thinking "Oh, this is
just another loser that hangs out all night and gets
drunk with his buddies... like the other 47 guys who
hit on me."

Or you might say something dumb... or you might
tip her too much or too little and make a strange
impression... or any of a lot of things.

All downside risk, no upside rewards.

If you (3) wait around hoping that you can go
home with her, I think you're REALLY taking your
chances in the situation.

Again, unless you're the ultimate pick-up artist
of all time, you're not likely to be taking home the
bar tender by sitting in front of her and drinking
all night... for the same reasons listed above.

But what if (4) YOU LEFT IMMEDIATELY after getting
her info?

What effect does DISAPPEARING have on an interaction
like this one?

Well, let me ask you: What effect does disappearing
have IN GENERAL on people?

It creates curiosity, mystery, etc. It makes the
other person think "I wonder where he/she had to go so
fast?"

You can also combine this with having something very
INTERESTING to do. For instance, you might say:

"Nice talking to you... I'm going to go meet up with
some friends to have some SERIOUS fun."

This technique of leaving the moment I've gotten a
woman's information has worked WONDERS for me... and for
many guys I know.

The long and the short of it is that if you stick
around after you get the info, you create no tension,
no mystery, and no curiosity.

On the other hand, if you LEAVE IMMEDIATELY, and have
something interesting (even if you don't say what it is)
to go do, then you're seen as busy... the kind of guy
who has a life... someone who is in demand.

Leaving turns up the ATTRACTION. It creates curiosity.

Women are used to guys hanging on, clinging, and
generally NOT having other things to do.

It's something that will INSTANTLY separate you from
other guys, and something that will demonstrate all the
right qualities with a single move.

Remember, you can do things to INCREASE or DECREASE
the ATTRACTION in any given situation. I recommend that
you start thinking of how to increase it as much as you
possibly can, because if a woman feels ATTRACTION, then
almost nothing else matters.

...and if you'd like to learn even more of my personal
secrets, from psychology to specific techniques for all
kind of situations, then I'd recommend that you download
a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating". Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...for all the details. There are more sample ideas and
techniques on my website, so go check it out!

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.
DATING TIP: WHEN TO CALL HER BACK
DATING TIP: "How Long Should I Wait To Call Her Back?"

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If you've seen the classic cult movie "Swingers", then
you probably remember the part where the guys are discussing
how long a guys should wait to call a woman after he's
gotten her phone number.

The scene really hits home for a lot of guys, because it
gets down to a real-world situation that we all confront and
ponder.

I get lot of emails from guys asking me what to do in this
very situation

The more I've thought about it, the more I realize that
this particular question (and the answer to it) are part of
a bigger, more important CONCEPT about how to deal with
women.

Let me explain.

When a guy asks me "How long should I wait to call her?"
this immediately tells me a few of things:

1. The guy doesn't feel like he's in control of the
situation. If he felt like he was in control, then it he
wouldn't ask, because it wouldn't matter.

2. The guy doesn't really "get" how male/female attraction
works. If he did get it, then he'd be thinking in those
terms rather than trying to figure out the exact best
amount of time to wait before calling.

To put it differently, the "when do I call her back?
problem is part of a bigger concept, and once you
understand that bigger concept better, then you'll have an
automatic feel for when to call a woman back.

Most guys don't "get" one simple point:

If you want a woman to feel ATTRACTION for you, then
you must behave differently than if you want her to feel
that "just friends" feeling.

In the world of ATTRACTION, things can be completely
different.

For instance, our moms taught all of us guys to "be
nice" to women. This usually includes being sweet and
complimentary when first meeting them, answering all of
their questions directly, and giving them what they
want when they want it.

But if you want a woman to feel that INSTANT GUT LEVEL
ATTRACTION right from the beginning, then you're going to
have to put aside this kind of thinking, and start
learning some NEW ideas.

For instance:

1. A challenge is generally attractive to women.

2. Teasing and being evasive is generally attractive to
women.

3. Making fun of a woman's appearance in a flirty way, as
counter-intuitive as it might sound, can lead to ATTRACTION.

I'm trying to communicate the idea that when you're
dealing with ATTRACTION, you have to put aside old "normal"
ways of thinking and behaving.

I would like to mention one more point before getting
into the specifics here...

These days, people are becoming very sensitive to having
"techniques" used on them.

If a salesman uses a sales technique on us, we immediately
get defensive and resistant.

If a panhandler asks for money in a way that smells of
"technique" we pass them by without pity.

If a business treats us like a "thing" or a number instead
of an individual person, we avoid them or buy elsewhere.

We humans don't like having manipulation techniques used
on us, and when we detect that someone or something is using
one to get the better of us, we resist.

So let's get back to the "how long to wait before calling
her back" issue.

If you think about it, every situation is slightly
different. One time you might meet a woman in the morning at
coffee, and another time you might meet a woman at a club at
1 in the morning.

If you wait too long to call her back, I think you run
the risk of seeming like you're just using a technique on
her, and you come across as a player who's trying to do your
thing on her.

When deciding how long to wait before you call or email,
I think it's important to ask yourself this question:

"What will be likely to INCREASE THE ATTRACTION in this
situation?"

Here are a couple of ideas I have used with great success:

1. Email instead of calling first. I personally email the
next day. I'll start with a charming email to get the
conversation started, then tell her that I'm going to call
in a day or two. This has the effect of making contact with
her relatively quickly, but still creating anticipation
because you haven't actually talked.

2. Call the next day, and make a joke about the situation. I
might call and say "Yea, I was watching Swingers and they
said to wait three days to call, but I was kind of in more
of a one day mood..."

If you didn't get her email address, and you MUST
use the phone, just do your best to avoid being AVERAGE.

I personally believe that our attention spans as humans
are getting shorter and shorter. We have more and more
information coming in from television, newspapers, and
other sources, and we're getting cultural ADD. I think that
if you wait too long, you're risking either being seen as
using a technique, or risking being forgotten altogether.

But if you make the opposite mistake and call too soon
(for instance a few hours later), you run the risk of being
seen as a needy wuss who has no life.

In a recent newsletter, I wrote about why it's important
to leave immediately after getting a woman's email and/or
number.

How long you should wait to call her back is a natural
extension of this.

As a matter of fact, if you get a woman's email/number
and then you keep coming over to talk to her, it can almost
be seen as waiting 5 minutes to call her.

There's no anticipation, and it says all the wrong things.

A couple of other quick pointers for when you're making
that first call:

1. Be busy. If you're going to ask her to join you for tea
or something similar, make sure you mention two times that
you're busy for every one time that you're available.

2. Don't linger on the phone. Make that first call short
and to the point. If you stay on the phone for more than a
few minutes, you're running the risk of getting into a
normal "What do you do?" "Where do you live?" "Where did
you go to school?" conversation. Avoid.

To summarize, when in doubt wait a day or so to contact
her again.

But more importantly, think about the situation in terms
of anticipation and ATTRACTION, so when you do make contact
it creates the correct context.

Of course, if you'd like to get ALL of my best thinking
on how to deal with different situations and make a woman
feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION for you, then
you need to read my book "Double Your Dating". It's full of
all my best thinking and ideas about how to attract the
kinds of women that you've always wanted. Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now and get it.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.
DATING TIP: HOW TO APPROACH WOMEN
DATING TIP: "How Do I Approach And Start Conversations With
Women?"

>>>THIS WEEK'S QUESTION:

David,

I've been receiving your E-mails for about 2 months now
And I, being the shy guy, am breaking out of my shell. But
My question is this...

I'm around women all the time. At work, at the bars,
everywhere...what is the best way to train myself to be able
to talk to these girls. So many times I'm sitting there and
this Absolutely Beautiful girl walks in and I'm stunned. But
I don't really know what to say to this girl so she leaves
and that's it. I'm getting better but how do I get more
consistent with my Cocky + Funny lines.

Any Exercises?

KG
DC


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Your email is asking all the right questions. I think
you're going to be surprised at some of the answers that I
provide.

Let's break this down into the different questions that
I hear you asking...

1. What is the best way to train myself to talk to women
at work, bars, and other places?

2. How do I prepare myself so I'm ready to start a
conversation as soon as I see a woman... rather than
waiting and losing the opportunity.

3. How do I use Cocky and Funny in these situations?

Now, I realize that I've paraphrased your questions,
but I've done this for a reason. Sometimes I think that we
confuse ourselves by asking the wrong questions.

If we're looking for solutions to the wrong questions,
then we wind up with the wrong answers. And, or course, the
wrong answers usually won't get us the best results.

So let's talk about the first two questions...

How to train yourself to talk to women, and how to be
prepared so you don't miss opportunities.

I think that training yourself comes down to two basic
things...

1. Mental rehearsal

2. Doing it

First you need to take time when you're alone to imagine
one particular place where you see women you'd like to meet,
then mentally rehearse exactly how you'd handle the situation.

Think about how you will walk over, what you will say,
what she might say or do in response, etc. Imagine all of the
little details you possibly can.

You'll find something interesting: As you do this, you'll
notice that your mind will show you where you need help, and
allow you to fix problems in advance.

For instance, while mentally practicing, you might be
imagining a situation where you're talking to a woman, it's
going well, and you say "Hey, do you have email?" She replies
"Yes, of course", and you say "Great, give it to me."

But then you realize that you don't have a pen on you to
get the email. Or that you don't have paper on you. So you
decide that it's time to get a pen to carry with you at all
times, and a small notepad to go with it. (Don't laugh, most
of the guys I know who are great with women ALWAYS have a pen
and paper on them).

The point is that mentally rehearsing will give you all
kinds of great insight, and it will help you to be ready for
any situation that comes up.

Second, you need to actually DO IT. You need to start
talking to all the women you see that you're interested in.

Maybe at first you need to just walk up and say "Those
are great shoes" or "Do you have the time?". I don't care
what you do... just do something. (I don't promote being
dishonest, so don't be deceptive.)

What I'm saying here is that you need to get used to
going over and talking to women. The more you do it, the
easier it will get. And like I said, if you have to start
with simple things like giving a compliment or asking for
the time, then do it. It will help build your comfort level
up for more in the future.

Now I'd like to address the third question:

3. How do I use Cocky and Funny in these situations?

I actually think that this question is VERY important,
because there is a lot of confusion as to how and when to
be cocky and funny... and to what extent you should use it.

And before I answer this question, I think that it's very
important that you READ MY BOOK "DOUBLE YOUR DATING" before
you go any further.

My book is the basic foundation of all my thinking. It's
the model that sets up the rules for the game. These
newsletters are obviously full of great stuff, but if you
don't know what the basics are, then you're going to
mis-interpret a lot of what I say.

The reason I say all of this is because I don't always
think that being Cocky and Funny is the best thing to do
when you first meet a woman.

Surprise, Surprise.

In fact, I would say that in MOST cases I don't approach
a woman and begin with Cocky and Funny comments.

If you've read my newsletters for awhile, and you've
read my book, then you know that I think it's best to get
a woman's email address (and/or phone number) in the first
few minutes, then to LEAVE and get another one.

And you don't need to be Cocky and Funny about it most
of the time.

Now don't get me wrong... if the situation call for it,
or the opportunity arises, I'll make some great comments,
but I definitely don't feel like it's a requirement that
you be Cocky and Funny when you first start talking to a
woman.

I prefer to save the Cocky and Funny attitude for later,
either after we've been talking for while or after we've
met up for a second meeting and we're ALONE together.

I do know some guys who are EXPERTS with women... these
guys DO use Cocky and Funny when they first meet women (in
fact, these are the guys who I learned about this stuff
from in the first place). But keep in mind, they're the
MASTERS. They know what to do in every situation, and they
don't care what happens.

If you're just starting out using this material, I'd
recommend that you start out a little slower, and work your
way up to busting on women you've just met, etc.

Cocky and Funny is one piece of a much larger puzzle,
and I'd recommend that you learn the other pieces as you're
learning this one!

And of course, if you HAVEN'T read my book yet, then I'd
suggest that you do so. My book and the three free bonus
booklets that come along with it contain A LOT of information
that I have NEVER shared in one a newsletter... and never
will. Go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now to get it. That's the place to start.

And I'll talk to you in a couple of days.


Your Friend,

David D.
MAILBAG: GETTING STARTED AND APPROACHING WOMEN
THE MAILBAG: Getting Started And Approaching Women

***QUESTION***

David,

I have read your e-book. I think it's great, but questions
always arise. I have been dating a woman for five weeks.
We've had several wonderful dates. She's a really sweet
girl, and I think there is a lot of potential. We have spent
the night together three times, but have not yet had full
intercourse. I give her oral sex every time and always bring
her to orgasm. When I told that I wanted to have full
intercourse with her, she told me that she doesn't do that
right away. She said she usually does not get naked with a
man, but did so with me because she likes me. We discussed
our feelings about sex, and I have never pressured her.

I always aim to please her sexually. She is definitely
enjoying what I do for her, and I enjoy doing it for her.
Unfortunately, she hardly touches me or does anything to
satisfy me sexually. How should I interpret and handle this?
I have been considering gently guiding her hand when she gets
to the right location, but I'm not sure if this is a good
approach. I may even talk to her about it, but I'd rather
her advance on me without my prodding. Should I hold off on
giving her oral sex? My intuition tells me that doing so
would not be very productive. Do you have any suggestions?

E.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

DANGER! You are rapidly approaching the WUSS ZONE!

One thing that you DON'T want to do is TELL A WOMAN THAT
YOU WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH HER!

Why not? Because you're GIVING AWAY ALL OF YOUR POWER when
you do that.

That's what ALL men want from her... don't make me come
over there and shake you!

You say that you have my eBook. I want you to QUICKLY open
up the bonus booklet that came along with it called "Sex
Secrets". Inside you'll read what to do.

You need to get her turned on more... to the point where
she's ripping your clothes off. Don't just give her
pleasure like Mr. Wussy... that's old. She can get that
anywhere.

You need to be different. You need to build anticipation
and amplify the ATTRACTION. If you don't you're probably
going to find her getting bored of you because you're
so predictable and boring.

Trust me.


***QUESTION***

Hi Dave, I need your help !!!

My situation is this..... When I go to clubs, I don’t have to
much problem going over to a girl that I like, so it isn’t a
lack of confidence. But after a short space of time I find
myself struggling to keep the conversation going and start
asking the boring questions like, Where do you come from ?
How long have you lived there ? Do you drive ?

BORING.......

What the hell do you ask a girl you know nothing about ?


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, you do need my help.

The answer is simple:

STOP TRYING TO KEEP THE CONVERSATION GOING.

As soon as you start talking, END the conversation.

Say "It was nice meeting you, I'm going to get back to my
friends..." then turn away. Quickly turn back and say "Hey!
Do you have email?" If she says yes, pull out a pen and
paper and say "Here, write it down... I'd like to talk to
you again."

It's really not that difficult.

The problem in busy, crowded public situations is that
there are WAY too many distractions. You're competing with
music, loud drunk people, or whatever else is around. It's
like trying have a meaningful conversation at a baseball
game.

Instead, get the info, and move on. If you follow up with
a charming email, you'll hear back 50%-80% of the time (in
my experience).

And for GODSAKES... STOP ASKING BORING QUESTIONS! You're
not on a job interview. And neither is she. Boring, lame,
typical questions only position you as an average dork.



***QUESTION***

Dave,

Great advice you give, i used to be one of the wussy guys,
being nice and always there for the girls, but i've been
using c&f lately on new girls i meet AND ones i already knew.
it works. Really well. im no longer the 'nice guy' to them..
im the guy they all talk about. But i have a problem.. ive
learnt the hard way once... and since moved on....now the
problem has presented itself again :/ here it is...:

I get to know a group of absolute HOT chicks.. and i want
them all... so... i bust on them all... nothing wrong there..
everythings going fine... later down the track though...
they all want a piece of me..... anything wrong with that?
NOT AT ALL!!! first time this happened i blindly dove in..
hooking up with all of them.. not all at once unfortunately...
one thing wrong though... they find out about each other and
all of a sudden im the sleave bucket they never want to see
again.... WHAMO! now there were some hunnies in this group
dave, and i wanted more than just once off's with them.. ALL
of them!! but noooo... im the bad guy now. ( i can see their
point really but come on) NOW, being the Jedi Master... i
know you have the answer to my problem as the situation has
popped up again with a new group... im seeing one at the
moment but her friends are to hot to leave alone... i use c&f
on them and they love it but i see where this is going.. the
same way as it did before..... am i writing to much here??
anyway.. back to the point..... How can i avoid the same
thing happening? im sure you can see my situation... is there
a way of having.... can i say sex on here? or shall i say
shag.. ill say shag.... how can i shag them all with out them
getting bitchy about me sleeping with the others too?? now
don’t go accusing me dave of being greedy... i know you'd have
been in this situation before. i need your wisdom and quick!!

Thanks again man, you've helped me ten fold.

JF.

AUST.

P.S. im not re-reading this to see if it makes sense.. ill
leave that up to you heheheh.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, my heart really goes out to you. I'm feelin' ya. It
must be tough.

I'm going to have to make an educated guess on this one.

I'll bet that it's not the fact that you're sleeping with
all of them that's the MAIN problem... it's probably that
you didn't make it clear up front what was going on.

They probably feel like you were trying to HIDE the fact
and they CAUGHT YOU sneaking around on all of them...

When, in fact it doesn't sound like that's what you were
trying to do.

Remember, perception is more important to most people
than reality. And if a woman perceives that you're trying
to deceive her, she'll shut you down.

I'd recommend that you figure out how to make sure that
all of the women you're seeing know that you're at least
seeing other women that they know.

You don't have to get into specifics, but if you want to
prevent the "you're a sneaky bastard" problem, then
you might want to diffuse the situation before it BECOMES
a situation.

Women will accept you for whatever you are... but they
don't like it if they suspect that you're trying to pull
the wool over their eyes.


***SUCCESS STORY***

David,

How are you man? I bought your book and I really like what
you're doing. I've found your research to be right on point!
Anyways, I have some notes from the field for you and your
readers. This is a perfect example of the "unaffected and
crassness towards a hot chick" behaviour you wrote of in
your book. I was at a local club the other night and I found
a place at the bar where I noticed a lot of girls were going
to get served. So I and my friends went right to that spot
and I just sort of planted myself against the bar in a
slouching yet confident kind of way. Just playing cool and
unaffected by any hot chick going past but still making eye
contact with them. Well, inevitably a hot chick and her
friends slides up to my left. I of course look over my
shoulder at her and tell her my drink preference. She said
something about how "I should be buying her a drink", and I
said "yeah that'll happen" very sarcastically. So the
dialogue went on and of course I was wearing out the whole
cocky & funny thing and busting on her, it was working like
a charm of course. I even at one point was asked buy her
friend to pass a napkin and I did that little, she reached
for it and I pulled it away bit several times, which although
very basic was cracking her up. Needless to say, this hottie
that i had initiated conversation with was all about rubbing
her titties all over my side that was open to her, my back!
I thought of the most cocky thing I could say that was
subtley sexual and as she was rubbing those nice titties of
hers all over me, i looked her in the eyes and said, "you
really need to stop doing that!" Well, she looked at me is
such disbelief that it seemed no man has ever even slightly
suggested that she not rub her tits on him. Which obviously
has in fact never happened. Needless to say she was eyeing
me all night but I had to move on to another hottie, from
Sweden, and later in the night I saw her dragging around by
hand some big chump that she probably just met but when she
walked past me with her "boytoy" those eyes of hers were
shouting "f--k me, please!"

Well that's it for the story keep up the "good struggle",
Adam "el cholo"

P.S. (do you think that your research is just as valid for
use in Latin American countries such as Mexico?)


>>>MY COMMENTS:

To answer your last question first, I get emails from guys
all over the world who are using these techniques... so my
guess is that they're fairly universal. I'm sure that
there's a culture somewhere that isn't friendly to it, but
I haven't heard about it yet.

And as for your story... I LOVE IT!

It's a true Jedi level maneuver to bust on a woman for
doing something that any other man would pay money to
have done.

It's confusing, and, when done right, MAGICAL.

Keep up the great work. You should have 10 female stalkers
in no time at all.



***SUCCESS STORY***

Dear David,

You are the man. I just want to share a little success story
with you. I've been practicing the cocky and funny routine
online and I must say it works like magic. I talked to this
one girl for only an hour, I kept up the cocky and funny
routine the whole time, she asked for my number and called me
10 minutes later. We arranged a meeting and it went great.
I stayed in character all night and even got her to come back
to my place. We had a very passionate and heated little
session (no sex but damn close). I can barely remember the
last time I even kissed a girl, but now I think I'm starting
to understand what I was doing wrong for such a long time.
You are absolutely right when you say that it is the CHARACTER
and not the material that attracts women. This girl couldn't
get enough. I teased her all night and never let up.

Unfortunately I must have turned into a WUSSY boy at some
point between the hot and heavy session at my place and when
I dropped her off. I'm not really sure what happened. I'm
thinking maybe I screwed up by calling her the next day. She
was screening her calls obviously and never called me back.
I waited a week and tried again with a well thought out
message. I thought it was a good message but now that I
think about it, it was cocky but NOT funny. I wasn't feeling
the character. She messed up my self-esteem and it was
probably obvious in the message. But I'm over it and now I
say FORGET HER, move on to the next one. That's the only way
to get better, is by learning from our mistakes and making a
game out of it. Because that is all it is to them , A GAME.
We just have to know how to play.

Thanks David. YOU RULE.

C.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You're OK... you're doing fine. And let me echo a comment
that you made (which came from me, of course), because it's
SOOO important:

"...now I think I'm starting to understand what I was doing
wrong for such a long time. You are absolutely right when
you say that it is the CHARACTER and not the material that
attracts women..."

You MUST get into the right CHARACTER in order to make this
whole male-female-ATTRACTION thing work. You need to play
the ROLE correctly.

In fact, if the CHARACTER is right, you can actually screw
up a lot of the specific technical things (calling too soon,
saying Wuss-Bag things, etc.) and still have great success.

But if the character is WRONG, then you're going to have a
very hard time making things work... even if you are using
ALL of the techniques correctly.

Thanks for your email, that's such an important point.


***QUESTION***

HER: "If you think I'm going to sleep with you, after you've
spent the last couple of hours teasing and taking the mickey,
think again!"

ME: No answer, just a slight smile... (Six months ago,
SuperWuss would've said "But honey, please... I was only
kidding!")

One hour later, in bed:
HER: "I don't want to just be another one in your harem, you
know!"
ME: No answer, just another slight smile, and a kiss on the
neck. (Six months ago, SuperWuss would've said "But honey,
you know I really really respect you and love you....")

Five minutes later, her legs are locked around my waist:-)

You know Dave, I'm in an incredibly funny space right now: I
am CONSTANTLY saying to myself "Jeez... Did I just get away
with saying/doing THAT???" LOL I'm having the time of my life,
and it's all thanks to you. I'd like to meet you in person one
day, and shake your hand!

Anyway, my question: Every guy's been in this situation,
you're walking out somewhere with a beautiful girl, and some
other guy (or guys) makes a whistle or 'Hey baby' comment to
your girl... What's a good C+F response to this? What I'm
concerned about is using the situation to make the girl MORE
attracted to ME, rather than putting down the guy. Part of me
wants to tell the guy to butt out and mind his own
business/get his own girl etc. but I'm aware that not only
will this possibly make me look like an insecure, jealous
asshole, but could also get me into a potentially dangerous
situation that would ruin the good evening I have planned. On
the other hand, I worry that no response at all may look like
I'm a mouse not a man! I thought about saying to my girl
"Damn! I wish these gays would just leave me alone!", making
out it was ME the guy was hitting on, but I'm not sure if I
want to put the idea I'm gay into her mind LOL. What do you
think?

regards,

R London UK


>>>MY COMMENTS:

GREAT question.

Well, remember, every situation is an opportunity to
INCREASE THE ATTRACTION.

These are great opportunities to position yourself in her
mind in a way that sets you apart from all other guys.

What would most guys do in this situation?

1. Get insecure and jealous.

2. Start a fight.

3. Pull the woman closer.

4. Act intimidated.

Your idea is great... making a joke out of it by suggesting
that the guy is trying to pick you up.

Another idea is to just keep walking without even paying
notice to it, then a moment later commenting "Don't you just
love the way typical guys act? Classy, isn't it?"

This, in effect, lumps other guys into a group and sets you
apart from it.

By not reacting at all to other men's advances, you also
show that you're not easily upset.

I think that if you let things upset you, that you open
yourself to manipulative behaviors that involve getting you
upset.

Much better to smile and not let things get to you... because
the irony of it is that if you let things get to you, they
will.


***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

I am a lady and read your spam for the fun of it. Boy are you
all wet and not dry behind the ears yet when it comes to
knowing how to attract a lady. I suppose you do all right
attracting the ugly ducklings that want to be your door mat.

Making fun of the way a lady is not attractive, it just shows
what a rude jerk you really are and have no manners. Faking
being busy on the phone is one of the oldest tricks in the
book and all women are wise to it. If you were truly busy,
you would not have called in the first place and women know
this. Waiting a certain length of time to call is just
ignorance. Out of sight, out of mind is the way most women
think about men, when you snooze, you loose.

Darlin, get real, this is 2002, head games are a definate no
no, honesty is in, or has it been so long since you have
attracted a lady instead of a door mat you don't know this.
Women have more brains than men and all women know we are
sitting on the world men are trying to win, so being rude and
making a real pain in the butt out of yourself may get you a
door mat but never a lady.

Keep your nonsense flowing, us women get a real good laugh
from your advice on how to score. The old saying sure holds
true with your writing," Those who can do, those who can't
write a book on how to". haha!


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well I guess you told me!

Here's what I heard you say (my interpretations, of course):

1. Waiting to call a woman back is a bad idea, and if you
don't call her immediately then she'll forget you and not
want to ever see you again.

2. Women are smarter than men.

3. Women are "sitting on the world men are trying to win",
which I'm assuming means what you have between your legs.

4. That you believe I promote "being rude" and "faking being
busy".

OK, where do I start?

I don't know, but I have sneakin' suspicion that you share
the CRACK PIPE with the STONED woman from last week. Don't
tell me that you're a base-head too?

Well, I guess you asked for it, with your off-the-handle
emotional rant... so here goes. (Can you believe that I get
to have this much fun... and call it work?)

So you think that waiting to call a woman back is a bad
idea, huh?

And you think that if you don't call her back immediately
that she'll have forgotten you... and just not be interested.

This is an interesting line of thinking.

If you're high.

Look, it's soooo commonly known that it's not a good idea
to call a woman the moment after you've met her that even
guys who have never seen the movie SWINGERS know not to
do it!

Yea, I see. I think that from now on, I'll just ask women
for their cel phone numbers, then call them right after I
walk away. I can say "Hi... it's me! Look over your left
shoulder! Here I am! [Waving my arms around]"

That would be cool.

I'd make fun of this idea more, but I have a minimum of
three more incredibly stupid ideas of yours to bust on...

So you think that women are smarter than men, huh? Your
exact comment was "Women have more brains than men". You
know, this is genius level thinking. It's probably because
you're smarter than me that you actually know this.

I'll bet, though, that because you've smoked so much CRACK
that you've killed enough brain cells to make us at least
EQUALLY "brainy". Just a hunch.

I think you took a step down the wrong path with this
comment.

And then you started RUNNING FULL SPEED down that same
wrong path with:

"...all women know we are sitting on the world men are
trying to win..."

Do me a favor... next time you send me an email like this,
send me your address so I can PAY YOU for your
contribution. I wish I could come up with stuff like this
myself.

I see that you've written me an email, so you must have
access to a computer (just a guess). But it seems to me
that you must be pretty new to the internet, because you
obviously haven't figured out that any man can get online
and within 30 seconds be looking at beautiful naked women
for free.

And if they really have a mind to not have to listen to
your mouth AND AT THE SAME TIME "win" the "world" that
women like yourself are sitting on, ALL THEY HAVE TO DO
IS FLY TO VEGAS AND GET A CAB OUT TO THE CHICKEN RANCH!

This is 2002! It's not the dark ages.

I feel like I can speak for most of the guys on this
newsletter when I say that we would like to meet women
who are emotionally stable, friendly, happy, financially
together, etc. (I don't expect you to be able to identify
with this description... don't worry about it.)

It's not our desire to just "win what you're sitting on".

We don't have to anymore. We improve ourselves in this
area because we WANT TO. We're not interested in playing
"Hi there Miss, will you please give me some attention and
some of what you're sitting on?"

And finally, to address your comment that implies that I
teach men to be rude and to fake things...

You're missing the boat entirely. It's like a joke, you
either get it or you don't. And you don't.

Remember, send your address next time! And also try the
spelling and grammar check in your word processor, because
you write like an emotionally unstable middle-schooler.


***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey,

I have been reading your news letters for awhile now and
decided that I would give it a shot, I got a few one night
stands and then met this girl that I felt really strong for
and went ahead and used what I had learned cocky and funny,
it worked, since I wanted her to be a long term relationship
I also added in some nice, sweet, subtle compliments in along
the way and it worked we have now been together for about a
month and a half. All that stuff that you said taught me was
fantastic for one night stands and even long term. Those
people that say it doesn't work are either:

1. Too much of a wuss to try it or

2. have tried it once and only once and probably messed it up
along the way got shot down and are to much of a wuss to get
back up and try it agian. Right on for your advice and keep it
coming, you never know when it might come in handy.

R.J.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, I'm going to comment on the "R" word... relationships.

If you attract a woman using these techniques, then you must
remember to KEEP IT FUN AND INTERESTING for her as you move
into a relationship.

You've got the formula right... slowly start doing more
"relationship" type things, subtly complimenting her, etc.

Too many guys switch from being charming, challenging, and
interesting to being full-on WUSSIES when it comes time to
do the relationship thing... which, of course, drives the
woman away.

You must remember that when a woman feels ATTRACTION for you,
she's feeling it for a REASON. Make sure you keep that reason
going into the future!


***COMMENT***

Cocky and funny is absolutely the best technique for
getting women, but there is still more to it. Keeping your
composure is also very important. If for any reason you say...
trip and fall... then don't overreact! Every human on the
face of the planet makes mistakes similar to that, and you
make it a lot worse by blowing it out of proportion by
freaking out in crazy embarrassed way. Just get back up, laugh
a little and say a little "oops" or something then go on like
nothing happened. Act like you aren't fazed when you screw up
around girls. It gives an overwhelming sense to the girls
that you are one confident badass.

Confidence is beyond important. You cannot show fear of
anything. People have got to look at the world as their own
playground, where everybody else is just their string puppets
for them to control to get what they want. You've got to emit
the sense to whatever girl you are trying to hook up with
that you think anything is possible. There is no fear, and
thus there is only supreme confidence. Supreme confidence
will bring you supreme women.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah, one of my favorite topics: COMPOSURE.

I have been thinking a lot about the concept of composure
lately. I'm actually writing a section on it in a future
book... and I spent some time talking about it in the
Los Angeles seminar back in May.

Composure if vital because we humans tend to read very
subtle cues from others, then make large judgments about
them as people.

For instance, if you're the type that let's little things
bother you, then you're probably going to be thought of as
not-exactly-masculine.

For instance, let's say that you're out with a girl for
coffee, and you come out to find a parking ticket on your
car. Some guys I know wouldn't even think about it...
they'd just get upset. They'd start whining, ranting and
raving... and throwing a tantrum... with no regard for
what the woman is thinking of them.

On the other hand, I know guys who would causally pick
up the ticket, make a funny comment, and not even miss
a beat.

What's the difference?

The guy who keeps his composure at all times is FAR more
attractive than the one who doesn't.

Another place that composure plays an important part is
when women TEST men. If a woman starts trying to push
your buttons, becomes demanding, or starts being dramatic
about something, you need to KEEP YOUR COOL.

In fact, some of the guys I know who are THE MOST
successful with women actually don't even respond AT ALL
to drama or tests from women.

They just continue what they were doing.

Oh the other hand, I know some guys who let this kind
of thing take them off balance and upset them (I used
to be one of those guys).

If you let things like this upset you, or even get to
you a little bit, it's going to be obvious that you
can't control your emotions, and it will make you less
attractive all the way around.

Keep your composure. Keep your composure. Keep your
composure.


***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Hey Dave,

I'm a female reader, but I still love receiving your
newsletter. I know where you're coming from with a lot of the
information you explain to the readers. I have plenty of
guyfriends and I am definitely attracted to those jerky kinda
guys. Your newsletter can apply to the ways women can get
pick up men too.. I mean, a lot of times, its about the
approach and confidence level, so it works for some women.
Sometimes things you write make me laugh because they're right
on the money and other times I'm like "DAMN so that’s what the
guy was trying to do". It's enjoyable seeing the techniques
that guys use and their point of views. Do you think there are
any other newsletters like this out there.. but for gals like
myself? Keep up the great work!

-c


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Did I mention that I love honest women? Another letter that
speaks for itself... thank you!


***QUESTION***

Dear Doctor David,

Please come round here and kill me I am so pathetic. Ive read
your book twice now and should be putting some of it to good
use. But it seems that I am completely inept at doing so. Ive
just been talking to this fine young lady at the gym. (By the
way Ive been out of circulation for quite some time now since
my divorce and I'm way out of practice) Anyway I was just
talking to her and all of a sudden I started to go into wuss
mode I even forgot here name as soon as she told me so i
asked here it again, so pathetic! I also hung around for a
little bit to long plus I never asked for her email.

Now I would really like to get to know this girl take her out
on a date etc. But I'm really sure that I've blown my chances.
Although she seemed interested mostly apart from the forgeting
her name part Next time I see her I really want to recover the
situation and act properly, maybe I should pretend to forget
her name again make a joke of it. what do you think.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

By the way your last news letter was awesome, very
informative, I just hope that I can put it to some good use
and become a "Jedi Master!"

Best regards

AM

Lancaster, England.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Hey, you're doing fine.

Every one of us is in a different place in life, and you're
going to get this figured out.

The more you deal with attractive women, the more relaxed
you'll NATURALLY become, and the more easily you'll remember
to do the things you need to do in these situations.

Next time you see this woman, just go about your business
and see if she starts talking to you. If not, no big deal.

The second time you see her at the gym, then talk to her.
At that point, casually say "Hey, do you have email?" Then
get it and LEAVE IMMEDIATELY... have somewhere you're
going... don't linger.

Send her a charming email, and meet her for tea. You're
doing great.

And by the way, stop calling me Doctor. Everyone's going to
start thinking that I'm smart or something.

Hey, maybe I should get one of those Internet PhD's, huh?

"Huh Huh, Hey Beavith... huh huh... that would be kewl."


***QUESTION***

HI David, you are THE MAN!!!

I am in recovery of what you may call "success-with-women"
coma, I was on life support until I found your website, then
EVERYTHING changed!!!! I have managed to go out with girls
that are 8's or 9's in my scale, thing which I haven't done
in almost 5 years (after breaking up with my cheating
girlfriend). Anyway, we went out with some friends to dinner
on saturday and one of our girl-friends went with this blonde
that was an 9.5-10. So one of my friends started hitting on
her (according to most girls he is very good looking) and she
was paying attention to him.... at first! I started with my
cocky & funny routine and she was all over me!! To make things
short I walked home with her email, home and cell phone number
and my friend ended up with... NOTHING. I wouldn't have been
able to do that in other time. THANKS!!!!

Now my question. There's this girl at the gym I go to, we
have been flirting, and I haven't talked to her, yet. I can't
come up with really good cocky and funny lines, any
suggestions?

Thanks again!!!

AMFdP


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, you'd better hurry up, because the guy in the last
email I commented on is probably at the gym picking her up
right now!

And the funny thing is that I'm going to give you the same
advice. In these kinds of situations, it's best to get the
email address, then send an email the next day. Start a
dialogue, then get her on the phone and meet her for
coffee. It's simple.

Whenever you're in doubt, just remember to take one small
step... don't make a big deal. All you need to do is get
an email and number... then take the next step... and the
next... and the rest will take care of itself.


***COMMENT***

G'day,

You said: "You know, I'm really tired of you women treating
me like some kind of piece of meat. I have feelings too, and
I don't just like being thought of as a sex object."

When she gets over that, why not follow up with: "I bet you'd
kill for my waist too."

It doesn't matter if she's really slim or not. The formula is
magic and it gets easier the more you use it.

From J in Melbourne


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You know, that's a great follow up.

Funny, but a friend of mine in Australia came up with that
original Cocky and Funny approach of "I'm not just a sex
object... I have feelings too" and it's not surprising to
me that someone else from down under would come up with
a great add-on to it.

Nice!

Turning the sexual stereotype roles around, then having
fun with them is a GREAT way to keep conversations going,
and a great way to have fun.



***QUESTION***

OK, I'll keep this short and sweet. I used to SUCK at
getting girls and was terrified of rejection and talking to
strange girls in public. Bought your book, and changed my
whole approach to women. I was in future shop and this
sales-girl dropped this palm screen-cover that I was going
to buy between two glass display cases. So I immediately
starting busting on her with a serious face how she did it
on purpose, just because it was the only one they had in the
store. Anyhow when I was leaving, I told her the least she
could do was to give me her number. She laughed and did, and
I called her the next day. She said she had to go and was
busy, so I told her I bought another screen-cover at her
competition store, to keep up the Cocky & Funny. I called
back 2 more times and each time she was busy. This has
happened a few times when I have called girls after getting
their number. Sometimes I wait a few days after getting a
girl's number, so I don't appear desperate; but this doesn't
seem to have it's desired effect. But I am obviously doing
something wrong because once I get the number, it usually
ends there. When is it best to call a girl after getting her
number, and what's the secret to success to meet quickly for
your half-hour cup of tea plan after getting a girl's number?


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I have just one word for you:

EMAIL.

Get the email.

You'll get probably twice as many emails returned the first
time as you will phone calls.

And with email, you can follow up if she doesn't email
you back.

#2 can say:

"What, playing hard to get so soon? Talk to me."

...and it doesn't come off as needy.

If you CALL and say that, it does come off as needy.

Don't ask me why, but it seems that email has all kinds of
great benefits that the phone doesn't.

Start the dialogue with email, then switch to a short
phone call to set up the first meeting... then move to
meeting in person. Works much better.


***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey Dave,

Your stuff is amazing. Check out this success story. I was at
a coffee shop with some friends. I was sitting at a table all
by myself right next to my friends, because there wasn't
enough room for all of us to sit at the same table. I had two
empty chairs at my table. This hottie comes in with two of
her female friends. As she was ordering her coffee, we make
eye contact, and after four to five seconds I look at my
watch. She does the same thing. I know she was checking me
out. She comes and sits at the table in front of me. There
were only two chairs at her table. She walks up to me and
says:

Can I borrow a chair. I said : Sure. I know. Wussy. But it
gets better. She takes the chair and sits but her back is
facing me. So I tell her: "Excuse me I was nice enough to
let you borrow my chair and all of a sudden you turn your
back on me. " Oh I 'm sorry, well where do you want me to
sit" She says. So I say " why don't you tell your two friends
to push a little bit and you sit there, therefore you don't
have your back turned on me and you can see my pretty face.
She starts laughing as she's moving over. So I accused her.
"Are you laughing in my face. My face is not to be laughed
at, it is to be admired." She comes and sits at my table,
where there was the other chair

HER: Sorry but I wasn't laughing in your face
ME: Yes you were.
HER: I am sorry then. My name is Lisa
ME: I am glad you told me but it's too late for first
impressions. Look at you, right now you have your back
turned on your friends. This is very disrespectful.
HER: Oh come on stop it.
ME: Stop what, this is reality
HER: Well where do you want me to sit
ME: You can come and sit next to me, my back is facing the
window. (she actually came and sat next to me.She asked
me for a light)
HER: Can I borrow your lighter
ME: Well it all depends
HER: It depends on what
ME: On whether you want to light up your cigarette, or you
want to light up a fire in this coffee shop. (she starts
laughing, so I kept on going), because if it's the second
one then forget it, I have my fingerprints on this lighter
and I will be accused for your actions. (she continues to
laugh)
HER: No I want to light up my cigarette.
ME: Well now that we have established that fact, what do I
get in return.
HER: In return for what
ME: Well listen, I let you borrow my chair and i didn't say
anything, but my lighter is pushing it. So I want to get
something in return.
HER: A hug
ME: You can do better than that
HER: OK a kiss
ME: I tell you what. you give me a hug for letting you borrow
my chair and a kiss for my lighter.
HER: Wo. You're pushing it
ME: Fine no lighter. And I will go and get my chair back.
( As I get up she stops me)
HER: Ok fine. ( So i got the kiss and the hug, This routine is
amazing)
HER: I like your watch
ME: Thanks. This watch has a battery that has 100 years
guarantee. I will be dead and the watch will still be
working. ( she starts laughing).
ME: You want to try it on
HER: Ya sure ( she wears it)
ME: Naa, it doesn't look good on you. I, on the other hand,
make it look good. (And I grabbed it out of of her wrist)

After some small talk I got her e-mail and phone number. We
have been out a couple of times but I play everything
according to your book. I end all conversations and phone
calls. I have here call me and say that I am busy. i have
established that I want to be just friends. I still accuse
her for having her back turned on people so therefore she
always sits next to me because I always sit by the window.
Thanks for all the advice
Pure genius


>>>MY COMMENTS:

What a great example of how to interact with a woman...
so you both have fun, and she experiences a wonderful,
challenging experience which only amplifies her attraction.

Very nice.


***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

You are indeed the man! I have been running around in the
dark but thanks to your book the light has finally come on,
and I realize that my wires have been crossed. In the past
when I would meet an attractive woman I would do the old
"roll over and play wuss" and she would just want to be
friends. And the girls that I only wanted to be friends with
I would be all C&F with and they would be calling all the
time, telling me how funny I am and how I have Charisma (and
I do). But I just couldn't see what I was doing wrong.

Now after reading your book it all makes perfect sense to
me. Now I treat 10's like they are 2's (still giving up human
respect, no one likes a "true" a##hole!) But just because
they won the "genetic lotto" doesn't mean I or any other man
should feel the need to kiss their ass. Now I just treat them
like they were one of my friends and let them know that until
they show me why I should "lower my standards"(ha..ha) that's
all they will ever be. And dude... it dives them nuts. And
the few that throw a little "tiff" I just tell them I'm not
their "boyfriend" so they better have their fit on someone
else's time.

Thanks again,

D.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nothing else really needs to be said. Preach it.

...and that about wraps it up.

Let me ask you a question... are you at a point in your life
where it's time to start learning about how the whole concept
of "women and dating" works better?

Have you been walking around trying to make sense out of why
women are attracted to some men, but not attracted to others?

Have you seen average-looking guys or guy friends who seem to
be able to attract beautiful women... even though they didn't
have looks, fame, or money?

Well, if you'd like to get a behind-the-scenes look into the
minds of women, and you'd like to learn the techniques for
attracting women and creating ATTRACTION that it's taken me
literally YEARS to figure out, then I'd recommend you go and
download a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating."

Inside I'll give you the codes to the locked safe of the female
mind. You'll learn the REAL story behind why women are attracted
to some men, and not to others.

Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now and download your copy.

I'll talk to you again in a few days.

Your Friend,

David D.




***If you'd like to send me a Success Story, Question,
or Comment, follow these guidelines***

1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max.

2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your
question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuff is great"
and "I don't need to tell you how well your stuff works"
comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of
the specifics... because this helps other guys to see
what's working in different situations.

3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in
the subject line of the email. I read these first.

4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell
me where you're from.

5) Send it to me at:

SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com
DATING TIP: WOMEN ARE NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF
DATING TIP: Women Are Nothing To Be Afraid Of

What prevents men from being successful with women?

Well, the list goes on and on... but one of the elements
that TOPS the list is FEAR.

There are many different situations that make men feel
fear, but I'd like to talk about some of the most common
ones... and what to do about them.

First of all, I'd like you to be honest for a moment
about this topic.

Do you ever feel FEAR when it comes to women and dating?

Have you ever seen a woman that you'd really like to meet,
but you started to feel fear, and didn't do anything about
it?

Or maybe you were on a date, and you wanted to kiss a
woman... but you felt too afraid because you didn't want to
make a mistake and screw up your chances?

Or maybe you even got a woman's phone number, but you
were too afraid to call back because you didn't know how to
start off the conversation or ask her out?

I'm sure you know that most guys would rather admit in
public that they were unsure about their sexual orientation
than that they were afraid of women.

Of course, this only makes matters worse...

If you don't admit that you have the problem, then it's
hard to get help and answers to it.

Well, the good news is that you're not alone.

Almost every guy I've known (including myself) has dealt
with this issue MANY TIMES with women.

So STEP 1 is to GET OVER IT, and come to grips with the
fact that you're human... STEP 2 is to admit that you'd
like to get this particular thing handled.

Once you realize that it's not that big of a deal, then
the improvement can start. On the other hand, if you just
stay in denial about it, you'll probably just look for new
tricks and techniques to use on women... which, of course,
won't lead to any REAL improvement.

I personally think that one of the biggest causes of
fear when it comes to situations with women is:

PUTTING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON WHAT THE WOMAN THINKS OF
YOU AND WHAT HAPPENS IN THAT PARTICULAR SITUATION.

To put it in different words, most guys don't take
action because they're afraid that they'll screw up or
that the woman (or others around them) will judge them to
be stupid.

The REAL problem, though, is that this whole process
has become AUTOMATIC, and it happens INSTANTLY the moment
most guys see a woman that they'd like to meet. Before
they even have a chance to think about the situation
rationally, they've become nervous, insecure, and upset.

I'm sure you know exactly what I'm talking about.

As humans, we have these incredible minds and bodies,
but sometimes they get wired up in ways that aren't
exactly useful for the situations that we find ourselves
in. Worse, sometimes our cultures, families, or peer
groups teach us ways of thinking that just aren't useful
at all for what we'd like to accomplish.

Here's something that I realized a few years ago when
I was learning for myself how to be successful with
women...

I thought about this idea that I was having this
instant, automatic fear in different situations with
women, and that I was really thinking "I don't want to
screw this up" and "I don't want her to think that I'm
a dork"...

And all of a sudden something dawned on me:

IT DOESN'T MATTER.

It doesn't matter what happens, and it doesn't matter
what she thinks of me.

I realized that the fears I was experiencing were more
from PROGRAMMING than from reality.

So I started to remind myself as often as possible
that the fear wasn't happening because there was any
kind of danger... and that my objective in a particular
situation wasn't to have it turn out perfect, IT WAS TO
LEARN.

So, for instance, if I saw a woman that I wanted to
meet, instead of thinking "OK, I have to say something
charming and original so she'll like me... and if I
screw up I'm going to be embarrassed" I began to think
things like "I'm going to learn how to get a woman's
phone number within a few minutes of meeting her... and
part of learning this is going to be trying a lot of
different things that probably aren't going to work...
but in the end, it's all going to even out because I'm
going to have the SKILL that I want."

See the difference?

Well, let me tell you, that attitude change made a
HUGE impact on my success. I was willing to do and try
things that I never would have tried in the past for
fear of screwing up...

All because I had the attitude of "I'm going to learn
something from this and improve my skills... and it
doesn't matter what happens in THIS PARTICULAR situation"
I was able to improve very rapidly.

And the more I began to apply this idea, the more
success I had in ALL areas with women... from the first
meeting, to getting them to go out with me, to taking
things to a physical level.

That's one good idea for dealing with your fears.

If you'd like to read more of my personal secrets
for overcoming fear, including specific mental exercises
and physical drills, then I'd recommend that you download
a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating". It's full
of all my very best thinking on this and many other
subjects about success with women.

Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now and get it. At my website I also give several other
great tips and ideas, so make sure and check it out.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

Dating Tip Q&A: Answers To Common Questions About The Products

I get quite a few questions about my book, CD audio series
and live seminar, and I thought I'd take a minute and share
a little more about them, and answer some common questions.

Probably the biggest question is something like:

"Which one should I get? Or should I get all of them? Do they
all cover the same stuff?" etc.

The answer is that each has its own benefits, but you will
learn something different from each.

A lot of people seem to have the misconception that my
seminars and audio series are just more of the same stuff
I cover in my book explained over and over.

To set the records straight, this isn't even close to
accurate.

Of course I talk about some of the same concepts in the
seminar and audio series, but I also go into depth and teach
literally dozens of concepts, techniques, and secrets that
I've never shared before anywhere.

I'd estimate that about 80% of the seminar and CD series
are totally new material that you haven't heard before and
won't hear ANYWHERE.

In fact, I've been working on two new books for about a
year now that contain even more great material, and the CD
program and seminar contain a lot of ideas that won't even
be available in those books.

If I transcribed the seminar or CD program and printed
it all out on paper it would probably be a thousand pages
or more... it just wouldn't be practical.

In any event, if you want to really get a mind-blowing
experience, check out the audio program.

If you want to feel like superman, come to a seminar.

Both will improve your success with women dramatically.

Now, the next question is "well, should I just buy the
audio program and skip the eBook, since everything is
covered in the CDs?"

This makes more sense, but the fact is that I actually
left out some of the materials that I teach in Double Your
Dating because I assume that you will have read my eBook
before you make a bigger investment.

Double Your Dating (my eBook) is kind of like a great
first album from a new band... it's really very raw and
uncensored. It was me putting down on paper the very best
ideas and techniques that I had learned, developed, and
mastered over the few years that I had put into learning
about women and dating.

There's something special about being able to read it
in over a few hours and really get the gist of what I
think and teach. And it's a great reference manual to use
for different situations. The bonus booklets that come
along with it are also very useful... they condense some
great ideas about personality types, how to get women
turned on, etc. in a condensed format.

I think it's the best place to start.

And if you think that listening to the CDs will be
"just as good" as coming to a live seminar and actually
being involved, then I recommend that you reconsider.

I've put a lot of time, thought, and energy into
creating a great three-day program, and the exercises that
you'll do with other guys, interaction you'll have with me,
and other benefits cannot be duplicated by listening to
something passively. I mean, the CDs are killer, but if
you really want to get my best, come join me live (The NY
seminar is basically sold out... but email if you want to
be put on the waiting list).

By the way, I've updated the CD Audio Series page with
a bunch of great SAMPLES, and I've put a few letters that
I got from listeners. Go check it out, I think you'll enjoy.

They're all at the end of the page:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/advancedseries

And in case you haven't been there lately, the main
Double Your Dating page contains some great samples from
my eBook. That's all at:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

Talk to you in a few days.

Your Friend,

David D.



THE MAILBAG: Critical Mistakes To Avoid With Women


***QUESTION***

Dave,

Dude i must say your a genius. I just graduated from
high school, when i was in school i was always shy around
girls an didn’t know what to say,you've helped me open up my
eyes to what i should of been doing a long time ago. Now
I've got 2 girls that both want me , an i really dont know
how to handle that. Any suggestions????? None of my friends
are giving me any good answers. Im sure u have some . Help
me out if u get a chance, u dont gotta publish it in your
emails u send to everyone . I just really wanna know what
to do, i dont want to fu** this up. Any help would be
greatly appreciated.

JF in Va.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, well it doesn't sound like too much of a problem to me.

You have two girls that like you, what's the issue?!

You're going to have to decide if you'd like:

1) A relationship with one of them.

2) To be single and date both of them.

If you want a relationship, then pick the one you like, and
go out with her more than once a week.

If you DON'T want a relationship right now, then don't see
EITHER of them more than about once a week (twice once in
awhile is OK, but any more than that and a woman will start
to go into relationship mode AUTOMATICALLY).

There is no problem with more than one woman liking you, the
problem comes if you start being dishonest and not-up-front
in your dealings with them.

These are great problems to have, really!



***COMMENT***

There is a lot of guys that says:

"I want a woman to like me for "who I am"...
"I don't want to be pretending like I'm someone else..."
"I want to "be myself"... I don't like the idea of pretending
to be someone that I'm not..."

I was the typical Nice-Guy-Wussy-Clingy, but I have read
your newsletter and I have downloaded your book six months
ago, and in six month I have date more women than in six
year, first I didn't believe in being Cocky & Funny, but
after trying again and again, I have a lot of success and
the best of all is that I FEEL that Cocky & Funny is a part
of my personality, I ENJOY a lot being Cocky & Funny, but
I'm not only C&F with the girls that I meet, I'm C&F with
my brother, sister, my friends and with everyone !!!

Thanks David, for all, It's like a dream , Thanks Again.

Some Day I will shake your hand..

JP from Argentina


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Congratulations. You've figured something out that a lot of
guys NEVER get their entire lives...

You've realized that you can actually enjoy yourself, and
make Cocky and Funny, as well as the other techniques, a part
of your personality.

I'm glad things are working out for you, and it would be great
to shake your hand one day (no kissing, though).



***QUESTION***

Hello,

I recently downloaded your e-book, and that combined with
your email newsletters have helped me land more email
addresses/phone #s in the last several months than the rest
of my 24 year life combined. I now see some of the stuff I
have been doing wrong over the years and some things to do
to correct my behavior and attitudes towards women. The
cocky/funny attitude definitely works, when used in the
right context. I still feel awkward since I'm fairly new at
these new "techniques" but I know I am on the right track.

However, I have some challenging questions for you. Getting
a phone number or email address for me obviously hasn't been
enough, and I'll explain why:

When I call a girl's phone number, I often don't get through
(yes, I remember your figure of something like 1 in 3 times
on average). Obviously if I want a date, I'll have to try
again later, or leave a message if she has voice mail. That
leads me to the first question, should I leave a
(cocky/funny) message, or just try again later? I am afraid
that leaving a message for someone I hardly know might make
me come off as too desperate (so far I have NEVER gotten a
response after leaving a message), but then when I call
again and again (within reason, I give it some time between
calls, and I won't try more than a couple times in a day)
attempting to reach a girl in person, I'm afraid that she
might have caller ID and figure out that I kept calling her,
which would also make me come across as needy and desperate.
Or, should I just give up, and move on to somebody else,
even with the possibility that the girl I tried calling
really likes me and simply wasn't there to answer my call?

My second question is an even tougher one. Over the summer
I've emailed about 12 different girls asking for dates. I
will provide the text of a typical message in a minute here.
However, I have to date gotten ONE response back (there goes
your 60% theory...). I originally thought there must be
something wrong with my account, but then I realized my
emails get prompt responses from other friends and family
members, so I don't think this is the case (only once did I
get a "delivery failure" notification). So...what is going
on here--am I just having an incredibly bad streak of luck,
or am I doing something drastically wrong? And if the latter,
what is it--am I coming off as a wuss, does my email address
turn them off, or what? Now, here is what I said in one of
my messages (this is a typical example):

(Girl's name),
It was nice meeting you at the meteorology picnic, and
welcome to the department. I'm curious to know what you're
taking as an undergrad, as I came here straight for the
graduate program.

I'll have a lot of things to do over the next couple of
days, but let's try and get together later this weekend--and
we can have some fun and get to know each other better.
(My name)

I think that was a pretty good email, although I wonder if
maybe I should have asked for her number too...anyway I'll
leave it up to you to analyze.

One final question: Should I always get a girl's phone
number or email address in the first meeting, if I am sure I
will see her again? For example, at the picnic aformentioned
in my email example, I met another cute girl at the end of
the evening (she's in my academic department, so I know I'll
see her again eventually), but she was leaving, I was
already on my way to my car, and my hands were completely
full with food. Thus it would have been totally
inconvenient and awkward to stop and write down an email
address or phone number. Is it better just to hold off in
certain situations like this one?

Anyways...thanks for any help and advice you can give me.

N.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, let's start with the good...

Great job getting more email addresses and numbers lately
than in the last 24 YEARS!... lol.

You mention above that you've read my book, but what you've
said above leads me to believe that you didn't really pay
much attention when you did.

I'm not even going to address your issue of calling women,
as you should probably be focusing on emailing first.

I guess I'm confused, because you ask for advice about what
to do when calling, then you send me a sample EMAIL that to
critique. OK, about the email...

Let's start with "It was nice meeting you at the METEOROLOGY
picnic, and welcome to the department..."

What kind of lame opening is this?

Then we have "I'm curious to know what you're taking as an
undergrad, as I came straight for the graduate program..."

Oh, lord help me.

Next we roll into "...let's try to get together later this
weekend--and we can have some fun and get to know each other
better..."

DON'T MAKE ME SLAP MY OWN HEAD, PLEASE.

You sound like you can't decide whether to ask her to be
your study partner, become her school counselor, or subtly
imply that you're a perv on a mission.

No no no.

You want to touch base, keep it light, and get to the
next step.

No school stuff, no interview questions, no "fun".

Try this when following up:

"Hey, it was nice meeting you last night… what are you up
to this week? Would you like to join me for a cup of
something wonderful and some stimulating conversation? Talk
to me."

...you know, just like it says word-for-word on page 83 of
Double Your Dating.

No interviews, no "fun", no lame questions about what she's
doing as an undergrad.

OK, I realize that I'm being a little harsh here, and that
you're just getting started... lol... but I have to pick
on someone!

Remember, no boring, average talk. And until you have
something that you KNOW works better, use the materials that
you paid for in my book!

As your final assignment, keep me posted on how much better
women respond to this new, improved follow-up message.

(Hint: if you still aren't getting responses, then you're
doing something when you meet them to give them the creeps.
Think about it, and make some modifications if you have to.)



***QUESTION***

Dear Jedi Master

I have written several times but my letters were never
published. This time I think I have great material to
contribute, which can help in your newsletter (one of
them is this little face, women love them even if you insert
them in the first e-mail you exchange, right after a c & f
comment).

First, my success story. I met a girl on-line on one of
those dating sites. I didn't expect anything out of it. She
had told me she was tall and cute, I didn't believe so but
actually, she turned out to be very pretty. We went out on
a date at night (she proposed it herself thanks to my c & f
e-mails), though I told her I thought it was kind of hasty,
I accepted. The whole date I kept composure, I set up a
relaxed and calm atmosphere, I just sat, laid back and
chatted. The only c & f comment I needed to send in was
this one. We were talking about the people we had met
on-line. When she asked about my experience, I said I only
met a nice girl, pretty and everything, but she was too
needy and forward so I had to tell her "let's just be
friends". She told me about hers, she went out with a nerd,
a geek who kept her the whole night talking about computers
and mathematics. I told her that "you don't get everyday
such a lucky chance to meet such a cute guy like me".
Result, in the end of the date she asked me if she could
kiss me, now she is my girlfriend and everything is great
so far.

The non verbal cocky and funny examples are many. Once, in
a disco I saw a stunning blond walking in. She was very
poshy and nose-up. As she passed by me (all the attention
was obviously focused on her) I had this genius idea. I
followed her imitating her wiggling hips and I squeezed my
nose (up) with two fingers (as if to say everybody stinks
here, except for me). As a result, everybody around us
noticed the slapstick comedy scene and was laughing out
loud, even her when she caught me.

Another example is still in a disco scene. I was enjoying my
beer with my friends sitting on a table. On the other end of
the place there were these two beauties, they were all the
time surrounded by loosers and sharks. Another idea flashed
in my mind, as our eyes met, I show her my tongue and I gave
her a raspberry. Her expression went from surprise (I can't
believe you just did that) to smile and then she cracked up
in laughter. I kept this up with other strange gestures, like
shaking my head as if to say "you're no good", then with
other gestures I told her she was a drunkard. Needless to
say, I went way further than everybody else. Another gesture
you can add after you got her attention, is to raise your
eyebrows. This approach is very good from far away cause you
can keep it up for a few minutes without even uttering a
word, without approaching her directly walking towards her.
You don't even have to worry about the loud music. Another
gesture you can do is shaking your hand with your fingers
held together (a very Italian gesture), as if to say "what
do you want from me?". And yes, it is a very good idea to
imitate and tease them when they dance. It is so nice and
fun to tease them, and they love it too.

My question is this one. I noticed that my girlfriend, when
I come out with a cocky and funny statement, still laughs
and enjoys it, but at the same time she gets frustrated and
tells me to stop it as if she doesn't like it. What does
this mean? I keep it up anyhow.

I would like to address also the issue of body language.
There are loads of girls who are too shy to look at you
straight in the eye. They give you only a side-look. I
advise to keep a friend around you so that you can catch
these shy birds as well. Message to everyone, get a book
about body language, it can save your self-esteem and a lot
of time too!

Thanks again, I still have a lot of issues to address but I
realize I am making this letter too long.

Thanks again man, keep up the good work

F from Italy


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Very nice, I'm glad you wrote in, because I was just working
on some "non-verbal" ways of being cocky and funny, and you
have figured some of them out yourself.

NICE!

One great technique you mentioned is IMITATING a woman who
is obviously very hot and/or stuck up.

You can pull your shoulders back, stick out your butt, and
put your nose in the air... then look over at her... then
laugh at yourself.

If a woman gives you a compliment, you can purse your lips
and put on an exaggerated "James Bond" Mr. Cool look and
say "she wants me" right to her face.

There are a million ways... great stuff.

To answer your question, I think it's a good idea to always
keep doing what worked in the beginning.

If a woman was attracted to you because you were Cocky and
Funny, then keep doing it later as well. If she puts up a
fuss, just say "I'm glad you like it."

The best way to keep a woman's interest is do KEEP DOING
WHAT WORKED IN THE FIRST PLACE.



***QUESTION***

Dave,

I read your newsletters religiously and they have come in
quite handy, I gotta say.

A two mos. ago, a friend and I were in a coffee shop when he
spotted a female acquaintance of his. He talked to her a bit
and said, "This is my friend...". I look at her and say,
"What's up? I'm D." This girl gives me the bitchiest
look I've ever seen and in her most appalled tone of voice
she says, "Ummmmmm, WHAT'S UP?"....as if I should address
her, "Your Highness". "What do you want me to do [her name],
bow down and kiss your hand, your Highness?"...when I said
this, she was in shock b/c I just tore down her brat barrier
and she tried to regain composure. Well sometime later, we
fooled around some and got along pretty well. The catch is,
after we fool around she gets clingy (like some wussy guy
would do). Dave, have I dug a hole for myself with this? I'd
rather give up the action than have some brat getting all
emotional and clingy for me...what do you say?

Cheers,

D. Indiana


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, this is a funny thing. If you bust a stuck-up woman's
chops enough to break through the "Brat Barrier", as you
call it, she'll often become VERY attached to you.

It's almost as if attractive women have been walking around
challenging every man they meet, and when you meet the
challenge she rolls over.

And I'll tell you what, I'd rather give up a woman than
have her be emotionally needy and clingy myself.

You just have to figure out why she's being clingy... is
it because she's a damaged person on the inside, because
you led her to believe that you wanted a relationship, or
some other reason, and do what makes sense.

Good job busting through the "Brat Barrier". I might just
steal that name...


***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

First off, mad props for taking the time to write a book
that everyone can read and use. I have yet to buy it (next
week I will though - payday), but I have been receiving your
newsletters and enjoying the material in there.

Now after receiving your emails for a few weeks, I decided
to try using the cocky and funny approach on every girl I
came across (I've always been too shy to do this
consistently.. only situationally). So I did this at work,
at coffee shops, at the bar, you name it. I hadn't tried the
email/number techniques yet though. And I had only been
doing this for a week when I happened to meet a girl that
was incredibly attractive, smart, and just the complete
package. So she received my largest C&F effort yet. It
worked like a charm! We talked for only a few minutes the
first time we met but I left an impression. The second time
we met, we chatted and joked around for a few hours and I
asked her on a date, which she readily accepted.

So we went on that date, and things went great. I was
nervous about going out with her, but from the start I made
the decision that I wanted to use her for practise. I know
that sounds bad to alot of people, but it's more of a frame
of mind than anything else. So anyhow, we went to dinner
first (yeah - I know), we talked, we joked, we had a good
time. Then we went to a movie (which was originally the
plan, to just go see this movie we both wanted to see, and
that was all.. the dinner was tacked on by her really), and
I tried a form of a kiss test.

Since we had already reached a level of
comfort/friendliness through conversation, it was time to
check out physical playfulness. So during the movie
(comedy), there were a lot of funny moments as expected.
Well, one of them was hilarious and we both went nuts
laughing, so I did the laugh and slap your own leg thing..
except I used her leg. And I did it lightly enough so that
it won't leave a mark, but stung a bit. Which is what I
wanted actually. She responded by saying "hey, that hurt!"
while smiling at me, so I said "oh, poor baby, want me to
kiss it better?". She got off on my playfulness and raised
her leg up so I could kiss it. So I kissed her leg, and I
said "There you go kid, all better!", and I followed that up
with "I hope I don't have to hit you in the face to get a
kiss!":) I still laugh when I think of that one. She
thought that was so funny she just cracked right up, it was
great! A little off the wall, but great! Then I just
waited for the next funny part, which was like, 10 seconds
later, and I looked into her eyes, down to her lips, and
back to her eyes, and kissed her. She was incredibly
responsive.

Now, I'm talking in slow motion here because that portion
setup what has been a great thing between myself and this
girl since that date. But I need to fast forward to the
problem part. So to fill in the gaps in a rather boring
fashion, the date led to a next day hot-tub at her place
(she called me), and sex the day after that. She was
completely into me. We had spent almost every single day
together for the next 3 weeks. Anytime I tried to take a
day off, she wouldn't have any of that. The sex was amazing,
and got better and better each time. And that all led to
the problem:

She through me a wicked wicked curv ball that I didn't
expect or see coming, and I didn't react the way I should
have. She not only came out and said 'I love you', she
followed that up with 'I think you are the one '!!! That
is some deep, serious shit right there. That through me off
my game big time. It was like being at the plate with no
bat while Randy Johnson throws fastballs at me. 'Holy shit!'

I ended up having a day (the next day), where I really
needed to be alone, and quiet, to contemplate this whole
scene. Unfortunately, she said those words while we were
on a camping trip... so when I was acting quiet and distant,
she didn't know what to do. She hadn't seen me like that.
So I played it off like I was grumpy. That wasn't really
the best move, but I was feeling confused. Here I have this
amazing chick who has just said some incredibly huge words
to me. I was stuck, and it turned me into a wuss again:(
That day of the camping trip sucked, and it was a short
camping trip (arrived friday night, left sunday morning),
so it wasn't a very good one. The friday night was amazing,
but what she said setup the confusion for the rest of it.

So on the Monday after we got back, we sat down and
talked, and decided that it was much too early for that and
we should take a step back and hold the 'I love you' stuff
for another time. Well, that lasted until that friday when
she came over and said "I've been thinking about this alot,
and I am SO in love with you. I know we said we didn't want
to go there, but you are just so amazing I can't picture my
life without you." Another curv ball. Another wussifying
statement. And once again, I felt confused and a little
overwhelmed. She has everything I want in a woman, and
she's telling me that I'm what she wants in a man. Well,
that changed all too quickly. I turned into a wuss. For
some dumb reason, I felt that her confessions of love
required me to be more sentimental, caring, and lubby dubby.
What the hell was I thinking!!! Exactly one week after
that, and about 4 days of me being completely off my game
and catering to her needs, she decides that she has lost the
attraction. She didn't say exactly that, but it was obvious
by our sex life which all of a sudden disappeared. So we
discussed it, and she felt like being with me was like
"training a puppy" because I lacked confidence in my
actions. At that point, I knew she was right because
lately, I wasn't acting confident in my actions. I let all
of my actions and decisions take her feelings into
consideration first, which ends up making me hesitate and
appear to lack confidence. At the same time, during the 3 or
4 days prior to that talk, she had stopped liking my jokes
and taking things offensively. I was not impressed with
that. So I brought that up after her "training a puppy"
comment, and I followed it up with a "you know what... we're
done."

And that was it, I broke up with her. Now I'm sitting
here thinking about how amazing this girl is, and how the
only reason we aren't together is because I acted like a
wuss after the "I love you"'s came out. The thing is,
everyone around us seen a stronge love between myself and
this girl, and nobody can believe it turned out like this.
Neither can I, but at least I know why.

Problem now, is that I know that we had a stonge love
(as early as it was), and I want that back. I know how
wussy that sounds, but I feel like this ended prematurely.
I feel confident that I can go out and get numbers and get
dates, etc... but it doesn't feel right at this point.

I am tempted to call her and at least say "It's too bad
things didn't work out between us, but I would like to
remain friends, blaw blaw blaw...". It has only been a
little over a day since we broke up (sunday now, and we
broke up friday night), so I don't know if I should even
bother calling her, or if I should wait a couple days to see
if she calls me, or whatever. I don't want to wait to be
honest. Despite what happened this past week, she is still
someone that is incredibly special. No other girl I've met
has had her qualities. Which is what makes this so damn
tough. So any advice you can throw me is more than
appreciated. What should I do here Dave?

Thanks,

J.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Your letter was long, but I had to include it.

Let this be a lesson to you...

DON'T TURN INTO A WUSSY.

Don't do it.

And the most important reason is the one you've demonstrated
with your situation: Because you'll screw up the one situation
that really matters, when and if it comes.

Women are NOT attracted to WUSSIES.

And men tend to start acting like wussies when they really
like a girl.

Here's what to do:

1) Don't call her.

2) Go date other women, IMMEDIATELY.

3) If you talk to her again because you ran into her or she
calls you, MENTION THAT YOU'RE DATING OTHER WOMEN, AND DO THE
THINGS YOU DID WHEN YOU FIRST MET HER THAT ATTRACTED HER IN
THE FIRST PLACE. (If you don't hear from her for a few weeks
or a month, you may call her ONCE.)

4) Write "I will not act like a WUSS-BAG again." 1,000 times.

Now, go and be a Wussy no more.



***QUESTION***

Hey there David. Great work! I love your mailbags and tips.
They are very informative and useful and have worked wonders
for my dating life. Anyways, to the point. I wanted to share
a good C+F line that has worked more than I expected it
to... And yes, I thought of it. It works good for guys who
have to overcome shyness as well. Okay it goes something
like this.

The girl you are talking to knows you are shy. So you bust
on her with C+F a bit then you mention that you are kind of
different when you get to know people better. Then you say
I guess I'm like M&M's. You got to get past that hard candy
shell and get to the sweet, sweet, chocolatty center (And
say sweet, sweet, chocolatty center in a Homer Simpson voice
if you want. I find it makes it funnier). They nearly always
laugh at this one. Then you say something to the effect of
I'm not even going to get into how else I'm like M&M's. 95%
of chicks get this... And it's got me to my final destination
many a time. ;T ... You can even follow up if they make a
comment that I hate how women see me as some type of sexual
object; a piece of meat if you will. (And in a sorta whiney
but funny voice), ITS SO DEGRADING! They love that :P Thanks
for everything Dave and keep up the great work... I'm saving
up for your book but I'm hella poor so it might take a
couple of weeks. LOL.

T.
BC, Canada


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice! I love comments that turn typical female ideas around
and make fun of them...

Like saying "I hate that women only see me as some type of
sexual object... like a piece of meat" etc.

And the M&M comment is subtle, but nice.

Good work, keep it up!



***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I’ve read your book and been reading your letters for
months, and it all makes an awful lot of sense. Though
coming from someone that has had as much experience as I
have I don’t know how much that means. I’m 19 and never been
in a relationship, well never actually gone out with a girl
unless it was purely as ‘friends’. And that’s where my
problem kicks in. I am the prodigal nice guy, basically
reverse all your advise and you’d have me.

That’s not to say I don’t have what it takes, I’m funny when
I’m with friends, and pretty carefree and even a bit cocky
when I’m with girls that I’m not at all interested in (I’m
not naturally cocky). I’ve even been told I’m cute by
several different girls, so I guess I’m not hideous. The
thing is I just can’t bring myself to make an approach. If a
girl approached me first I’d be able to get her number
(hypothetically, no real world experience here). Whenever I
have had the guts to ask a girl out in the past it’s always
the same, you’re nice and all, can we JBF?. I now know that
was because I was in complete wuss mode while asking these
girls out. And I guess I’m finding this act hard to break, I
just can’t seem to break away from Mr. Nice Guy. I’ve tried
the visualisation techniques you mention, though I guess I
just loose motivation, not because I don’t want a date, but
because I guess I believe I can’t get a date.

So if there are any pearls of wisdom you can dish out in
regards to getting over this first hurdle it would be
greatly appreciated. Think of me as a project you can mould
into the ultimate man, Funny, Cocky and Charming.

Thanks for your help in advance

T.C From Australia


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, I have two things for you to do:

1) Get online and start chatting with random women. I don't
care what service you use, but I like AOL. Just start
conversations and tease them.

Instant message a women who's obviously young and ask "Are
you 50 years old?" Mess with them. Have fun. This will
sharpen up your game, and it will show you how well women
respond when you tease them.

2) Go out to a place where there are a LOT of women, and
put yourself in a location that is IN THEIR WAY.

Here in Los Angeles we have night clubs for people over
the age of 18. Find one of these clubs, and go stand by
the bar, right where there's the MOST traffic, so a lot
of women bump into you.

This will create all kinds of opportunities to talk to
women, and many of them will start talking to you.

You'll get a lot of "excuse me" while they try to get to
the bar, etc.

Think of a few other ways to put yourself in the paths of
a lot of women, and go practice. Just do it.

Your problem is all in your mind. You need to get out there
and see that this stuff works, so you can believe in it.



***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

I need your advice:

I just recently met a guy (while he was going to a business
meeting) and I was just leaving my gym. He asked me to have
coffee, but I kind of hesitated. I didn't go, however, I
took his business card.

A few days later I decided to email him...just to say "hi."

We have been communicating via the net for a couple weeks
now. I also have had the opportunity to meet him briefly
for the first time to have coffee. Then at another time I
was with my girlfriend...and he was also with us.

He seems like a nice guy, but I don't like the way we met.
It seemed like he was trying to pick me up or something.
What I am trying to say is that, had the situation been
different, like if we met through friends or at work, I
wouldn't have this much negative thoughts about him.

Anyway, we were supposed to meet for dinner and a movie, but
then he called to tell me that he had a migraine. He seems
really interested in having go over to his place. Not
knowing well, I am very afraid to do something of this
nature... so I declined his invitations without responding.
Furthermore, he'd called again and said that he would love
to see me. Again he asked me to go to his place. He said
that he would even come to pick me up or have a taxi pick me
up. This is very insulting to me. I mean If I wanted to
see someone, I would drive to see him. Why did he have to
offer a taxi. I can't figure this guy out, but I am very
suspicious about the whole situation. It seemed to me like
the whole thing is bogus.

Please respond. I am in desperate need to find out this
guy's true intentions. Do I have the right to feel this
way, or am I just being too cautios and paranoid?

Hope to hear from you soon.

ST


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, I've included this email because I want to show you
something...

Namely, a great example of what's going on in the mind of
a "typical" woman.

Notice all of the suspicion, insecurity, reading into the
situation, attempts to decipher intentions, etc.

One of the things I say is that women don't take anything
you say or do LITERALLY. They always what to know what it
"means".

I basically NEVER see emails like this from guys.

Guys just want to know: Is she into me or not?

That's it.

Guys don't care if the woman was trying to "pick them up"
or whether they met at work or on the street, or if she
wants him to come over to her house... EVER.

But women... women are completely different. They are
ALWAYS thinking about motives, details, and "meaning".

What's my point?

Well, a lot of guys do things that make women suspicious.

Or they do things that women read into and instantly run
from...

Or they do predictable, average things and say predictable,
average things that BORE women because the woman interprets
the man's actions as AVERAGE AND UNINTERESTING.

You need to keep this stuff in mind.

This guy should have asked for her email FIRST (asking her
to coffee right on the spot was OK, but since she didn't go
for it, email would be the right next step). Then he should
have emailed a day or two later and suggested a cup of tea.
After the tea, he should have invited her over to continue
the conversation, etc.

But he's not really paying attention to how a woman might
see his actions, and he's coming across a little strange.

He's trying to get a woman who doesn't trust him yet to
come straight to his house... and it's freaking her out.

Of course, there's a way to do this (I talk about it in
my book, of course), but he's not doing it correctly.

This is another reason why I recommend that guys avoid
talking about work, family, school, etc. If you talk about
those things, you'll be likely to come off as qualifying
her for marriage... which is a no-no early on.

If you tease, have fun, make fun, and stay mysterious,
then you'll create curiosity, challenge, and mystery.

Every woman is different, and there is often a fine line
between being suspicious and being interesting. But you
need to know the difference, and behave in a way that
gets you the outcome you want.



***QUESTION***

I have a few questions on the cocky + funny bit. Ill get
strait to the point,

is it a good idea to use sarcasm a lot?

is it a bad idea to bust on yourself in a sarcastic way?
ex. you trip and almost fall, then you say, "wow, im sure
smooth today" while laughing about it

does the Cocky in cocky + funny mean to brag about yourself,
or things youve done in a funny way?

as you can see Ive been having some trouble on this approach.
I have your book but still cant grasp the whole attitude
about it.

oh and can you give us a good C&F line when a woman says
"shush" or "shut up" while laughing.

if yo have any more advice man, id love to hear it, if i can
get this down, i will have greater success then you have
given me

your awesome Dave, genius


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, Yes on the sarcasm. I love it.

I don't really make fun of myself a lot. I think that it's
better to accuse her of being the cause of any mistakes you
make, etc. If you trip, say "You know, this doesn't happen
when you're not around... I think you're causing it" etc.

You can brag about yourself in a funny way... that's great.
If she likes your shirt, say "Yea, women are always trying
to pick me up with those cheesy lines."

If she says "Shut up" while laughing, that's a PERFECT
opportunity to dial it up a notch and come back with something
even funnier... maybe "You love me" with a serious face.

You must remember that it HAS TO BE FUNNY.

You can say ANYTHING, as long as it's FUNNY.

Practice if you have to. Write things down... I did. I still
do, in fact.

Watch comedy on TV and in the movies. Notice what's funny and
what's not. Imitate others until you get the hang of it.

You're doing fine... you'll have it soon!



***QUESTION***


David:

Your book has helped me live life in a great new way- I went
from not going to my senior prom to getting e-mails from
some of the hottest girls on my campus (and I've only been
here 3 days!) Thanks a ton.

I do have a question about two ideas in your book that, at
least in the manner in which I have applied them, seem to
contradict each other. You say guys that argue a lot seem
insecure, which I certainly agree with. You then say that
when a woman says something you are doing is bothering her,
to instead of stopping to comply with her as most guys
would, to keep doing whatever bothers her, and in fact "turn
it up a notch". How do you do this without the situation
resulting in an argument? I'd imagine humor would help, but
could take me through exactly how to make this work?

Thanks,

R.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, arguing is when she says "You know, divorce is wrong"
and you say "No, it's not. In fact, divorce is a very healthy
thing for adults to decide to do. There was a study in the
latest issue of Psychology Today that suggests that children
from divorced families make more money than those..."

Turning up something she just told you she doesn't like is
when you put on some Metallica and she says "Turn that off,
I hate heavy metal" and you turn it up a little and say
"Well you'd better learn to like it, because I do"... then
turn it down a minute or so later.

Are you with me?

The first example (arguing) is insecure WUSSY behavior, the
second example is spanking her for being bossy.

Get it?

Nice!

And great job with the babes on campus. It's going to be a
fun year for some women in your area!


***QUESTION***

Hi dave, I dont have many success stories because the first
girl I met after I started using your stuff is gorgeous,
and we have been dating for 5 months now, she's a keeper.
anyway, I am still putting your techniques into practise and
this girl is buying me gifts every other week and she still
say she can't figure me out. I love keeping her on her toes.

My question is this, what if a girl does something to piss
you off, how should you handle it and still keep true to
your priciples. On one hand if i just say "thats ok, I
don't mind" I am being wussy, but if I get mad and give her
sh** I am no longer being indifferent. I think maybe teasing
her about it without actually showing that I am displeased
would be the right course of action, please elaborate.

Your pupil in Canada.

R.


>>MY COMMENTS:

DON'T BE A WUSSY.

I hate to say this, but women often do things to piss you
off JUST TO TEST YOU AND SEE IF YOU'LL STAND UP AND BE A MAN.

Really.

Now, DON'T put on your wife beater, get drunk, drive over to
her trailer park and start hitting her...

But I think you catch my meaning.

Don't accept things that aren't acceptable. Wow, profound.

Be a man about it, don't be a little girl. Just tell her to
not do it anymore... don't whine and complain.

You're in a relationship right now, but this happens all the
time with women that you've just met. It's important to set
your boundaries early, because if you don't they'll turn
into problems, resentments, etc.

That dork on Oprah "Dr. Phil" or whatever his name is says
"Men don't get it, but they can be trained".

Oh, I just love that kind of talk. Let's see... a man who
makes his money by saying things that Oprah's audience of
50 million married overweight WOMEN (who have nothing better
to do than sit around the house in the middle of the day
watching T.V.) will agree with... Hm.

The truth is that A TRAINED MAN IS A WUSSY, AND HE MIGHT AS
WELL GET A RING PUT IN HIS NOSE AND BUY HIS WOMAN A LEASH TO
LEAD HIM AROUND.

Like I always say, you can be attractive without being
ABUSIVE. Be strong, fellow men. Avoid the temptation when the
tests come to turn into a WUSSY.

You know, it's difficult for me to get along in this world
with this problem I have of not saying how I REALLY feel.

Great job finding a great gal... now do the right things, and
keep her.

...and that about wraps up another Mailbag. Nice!

By the way, I am getting some KILLER letters from guys who
have listened to my new audio series who are TOTALLY BLOWN AWAY
by what they're learning. I put a lot of time, effor, and
energy to create this series, and as far as I'm concerned you
won't find ANYTHING like it in the entire world. And you can
bet your last pickup line that I've looked. Make sure you
check out the samples when you visit:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/advancedseries/

...and I also recommend my eBook "Double Your Dating". If
you're just getting started with these materials and you'd
like to learn the basics, that's the place to start:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

Of course, both come with a 100% no-hassle, no-questions-asked
guarantee... if you're not THRILLED with your investment, just
email and you'll get a refund. I have put a lot of effort into
creating tools that will help you meet more women, and I stand
behind them 100%.

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

DATING TIP: Getting Over Negative Programming

I'd like to talk a bit about how we program ourselves and
become programmed when it comes to dealing with women... as
well as how to overcome the negative programming that we
often don't even recognize within ourselves.

Let me as you a few questions. Take a moment to think
about the answers... maybe even write them down.

1) When it comes to women, do you have an overall "positive"
outlook towards your success? Do you believe that there is
"abundance" when it comes to women, and that you can go out
at any time and get a date if you want to? Why or why not?

2) Do you have any negative beliefs or programming when it
comes to the idea of APPROACHING women you'd like to meet or
asking women out on dates? Do you believe that you're going
to be intruding or annoying a woman if you approach her? Do
you believe that a woman will most likely accept or reject
a date request from you?

3) Have you CHOSEN the beliefs and attitudes that you have
towards women, or have they been "chosen for you" by others,
situations, programming, TV, the media, etc.?

4) Would you like to change some of the attitudes and beliefs
that you hold in your mind? If so, which ones and what would
you like to change them to?


If you're like most guys I know who would like to improve
their success with women, then you probably have one or two
"negative programs" in your unconscious mind (if you're like
I used to be before I learned the things I know now, then you
might have A LOT of them).

I can remember when I used to believe that women would be
VERY offended or alarmed if I tried to strike up an
unexpected conversation with them...

I can remember feeling that if a woman rejected me in
front of other people that I WOULD DIE of embarrassment.

I can remember thinking "Why would a woman find ME
attractive?" and not believing that the truly desirable,
attractive women out there just wouldn't find a guy like me
interesting or attractive because I wasn't rich, tall,
famous, buff, or of royal descent.

And as a matter of fact, even though I've spent literally
YEARS reprogramming myself and learning as much as I could
about women and attraction, I still know that somewhere deep
in my unconscious mind that this old programming exists. Of
course, it doesn't affect my behavior the way it used to, but
my point is that once you program yourself or open yourself to
programming from others and from our modern culture, it's
sometimes a challenge to overcome that programming and go on
to be successful.

Let me give you a little Tough Love:

NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU FIGURE THIS STUFF OUT WITH
WOMEN. AND NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU'RE SUCCESSFUL.

Really.

If you learn how to meet and date the kinds of women that
you've always wanted, it won't matter to anyone. Your friends
won't think you're an cooler (well, maybe a little), your mom
won't stop nagging you, your boss won't pay you more money,
and you won't lose that extra 10 pounds that you've needed to
lose for the past 10 years.

It just doesn't matter. No one cares.

THE ONLY PERSON THAT CARES IS YOU.

And the only one that's going to be able to do anything
about this programming that we're talking about is YOU.

Your buddies aren't going to come over tomorrow night and
say "Hey, you know, I've been thinking about it. You really
need to do something about your unconscious programming in the
area of women and dating, and I'd like to help you."

Your mom isn't going to call you up and say "You know, dear,
I've been thinking about it, and I really put some bad ideas in
your mind about how to treat women... I'd like to address those
things in this call and help you become the mac daddy you've
always wanted to be."

Nope.

You're not going to get a call from the guys that run the ads
that say "Show her that you love her by spending five grand on a
pair of diamond earrings" to tell you that the ads really aren't
true, and that no amount of diamonds will help you meet women if
you're programmed to act like a WUSSY.

It just ain't gonna happen that way.

If you want to do something about your programming and your
success, you're going to have to DO IT ALL YOURSELF.

There are a lot of ways to get going, but I have a few
favorites...

1) Look around and pay careful attention to what's REALLY going
on. Just like a comedian looks at the fine details and tells
stories about things that we never see... but are right there in
front of us, you need to look closer.

Here's a little story.

I'm in Las Vegas right now writing this. I haven't been to
Vegas in about 4 years, so everything seems new to me... there
are about 5 huge new hotels that are open, and I spent the day
walking around and just seeing the sights.

As I walked around, I looked at the people... and especially
at the couples. I'm not sure if it's because I was looking at
all of the new sights here or what, but for some reason I was
really noticing things today.

It's always amazing to me how attractive women will be with
guys of all shapes, sizes, and ages...

When you really look around and pay attention to what's
actually going on, you'll be amazed.

Now, before you say "Yea, but if you're rich or handsome or
tall you'll get more chicks" I will acknowledge that these
things can provide certain advantages, but they're not NEAR
the level that WOMEN get from being physically attractive.

The more I pay attention, learn, and try things, the more
I realize that women respond to PERSONALITY far more than they
respond to LOOKS.

I've even made it a point to ask guys who are tall, handsome,
etc. if they believe that their success with women comes from
those things. Almost universally they tell me that their
ATTITUDES and SKILLS are far more important than their looks.

You've probably read some of these newsletters where good-
looking guys write in and say "I'm buff, good looking, and I
have women talking to me all the time, but I can't get any
dates... they only like me as a friend."

So part of this step is for you to take a day or so and go
out in public... to a place that is PACKED with people, and
look around at the couples. Look with your own two eyes and
see all of the attractive women that are with guys who are
NOT what you would consider to be "physically attractive."

This is a big step in changing some of your programming.

2) Watch some guys who are successful with women.

One of the best things I've ever done is make friends with
some REALLY SUCCESSFUL guys (I'm talking about success with
women here). As a matter of fact, most of the techniques that
I've learned, developed, and write about originally started
out as something I got from a friend by watching them interact
with women.

When you watch guys who know how to make women feel that
magical emotion called "ATTRACTION", you'll start to see the
patterns in their behavior, and the patterns in the responses
from women.

Nothing can replace watching a guy walk up to a woman, start
talking to her, and walk away 5 minutes later with her number.

So make some new friends if you have to. Just do what it
takes to watch some guys interact with women. It's a big one.

3) Constantly learn and improve.

I know, I know. You'd like to take a pill and have this
whole part of your life handled.

You'd like a computer chip implanted in your brain that
will change you into a chick-magnet.

Well, until these things exist, you're going to have to
do it the old fashioned way... you're going to have to actually
DO SOMETHING.

At first, it might seem a little uncomfortable. You might
feel weird going out to a bar alone just to look at the people.

But don't worry, no one will care (remember what I said
earlier... nobody cares whether or not you're successful, only
you do).

The more you improve, the more you'll WANT to improve, and
the easier it will become.

Read books, try things, experiment. Keep a journal, write
down what works and what doesn't, think about the things you'd
like to change and write them down.

JUST KEEP IMPROVING A LITTLE BIT AT A TIME.

If you do these things, you'll begin to REPROGRAM YOURSELF
and change your negative programming into POSTIVE programming
and success.

Of course, the best place to start is with some of the
materials that I've put together...

Dating Tip: What Attraction REALLY Is

Our topic this week is ATTRACTION.

Before you read further, I'd like you to take a minute
and think about what the word ATTRACTION means to you.

By the way, I'm talking about the romantic concept of
ATTRACTION... not gravitational attraction, etc.

If you can, WRITE DOWN exactly what you think the word
ATTRACTION means. The process of writing down your thoughts
helps you to organize them (I recommend that you also keep
a journal of your experiences as you improve in this area
of your life). There are no right or wrong answers here,
so think about it for a few.

...

...

...

OK, did you do that? Nice.

So what did you come up with?

A lot of guys seem to think that ATTRACTION is when one
person wants what another person has.

Some think of ATTRACTION as the result of being good-
looking or otherwise "attractive". In fact, I think a LOT
of people confuse ATTRACTION with "attractive".

When I think of the concept of ATTRACTION, I think of
it primarily as an EMOTION. It seems to me that it's more
a COMBINATION of powerful emotions that come together to
form a very, very special new SUPER-emotion.

However you think about it, there is a process that
happens that keeps men and women getting together to have
sex...

You are reading this right now, which is a miracle.

Think of the thousands upon thousands of generations
of ancestors that you have had... and think about the
fact that NOT ONE OF THEM DIED A VIRGIN.

And not one of them died in childhood.

And then think about the fact that you beat out about
five hundred MILLION other sperm-racers to get to the
egg first.

You are the result of and represent probably the most
amazing process I have ever heard of.

One of the parts of this process that fascinates me is
how each pair of your ancestors decided to get together
with THAT PARTICULAR PERSON at THAT PARTICULAR TIME.

I know that some people will be upset that I'm talking
about this whole concept in such an analytical, detached
way... women in particular seem to love fantasy of two
people being "soul mates" and "knowing that your special
someone is out there" and "it just happening".

If you're one of those people, stop reading now! lol...

After working on this area of my own personal life for
a few years, and trying all kinds of techniques, it finally
dawned on me that ATTRACTION WAS BASICALLY EVERYTHING.

If a woman feels ATTRACTION for a man, then nothing else
really matters.

Looks, age, nationality, wealth, religion, personal loss,
peer pressure from friends and family... none of it matters!

On the other hand, if a women DOESN'T feel ATTRACTION for
a man, then nothing else matters in that case either!

You can't "talk" a woman into feeling ATTRACTION, any
more than you can "talk" a person who hasn't eaten for three
days out of feeling hungry.

I mean, if you really wanted to be fancy you could learn
to be a hypnotist and talk them into it that way...

But I'll tell you a little secret: Even that isn't the
best way to do things! (I actually know several people who
use this method of hypnotizing women... and I haven't met
one yet who could use this technique alone to get women...
there's ALWAYS something else going on.)

What I'm trying to say is that one day it hit me like a
ton of bricks that ATTRACTION IS THE KEY TO EVERYTHING WITH
WOMEN!

If you don't know what it is or how to create it, you'll
wander around trying different techniques... and probably
never land on something that works consistently.

And once I realized this, all kinds of things that didn't
make sense before INSTANTLY made sense to me.

All of a sudden I realized why women dated abusive jerks...
ATTRACTION.

I realized why women dated men who were clearly using them
and cheating on them... ATTRACTION.

And I also saw the FLIP SIDE!

I realized why women pass up guys who are honest, stable,
attractive, and wonderful for losers... ATTRACTION.

Think of ATTRACTION like a drug (which it really is). If
a woman is under the influence of it, then she's gone. She'll
do anything to get more.

If she's NOT under the influence, then YOU'RE gone. Nothing
you do will matter if she doesn't feel it.

If you doubt what I'm saying, ask the next 10 SUPER HOT
women you see what they think of this. Read this newsletter to
them, and watch their reactions. You'll see.

OK, now that you're heard a little bit more of my personal
perspective, I'd like you to look back into your life and
think about all those situations with women that made no sense
at all...

Think about the women that you treated wonderfully that
passed you up for the jerks... and think about all the women
"friends" you had... the ones who told you about how mean and
inconsiderate their boyfriends were... while you looked at
them thinking "I would kill my own mother for just one date
with you".

Is it all making sense now?

THEY DIDN'T FEEL ATTRACTION FOR YOU!

YOU WERE BEING A "NICE GUY" AND PROBABLY A WUSSY BOY, AND
YOU HAD NO IDEA THAT IT WAS HAVING THE EXACT OPPOSITE EFFECT
OF WHAT YOU WANTED! AND WORSE YET, THERE WASN'T A DAMN THING
YOU COULD DO ABOUT IT!

It's harsh to think about, but it's true. (By the way, if
you don’t do something to learn how to make women feel
ATTRACTION, then this is going to keep happening to you
for the rest of your life, most likely.)

I have to point one more thing out. As I mentioned earlier,
I think a lot of guys confuse the idea of being "attractive"
with the emotion called ATTRACTION.

You can make a woman feel an INCREDIBLE ATTRACTION, even
though you're not what most people would think of as
"attractive". Of course, you have to know how...

The point is that if you're not tall, handsome, and
dashing, you can LEARN how to make women feel this wonderful
emotion called ATTRACTION.

It's a skill. It's taken me YEARS to be able to even talk
about this stuff in simple terms like this that make sense,
and it's taken me the same time to figure out how a regular
guy like you or me can make women who we used to think of as
"out of our league" feel ATTRACTION for us.

How, you ask, can we do that?

Well, you've read about the technique called "Cocky and
Funny"... that's a part of it.

But there are several other pieces of the puzzle, from
voice tone and body language, to specific ways to touch a
woman to get her physically turned on, and everything in
between. It's a system, and it all works together.

If you want to learn that system, then make sure you
start with my online eBook and CD course, and stay tuned to
these newsletters. Here they are:

My online eBook: http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

My New CD Audio Series (this is the ultimate, of course):
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/advancedseries

Enjoy, and I'll talk to you again in a few days!

Your Friend,

David D.

THE MAILBAG: Getting Numbers And Getting Dates

***SUCCESS STORY***

Hi Dave,

After reading your book, I put many of your tactics into
action. I work in a casino, so I get to meet a lot of
beautiful young women. Once I got over the initial
reluctance to ask them for their email/phone number, I
started getting quite a few numbers in a night.

The other night there was a woman who was so gorgeous, it
hurt. I walked over and chatted with her for a few minutes,
then asked if she had email. She said "Sure, I do! Let me
write it down for you." Without asking she put down her
phone number as well. The younger guys who work for me now
call me a "God". They have no idea how I can do it. Better
looking guys are complaining that I get more phone numbers
and emails in one night than they've got their whole lives.

One of the women was classic. She looked a combination
of Sheryl Crow and Jennifer Aniston combined. She complained
she wasn't winning on the machine and asked me what the
secret was. I said, "I don't know the secret today, but if
I figure it out, I'll email it to you. All I need now is
your email address and your phone number in case email is
down." She was taken aback, but asked for my pen and wrote
it down.

Now instead of being alone on my days off, I have a lot
of options which are all great ones. Thanks for your advice
and changing me out of wuss mode.

I.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Options are great, aren't they?

And isn't it amazing how a woman will give out her email
and number if you just talk for a few minutes and then ask
for it?

I can remember when I first started learning this stuff...
it seemed to that no woman in her right mind would just give
out her phone number to a complete stranger...

But then I discovered that no woman is actually IN her right
mind! (Or at least this is my logical deduction, because they
all seem to give out their phone numbers and email addresses
so readily!)

But to get back to the concept of "options"...

When you, as a guy, have options, it changes EVERYTHING.

When you have a date that evening plus three women to email
or call, things are TOTALLY DIFFERENT than when you have
nothing going on.

You feel different, you talk different, and you communicate
in a different way.

I believe that one of the reasons that attractive women come
across so powerfully is because they KNOW that they have
options.

And one of the benefits of learning how to be more successful
with women and dating is that you learn to CREATE YOUR OWN
OPTIONS. When you know that you can walk out the door anytime
you want and meet women, it frees up a lot of mental energy
that was previously focused on other things. Energy you can
use to improve other areas of your life...

Thanks for your email... it's inspiring.



***QUESTION***


Hey, David.

The guy's airplane story is an *awesome* example about
how to create and run with sexual tension. Absof**kinglutely
amazing!

I've read DYD, have been getting your newsletters, totally
understand what's going on. I've seen it working, and know
it's for real. But I've got a BIG problem. I've got to
recondition myself from more years than I care to admit of
doing things the wrong way.

I always idolized superheroes like Batman & Superman who
always acted with the utmost respect and decorum. Like
musclebound male versions of Miss Manners. My heroes were
modest, reliable, helpful, well-mannered, and strong (OK --
they're not *totally* lame). Definitely not *cocky*. I
always *hated* mouthy guys who are all show and no go.

As for sex, in my younger years it was Catholic training:
everything sexual was *evil* (unless you're a priest
hitting on the altar boys), and I was so naive and mixed up
I really thought I was going to *hell*.

After I wised up and dropped that it was *sexual harassment*
that I kept hearing about all the time. The message I got
then is that it's not OK to be sexual until you're already
going with someone. Of course now I know that that only
applies to man who a woman is NOT ATTRACTED TO.

OK, so now I *understand*. But am still reflexively *doing*
the same wrong things. What's the best way to actually go
about reconditioning my *behavior*? I can be a good smartass
when I have the right stimuli, but what's the best way to
practice loosening up with the sex talk? I don't want to
klutz things up with awkward, forced attempts on women who
*are* good prospects. I can be cool enough to get dates,
but want to take it to the next level. The best thing I
can think of is either to practice on female *friends* I've
already written off or go to places I don't really care to
hang around regularly, like techno-disco meat markets where
I probably couldn't be as crude and crass as the average
ass-grabber if I slammed a fifth of Daniels and *tried*.

This may apply to a lot of other guys who are "struggling with
the material." Any better ideas how to get through the
learning curve as quickly as possible without poisoning one's
reputation by being tagged an uber-klutz?

FB

Michigan


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, you say that you've read my book, but you need to go
back through it... remember, it's a reference manual, to be
referred to again and again... not a fictional book to be
used as entertainment.

If I were you, I'd get online and start chatting with women
with instant messenger services and/or in chatrooms, as I
describe in Chapter 7.

Bust on them, tease them, talk about every topic you can
think of, including sex (make sure you're talking to women
who are of legal age, by the way!).

You'll find that starting conversations with women online
and practicing your skills is a lot move convenient when
you can do it from the comfort of your computer.

And you'll see... it's very easy to talk about any topic
with women. Get over your pre-conceived ideas, and just
do it.

And get over this worshipping Batman, dude. Didn't you see
the Saturday Night Live skits where they were mocking him
and Robin as the "Ambiguously Gay Duo?"

Not good role-models, man.



***COMMENT***

Dave my man,

I've been reading your advice for a while now and I have to
laugh because I discovered several years ago cocky and funny
really work. I am naturally cocky and a smartass to boot, so
it usually worked, but not always. Then, my buddy told me
something that drives 'em wild. The dude is 6'3" and 300 lbs,
and he always had a good looking woman on his arm. His
advice: Show a little interest, then ignore them. Of course I
over simplified it, but you know what I mean. How many men
have said that you can't pick up women in a topless bar? I
did all the time, and rarely spent any more money than on
drinks for myself. The other guys are feeding the girls
dollar bills and getting no where. I'm just an average
looking guy, but the honies went for it like mad. You are on
the mark and anyone that has problems meeting women should
heed your advice.

PS: I love the way you bust on the chicks that write to you
and say how wrong you are!

D.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

lol... thanks!

Yes, women really love it when you show some interest, but
then don't hang on them. Women, and especially attractive
women, LOVE a good challenge. It's fun for them.

And yes, I do enjoy emails from women... both positive and
negative. I just wish more women would write me! (And I wish
that when they did write that they'd send PICTURES! I have
gotten a few, but cummon!)



***QUESTION***

David,

I used your technique to bed a very cute girl in four
dates, three of them $2 coffee dates! That was five months
ago. Now, it's turning into a relationship, and I'm trying
to keep up the C/F and assertiveness and avoid wussitis. It
seems to be paying off: she calls me "mean" a lot, but for
four months, now, we have sex at *least six* times a week.
I kid you not. Never happened before.

So, to keep it going while "in an early-stage
relationship," your stuff worked. Two questions. First, I
know you avoid writing on Relationships. But here's the
thing: Of the 10 or so books I read on dating, only two
were good, and yours exceptional in its analytical
sharpness. If I go out and randomly buy R books, I'll have
the same problem. Why don't you apply your brain to getting
the R right? I'm sure most of your DYD buyers would also
buy an R book. I would. So, while you on 8/17 discussed how
to act to GET FROM DATING TO A RELATIONSHIP (avoid acting
like you really want a relationship, avoid sudden-onset
wussitis), I'd love to hear your take on how to keep the
relationship going well. At a minimum, were there any books
you read that you felt rang true, where the author had an
IQ above 100.

Second, A while back you wrote that you have read a lot on
self-deception in general, not just applied to dating. I'd
love to get some good references.

KM, Oakland, CA


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, I can't really recommend any relationship books, because
most of them suck (in my humble opinion). But I will recommend
a great book on self-deception. In fact, this is one of the
best books I've ever read, period. Just go to the following
address (you might have to cut and paste it into your browser
if it doesn't appear as a link):

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0684831074/doubleyourdat-20

...I've become a member of Amazon.com's affiliate program, so
please use that link to check out the book!



***QUESTION***

Wasssup!! I just have to tell ya that i think your a god
to all guys out there who have trouble with women! I've
been reading your e-mails for about two months now and i
gotta tell ya, your a genius!! I haven't even purchased
the book yet but everything you say makes perfect sense.
So i have decided to purchase Double Your Dating. I can't
wait to see how it works out. I have the hardest time
meeting women and the bad thing about it is most girls
think im good looking. But they think im boring.

Here's my question to you. Im not sure about the whole
c&f thing, how do i be cocky yet not come across as an
a&*hole? And I've really never been the funny type of guy
i just don't know how without saying or doing something
that might make me look like a wussy. Can you help a bro
out PLEASE?

DW-ks


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, here's the basic formula for Cocky and Funny:

Take an arrogant comment, then add humor.

It's a killer combination. The key is that it HAS TO BE
FUNNY. It actually has to make others laugh.

You must make sure that you are Cocky enough, because if
you're only FUNNY, then you will come across as GOOFY,
which isn't what you want.

So, for instance, you might be at a bar, and you're
having a drink. Let's say your drink has too much alcohol
in it, and you're going to comment on it.

An arrogant comment might be:

"This bartender sucks. There's too much booze in my drink."

Add a touch of humor, and it turns into:

"Whoa, this bartender either loves me or is trying to kill
me. This drink is pure alcohol. Is there an AA meeting
nearby? Cuz I'm gonna need it when I'm done with this one."

You feel me?

It's the COMBINATION that makes Cocky and Funny work like
magic. Too little or too much of either and you will
come off as an idiot.

And remember, have fun. Practice is what will help you
improve.



***QUESTION***

Dave,

Man, life has changed over the last 4 months since
grabbing your book and applying C&F! My friends are
amazed at how many women I am dating and life is great!
One of the most important points I have followed from you
is breaking down the whole pickup/dating/score routine
and approaching each part as a skill I must learn. Got
past the email/phone number part, past the first date and
first kiss part, and finally the step towards intimacy.
But alas, I'm down to the one skill that I have problems
with and that I've never seen you really address:

The graceful exit skill...

Let me explain...OK, I meet a girl, we go out, maybe we
end up in each other's arms, maybe not, but there comes
a point when I just want to end it and move on to another
girl. I always get nervous with the "Well, it's been fun,
but we this isn't going to work out so have a good
life..." Do I call and leave a voice mail? Do I phone
her? Do I break it off face-to-face? What's the
confident, C&F way to leave a girl and not have PLAYER
stamped onto my forehead because of it?

Loving life, S.R.

P.S. You should pay people for referrals as I have got
about 10 of my friends to buy your book! HA HA


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You're a very, very, very bad man.

In the best way, possible, of course.

I think the key to dating more than one woman, or to not
seeing a woman more than once or twice is to NOT ACT LIKE
YOU'RE HER BOYFRIEND FROM THE BEGINNING.

Women will only resent you if you mislead them. So don't.
It's not necessary.

Just have fun, be straight up, and enjoy yourself.

You don't have to break something off if it never was
"something" to begin with. Are you with me?

The big mistake is to call twice a day, see her five times
a week, act like her long lost love, and then drop her
without explanation. I think you get what I'm saying.



***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I have been subscribing to the newsletter for about
6 or 8 months and have purchased your ebook a couple
after subscribing. Your information has been invaluable
and well worth the price. It has completely changed the
way I look at women, I never pine over them anymore and
wonder "what's wrong with me". Now I know what was wrong
with me, I was a wuss! But that's all changed now and
have become the Jedi Master. I've even come up with some
Jedi Techniques of my own.

At any rate, I met this one girl at a party one night
who I knew came with a few acquaintances of mine who I
told about the party. I got to talking to her and we
talked for a few minutes and poured on the C&F, but I
never got her info. I know, I know, the 3 minute
technique, but I knew I could obtain it from her friends,
and the way she interacted with me, I knew she wouldn't
have minded at all (Important Note: this is my success
story, I wouldn't recommend doing things like this
unless you have developed the confidence that your book
helps teach). Well, I never had to even asked her
friends because two days later, she ended up looking me
up in the University's online student directory and then
she looked up my IM name and IMed me with a "mysterious
person" message. I immediately figured out it was her
and then accused her of stalking me and told her that's
pretty illegal. She almost thought I was mad at her!
It was great! Anyways, she is a real quality girl (not
to mention about a 9, not perfect, but gorgeous
nonetheless) and we set something up to go play pool at
a local bar where I again poured it on thick. Now mind
you, I hadn't made any big advances or anything but as
she dropped me off back home, she came in to use the
bathroom. After she came out, she wrapped her arms
around me and let me have a little taste. I said
goodnight to her and that was that night. A few nights
later, I told her I was going to be cooking and that
she should come over which leads me to...

***Tip 1***
One of the best techniques is to invite a girl over
for dinner at your place, especially if you know how to
cook. I find that many women don't know how to cook or
only "cook" stuff like Mac and Cheese and other junk.
The best part about this is they get to see your skill,
which is pretty attractive to women when you can make a
good meal, and you have the most control because it is
your own place. The other part, is make sure you don't
start making dinner until she is already at your place,
she's not getting an entirely free meal! Make her help.
If she refuses, use the C&F techniques and have her do
something. Put her on a task that's not too difficult
so she can't mess it up. For example, if you're making
lasagna, make her grate cheese or something (making her
wash dishes is rather insulting unless you're doing most
of them and she wants to help, which she just might).
And when you're all done with dinner, take it to the
couch and turn on the TV or watch a movie or something.
Which brings me to...

***Tip 2***
If you're sitting down next to a girl that you're
talking to in a private setting and you get a little of
that silence, not the awkward kind, but the kind where
you just kind of look at each other. If you're thinking
to yourself "should I be kissing her?". The answer is a
screaming "YES". This can be preceded by the "kiss
Test" as well, but I know a lot of guys will still have
insecurities about this kind of thing. Think about it
this way. If you don't kiss her, then she'll probably
think you're a wuss because you don't have the balls to
do something she probably wants you to anyways. After
talking with a number of my girl-friends, I've found out
that if a guy tries to kiss a girl, unless there is an
obvious unattraction, she will most likely go with the
kiss. At any rate, in this day and age, she's not going
to slap you and walk out the door. It's not like you
grabbed her crotch or something.

***Tip 3***
MC from the Mediterranean asked a question about
calling the next day. I just wanted to point out you
have already answered this question in some form and you
know what to do! You can generally sense if a girl is
sensitive about something like that. If not, send her
some sort of message that next day, preferably email, but
if you're on the phone, have something you're on the way
to or busy with. Call, say "hi" and that you had a great
time, don't ask how she's doing or what she thinks about
what or if she had a good time, but find some way to use
C&F to make a light conversation that will keep her
wondering and even thinking about you. Don't bring up
the sex unless she does so in a favorable manner.

***Tip 4***
Not so much a getting girls technique, but rather
something you need to do alone. In your spare time or
even when doing mindless tasks, go over your past failed
attempts when you have a clear head about them and think
about what happened. You'd be surprised at how easy it
is to find the things that went wrong. You'll also be
surprised to find out that these are probably mistakes
you make all the time! This is the best way to recognize
the problem and rectify it so that its not repeated.

Your techniques are nearly priceless and have stroked
the confidence of guys everywhere. I've even recommended
it to friends that have some serious wuss problems. I
have yet to see if they've taken it to heart or even
subscribed, but I'll help them yet! Things are going
great with that girl and I know it wouldn't have happened
if it weren't for your book. Its now become second nature,
and you get all the credit.

Thanks again Dave
Your once Jedi Apprentice, now Master,
D.M.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great ideas... great.

Nothing else needs to be said...

Except that you stole those ideas from me, hoser.

Nice!



***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I'd just like to say your book helped in my confidence
level and my cocky/funny routine. I have always been funny
and was always successful at making women laugh. I had the
problem of, well, closing the deal. I would strike the
conversation, make them laugh, and just joke with em, but
could never get their #. And I would never ask at the
right times, being shot down was a large part of my night.

After reading your book, which I bought in Feburary, I
met and talked to this girl online. At this point I didnt
care about relationships or anything. I just wanted to
have fun. So we talk about 3 days online, and I called
her maybe 1 time and asked her to lunch. The whole lunch I
am making her laugh and break out a little of the cocky
routine. She's laughing and we both having a good time.
Later this month it will be 6 months that we've been
together and I just recently was told, that she tried
everything she knew the first 2 weeks to turn me on. Shes
easily a "8-9" and any other man would have given in and
been the "proverbial" wussy. Let me tell you
cocky/funny/un-clingy = ATTRACTION. It works, it really
does! Thanks for the confidence boost. I just have to give
you kudos to what you have discovered here. I think you
have solved the "8th" wonder of the world: Women and
dating.

You da man
K.N. Ohio


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You're welcome...

And you're right: Most attractive women DON'T KNOW WHAT
THE HELL TO DO when they meet a guy that is charming, funny,
"un-clingy" and in control of himself and the situation.

They get turned on, they think about you all the time, and
they generally feel a level of ATTRACTION that they can't
control (and don't want to control, because they love it!).

Good job, and I'm glad to hear that you've found a nice girl
for yourself. MAKE SURE YOU DON'T TURN INTO A WUSS-BAG and
screw it up!



***QUESTION***

hey dave,

you are really the man! i started reading your
material and realized what i wuss i had been with the
one girl i dated. before we were dating i was textbook
cocky and funny, but after we were dating i became
super-wuss man and i became "just a friend". well every
girl since then has been absoultely begging for my
attention (even girls i meet online that live hundreds
of miles away that i practice on). i have two or three
girls call everyday but i'm always too "busy" to talk
for very long (hey i have to watch my sportscenter) i
was on an airplane to NYC when this hott girl sits
down in the seat next to me (i was window and she was
aisle) i had my laptop out and when she sat down i
acted like i didnt notice. well a few minutes later i
had to put away my laptop so i pulled out a book and
began reading it. she then pulls out makeup (yes
makeup) and starts putting it on in the plane. i gave
her a funny look and said "didnt you have time to do
that at home?"

Her: "(laughing) i did have time, but i didnt want to.
all i'm doing today is flying."
Me: "oh i see...(pause) you're lazy."
Her: "no i'm not"
Me: "sure you are. but then you saw me and decided you
want to look good right?
Her: (just laughs)
Me: "hey, dont worry about it... nothing new to me."
Her: "(laughs) well i mean..."
Me: "(interruping her) it's fine! dont be embarrassed.
you're not the first woman to try and pick me up
this morning."
Her: "(still giggling) how can you be so mean to a
complete stranger?"

now i'm stuck... i didnt have anything left to say...
so i just said "i dont know" and (luckily) she continued
the conversation and i eventually got her email and
number and everything. but if you could tell me
something cocky and funny that i could have used to
respond to that it would be much appreciated. thanks!

J. from OK


>>>MY COMMENTS:

lol... you get it all, and you're trying to tell me that
you didn't know what to say in this situation?

How about this:

After she said "How can you be so mean to a complete
stranger?" you could have said:

"I'm not being mean at all, I'm just trying to let you
know that it hurts my feelings when you treat me like a
sex object... like a piece of meat to be used for your
entertainment... can't you just get to know me for who I
am? And then later use all the makeup tricks to seduce me?"

There are all kinds of directions you could go with this...
you were doing great.

Just make sure you always end by turning it around, playing
hard to get, and getting the email/number.

Try this:

"OK, look. You're nice and everything, but you're moving a
little too fast for me. Here... here's a pen. Write down
your email address and number, and maybe we can talk on
the phone later... then we'll see."

Or if you want to get together right after you get off the
plane, say:

"Hey, I'll tell you what. I see that you only want to use
me for my charm... but why don't we have a drink tonight
so I can find out if there's more to you than just the
makeup and cheap lines."

You're doing great.



***COMMENT***

hi david,

i don't know if my story fits in with your success story,
but here it is for what it's worth. as a 50 year old
dutchman, never been married.....great.. and having lived
in holland, the us, mexico, australia, most parts of asia
and now the last 6 months in china, i can say one thing,
i totally agree with your c&f concept and also that it is
a proven international concept. even though i don't have
your e-book i have been practising your c&f concept all
my life in countries where the chicks have different
cultures and don't speak english. funny is'nt, yes, the
answer is simple, don't be a WUSSY, girls are the same
everywhere it's just the more you do c&f the easier it
gets!

there is not a day or every couple of days that go by
without a number to contact some of these pretty things
18-25 year olds. sometimes i don't even have to ask, they
give me their numbers to me, why because i am c&f, rude,
unpredictable, then smile, then rude again and say hey
babe just because you give me your number does not mean
we are getting layed tonight, i am too busy anyway, just
give me your number and maybe i will call you in the next
couple of days when i have time. in china it works
slightly differently because of the language barrier, so
i use body and sign language, think about that one and
tend to pick the babes from the shops or hotels where
they work(as it is easier to get them after work for some
fun) same c&f thing i tell them i'll be back in 2-3 days,
very busy etc. then i drop in the nexy day or so for a
quick hello and tell them again that i'll be back in 2-3
days, this keeps them curious and hungry. when i get back
i pick them up near closing time, so i know i am set for
the night. the only drawback!! is that as i travel so much
is that i stay mainly in hotels and so they are knocking
on my door for more, often whilst i am busy with another
chick, this creates great c&f scenarios and the funny
thing is they want me even more after that! so i am having
great fun and i still don't know how manage to get some of
my work done. so great work, david keep it up!

cheers,

s.

old china hand

>>>MY COMMENTS:

A 50 year old Dutchman that dates 18-25 year olds all over
the world by being naturally Cocky and Funny, huh?

Nice.

Well thanks for your email, I love stories like yours. Stay
in touch and share some of your techniques with us!


***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I owe you big time. I just won a trip to Las Vegas using
C&F. This LA radio station (KROQ) is throwing a Singles party
at the Hard Rock in Vegas...POOLSIDE. Contestants had to call
in and leave a 30 second message selling themselves. Members
of the opposite sex then call in and vote for winners. I got
into "character" and came up with an awesome song to describe
myself. It was slightly cocky and hella funny. The chicks
ate it up and voted me into the party.

Imagine, if you will, a party of 100 single chicks all
looking to hook up. Sure there will be 99 other guys to
compete with, but along with C&F, I have a great job,
personality and I'm no lower than an "8" on my worst day.
I'm just about to read your book again before I leave, just
to stock up on some ammo. I'll be sure to hit you back with
details (hopefully of SEXcess) of what happened.

Thanks Again,

G.

L.A.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

THIS IS UNREAL. You owe me a full report when you get back.

And I mean the dirt!

I'll be expecting a detailed email...

[Oh, and nice one.]

...that about wraps it up. Wasn't that a killer story, and a
killer Mailbag?

Oh, and if you haven't read my book "Double Your Dating", then
you might just want to go and download a copy for yourself.
It's taken me literally YEARS to figure out all of the ideas
and techniques that I share inside, and I even include three
bonus books that show you everything from how to take things
from one step to the next to how to get physical and please
women sexually. Check it out at:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

DATING TIP: How Do I Get Her Back?

>>>QUESTION:

Dave,

Thank you for your book. I have purchased it and have begun
using it. Already paying dividends. I have a question that
you may have answered in a previous newsletter but I somehow
missed it. Is it possible to "re-attract" someone who may
have blown you off as too easy or a wussy? How long should
you wait to see if you can somehow, cleverly get this woman
interested in you again? We don't move in the same circles
but I have started to be around where she is so I can
"ignore" her or make a cocky come back to her. Any
suggestions or advice?

TW in Texas


>>>MY COMMENTS:

The reason why you don't hear me talking about this particular
topic is because it's a tough one.

The problem is usually that when a woman gets to the point
where she doesn't want to be with a particular man, there are
a lot of factors involved.

1. She has made a mental decision that this isn't what she
wants anymore.

2. She has a gut-level emotional feeling associated with the
man and the situation, and she just doesn't "feel it" anymore
for the man.

3. There are usually patterns of communication, thought, and
feeling in these situations that act as further nails in the
proverbial coffin.

And to make matters even worse, most guys make the huge
mistake of doing EXACTLY THE WRONG THINGS when a woman does
leave... to the point where they make it virtually impossible
that she's going to change her mind.

All in all, it's typically a lot easier to just get on with
your life and start dating other woman than it is to try to
get a woman back.

With that said, I'll share some ideas that might help you
get to the next level, whether you decide that getting her
back is what that level is, I'll leave to you.

So what are the mistakes men make that seal the deal and
make it almost impossible to get a woman back?

Here are a few:

1. Acting like a NEEDY WUSS. This is a big one. Here's the
situation: Woman leaves, man feels strong emotions of
depression, strong physical cravings for her, and creates
strong psychological rationalizations for trying to get
her back. This leads to calling, visiting, confessing love,
crying, and other similar behaviors.

Unfortunately, most guys don't think for even a SECOND
about what the WOMAN is seeing. And in most cases, the
woman is already disgusted with the situation. This kind
of wuss display only makes things 10 times worse.

2. Letting it destroy their lives. It sucks when you lose
someone you love. I believe that humans naturally feel
depressed and upset when they lose someone they love...

But the problems start when you stop living, and you let
the emotions take over. Instead of staying involved with
life, some guys let depression and feelings of sadness
control them, and wind up spiraling into even worse
states of mind and body than they were in when the breakup
happened originally.

This, of course, can be pretty bad.

3. Pining away over the woman for weeks, months, or even
years after the fact. Too many guys (and women) will just
sit around hoping that their relationship "fixes itself".
This creates all kinds of negative emotional states,
unrealistic expectations, and strange vibes when you do
communicate with the ex.

So what's the answer?

Well, in general, when a relationship comes to an end, you
need to GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE. Stay busy, get things going.
Don't allow negative emotions to create a permanent belief
that you'll never feel better again.

The strange truth is that if you want to cause someone who
you've had a relationship with to feel ATTRACTION again for
you, you're going to have to do basically the same things
that you'd do with someone NEW that you meet.

I get emails every week from guys who have read my book or
been exposed to what I teach that write in to say that
they've been "practicing on their ex" and that the ex is
responding by flirting, calling more often, and feeling
more attraction for them.

And never forget the power of jealousy. If your ex learns
that you're getting on with your life and seeing other
people, she's FAR more likely to take a renewed interest
in you.

In other words, if you sit around and sulk you're not going
to become more attractive. If you call all the time and beg
for forgiveness, or talk about how much you miss her, or
whine and cry, this will probably only drive her further
away from you.

Just like when you meet an attractive woman who's used to
getting a lot of attention from men... you must GIVE HER
THE SPACE TO MISS YOU. You need to get on with your life,
don't call often, play "hard to get", tease her and have
fun, and let her know that you're dating other people and
moving forward to enjoy your life.

THIS IS THE KIND OF THING THAT CREATES THAT MAGICAL GUT-
LEVEL ATTRACTION that I'm always talking about.

By the way, I honestly believe that women can tell ALMOST
INSTANTLY if you're the kind of man that she's going to
feel ATTRACTION for.

How?

By the way you look at her, the way you hold yourself, the
way you speak to her, and kinds of things you say.

When you download my eBook "Double Your Dating", one of the
THREE free bonus booklets that's included is called "The
8 Personality Types Of Men Who NATURALLY Attract Women".

This is a description of the traits I've found to be
common among men who ARE successful with women, and men who
AREN'T successful with women.

If you've downloaded the book, I recommend that you re-read
that booklet to refresh your mind with the concepts.

If you haven't downloaded it yet, then go here:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now and get it.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.


DATING TIP: Two Secrets To Attracting Women

I often talk about the concept of ATTRACTION, and why it's
more important than anything else when it comes to being
successful with women and dating.

Well, one of the amazing aspects of ATTRACTION is that it
can be turned up and down. You can actually AMPLIFY an initial
attraction... if you know how.

Of course, if you DON'T know what you're doing, you can
also DESTROY a woman's attraction to you as well. And, in fact,
if you don't know how to AMPLIFY ATTRACTION, then you're most
likely GOING to destroy it whenever you do create it.

In this newsletter, I'm going to talk about two of my
concepts... one that I've talked about a lot, and one that is
relatively new.

Here they are:

1) TWO STEPS FORWARD, ONE STEP BACK.

2) NEVER LET THE LINE GO SLACK.

So let's talk about these concepts and how they relate to
creating a powerful emotional state of ATTRACTION inside of
women.

TWO STEPS FORWARD, ONE STEP BACK

I realized a few years ago that women don't get "turned on"
the same way men do (duh). More importantly, I learned that
men get turned on like light switches, and women get turned on
more like volume knobs.

A man can go from being not interested in sex (like that ever
happens) to completely ready and totally turned on in about 30
seconds. Hell, it's probably more like 3 seconds.

Women, on the other hand, usually start out with a spark of
attraction, and if the situation goes the right way, she gets
more and more turned on... to the point where she's ready to
have sex.

One technique you can use to actually AMPLIFY any initial
attraction that a woman feels is to use the technique that I
call "Two steps forward, one step back".

This simply means progressing a little bit (like maybe kissing
her) and then stepping back for a little while (maybe leaning
back and holding her hand or not touching at all)... and then
moving two steps forward again (maybe kissing her, then kissing
her neck)... and so on.

A powerful ingredient of ATTRACTION for women is ANTICIPATION.

Women love to be given a little bit, then teased... so they
are waiting in anticipation of what's going to come next. Of
course, since you keep taking a step back each time, it even
amplifies the anticipation and sexual tension further.

NEVER LET THE LINE GO SLACK

Once you start to "get" how this process of women getting
turned on works, you're going to need a way to gauge how fast
or slow to go... and to keep a woman interested without turning
into a wussy-boy who calls her 10 times a day.

I call this concept "Never let the line go slack".

Imagine that you are holding one end of a rope, and the woman
is holding the other end. Both of you are pulling gently... enough
to keep TENSION in the line.

It's a little game.

If she starts pulling, you need to give her a little bit of
slack... but not so much that she gets it all. And if she starts
letting go, you need to pull a little more to take up the slack
and keep the TENSION up.

This is a great metaphor for the concept of SEXUAL TENSION.

Most men haven't the SLIGHTEST IDEA IN THE WORLD what sexual
tension is. But all women do.

And that's what we're talking about here.

So imagine that you're out with a woman for the second time.

On the first date you kissed and held hands, and on this date
you're walking around in the mall together.

Let's say you've been teasing her a little bit, and she's
been hitting you and saying "stop it!", but she's laughing so you
know that she's having fun.

Further, let's say that you've teased her so much that you can
tell that it's actually starting to get to her. Maybe you were
teasing her about her shoes being ugly, and she stops after the
tenth joke and asks "Wow, do you really think my shoes are that
ugly?"

At this point, she's letting go of the line a bit... and you
need to do something about it to keep the tension up.

So you might say "Oh, no... they're not that bad... I'm just
giving you a hard time".

At which point she might say "Wow, good. I was starting to
worry that you really hated them and that it was bothering you".

And now you have the opposite situation... both of you are
letting the line go slack at the same time with this whole "No,
I think your shoes are fine" and her saying "Oh, I'm glad you
were just teasing me" thing.

So you have to do something!

You might say "Well, if worse comes to worse you can always
donate them to the Salvation Army so a needy girl who doesn't
care if her shoes are ugly can have them".

You'll probably get hit, but it puts the tension back in the
line again!

Of course, there's an art to doing this correctly, and you
will improve with practice.

You can use this in just about every area imaginable, from
how often you call a woman to being able to tell when it's
appropriate to give a compliment (and then say something to
take it back in a funny way!).

The problem is that most guys let things to too far in one
direction... they call every day for a week instead of letting
the woman call them back a couple of times, and waiting a couple
or a few days to call.

Or they hang on a woman's arm every minute when they go out
together, rather than giving the woman some space and letting her
come find him.

Or they give a woman a compliment, which the woman appreciates,
then they start giving her one after the other after the other...
which comes across as ULTRA WUSSY KISS ASS BOY... and drives the
woman away.

Don't do to much of anything... and never let the line go slack
for too long!

When you use these two concepts together, you will find that
not only will women become FAR more attracted to you, but they'll
STAY THAT WAY for as long as you want them to.

If you DON'T do these two things, then you're probably going
to find that women will do things that make no sense to you, and
they'll RARELY want to be anything more than "just friends",
because they just don't "feel it" for you.

Of course, these are two of literally dozens and dozens of
the techniques, theories, and ideas that I have developed for
attracting women. All of my materials fit together like a big
puzzle, and they support each other... they create a total
framework for making yourself successful with women and dating...

I have techniques for everything from changing your self
esteem and self image to techniques for approaching women in
every kind of situation you can imagine.

I would highly recommend that you invest in my eBook and my
CD Audio Series if you want to get the VERY BEST of my thinking,
and learn ALL of my secrets.

Just go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/ to check out my eBook, and:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/advancedseries/ to check out the
CD audio course.

And by the way, make sure and forward this email to a
friend and encourage them to sign up for my free newsletter.
They'll appreciate it, and I'll appreciate it.

I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David D.

DATING TIP Q&A: How To Tease And Turn Up The Sexual Tension


***QUESTION***

Great book! I have read it three times over the last year and
learned something new each time. I recommend it to all my
friends...well not ALL of them- I DON'T WANT THAT MUCH
COMPETITION!

My Story- I was on a two hour flight over the weekend and I
was seated by a fairly attractive female from the southeast.
I noticed right away that she wasn't to keen on the idea of
flying by here closed eyes, clinched fists, and pursed lips.
I looked over from my book and also noticing her closed book
in her lap and asked her, "Is that book that bad, or do you
just not like flying?" Instant success. Her response was "No,
the books good, I just don't like take offs and landings."
And my retort, "Your not going to start jumping up and down
screaming are you, cause I sure would hate to have to hold
you down and restrain you...well, unless your into that sort
of thing." Got a lite punch in the arm and a jiggle, so far
so good. So, we continued to chit-chat for the next five
minutes until we were off the ground. I then abruptly told
here that I really had to get back to my book as I was in the
middle of some important research. She tried pressing me to
tell her what I was researching, but I put on the James Bond
and told her, "If I tell you, I'd have to kill you...and you
seem like such a nice FRIEND that I would hate to do that."
As bad as I deep down wanted to continue the conversation, I
shut it off...until we hit some turbulence. After the first
couple of small bumps, I leaned over and told her, " You can
stop shaking the plane any time you feel like it, your really
making it hard to read." She cut me a sly glance and went
back to her book. But I kept laying it on. A minute or two
later, we hit a rougher patch of air, and I turned to her
with a straight face and said, "I'd appreciate you not trying
to scare all these people on this plane. I mean, I know I am
the man and all, but even I can't handle ALL these women on
this plane running up to me and needing consoling when we get
on the ground." A harder laugh still. A harder bump still lay
ahead, and this time she bumped into me. I told her I saw
through this turbulence she was causing, and she was just
using it as an excuse to touch me. I told her, "you don't
have to worry, I don't bite...too hard." Still more
turbulence, and I told her if she kept it up, I was going to
have to give her a spanking. Her response was
"Oooohhhh...maybe after the flight". I was like, "If your
lucky..." There was definitely some tension being created by
the situation and dialogue. The weather finally calmed down
and the flight attendants began serving drinks. Wouldn't you
know it, but this girl accidentally spilt her coke all over my
pants and was visibly embarrassed. I calmly turned to her and
said, "You know there are much easier ways to get me out of
my pants. Well, if you want me out of them that bad..." And
I actually reached down and undid my belt and started to undo
my pants when she reached over and said, " I have a three
hour layover, wait till we are on the ground." I told her,
"I don't know, these wet pants are awfully uncomfortable." And
this blew me away, she said, "tell me about it", while
rubbing her thighs together. Just then the waitress walked by
and she grabbed some napkins and um, dried me off so to
speak. The way she was clutching and grabbing at my thigh, I
asked her did she need help drying her pants as well, she
said, "oh yeah!" nodding methodically. We were on the ground
in less than 30 minutes, and needless to say, I now have some
unclaimed baggage. That was the best "lay"-over I ever had.

But I did have one question, how do you handle situations
where you can't get away (3-5 min rule), ie on an airplane? In
a bar, you walk away, but on a bus or plane, your kinda stuck.
I broke it up into blocks with long intentional breaks and
had good success. Is that the best route? And on the same
note, when do you go for the email? After the first chat, or
getting off the plane?

Your indebted friend,

A.H.

University of Alabama
in Huntsville


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah isn't it funny how the people who really understand
ideas are always looking to improve...

I think that you've answered your own question with your
great story, but because I just can't stand to not make any
comments of my own, I'll put in my two cents worth.

First off, your story is a wonderful example of how to
behave when you're in a situation like this (on a plane,
sitting beside her for a long period of time, etc.).

You've demonstrated that you really "get" how to combine
being Cocky and Funny with advancing the conversation,
bringing up sex in a charming way, and using the tension
of the situation to create SEXUAL tension.

There are so many great things about this story... and I'd
love to comment on them all. But I think it speaks for
itself... in fact, go read it again and look for things
that stand out... things you may have missed the first
time.

And to answer your questions in more detail...

The best way to handle a situation really depends on what
OUTCOME you're looking for.

If you're on a plane sitting next to a woman who lives a
thousand miles away, and you're just looking to have some
quick fun, then you're going to want to behave differently
than if you'd like to get a date and the woman you're
talking to lives down the block.

The nice thing about being "put" next to a woman for a
couple of hours is that you have more of her attention over
the duration.

And because you won't have as many interruptions,
distractions, competition, friends trying to pull her away,
etc. you can basically behave as if you were out with her.

One thing you did here that really comes through is YOU
ACTED TOTALLY COMFORTABLE with her.

A lot of guys would have gotten nervous and let this
interfere with the conversation. As I've mentioned many
times before, women can tell INSTANTLY if you're intimidated.
And, of course, it doesn't help things at all.

So one of the things you can do to communicate total comfort
is to STOP TALKING once in awhile and go back to what you
were doing. It's best to do this when the conversation is
going well... on an up note. Just go back to whatever you
were doing.

Pretend that you're sitting next to your best friend. How
would you act?

You'd talk some of the time, and do whatever you wanted
some of the time.

Why? Because you're totally comfortable and UN-self-conscious.

These pauses create a wonderful mystery for the woman that
you're talking to. Remember, most attractive women aren't
used to being around men who are composed. And they're
DEFINITELY not used to being around men who are so comfortable
that they tease and get "annoyed" by her.

The next thing that's very powerful here is that you start
subtly bringing up sexual topics, and most powerfully,
accusing HER of it many times.

It's obvious that you wanted to turn the conversation sexual,
and you did a great job of it.

Most men are too afraid to mention sex during initial
conversations with women... but the fact is that women LOVE
to talk about sex.

What you did is throw out the topic and listened to see if
she was comfortable with it.

By the way she responded, she obviously was... so you dialed
it up another notch, and got more and more suggestive...
without being crude or crass about it.

This gave her the opportunity to kind of weave herself into
the story, and get herself deeper and deeper into it.

Awesome.

And to answer your last question, I think it's best to wait
until the end, right before you're departing if you're just
going to exchange emails and numbers. Do it casually.

I've found that if you get a woman's email and number, then
keep talking to her that much of the mystery is lost. She
knows that you're interested, and she doesn't have to work
for anything.

Oh, and thanks for mentioning that you've read my book THREE
times over the last year... (hint, hint)...

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

And I'll talk to you in a couple of days.


Your Friend,

David D.

Dating Tip: Women Don't Make Sense!


WOMEN DON'T MAKE SENSE!

Have you ever noticed that women don't seem to make sense
AT ALL when it comes to "dating"?

What's up with that?

I'm sure you've been in a situation where you really liked
a woman, and you did everything "right"... but for some reason
she just never felt attracted to you?

You called her often, took her to nice places, bought her
gifts, and were a complete gentleman (translation, you didn't
try to kiss her, gave her space, etc.)... but nothing seemed
to cause her to like you for more than just a "friend"?

And I'm sure you've been in a situation where a TOTALLY
HOT female friend of yours was dating a complete jerk who was
mean and abusive to her... and all she did was tell you about
how badly he treats her (and of course she talks about the
sex too)... all the while you're sitting there and would do
ANYTHING just to have a chance at dating her. Right?

What is going on here?

Why is it that when you're overly nice to a woman in the
beginning, it just causes them to be less and less interested?

And why is it that jerky guys who mistreat women seem to
get laid like Motley Crue, even though they are the WORST
possible choice for an attractive woman?

This is a fascinating question to me.

In fact, I've spent the last four or five YEARS thinking
about this one and other related questions.

It's funny, because when you first ask a question like
this one, you can come up with some "OK" answers. But now
that I've taken the time to REALLY think about it, research
it, and look DEEPER into the topic, I've realized and found
some FASCINATING answers.

But more importantly, I've come up with ways that any
guy can take advantage of the secrets that "jerks" use to
attract women... without having to be abusive.

OK, so let's talk about some of these concepts that I've
been working on.

I can remember when I used to call women all the time,
take them out, and generally show them that I was VERY
interested in them when I first met them. I was REALLY a
"nice" guy.

And you can guess what happened. Exactly...

They would always be nice to me, say that they
appreciated what I had done, and accept my calls...

BUT I NEVER SENSED THAT THEY FELT ANY KIND OF ATTRACTION
FOR ME.

Something just never felt quite right.

I always felt this little tension... as if the woman
KNEW that I was interested, but for some reason THAT VERY
FACT was the thing that kept her from feeling the same
in return.

It was as if the more I tried to get a woman to like
me, the less she would.

IT JUST DIDN'T MAKE SENSE!

Why wouldn't a woman choose to like me when I was such
a nice guy?

Was it my looks? Or the fact that I didn't make a lot
of money? Or that I didn't have a nice car?

Well, I've since realized something...

Women don't CHOOSE at all who they are attracted to.

ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE.

Attraction is something that happens virtually on its
own... WITHOUT ANY CONSCIOUS DECISION AT ALL.

Most people have a hard time accepting the idea that
they're not in control of themselves.

I just read in a marketing book today that some experts
estimate that over 95% of ALL decisions aren't made
consciously.

In other words, less than 5% of all the "decisions" that
people make were ALREADY MADE FOR THEM by their minds, and
they're just trying to pretend that it was their idea!

Well, when it comes to women and ATTRACTION, things are
no different.

Ask a woman why she's attracted to a certain guy, and
she'll answer "Oh, he's such a sweetheart" or "He's really
a great guy" or whatever.

I personally believe that if you could get a woman to
stop and think about it for a minute, the REAL answer would
be something like "I have no frickin' idea whatsoever. I
just feel an emotion that makes me crave being with him, and
then I justify it with my mind so I can EXPLAIN it to myself
and everyone else so I don't sound crazy."

Whoa.

That's heavy.

But if you take a look around, it's not NEARLY as heavy
as REALITY. Think about all of the women you've known who
were smart, attractive, and interesting. Now think about all
of those women who dated abusive, insensitive losers who did
nothing but take from them... and how the women just dealt
with it and kept dating them.

WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON HERE?

Well, the answer is somewhat complex.

A combination of evolutionary pressures, cultural and
religious programming, and the magical way the mind works
creates a very unique and interesting puzzle.

But let me tell you one thing about this puzzle.

When you're first learning how to be successful with
women and dating, you must put aside all of your past
ideas and conditioning for awhile.

You have to pretend that you don't know ANYTHING about
how women work... and play a little game.

Instead of doing what you THINK should work, try doing
what ACTUALLY works.

When you have this mindset, you'll TRY different things,
JUST TO SEE WHAT WORKS.

Instead of saying "Oh, that won't work", just try it.

Today I was out with a good friend of mine. We were at
the mall walking around, and I was showing him how easy it
is to meet women.

We went into a fancy store, and walked up to a girl who
was selling makeup. He started a conversation with her, and
I watched.

She was laughing, and he was doing fine.

But you know that point in a conversation with a woman
where you both know that something needs to happen?

She needed to get back to work, and he needed to either
move on or ask for her information.

So I walked over and said "Here, let me see your hand"
(she had her left hand in her pocket, and we couldn't see
if she had a wedding band on).

She took her hand out, and I looked at it.

Sure enough, she had a ring on her finger. But it
didn't look like a wedding band to me.

So pointed at it and said "So does this ring mean
something? Or is it just to ward-off dumb asses?"

She started laughing.

Here's the good part...

I looked at my friend and said OUT LOUD "See, that's
how you find out if she's single. I've got a line for
everything..." and I laughed.

Then we asked her if she had a card, and made fun of
her for not having an email address... of course, my
friend walked away with her info.

Now, the funny part of this story is that most guys
would CRINGE if they even THOUGHT of saying something
like "See, that's how you find out if she's single..."
etc. right to a woman's face.

But she found the humor and arrogance quite funny
and charming.

What I'm trying to say is that you need to put aside
your ideas about what women respond to when it comes to
ATTRACTION... and start doing what WORKS, instead of
what you THINK SHOULD WORK.

Remember, WOMEN DON'T MAKE SENSE.

If you keep trying to think about it and get them to
make sense in your mind, you're going to keep going in
circles and chasing your tail.

Success with women really comes down to learning a
new way to think about women, then combining it with the
actual techniques that cause women to feel that magical
emotion called ATTRACTION.

Once you start using the techniques in the real world,
in real situations, you start to get a FEEL for how this
whole thing works. And once you start to see how successful
you can be, it encourages you to start doing more
"illogical" things.

You've probably read about my new CD Audio series my
newsletters lately.

One of the things I'd like to mention here is that I take
several HOURS to explain how and why these UNCONSCIOUS things
are taking place, and how to not only overcome your own
personal fears and limitations, but how to understand what's
going on inside of a woman... and those things that cause a
woman to feel an UNCONTROLLABLE ATTRACTION.

Most of the material I teach in this series is advanced.

It's not just a replay or expanded version of my eBook.

In fact, I assume that you've already read my book if
you're listening to it (and if you haven't, then I recommend
that you read my eBook first).

After listening to this series, I ABSOLUTELY GUARANTEE
that you will look at the world and women VERY differently.

And I guarantee that you will feel more power and control,
and experience more success with women as a result.

This material isn't taught anywhere else, and it's the
culmination of several years work.

Check it out:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/advancedseries

And, of course, if you haven't read my book yet, then make
sure you get that as well:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

Enjoy, and I'll talk to you again in a few days!

Your Friend,

David D.

THE MAILBAG: Ideas For "Getting Physical"

What a great Mailbag... just full of great stuff. And at the
end you'll read the follow up from the guy who won the trip
to Vegas... and the story is OUT OF CONTROL. Enjoy!


***QUESTION***

I have been using your techniques for the past month and my
"popularity" is soaring. I would like to thank you for
finally saying what I have thought for years. Here is my
question. About 5 years ago I used to go to this bar and
there was a server that I was just ga ga for. Back then I
was very shy and reserved. We talked here and there
nothing ever happened more than that and that was only when
she brought me my drinks. Well, this weekend was my first
weekend out since I moved back home and she was working at
this new bar, I went to go approach her and all of sudden
my mind was blank so I just backed off b4 she even knew i
was going to approach her. How should I handle this
especially since she has been bartending for at least 5
years she has seen it all and been hit on by EVERYONE!
What would you do?

D.V.

West Virginia

>>>MY COMMENTS:

One of the keys to approaching women like this one who are
hit on ALL THE TIME by guys is to be as TOTALLY COOL AND
CALM AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN.

By the way, Bartenders are EXCELLENT candidates for asking
"Hey, do you have email?"... because it's very low-key
and non-threatening.

Try this... roll into the bar, and when you see her, say
"Hey, long time no see... so you're still tending bar
after all these years, huh?"

See if she remembers you. If she doesn't, then make some
small talk about how you used to come in the other bar
where she worked. But keep it short, because she'll
probably be busy.

Then say "So what, are you married with ten kids now?"

This is a cute way to ask a woman that you haven't talked
to in awhile if she's single...

Then say "Well, I'm going to get back to my friends... good
seeing you"... and just as you turn, shoot back over your
shoulder "Hey! Do you have email?"

If she says "Yes", then say "Great, write it down for me."

Remember, the key is to be laid back and cool about it.
Just act like you're connecting with an old female friend
from high school.


***COMMENT***

Now personally I like to describe myself as an idealist,
you would probably dub me king of the wusses. Yet every once
in awhile Ill pull my head out of the clouds and look at
the world around me with some realism. Case in point is a
young women I met almost a year ago (also the reason i
started subscribing to the newsletter) Now at first things
actually seemed to go well but they degenerated and after
careful look around I think I know why.

After one of those lovely "lets just be friends" talks I
started talking to one of her female friends, and oddly
enough she got jealous. ( approx 2 hrs. later) Now I have
had other female friends tell me shes flirting with me....
but the best results I have ever gotten with her is when
she told me to sue her. Now being a prelaw student I wrote
out a very complementary and sarcastic legal complaint it
broke down barriers almost immediately, and for about three
weeks we were trying to figure out when we were both free
to go out (we both had 30+credit hours of classes) Sadly it
feel through because of an old boyfriend pissing her off at
guys in general.

Now what I believe works so well with cock and funny, is
that it goes around so many of those internal self-defense
mechanisms by giving them the opportunity to be the
aggressor. More importantly, it gives them a challenge
where you can't be made into an enemy. (unlike the
traditional advice of my friends to go out with another
girl to get her jealous) Finally the well documented
phenomenon that while girls may initially like a guy being
super nice it quickly grows boring ( much like many college
professors.) but cocky and funny offers a way of being nice
but in a different less boring way. In closing, I just want
to say what a deviously simple and effective device you
have cooked up in cocky and funny

kR
Gainesville FL


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, I'd like to extend to you an offer of gratitude and
appreciation for the aforementioned compliments... and I'd
also like to recommend that you stop talking so much like
an attorney... lol.

And by the way, your plans with her probably didn't fall
through because an old boyfriend "pissed her off at guys
in general"... it probably happened because you didn't
MAKE SOMETHING HAPPEN with her.

There's ALWAYS time to get together with a woman.

If she says "Well, I have a lot of homework to do" just
say "Well procrastinate tonight... I'm more fun".

Women generally seem to love it when you say "Cancel your
plans... I'm more interesting anyway". It says all the
right things in a Cocky and Funny way.

Thanks for the compliments, by the way!


***QUESTION***

Hey!! I need your help with some examples of cocky &
funny!! Firstly let me tell you how your book has helped me
after just a few days!! I saw an attractive girl in a club
that I go to often. This was the first time that I left
with a phone number & email address. I decided that enough
is enough and I was just going to approach someone. I
walked over to her and asked if she would do me a favour by
requesting a song for me, she asked why I wouldnt do it and
I said that the DJ might play it if she askes cos some guys
might consider her to be pretty which she asked if I was
one of them, but I didnt answer but just again told her to
do me this favour. She asked me to go with her... I went
with her, thanked her afterwards and went back to my
friends. Basically not paying much attention to her for the
next 45 mins. When I (accidentally) bumped into her again, I
asked her name, if she had email. She automatically offered
me her address, so I waited till she was writing it down
when I told her to include her phone number, although her
actual no etc... after that I told her I would talk to her
soon....... and that I was going back to my friends, she
sat down to have a conversation with me, but I left.

Now this is where I need your help about the cocky & funny.
As I am only beginning, I could use a couple of examples of
what I could say to her, and do I do it on the phone or
wait till the actual date?? I was thinking along the lines
of saying I had to ask for her number seeing that she went
out of her way to impress me.... etc... so any other
suggestions please would be very much appreciated.

CJ
UK


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice job. I love the way you asked her to get the DJ to
play a song... and telling her that "some guys might
consider her pretty"... and then not answering her as to
whether or not you are one of those guys.

Right now you should probably do a couple of things:

1) Email her and say something charming, like "Hey, it
was good meeting you. Let's get together for a cup of
tea and make friends... just in case I need you in the
future to get some more DJs to play music for me..."

2) GET A COPY OF MY EBOOK! If you're doing this well with
just the information you're getting from my newsletters,
then you really need to get the FOUNDATION. You must learn
how the whole process works, and how to put all the steps
together... http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

And keep up the good work.


***QUESTION***

Do you have any advice for night clubs or night club
tactics?

Thanks.

M.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, nightclubs are a very interesting phenomenon.

When you go to a nightclub, you'll see many women that
are acting out a paradox: They're all dressed up in
sexy clothes (obviously to get attention from men), but
they're acting like they don't want men to talk to them
most of the time.

Of course, this isn't always true all the time, but if
you go to nightclubs and bars, then I'm SURE you know
exactly what I'm talking about.

Here are a couple of pointers:

1) Remember that attractive women are usually hit on a
lot at clubs and bars. Most of the guys are drunk and
stupid... or using lame pick up lines... or acting like
wussies... or offering to buy drinks... etc.

The first thing to do is NOT ACT LIKE OTHER STUPID GUYS
WHO HAVE NO GAME.

Don't kiss up to women in nightclubs, and don't GIVE
THEM YOUR POWER. In other words, hold yourself and
communicate like you are in complete control of yourself
and your surroundings... and like nothing she does can
upset you.

2) Remember that for the first few minutes you're
probably going to get some resistance from most women.

One of the big tests when meeting women in a nightclub
is whether or not you can keep talking to a woman who
isn't being overly friendly.

Now, some women will be completely cold and uninterested.

If you encounter a rude or cold woman, just move on...
you need to be selective and not put aside your own
standards just because a woman is attractive.

On the other hand, if a woman seems a little bit
resistant, just keep the conversation going. You'll find
in many cases that after 5 or 10 minutes she'll begin to
warm up.

If you're having a conversation (as opposed to just
getting her email/number and leaving), then you need to
turn up the Cocky and Funny comments, and just play it
cool like a friend.

Bars are a great place for palmistry, astrology, handwriting
analysis, and other "cold reading" techniques. Learn a few
if you want to have great conversations in bars.

3) If you're not VERY SKILLED, then just get a woman's email
and/or number and go. There are so many distractions in bars
and clubs that it really makes it difficult to have an
understandable conversation. There are other guys, usually
her girlfriends, etc., and if you don't REALLY know what
you're doing, then you're likely to drop the ball somewhere.

Just get the digits and follow up later.

4) Try going with a friend and approaching women for each
other. Go up to a woman and say "Hi, wow... you know what?
I think my friend would really love you. He's such a nice
guy..." and then talk up your friend. When he shows up,
introduce him. This is a great way to start conversations
with women if you're just getting started.

5) Don't worry about what happens. Just go over and talk
to every woman you see. The women expect it, and it's
GREAT practice!

Also, it's a great idea to find guys who are good at
meeting women in bars and to WATCH THEM to learn how to
act. You'll learn a lot from doing this.


***QUESTION***

Dave,

Firstly a good effort all round on the book and mail bags
full of useful stuff and always good for a laugh when I
realise that I have done the same things as thousands of
other blokes and crashed and burned in the same way. I've
been getting the mail bags for a few months and also got
the book, after not having any success for over 3 years
I'm getting confidence by practicing the techinques in
different situations like with checkout ladies in the
grocery store and other shops, its natural to talk to
them, you make their day as they've been sat there all day
and nobody’s spoken to them and you get feed back on c+f
lines, a captive audience, use it guys. I've also bought a
book on Palm reading as advised by you, I'll let you know
who I go on this one.

Ok my question. In your mailbags and book you mostly deal
with getting the e-mail address and meeting up a few days
later, which is great if you're always in the same town. I
move around a lot with my job from hotel to hotel. I'm also
leaving my job in a few months to travel the world. With
this in mind I won't have the time to take a few days to
mail and meet for coffee etc as I'm/will be constantly
moving on every few days-weeks. Do you have any advice for
closing the deal in a first meeting and then walking away
from it? i.e. the one night stand, as if I walk away after
3 minutes with only an e-mail address thats the opportunity
gone. I'm sure there are plenty of readers that would
benefit from some advice in this area.

Keep up the good work

D.

Wales

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, if you meet a woman in a checkout line or at the
desk of a hotel, try your new Palmistry techniques with
her, and once she's interested just say "Well, I have to
go check into my room now. But I'll meet you at the
coffee shop across the street at 7 and tell you more."

There are 100 ways to use this stuff, of course.

One thing you really have going for you is the fact
that you're NEW to each area, and you're ONLY STAYING
A SHORT TIME.

Women really love to play tour guide, so ask them to.

Just say "Hey, I don't really know my way around here,
are you busy today? Take me to some of the sights."

Charm them with your fun personality, read their palms,
and then have them show you around.

After a little area tour, invite them up to your hotel
for a drink and some lip reading...


***COMMENT***

Cocky & Funny Categories

Dear David, using the C & F techniques, and analysing them,
I have discovered that there several classes or categories
of c & f :

1) When you are cockyandfunniing about you.
You are saying that you are the best, or you are very
sexy, clever, etc in a funny way. i.e.Me:"You know, I'm
really tired of you women treating me like some kind of
piece of meat. I have feelings too, and I don't just like
being thought of as a sex object."

2) When you cockyandfunniing about her.
You are saying that she is wussy, nerd, ridiculous, etc
in a funny way. i.e. "Hey, I can borrow you a wig, but
please, don't kill it's roots !!

3) When you cockyandfunniing about other person, an object,
a place, etc. i.e. Me:"You know, if that chick lost about
200 pounds, I think I'd be into her"

4) when you are inverting(in a funny way) the stereotypes
and asummes than girl must date boy, girl must approach
boy, etc i.e:

SHE:"Are you from around here?"
ME: "What, are you trying to pick me up? I'm not that easy."


There are other cocky & funny categories, and some
categories mix each others, but these are the more
important (I think). I think that the #2 & #4 are the more
powerful and efective categories. I'm going to tell you, in
wich case I use them (If the Maestro agree with me )

1. C & F about me.
It's useful, but you can't use it too mutch, it's more
useful If you are a not a cute boy, if you are awful,(bald,
overheight, etc). You have to use it with care, if not you
are becaming too cocky.

2. c & f about her.
It's very useful,(especially on hotties and average women),
and it's very powerful, but I discover that if she has low
selfsteem she may get upset (but she will get atracted too).

3. c & f about other things.
this is the more secure c & f mode, but it is generates
less atraction than others.

4. c & f inverting stereotipes

it's very funny and it's very powerful, and easy to use.



>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a great little set of categories, and it's a great
place to start if you're trying to come up with funny and
charming things to day for different situations.

I've included it so others can use it as a guide when
working on their own situations... very nice, and thanks!



***QUESTION***

Dave,

Hey, I just downloaded your e-book (finally) and I must say
that the information in it is absolutely invaluable. I have
already gotten a few email addresses and my confidence is
really improving. However, there is a few problems that I
have encountered that I really don't have any answer for.
For instance, just the other night a few girls were hanging
out in my roommates and I dorm room at the college we attend.
I was pulling the whole cocky and funny thing on the cutest
of the bunch and she really seemed to be eating it all up. I
mean, she was laughing, hitting me (in a playful manner)
asking me questions and just being totally receptive to me.
This lasted for probably over an hour.

However, for reasons I cannot explain, she started showing
interest in one of my friends for some reason. I mean, she
was asking him questions, focusing her attention on him,
sitting by him etc. I really don't know what I did wrong or
what I should of done in this situation. Please give me
some insight as to what the heck is going on in a situation
such as this one.

Also, I attend a small university so there are many
beautiful women to practice my game on. However, at the
same time many of the girls know each other so I don't want
to ask for email addresses like it's going out of style and
get labeled as someone who is desperate. What should I do?
I mean, it sucks seeing a girl you got shut down by
everyday, now imagine if you see like five or ten girls you
got shut down by everyday. Please, some words of wisdom
would be tremendously appreciated.

I.

OH.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

As far as your first situation goes... there are several
possibilities.

My guess is that you waited too long to go to the next
level. Instead of talking to her for AN HOUR, maybe you
should have busted on her for 15 minutes and then said
"Hey, come with me to the store..." and left with her.

Then you could have progressed, maybe held her hand,
kissed her, etc.

If you wait too long with an attractive woman, she'll
lose interest.

And by the way, you never know... she might just have liked
your friend or whatever.

The point is, it really doesn't matter. Just say "next" in
your head and move on.

And about your concern that women label you as "desperate",
who cares? It's more important that you TAKE ACTION and
NOT CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK than it is that you have all the
hot woman on your campus "not think of you as desperate".

Just do it.


***QUESTION***

Hi David,

I don't think I've ever seen you address the "friends
first" issue... I think there's a difference between a woman
saying "i only like you as a friend" and "lets be friends
first and build a relationship from that". Especially if
you meet the woman from a personal ad which says she wants
friends first.. (so its not like shes saying she's saying
you have to be her friend first when you first meet her)
The only thing that bothers me is if she thinks of you as a
friend then she's still single so she might date other guys
and you get to hear about it. This isn't really a question
to a specific problem, but because I'm still new to dating
(I'm 21) and don't have much experience (which is changing
thanks to your great newsletters!) I have run into a few of
the "friends first" encounters and I don't know quite what
to make of it.. should I be their friend first, and think
it might turn into something more?

Thanks!

SK

Florida


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, the only real difference between a woman saying "I
only like you as a friend" and "Let's be friends first
and see what happens" is...

WHEN YOU HEAR "LET'S BE FRIENDS FIRST" IT TRICKS YOU
INTO BELIEVING THAT THIS COULD ACTUALLY HAPPEN... SO YOU
WIND UP SPANKING YOUR CHICKEN FOR ABOUT TEN TIMES AS
LONG...

When a woman says "Let's be friends first", what they
REALLY mean is "I don't feel a gut level, sexual ATTRACTION
for you right now... but you're an awful nice guy and I
don't want to hurt your feelings..."

If you see a personal ad with "Friends first" it probably
means that the last guy she dated wanted to get married
after the first date... and she doesn't want another loser
WUSSY boy in her life.

Of course, there are a lot of possibilities, but generally
speaking, you don't want to get into "friend" mode, because
it's not easy to get out.

Telling HER that she seems like she'd make a nice friend is
a GREAT idea, because it makes her wonder if you like her,
and it creates tension.

If this doesn't make sense to you, then I'd recommend that
you check out my book or audio series and then think about
it again.

Until you "GET" this, you're going to have a hard time
attracting a woman.



***COMMENT***

I got your book and the first thing I did was read the
short book about Sex Secrets... lol Now I figured I was
pretty successful with the women and wanted to see how I
compared to your tactics.... man you nailed it big time!!

I have been seeing this one gorgeous woman for about 2
months now and I thought about what you said in the
book.... to keep her attracted and wanting more.... use
anticipation. Well I know she wants me bad and so I
thought I would just see how bad she does, so I talked to
her over lunch.... since she only had 30 minutes for lunch
I put it to the test right off. She sat down close to me
and looked me in the eyes.... I commented on her beauty and
ran my hand over her leg just slightly to let her know I
was there and what I was thinking.... I could see her light
up instantly. I took my hand away and changed the
conversation knowing the anticipation was already building.

I told her how I would like to give her a massage...body
massage to ease her stress and she agreed this would be
good.... I then ran my fingers over her hand and then
touched her slightly on the cheek.... lol...she was eating
this up. I then noticed she had a slight stain on her
uniform and reached to dust it off... this thru her big
time.... she squealed a little and said it gave her goose
bumps....lol.... I just gave her a slight smile and backed
off again. Her next comment was, I wish I brought a change
of clothes here today cause I am gonna need em'...lol... I
knew the anticipation was working! Although these were
things I would normally have done without reading about it,
the book is a great source and it works... so guys if you
want to get the heads up on moving her to the next level,
order the book.... you won't be sorry!! ANTICIPATION!!!
Keep up the great work my man!

R. Canada


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, understanding this concept of Anticipation is SUCH
a key to making women feel turned on.

I don't mention it much, but that bonus booklet that comes
along with Double Your Dating is a VERY powerful set of
ideas and techniques for getting a woman VERY turned on...

As you know, there are little things you can do physically
that literally make a woman go crazy with desire. I'm sure
you're making this lady VERY happy... and I'm sure that
she can't believe that she's met a guy who actually
"gets it".

Nice, and keep up the great work.



***QUESTION***

Hi Dave, I liked your book and I love your news letter
which is very informative and quite creative, both by you
and also other contributors; keep it up.

Basically I've been a successful guy with the females by
being very masculine and proud of it and I'm glad that in
your book you encourage this attitude. After reading your
book I have increased my success with the females tenfold
and I thank you for that.I am 32 but I look about 20 and
even when I was younger I've always fancied women that were
much older than me but I always attracted younger girls who
I like as well but with your help the girl l'm going out
with is 33 (she thinks l'm 21 because l told her to guess
my age) and she's extremely attractive (10 out of 10)
successful and confident and men of all ages try to pick
on her whenever we go out and l leave her alone. We met
when I went for an interview for the company she owns and
she ask for me to come to her office and after l
complimented her on her business she said l was flattering
her and l said "in your dreams, that's the worst pick up
line l've heard all day", and she was so taken back by the
challenge l presented to her that after l told her the
compliment was just to get the job and that she shouldn't
use her position just to use me as a piece of meat. Anyway l
poured out C&F on her even told her that l wouldn't take
the job because l knew what she was up to and she said we
needed to talk and she gave me her card with all her
contact # and she also wrote her private home and mobile #.
l took the card but l told her since it was her interested
in me she should call me and l gave her my # as well. She
called the same day and we've been seeing each other ever
since.

But l do have a question in one of your news letters you
said "women perceive good-looking guys who act cocky as
MAJOR PLAYER, and too much cocky too soon can back fire on
you". Further you said that "If you are a pretty good
looking , you might turn down the cocky and turn up funny".
Well l'm good looking oh yes; but l know it's not
everything but it helps and true to your above statement
sometimes when l'm cocky it back fires on me even when the
girl (or should l say especially) makes the first move. I
know you've got the answer so please give it some of your
time and reply please. Maximum respect to you David.

JS
London


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, here's the deal...

There are exceptions to every rule, and you may have found
one of them.

If you're a regular guy and you're dealing with an
attractive woman, then Cocky and Funny is generally a great
technique.

If you're a VERY attractive guy, then being too Cocky and
Funny can intimidate women and/or make them think that
you must be a big player.

NOW, if you're an attractive guy and you're dealing with
a VERY attractive woman who is also POWERFUL (owns a
company, for instance) then you'll probably want to turn
the Cocky and Funny back up to provide MAXIMUM CHALLENGE
to her.

The SUPER HOTTIES are used to ALL guys rolling over for
them, and you can turn up the heat if you think she needs
it in this situation.



***QUESTION***


Hey Dave,

I've written atleast 1 million emails to you! And i
haven't heard anything back! Nah it's cool i know you have
another million emails that start off the same way. So
heres the question!

How do i get womens phone numbers for the possibilty of
sex, like they know if i ring its for sex kinda thing. I
don't want to do the whole date thing, its boring and
conversation is stupid! I just wanna ring them up and say
it like this, "hey i'm really horny and i was wondering, do
you wanna come over for some hot sex and then piss off so i
can get some peace and quite?" I dont really want them to
hang around, it's kinda awkward. Im not an a**hole but
thats what i think is on most other guys minds as well as
mine. Is there anyway to put this to a woman without them
feeling hurt or as if there being used?

Thanks R. Australia.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Look, if I had the answer to this one I'D BE RICHER THAN
BILL GATES AND WARREN BUFFETT PUT TOGETHER.

Now will you do me a favor and please get a life?

And stop emailing to ask how you can get women to come
over for sex because you're horny, then piss off so you
can get some peace and quiet without them feeing hurt or
used...

"Huh huh... Hey Beavith... I'm horny. We need a chick."


***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

I've been following your instructions to the letter and I
have to say it works like a charm! I have one problem
though. I never know when a woman is attracted to me or not.
I can't seem to be able to pick up the signs. I mean I know
lasses are attracted to me only when their friends tell me
or they do. It can be REALLY annoying not knowing whether to
progress onwards or not.

I mean, at the moment there's this lass who's really
religious and I want to get with her & I've been working
overtime on the teasing and the cocky/funny routine. I just
can't tell where I stand with her. I was just wondering if
you had any pointers that could help me?

Thanks,

N. Bradley, England


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, it's very simple. I call it "The Kiss Test".

You can see it on the second page of my main website, or
read about it in my book.

You need to TAKE THINGS TO THE NEXT LEVEL PHYSICALLY.

This will tell you EVERYTHING you need to know INSTANTLY.

And by the way, if a woman will agree to spend time alone
with you, and she seems to be having a good time, then
she's probably interested at SOME level.

If you're using the materials and being Cocky and Funny
etc. and she's hitting you, laughing, etc. that's also a
VERY good sign.

But use The Kiss Test. It's so simple and easy... and it
works SO well.


***FOLLOW UP TO VEGAS MAN***

Well Dave,

It never ceases to amaze me how brilliant you are. I saw
that you put my e-mail in the newsletter, so I guess I owe
you the dirt. My experience can be summed up in one
word... INF***INGCREDIBLE, but I won't stop with one word.
See if you can keep count?

The first chick I met sat next to me on the plane. C&F. She
crammed her tongue down my throat. I got off the plane
with a different chick. C&F. SHE asked Me to lunch with
her. On the shuttle to the Hotel, yet another female. C&F.
I'll come back to her. Poolside, another young lady. C&F.
She asked me to save a dance at the party for her.
He-he-he...

I could keep going but I don't want to jinx my future
success. To sum it up, I talked to over 20 different
women, made out with 3, and woke up next to 1 (I'm such a
bad man). I got 4 out of 4 e-mails/#s from girls I asked
(the only girls that we're worthy of myself){example of C&F
and my character}, and that girl from the shuttle... I only
talked to her for 3 minutes on that ride, and she had a
friend come and give me a note with her info. The trip
ended with a h-job on the plane ride home.

Now I don't encourage everyone out there to use the info
in DYD to become a male slut like me. I am this way because
this is the first time I have been single since I was 18 (6
years ago). This is also the first time that I have really
experienced success... Thanks to DYD and C&F. I used to be
a MAJOR WUSS. I never talked to or went out with a girl
unless she talked to me/asked me out. Needless to say I
was home a lot. I never learned the SKILLS to be successful
with women until I bought Double-Your-Dating (plug). Since
I read the book three months ago, I have literally hooked
up with over a dozen women, with very minimal effort. If
you are reading this it is OBVIOUS that you want to improve
your life, just like I did when I stumbled upon David's
website. Do yourself a favor, BUY THE DAMN BOOK! Hell, if
you don't achieve success with it, I will buy it back from
you. I've got some buddies out there who can use this
treasure. Stop being a WUSS (like I was). Dave I owe it all
to you. From everyman getting laid because of your
advice...

THANK YOU!!!!!!!
G. from L.A.

P.S. My first born is going to be named David, even if its
a girl!!!

DATING TIP: An Unexpected ATTRACTION Secret

In my never-ending quest to get to the root of what it is
that creates the magic known as ATTRACTION, I came upon an
idea that really struck a chord.

I realized that there was a common thread running through
many of the concepts that I discovered while studying guys
who were naturally successful at attracting women.

At first it wasn't obvious to me, but the more I thought
about it, the more the pieces came together.

Here's the point I realized:

MANY OR MOST OF THE QUALITIES, BEHAVIORS, AND COMMUNICATIONS
THAT MAKE WOMEN FEEL ATTRACTION ARE CONNECTED SOMEHOW TO
DISPLAYING SOCIAL STATUS.

Let's do a little refresher course on how ATTRACTION
works...

1. ATTRACTION isn't a choice. Attraction isn't some obvious
logical process that happens because we choose it. It's an
EMOTION that is triggered in RESPONSE to certain things.

2. If a woman feels the emotion of ATTRACTION, then almost
nothing else matters. No amount of pressure from friends or
family, thinking about it, reasoning, etc. will do anything
about it. Once ATTRACTION is present, it can override all
logical decision making processes.

3. If a woman DOESN'T feel the emotion of ATTRACTION after
she's had the chance to interact with you, then there's
really nothing you're going to be able to do about it. You
can't convince a woman with logic to feel attraction. It
just doesn't work that way.

4. If you study ATTRACTION, and how it works, you'll begin
to see trends, processes, and predictable patterns that
happen.

5. Women are attracted to men for very different reasons
than men are attracted to women. Yes, they share some
common reasons for attraction, but for the most part they
are VERY different.

All in all, I really believe that you have to set up
the "relationship" with a woman correctly from the VERY
BEGINNING if you hope to have it turn into something
romantic. If you don't set it up right from the start, it's
difficult or almost impossible to change things later on.

As you've probably read in past newsletters, women are
NOT attracted to weak guys. Women don't like WUSSIES.

So what DO women like?

Well, to answer that question, let's take a look at
some pop psychology that we've all heard about.

Here are a few terms that you've probably heard:

1. Status Symbols
2. Approval Seeking
3. Conspicuous Consumption

These are terms that are used all the time to describe
common patterns of human behavior...

Status symbols are those things that we obtain to show
others that "who we are" and that "we're somebody".

This can be anything from cars to clothing and even
the way we talk.

Approval seeking is when we try to get someone who we
think has status to "approve" of what we're doing, our
motivations, or our reasoning.

Conspicuous Consumption is when we go out of our way
to spend more money than necessary, buy more than we need,
or otherwise display to others that "we can afford it".

Driving a Mercedes, wearing designer clothing, and
eating at trendy restaurants are examples of conspicuous
consumption.

Again, you've probably heard these pop psychology terms
a thousand times... but did you ever stop to think about
what they all have in common?

I already let the cat out of the bag...

IT'S STATUS.

And the more I look at how ATTRACTION works, the more I
realize that STATUS is one of those keys that triggers it
for women.

The wonderful thing about STATUS is that IT'S ALL IN
THE MIND.

Sure, there are "external" things you can do to show
women that you have status, but NOTHING is more powerful
than BEHAVING like you do.

So why would women feel ATTRACTION for men who have
STATUS?

That's a great question. And the answer to that
question has led me on a quest through some fascinating
new research that's being done...

But let's just say that I've proven to myself beyond
the shadow of any doubt that STATUS plays a huge in this
puzzle.

So what's the OPPOSITE of status?

You guessed it...

BEING A WUSSY.

And as you've probably heard me say a million times...

WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES.

So what are some things you can do to show that you
have that INTERNALLY CREATED status that causes women to
feel an UNCONTROLLABLE ATTRACTION for you?

Well, one of them is to use the technique I call being
"Cocky and Funny".

This is where you tease, flirt, bust on, and generally
give a woman a hard time. Of course, you can also be Cocky
and Funny about things other than her...

But the point is that when you make funny, arrogant
comments... while at the same time acting completely calm
and natural (like you would with a friend), you project
that you are TOTALLY COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN.

I have an exercise for you...

This week while you're out and about, see if you can
find some police officers who are taking a break, or
walking around.

I've noticed that police officers have a particular
way of holding themselves, walking, and driving that
SCREAMS the message "I'M IN CONTROL HERE".

Know what I mean?

And guess what... women LOVE police officers (or any
man in uniform who acts like "he's the man").

Police officers do something that's amazing... they
use their uniform, position, and body language to CREATE
the "high status" response from those around them.

You know what's cool? YOU CAN TOO...

Next, I'd like you to think about how you behave when
you're around an attractive woman.

Do you hold your head high, your shoulders back... and
maintain a totally cool, calm demeanor?

Or do you act nervous, apologetic, and like you're
trying to impress her?

Try this...

Next time you're talking to an attractive woman, start
making jokes that hint at the idea that she's a "lower
class" person. Remember, I said jokes.

Tease her about her clothes being purchased second
hand... tell her that you hope she has a good job, because
you don't want to marry a woman who hasn't paid off her
trailer home yet... when she tells you what she does for
work, accuse her of lying and just trying to impress you
and that you secretly know she's homeless.

This is all very subtle, but without saying anything
explicitly about yourself, you can create a situation
where a woman sees you as a "high status man"... just by
the way you communicate.

In summary:

-Women feel ATTRACTION for "high-status" men

-You don't need money, looks, or anything else to project
that you have high status.

-You can create this situation purely with your communication,
and bypass all the B.S. that men go through to impress women.

Take a look around you... the guys who are successful with
women all project that they have HIGH STATUS... whether they
do or not.

And the guys who AREN'T successful with women project that
they DON'T have high status... even if they do.

You'll be hearing more about this from me in the future,
as it's such an important concept. But for now just start
paying attention to what's going on around you. You'll be
stunned at what you see.

Your Friend

David D.

THE MAILBAG: Approaching Women And Cocky/Funny Stories

IMPORTANT NOTE: I get emails every once in awhile saying
"Hey Dave, I stopped getting your emails" or "I haven't
been getting all your newsletters anymore". The problem of
unsolicited mail (s p a m) is getting pretty bad these
days, so some of the larger email providers such as AOHELL,
Not-So-Hot-Mail, etc. will often put mail into some kind of
"junk" folder for you. Or they'll block it altogether
without you even knowing about it. If you have any trouble
in the future, check to see if you have a "junk" folder in
your system, and look there for it. And I recommend that if
you stop getting email from me that you go to the main
DoubleYourDating.com website and enter your email again. I
also want to mention that I NEVER EVER EVER EVER sell or
rent out my newsletter or customer lists to others, so
your email address is safe with me (in other words, it's
safe to give me your "good" address. I won't share it with
anyone else).

IMPORTANT NOTE #2: Don't take it personally if I don't
include your letter to me in one of these newsletters. I
get hundreds and hundreds of emails a week, and I can only
include a handful. Keep writing! Don't give up! And follow
the directions at the end of this Mailbag if you want to
increase your chances of being included.


Ahhhh, now on with the Mailbag... which, I might add, is on
of the best and most entertaining yet. Enjoy.


***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave-

What's up buddy? Once again you have done it. The C & F
routine works like a charm. I've been getting your
newsletters for a while now, and all of the advice has been
great. I've been meaning to get the book, but I'm a poor-ass
college student (any contributions out there to my book fund?)
...I'll eventually pick it up in a game of pool sharking or
something...

Anyway...one success story here...

I went out with my friend a couple nights ago (easily a 9),
and I've known her since HS. When we got to the club, I
POURED ON the C & F. At one point in her conversation, she
told me she was out of smokes. Now, instead of doing the
"wussy" thing, which would be to go buy her another pack, I
said "There are plenty of girls in here who will give me
some" (That works on so many levels). So, I left the table
and went up to five different girls and got two cigarettes
from each (one for now, one for the road). Nonetheless, my
friend was set aback by the whole thing, and said that she
didn't know I was such a ladies man. I said something like
"Just giving the public what it wants". She started to get so
competitive with me, that she decided that she needed to get
some random guy's number (maybe for self confidence issues,
whatever...). So, while she was doing that, I decided to step
it up a notch. While she was taking the time to get one number,
I proceeded to get THREE numbers from three different girls,
using the C & F routine (hot damn, it works!). She came back
to me, and without saying anything, showed me the
number. I countered and showed my three numbers. Nonetheless,
at this point she was so crazy jealous over me, that we ended
the night @ my place. sweet...

One last comment...

Dave, you talked about Triumph the Insult Comic Dog in your
last email...and it got me to thinking of different examples
of C & F. I found the PERFECT one the other day. Tom Cruise
in the movie Top Gun. If you haven't seen it in like 10 years
like I had, rent it again...NO --- BUY IT! It is the perfect
example of what to do. He's cocky and funny (obviously). Look
at the scene in the bar when he first meets the girl. Seemed
like he "crashed and burned" until he went into the ladies
room and approached the girl. Also, he is the master of
ANTICIPATION. How many times did he leave the girl hanging in
the movie? Like 5 times??? Excellent. It works.

Now, we may all not look like Tom Cruise or fly a F-14 or
whatever, but I guarantee you that if a lesser looking man
would be cast in that role, all the women would be screaming
in ecstasy the same way...since the C&F is there.

Thanks Dave - take it easy bro.

D from CO


>>>MY COMMENTS:

NICE!

You have demonstrated an understanding of the PRINCIPLES that
are involved with this whole "psychology of women and
dating", and for that you get a gold star.

*

You like it?

This is what you call "all good all the time", and it shows
how you took the situation that was in front of you, and used
the resources around you to dial up the sexual tension.

...Yes, I actually mention the bathroom scene in Top Gun as
an example of being Cocky and Funny. It's an interesting
scene, because to the uninitiated, he comes across as not
doing well. Of course, if you understand the dynamics behind
sexual attraction, you understand that by keeping his
and boldly going where no man has gone before (into the
lady's room after her) he comes across very powerfully.

I think your quote of "Just giving the public what it wants"
might be one of my favorite's of all time. I may well steal
it and take credit for thinking it up on my own, I like it
so much. Would you accept a small royalty on it for each
use? Love it!



***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I must admit, I knew this stuff would work, but I had no idea
how well. I am a 37 yo divorced man, a little unsure around
hot women, always have been funny, needed the cocky. I wasn't
getting a lot of attention until Saturday night. I was
eating supper at a very nice hotel bar, when a very classy,
very hot lady sat next to me. I was reading the paper and
she asked if she could see some of it. I looked at her sort
of reluctantly and said, "Well, I'm done with the sports
section, but you have to give it back." Then I turned away
and continued reading. She tried twice to start a
conversation, to which I responded shortly. Then I turned on
the C/F thing full bore! Within 10 minutes she was touching
my leg, and telling me all about her life! She literally was
eating off of my plate! I asked her what I was going to get
in return for the food she ate, and she turned beet red. I
told her she couldn't back away, she had already eaten it!
To wrap up, we went to listen to some live music, she asked
me what I wanted to do, I told her, and we spent the rest of
the night, at her place, doing those very things! Dave, she
was WAY out of my league, I mean a high priestess in the
shrine of fine! This was a night for the archives, and I
have to give you credit!

TW in NC


>>>MY COMMENTS:

A HIGH PREISTESS IN THE SHRINE OF FINE!

Take me to church, my man and preach me the gospel.

You have provided a PERFECT TEXTBOOK (my textbook, of
course) example of how to use Cocky and Funny with a woman
you've just met.

Here are a couple of high points for me:

1. When she first sat down, you basically paid no attention
to her at all, and in fact, you gave her a little bit of a
hard time by only giving her a little of your paper and
telling her that you want it back. This is EXACTLY THE
OPPOSITE of what every other guy she meets does, and I'm
sure that it set you apart instantly as a man who ISN'T
NEEDY.

2. Only after she tried to make casual conversation TWICE
with you did you proceed. This creates a great position
for you, because she's now subtly pursuing you, and if she
starts being sassy about you teasing her, you can always
say "Hey, I was just sitting here minding my own business
and you keep trying to talk to me" in a sarcastic tone.
The magic of a line like this, by the way, is that it's
MOSTLY TRUE, and it's also VERY FUNNY.

3. Only after she "succeeded in getting you to talk to
her" did you progress into the Cocky and Funny... and it
was a situation that lends itself to "conversation". Nice.

4. You made a nice yet subtle move when you asked her what
you were going to get in return for the food she ate...
This works so well because she obviously ate a small amount
off of your plate, so it's ridiculous to assume that she
actually owes you anything. The comment is powerful because
it if FUNNY as well as SUGGESTIVE.

You're another hero of mine. I'm going to get a shirt made
with a picture of you on it, if that's OK.



***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Hi Dave,

Since you always seem to be tickled pink about getting
responses from women I thought I'd drop you a line. I've
gotta confess that I have been reading your mailbag-emails
for about a month now and think most of your "research" is
really quite amazing. You've nailed a lot of stuff and I've
really enjoyed reading about it.

Some of it I read and to think, to quote someone else, "DAMN,
that's what he was trying to do." It cracks me up to know
what guys are up to, it's so cute to know that they're trying.
Still other parts of it I read and wonder how some people
cannot grasp or understand the concepts... maybe some of it
comes naturally to me. I mean, who doesn't like to be teased,
flirted with and stimulated? The c&f routine works just as
well for me as guys I think because so many guys (at least
the ones I know) expect women to be flattered and taken by
surprise when they spring the c&f routine on them. When I
started countering them with my own version, we would end up
having a blast. We would end up talking for hours, laughing
and discussing anything and everything under the sun - it was
exciting, intelligent, and just plain fun talk. I remember
one newsletter where you said your techniques are for
"picking girls up"... but you didn't specialize in longer
lasting relationships. I started thinking... maybe when you
can BOTH create the kind of attraction you're teaching, the
result is not just a couple dates but a great (longer
lasting) relationship. The guy c&f routine seems incredibly
one-sided to me... yes it gets you guys hot dates and sex and
whatever you're looking for lol, but don't you eventually get
bored with women simply laughing at your jokes without being
able to keep up the banter themselves? I know I would. I was
just curious what you or other guys had to say about this.
Meanwhile, keep up the great "counseling"... a lot of guys I
know have benefited from your advice and have become a lot
more fun to hang out with! You rock ;)

A fan, A.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, it's humbling to me when a smart person writes in and says
something better than I could say it... ESPECIALLY when it's
from a woman who is sharp, articulate, and obviously loves my
stuff.

The thing that really struck me about your email here is that
you said "It cracks me up to know what guys are up to, it's so
cute to know that they're trying."

You totally get what's going on, and in fact, you see this
situation for what it is... guys learning how to be more
attractive to women so that women will actually feel more
attracted to them. And it is charming in its own way.

And you understand how much more FUN it is to be around a guy
who:

1) Isn't a totally WUSSY.

2) Has a sense of humor.

3) Knows how to keep things interesting by being unpredictable,
charming, and slightly too big for his britches.

And you've pointed out something that's been hard for me to
put into words, but now I have it...

If a woman isn't sharp enough, funny enough, or together enough
emotionally to deal with a man who's being Cocky and Funny,
then she's probably not going to be very interesting in a long
term relationship either.

My personal experience is that women who CAN'T sense what's
really going on or who get upset and take things too personally
often have major issues and can't relate very well at more
intimate levels either.

And why would you want to be with a woman who can't keep up
with you for the LONG term?

Thanks for the great email.

..and how many times do I have to say this... if you're a sharp,
attractive woman you MUST SEND PICTURES WITH YOUR EMAILS TO ME...
One each in casual, formal, and bathing attire, from three main
angles, plus profile shots.

Also include daytime phone number as well as email address. Nice.


***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Aloha David,

Okay i am a women and well i love receiving your news letter.
It not only helps men but it helps women too. See i am 21 and
i never went to college instead i started a business and it is
very successful on this little lava rock i live on. I own a
car shop and a drag strip. Weird isn't it women doin that sort
of thing. Well anyway i have always been a tom boy. My guy
friends call me a man in womens body. The weird thing is God
gave me to a womanly body. Try like a 36-24-36... Well anyway
in high school i dressed like a complete boy i never wore a
dress unless it was prom. I never wore make up unless i had
to do a show or if it was prom. I was on my high school
football team. Well now i dress more womanly i still dont
wear make up. But i still hang out with yuh know the boys.
Now i would say that 90% of my friends are guys. Because i
love sports, i am not emotional, i dont cry, i love to camp,
and well i drink beer i love it. Well all my guy friends have
suddenly gone mushy on me and i didn't think of it as anything
in the beginning when they would ask me to go out to dinner.
But now most of them are like how can i say this... in love
with me... most of them have told me that they love me and i
am like the dream girl... blah blah... but now my question
is... I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO?????... i want them as my frens
not as lovers... i am not ready for that... they know i have
been engaged before and that he hurt me really bad. But is
there anyway i can let them down nicely without hurting our
friendship... because i love them just in a brotherly way...
Thanks man...

L, Hawaii


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, I have a PERFECT idea. I think that you need to tell
them that you are already involved with a guy, and that he's
very charming and lives in California.

I will agree, as part of this arrangement, to have you fly
me to Hawaii quarterly to "pose" as your boyfriend and
demonstrate that you are, in fact, involved.

I will stay for one week, be seen with you at all the
Island Hot Spots, and allow you to purchase dinner and
entertainment for us (plus pay me a small, nominal fee for
my "services").

I don't usually like to get involved with women who are
21 and have athletic "womanly 36-24-36" bodies, but in your
case I will make an exception this ONE TIME... because you
are in such a time of need.

...OK, the reason that I've included your email is because...

IT ROCKS!

...Oh, and because I wanted to point something out about how
guys behave, and how women see it.

Most women intuitively know that every single one of their
guy "friends" would jump in the sack with 3 second's notice.

In fact, most attractive women believe that EVERY GUY THAT
EVEN TALKS TO THEM WANTS THEM, and that any guy who they've
even SPOKEN WITH would get in bed with them if the opportunity
was there.

"Cool" women like yourself, who have several cool guy friend
and are successful, independent, and attractive have so much
opportunity that it ACTUALLY GOES FROM BEING FLATTERING TO
BEING OUTRIGHT ANNOYING.

For you there really isn't an easy answer. You're just going
to either have to invite me out there to pose as your man or
learn how to cope with "guy friend puppydogitis" (You should
invite me, it would be so much easier).

But for any guy who doesn't realize this, it's a big lesson.

Remember that most women think you want them. So don't act
like you want them at the very beginning. Lean back, give her
space, and use the techniques you're learning from me to
amplify the attraction and tension, so she is OVERCOME with
the emotions that lead to you and her getting together.

Don't be another "guy friend" who's "fallen for her".


***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

Success story:

I spend alot of time at a specific beach bar, somewhere in the
mediterranean, and I've had very satisfying results following
this: I bust on the waitresses and attractive female bar
tenders, but never ask for their info. I keep going hot/cold
on them. Example: I promise (jokingly) that I will never
forget her all my life if she fixes me the PERFECT drink, and,
of course the drink is never good enough and forget them at
once. Then when they say hi, I go: Who are you, anyway? can't
a man have a peaceful moment sitting at the bar without a girl
coming over...etc. So, having this C&f interaction with the
staff, REALLY helps when I talk to other girls I meet on the
spot, who sense that the staff is already attracted, and try
harder for my attention. This has worked fine.

Question: (well more than one)

1. Sometimes girls seem to get genuinly upset when I am aloof
and indifferent. They talk sourly when I (finally) address
them, and ask "what do you want from me?"

2. What about calling her the day after sex? They also seem
totally pissed off if I don't call/talk/SMS them the day after.
they seem particularly sensitive about that. Any comments?

3. I know that you prefer email to direct phonecalls. Well,
not many people have email over here. Every body has mobile
phones though. Does SMS do the same as email? I personally
have not concluded which works better, phonecall (to a mobile
phone) or SMS

Any comments on the above would be GREATLY appreciated.

MC

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I love your examples of Cocky and Funny. Very nice.

To answer your questions...

Yes, in the real world, sometimes a woman will get upset
because you're indifferent, or because you make fun and bust
on her... it happens.

It's sooo hard for men to see that some women just aren't
going to be right for them, and that some women aren't fun
or interesting.

Just because a woman is attractive doesn't mean that she's
also sweet, kind, loving, stable, etc.

Men tend to instantly assume that attractive women are more
honest, more friendly, more trustworthy, etc. JUST BECAUSE
THEY'RE ATTRACTIVE.

And it just isn't so. You will have to strike your own
personal balance in regards to how you act towards women, and
you'll have to learn for yourself which signs to watch out
for.

I personally have no time for a woman who can't deal with a
little teasing, or who gets upset because she's not the center
of attention and being courted like a princess.

I laugh if a woman gets upset a one of my jokes... IT'S VERY
FUNNY! I just say "lighten up, a bad attitude isn't
attractive".

As for your other two questions, I'm just not sure. Test.

I will say that if you don't talk to a woman the day or so
after sex (whether she calls you or you call her) she'll
usually assume that you aren't interested in anything more,
and will probably have a higher chance of resenting you if
you call again later... because she's more likely in this
situation to feel like a "booty call".



***QUESTION***

Dear David,

I really congratulate you on the job you are doing with your
write ups. I meet a girl in a bus one night, I approached her
but our discussion was little, i was able to get her email
address, for the next 7 months we've been communicating
through the internet. Right now she's inviting me for a date
to meet with her again. Pls kindly tell me how to make her
like me

Thanks and regards,

P...from Nigeria


>>>MY COMMENTS:

WHOA, 7 months?

I guess you've taken the "play hard to get" thing to a whole
new level.

The way to make a woman like you is to:

1) Not act like all the other average guys out there.

2) Make her laugh.

3) Be unpredictable, challenging, and mysterious.

...of course there are more ingredients, but use these for
your next meeting.

Don't act nervous or uncomfortable. Treat her like you've
know her all your life... almost like she's your bratty little
sister.

Tease her and make her laugh. Have fun.

Don't be PREDICTABLE. Do things that surprise her. Say things
that keep her wanting to hear more. Tell interesting stories,
and don't answer her questions directly... instead, make her
work for the answers.

And enjoy yourself... you sure have waited long enough.



***QUESTION***

Hi, Dave. To start off - your book and method rock. If
someone does not believe this - tell them to go and ask
attractive women. I have a few questions for about picking up
women online. Let's say a man is talking to a woman on icq or
msn Instant messenger (a lot more women are using instant
messaging systems than dating sites). He's using C&F
(otherwise she probably would not talk to him). When is it
the right time to ask for the phone number? (I remember you
said in one of your newsletters that the faster the better).
Because even those you are being C&F, women are still afraid
of freaks (and they should be). So what would you suggest -
1st conversation, maybe second, or should I wait for a
week (let's assume she is laughing all the time)? Also it is
not hard to come up with conversation starters - how would
you suggest I should start a conversation? (I'm normally
asking some interesting controversial questions, but I could
use your advice).

All men and women should thank you for the job you do!


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Interesting, controversial question are great way to start
conversations online with women. It's also fun to poke fun
at their profiles when opening.

Your other question, about how to get them to talk to you on
the phone, is the interesting one.

The answer is actually pretty simple. Don't wait very long
to get on the phone.

Just like most guys are afraid to ask women for their phone
numbers in person, most guys online are too reluctant to
take steps to get a woman on the telephone because they're
afraid of getting rejected and losing their chances for good.

If a woman is having fun chatting with you, just say "OK, it's
time for me to go, but let's talk later like normal people do
on the phone... I want to see if you can keep this up live in
person." etc.

Women will often say "I don't talk to people I meet on the
internet". You want to get this as soon as possible, because
a lot of women won't talk to you NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO.

It's better to find out sooner than later.

And if she's interested, but not ready for a phone conversation
she'll probably say "Let's talk online some more first", etc.

Get her on the phone sooner rather than later, or you'll wind
up wasting a lot of time chatting, and little time progressing.

I'd also like to mention that the internet is a great place to
PRACTICE talking to women. You don't have to meet women that
you chat with online... it can just be a fun way to meet new
people and practice your humor and conversation skills.


***QUESTION***

Hey Dave !

I`ve met a women that I really adore. She`s one heck of smart,
sweet-looking , GREAT chiq ... We met in a restaurant on new
year eve, and I managed to secure her e-mail.

We have been e-mailing each another for about 4 months now.
The problem is that we keep talking about movies, our
holidays and... bla bla.

I tried asking her phone number casually in the mail but she
just bluntly ignored. We do still mail each another but
nothing really personal that we talk about.

So Dave , what should I do ? How can I get her started on
talking about us...or perhaps to go out for a coffee/movie
("date") with this chiq... I sincerely am desperate for
her... But ( I`m still on your prescription of NOT being a
WHUSS )...

Please help, Dave !

rgds,

M.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Houston, I think we have problem.

"WHUSS"?

Don't make me try to pronounce that word...

I have bad news for you:

1. You don't know how to even spell the word "Wuss", which
is short for WUSSY.

2. You are ACTING like this thing that you cannot spell.

Look, you couldn't have made yourself into more of a "friend"
(as in "I only like you as a") if you tried.

I was about to start telling you want to do next time you
get a woman's email address, but then I realized that it
would probably take me 100 pages just to get the basics out
on paper...

And then I had an Ah-Ha!

"THIS GUY NEEDS TO READ MY BOOK". Duh.

OK, you need to go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...as soon as possible and download it. Unless, that is, you
enjoy investing 4 MONTHS in email relationships that aren't
going anywhere.

I know, it's not good news, but you've put about 4 months
worth of nails in the coffin, and even I can't help you.

Best thing is to learn what to do next time, and make sure
you learn how to cure your acute case of WUSS-BAG-ALYSIS.



***QUESTION***

David,

I have downloaded your book and it reads great, but it looks
to me like your techniques only works with guys who are of
average or better looks. Don't get me wrong I don't have
terrible scars or weigh 400lbs, but I have faced the fact
that I'm not what women find good looking. I've tried buying
nice clothes and improving my looks as much as I can, but it
doesn't seem to help. What's worse, the fact that nothing has
helped has only decreased my self confidence.

It seems to me that a cocky attitude would come off as stupid
from a guy like me. How can your techniques work for guys who
are below average in looks and have self-confidence in the
gutter?

D in Cincy


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I have no idea where you got the impression that my techniques
only work for guys who are "of average or better looks". Have
you read these mailbags for very long?

I've had guys who are old, bald, weigh 400 pounds, and every
other "less than average" thing you can think of write in to
tell their success stories.

Your problem is your attitude and the fact that you let your
emotions control your mind.

Just because a woman doesn't respond to you, or getting new
clothes doesn't magically make you successful is no reason
to get bummed out.

Here's my personal attitude:

I DON'T CARE HOW LONG IT TAKES, I'M GOING TO GET THIS THING
FIGURED OUT.

When I started out learning how to meet women, I didn't have
the benefit of the knowledge that I have now.

I had to figure most of this stuff out from scratch. It took
me a few YEARS before I was able to finally say "OK, I know
how to meet women."

Now, I think that with the benefit of the materials I've
put together, these newsletters, etc. most guys can shave a
LOT of time off their success curve, and can start having
SOME level of success almost immediately.

Have you gotten online and chatted with women?

Have you taken up a hobby where there are naturally more
women than men involved?

Have you put yourself in situations that lead to you
automatically meeting women?

And by the way, a "cocky" attitude isn't what you want...

You need a Cocky and FUNNY attitude. You need to make women
LAUGH. If you can make women laugh, you're most of the way
home.

Don't accept less than you want out of life. Don't do it.

And don't let your emotions permanently change your outlook
or stop you from taking action in the future.


***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,
First off, I wish I could thank you in person for all the
things I've learned from you. You truly are the master and
you've shown me the light of my wussy-ways. I've had relative
success, being that I've only recently started using your
techniques and am still learning; I think I'm getting better
at least. But my problem lies in the fact that I'm a
naturally, overly silent person. While I don't have any
problem approaching a woman, talking to them, and being C&F,
I find a lot of holes in my conversation that no matter how
well thought out or brief my conversation is, cut in just
enough to break things down badly. This has been a problem
I've been working with for along time and it's not looking to
bright that I'll come out the other end of the tunnel any
time soon. I was hoping you could explain how to use body
language and general actions other than speech, to increase
the attraction and hopefully help with some of the pauses.
You truly are the god of this and take pity on this young
apprentice.

Thanks again,
S.D.
virginia



>>>MY COMMENTS:

No problem.

Just make sure that when there is a silence in the conversation
that you DON'T ACT WEIRD ABOUT IT.

In fact, it can be great to let there be a silence every once
in awhile. When you act totally cool and calm, it puts pressure
on her to keep things going.

As for body language, you can just turn away and lean back for
a few moments. As long as you're not acting nervous, this can
create a powerful and magnetic situation.



***SUCCESS STORY***

Sorry it's so long! Lot to tell!

Dave,

Wanted to share a success story with everyone! Hey, a man has
to brag! (Now I can thanks to your techniques!). Went away
for a golfing weekend with a mate and met a model who has
appeared in magazines. A definite 10 surrounded by 7's. There
must have been 10 other guys at the resort vying for her
attention, and guess who got her?

Why? A number of reasons, and all from your book, and mailbag.
I came across as a guy who wanted nothing else from her other
than friendship, even telling her I was gay (She knew
otherwise because of my other C&F Comments). I would walk
away whenever I wanted, even with the competition hanging
around her like flies. (It helped that I spoke to everyone,
and everyone got to know me, so she was no one special!)

Can you believe she started making the moves? And then I let
the C&F out, busting her on all her insecurities. I got so
many looks of disbelief from those standing around. They
couldn't believe I could say what I did! Some even tried to
counter me by using wuss comments. Example, she dyes her hair
deep red. I just asked how she manages to die her roots brown
(Not that I could see them). Her jaw dropped, she hit me, and
some wuss pipes up, "Don't worry, I think your hair is
beautiful". My reply, "Well some people will settle for
second best!". Another Punch (and laugh!)

The absolute winner came when we were watching a rugby match
on TV in the lounge. She was sitting with her parents, so I
pulled up a chair along side them, and as I sat down I
immediately jumped up, and said, "Hey, watch the hands!"
Giving her a disapproving look! Of course she denied
everything, her parents laughed (They loved me because of my
attitude, and the fact I wasn't one of the normal wussy men
she brought home.)

She still doesn't know my age, thinks I make blow-up dolls
for a living, but wants to see me again. DESPERATELY. We're
seeing each other this weekend again, and she was the one who
asked! Incredible!

One comment, though! I often read guys asking for what to say
in certain situations. I was even going to suggest you put
that in your next book. But over the last couple of months
I've realized that the C&F routine has to be spontaneous.
These guys are asking for pickup lines, and that's not what
it's about! Guys, use the examples to get the concept of C&F,
not the lines! The examples should be used for the attitude,
if you remember the lines, they're going to sound canned!

Thanks Dave! Seems like I'm the only one in my country with
this info!
;-)

GC (South Africa)


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, you just gotta love asking a model how she "manages to
dye the roots of her hair" a different color. That's a
classic!

Great story, and keep me up to date about what happens.


***SUCCESS STORY***

Hi David

I'm a UK reader of your book and emails and was initially
skeptical of whether they would work in the UK, since the
dating rules are a little different from the US and other
parts of the world - trust me I know - I've been in bars in
NY where a smart watch, a decent suit and educated
conversation (plus a bar bill the size of the gross national
debt of Peru) will get you laid in about 20 minutes. In San
Fancisco it was even easier, a British accent and basic motor
neuron functioning seemed to work. Being straight probably
didn't hurt either.

Women in North America seem to have no problem approaching
guys in a bar. However in the UK it's a different story.
Men are expected to make the first move all the time and
take the risks. I have always been telling my friends that
they never actually pull a woman, she allows herself to be
pulled by you, i.e., you need to look for the "buy signals"
from her before going in to close the deal, and by simply
doing that you increase your success rate.

The question has always been: "How do you encourage those
buy signals?"

David, buddy, you have shown us the light. The jigsaw is
complete. and You are right in your book that some men just
seem to know this intuitively - or they may just be
a@#holes - but the effect is much the same. Be cocky and
funny, laugh them into bed, confuse them, and above all don't
worry about it - we call this the Bastard Magnet in the UK.
Every girl loves a bastard.

So how does it work in un the UK in practice? - well like a
charm: my current favorite is this (apologies if this seems
verbose, but I talk quickly and as a lawyer am often expected
to make long statements like this, but it's important to make
it sound like a parody of a lecture or a submission - your
whole thing about the importance of being in character is
spot on):

Me: If we're walking I pull her up and say, "And so we come
to the part of the evening where according to the rules
of dating I am obliged to entice you back to my place for
sex. Now I also fully understand that according to the
rules of dating, you are obliged to refuse on the grounds
of chastity and the usual requirements of self-respect
and esteem. However, importantly, I also realise that you
will be EXPECTING me to ask you back, and in fact, if I
don't, you will experience feelings of inadequacy and
question your attractiveness. So why don't we take it as
read that this interchange has taken place, honour has
been satisfied and we can get on with the evening?
Her: "Absolutely right..."
Me: "Good..."
Her: "...OK then, let's go back to your place"

Looking back on it, I am surprised, but all the elements are
there - Cocky (you expect me to ask you back), funny
(conflict between her feelings of attractiveness and
self-esteem), care-less attitude (take it as read and get on
with the evening), character (I'm talking as if I'm giving a
lecture or making an argument in court), and taking charge.
Dude, the samurai weren't the best because they had the best
technique, they were the best because they had no fear of
death - thanks for taking the fear out of failure.

When you come to London, email me and we'll grab a beer.

Cheers

JL


>>>MY COMMENTS:

These are some of the best examples of how to be Cocky and
Funny in different situations that I've ever seen.

This is amazing... I love it.

It's charming, funny, and incredible. Awesome.


***QUESTION***

hi david,

i have been hard on myself for a few days now from not making
the move to kiss this girl who i have loved for so long. she
gave me the signal, but i didn't follow through. i panicked.
now i worry she won't ever give me another chance considering
this ha happened before when i don't make the move. she knows
i love her a great deal. i even called and left a message the
next day to see if she wanted to see a movie with me. she
didn't reply back. do you think i should be concerned or do
you think i'll get another chance to be her boyfriend? and to
help me, what can i do to not hesitate the next time around
when i feel she wants to be kissed?

l.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a problem.

If a woman knows that it's time for you to kiss her, and you
DON'T DO IT because you're too nervous, you'll probably not
get another chance at it.

The way to not hesitate next time is to use "The Kiss Test",
as described on my website, in my book, in my new CD audio
series, in my seminar, and in every frickin' thing I teach
ever.

Dude, go download a copy of my book online. It's just not
worth screwing up these kinds of opportunities just because
you don't know what to do.

It's important that you learn how to move forward in ALL
of the different situations you'll find yourself in with
women... not just kissing them.


***QUESTION***

Dave,

You are the man! I have been using your techniques and I am
definitely seeing results. But, I have a problem with you.
You see, I have written at least twice before, but you have
never printed my stuff! I mean, what, are my stories not
successful enough? Please include this as soon as possible.
OK, what has worked for me? Well, one time I was at the mall,
this girl didn't have her shoes on. So I say, "Isn't it
store policy to be wearing shoes while you're working? I mean,
what the hell's wrong with this picture?" So I was teasing
her and all that good stuff, and I got her phone number. I
work in a liquor store, and I thought of giving girls fake
surveys to fill out. So one time, this hottie asks for a 30
pk. beer. I get it for her. Then she leaves. I catch up
with her at the parking lot, and I say, "Hey, I didn't get to
give this to you while you were inside. I was just wondering
if you wanted to take a quick survey." She says sure. So I
give her the paper. It looks like this:

(Company name) Survey

NAME

PHONE NUMBER

E-MAIL (OPTIONAL)

AGE

She starts laughing. She says, "This isn't real!" I say,
"Of course it is. I want to personally make sure that your
next experience here will be even better." She's laughing
this whole time and accuses me again of the survey being fake.
I say, "OK, fine, but you have to give me points for being
creative." She asks me who's it for, and I say it's for me.
She starts filling it out. She's reading it and she says,
"E-mail, optional, that's cute." I say, "I know." So we
chitchat for a little, and I go back to the store, I turn
around and I say, "You remember my name, right?" She says my
name and I say, "Good job."...

[I had to edit this one, because it was just too long here]

...So I've had problems where I'll call the girl, and I won't
reach her. I'll leave my name and number either with the
machine or with the person who picked up the phone. But the
problem is, they don't call back sometimes. Should I call
again? Should I just say Next!? And I don't know if I should
leave a cocky and funny message on the machine and what I
should say, and I'm a litte wary because what if she lives
with other people, like parents or something?...

S.G. from Jersey


>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is quite possibly the greatest idea I've heard this year
for getting a woman's name, number, and email.

"I was wondering if you'd like to take a quick survey" LOL!

To answer your questions:

STOP CALLING FIRST ON THE PHONE... EMAIL FIRST INSTEAD.

Women will answer your emails probably TWICE as often as they'll
return calls, so start there.

Then get on the phone to set up the plans in a few minutes and
get off. Stop playing the phone game!



***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I can't thank you enough. Your book has taught me so much,
and given me so much confidence in life and especially in the
women department. I DIDN'T HAVE A CLUE. Now..I have always
been good at attracting girls early on, but for some reason I
could never keep one for more than a couple of weeks. It
sucked. My confidence level went way down and i could never
figure out what the deal was.

Well I finally decided it was time to change things so i got
on the net and eventually stumbled on to your newsletter, and
about a month later i bought your book.. Complete turnaround.
Now I know what was wrong. I had a bad case of WUSSYNITIS.
Every time I got together with a girl i turned into a complete
wuss. Now I have to fight 'em off with a stick. I have so
much fun bustin' their balls and they LOVE ME FOR IT. And
well..

Thanks for giving me a clue.

S. from TX.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You're not alone. Men all over the world are victims of the
same psychological disorder.

Thank heavens that you figured out what the problem was now,
so you can cure yourself in the future!

...wow, that was an awesome Mailbag. I learned a lot.

Look, if you haven't gotten your copy of my online eBook
"Double Your Dating", then you just need to get it. It's the
foundation, and the bonus booklets that come with it contain
some of my very best ideas and techniques for becoming more
successful with women. Go to:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/

...now to get it.


And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

THE MAILBAG: Creating "ACCIDENTAL ATTRACTION"

This week I got a few different letters from women, and I
thought that together they told an interesting story. I'm
going to start with these letters this week... this Mailbag
has some great stuff toward the end as well, so keep reading!



***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

Hey David.

I'm a woman that signed up for your emails out of curiosity.
I think what you're telling men is right on. I've dated a
lot of guys, and I feel a lot more attracted to the ones that
are cocky and funny, instead of the overly nice, kiss the
ground I walk on types.

I did want to make one comment though. One of your tips is
for a man, when setting up a date, is to tell the woman to
cancel her plans because he's more interesting. This is a
great tactic, if the plans are boring she may cancel. But if
she doesn't want to cancel, I wouldn't recommend pushing the
issue. It seems so desperate and selfish when men don't want
me to spend time with other people.

Keep up the good work, I'm tired of wussies!

S.T.
Tulsa, OK


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Exactly!

I wish that more guys would do themselves the favor of just
asking 10 women the following question:

"Are you attracted to the "nice guy" type who is submissive
and just wants to do whatever you tell him?"

Even though it isn't LOGICAL, women are NEVER attracted to
this type of behavior (unless she is a dominatrix and she's
looking for a new slave).

Women feel ATTRACTION to men who are a CHALLENGE to them...
men who are almost too comfortable around them... who do
and say things that are slightly TOO confident (Like telling
a woman to cancel her plans because you're more interesting).

Thanks for your letter. Very nice.


***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Hi Dave,

A guy friend got me reading your letters and so far I pretty
much agree, from a woman's point of view. I haven't read your
book or anything but my question is: I'm married and want to
stay that way but I'm getting bored and frustrated with my
husband. I try and do stuff with him (download music, watch
star trec, etc.) He seems so disinterested with me except
sex but he will just come to me and want me to get naked and
start having oral sex (to him or him to me) without any of
the other stuff US WOMEN like. Do you think your book would
help a married man with his wife? I haven't come across
anything about this subject yet. Life is so boring, he works
shift work, he sleeps, works, downloads music, chops wood
for our fireplace, eats, has sex. We don't do much together
besides go for coffee with friends, when he doesn't have to
work the next day, and have sex. He has a hard time even
having a conversation with me.

I think you have some very good info. What about a man that
has a woman in their life, what do they do to keep them. Do
you think buying your book for my husband would be a good
idea? The other question would be: How do I get him to read
it? I have read other books and said it had some good info.
in it would you like to read it? And it's a great big NO,
I'M NOT INTERSTED!

Please help! Any information would be greatly appreciated.

G. Canada


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, you might have your hubby start reading my newsletters
and maybe have him read my book. See the following letter
for more info.


***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***

HI....I am a married woman (10 years) ...and somehow (?) we
started getting your newsletters...and, well...My husband
and I love them! And....well....it works on me too! He is
becoming more like the type of man I dated but did not marry
because they were not the "marrying type".

My husband is trying the cocky funny stuff with me...and,
yes...I know he is doing it..and yes..I love it! Even when
we socialize with others he does it...and I love that
too....I like seeing other women react to my cocky funny
husband. He makes me proud....maybe I am weird...but I
think happily married men, who do NOT wanna fool around
(except with their wives of course) can all use some cocky
funny techniques. We wives love it too! thanks for the
laughs...to.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Thanks for your letter.

One of the mistakes that a lot of men make is THIKING THAT
A WOMAN WILL NOT LIKE WHAT THEY'RE DOING BECAUSE IT'S A
"TECHNIQUE".

The reality is that women don't really care that much WHERE
you learned how to do something... as long as you're DOING
it in a way that they enjoy.

For instance, if you are making love with a woman and you
do some incredible sexual technique that brings her to a
MIND BLOWING orgasm... then later say "Yea, wasn't that cool?
I decided that I wanted to learn more about sex so I read
this great book and learned that technique" SHE'S REALLY
NOT GOING TO CARE.

In fact, she'll probably ask you to GO LEARN MORE!

Don't be embarrassed about the fact that you're learning
how to be successful with women and dating. Women will be
GLAD that you are doing it. Really.


***COMMENT***

Hi Dave,

I've noticed that you get a lot of letters from guys
wondering when they can 'stop the act' and be themselves
around a woman that they've been dating for a while. What
they don't realize is that c&f isn't about not being
yourself. They have it confused with trying to be society's
conception of 'cool' all the time. The truth is, if you pull
of the c&f right, it doesn't matter if you let them know who
you are. Just don't turn into an emotional cripple. I think
the stuff guys are scared to let woman know is that they
read books or watch Star Trek or do things that they think
are inconsistent with being cocky and funny. What I've
learned is that you can let them know your true self, as
long as you do it unapologetically. If you just act
yourself, chances are they won't care because they're
already attracted to you. Ever dated a girl with bad teeth
but overlooked it because she was attractive and fun? If
you're making her attracted to you, she probably won't care
about the stuff that you do. Besides, if she does say
something, it's prime opportunity to bust her balls. Like if
she disses you for reading the Economist, tell her you like
to know more words than are required to read a shampoo
bottle. Anyway, just my two cents.

A.
Edmonton


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ahhhh, someone who gets it.

NICE.

If a woman feels that magical emotion called ATTRACTION,
then NOTHING ELSE MATTERS.

You can love Star Trek if you want.

You can collect comic books.

You can even be overly thoughtful, buy gifts, be romantic,
and do all those things that you SHOULDN'T do BEFORE a
woman feels ATTRACTION for you.

But most guys just don't GET this point.

Instead, they come up with all kinds of reasons why this
probably won't work, or why they want to "be themselves"
and have women like them "for who they are".

When you integrate this stuff into YOUR OWN PERSONALITY
you'll see that you can have women like you for who you
are... as long as you DON'T do the things that interfere
with ATTRACTION and you DO do those things that AMPLIFY
ATTRACTION.



***QUESTION***

Dave...quick question man. In your book you say to stay and
talk calm and cool. Lately I have been acting more
uninterested in women, and its great, but how do I come back
to questions like. What's wrong? you don't like me?? Also,
Do you think your too good or what? I'm completely lost with
these types of questions.

Thanks
L Tx


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, this is good stuff.

If a woman asks ANY of these questions, there's a 99% chance
that she REALLY likes you. If she didn't like you or just
didn't care either way, then she'd never say something like
this... because it wouldn't matter.

If you're acting indifferent towards a woman, and she asks
you "What's wrong, don't you like me?" this is a PERFECT
opportunity to come back with "Well you like me... isn't
that enough?" or something equally as Cocky and Funny.

You must interpret these comments as her being insecure,
and make fun of them.

Let me ask you this:

How would you behave if you knew that a woman wanted you and
there was NOTHING you could do to screw it up?

Well the first thing you'd do is STOP LETTING COMMENTS THAT
WOMEN MAKE DISTURB YOU.

See, one of the WORST things you can do is to LET A WOMAN'S
COMMENTS THROW YOU OFF BALANCE.

When a woman sees that she has the ability to affect your
emotional state, your composure, etc. it means that SHE
is the one that's in control of the situation.

In other words, she's dealing with a Wuss.

So don't let things like this bug you. Just answer with a
cool, calm, Cocky and Funny response.



***QUESTION***

Dave -

When a chick comes back at ya with a C+F line how do you
comeback at her?!?! Should you follow up with your own C+F
line or what? And if you can't comeback what do you do? A
goofy little giggle only goes so far and is kinda dumb...lol.
Also, while im at it, any key body language you think we
should know about and any body language source you recommend?
thanks man your awesome

N from nj


><
Great questions.

I personally LOVE it when a woman gives me back some great
Cocky and Funny play.

Women that get it enough to actually USE IT are often
more intelligent, more funny, and more interesting to be
around than those that don't.

In fact, Cocky and Funny is a great test.

If a woman gets uptight, doesn't get it, or tries to act
offended because you're busting on her and giving her a
hard time YOU CAN BET YOUR LAST DOLLAR THAT SHE WILL BE
A HUGE PAIN IN THE ASS LATER ON. Women that get uptight
and can't take jokes and deal with others making fun of
them are usually ULTRA HIGH MAINTENANCE.

So I say go with it. Keep up the fun, and keep giving it
back to her. It's all kinds of fun when you meet a girl
like this.

And as for body language... that's a big topic.

Women can tell INSTANTLY from your body language:

1) Whether you're self-confident or not.

2) Whether you'll be good in bed or not.

3) Whether or not you're a "dominant" male or a WUSS.

...and about a million other things.

Now, there are all kinds of subtle aspects of body
language. And I recommend that you watch guys who are
good with women and pay attention to the little things
they do to make women feel attracted to them.

See if you can imitate some of these things.

Start with holding yourself upright, shoulders back,
head held up.

Next, practice slowing down your movements and
incorporating an "unhurried" look to all your actions.

Eliminate nervous behaviors, twitches, and signs of
insecurity.

Learn how to maintain eye contact with women you see
until THEY look away.

This is a good starting point.


***QUESTION***

Dear Dave

I recently downloaded your book and found it to be an
amazing read. However , I need some help .

I met this girl on the internet and we have been chatting
via enail and mobile phone . She went away for the weekend
and sent me an sms via mobile phone saying she wishes she
was with me having a drink . It got to a stage where she
ignored my sms I was asking her if she was purposely
ignoring me etc . When queried she said that her phone was
on charge mode. Anyway she said I musnt be so paranoid. She
has since come back and has been offish and distant. She
says she is still be prepared to see me but when I asked her
she said very bluntly "cant" I then told her it was best to
move on and it was a pity we didnt actually meet .

I know from our discussions that there is something there
and she has indicated that too . I then sent a message two
days later and asked if she would forgive me and still meet.
She said she would but wanted to cool down as I had upset
her , and would contact me when ready I then sent an email
apologizing and left it at that .

I would say I may have been overpowering acting like a real
wuss as a result cocked it up. I have been cocky as well
but I think I have destroyed everything .

Could you offer some help

P
South Africa


>>>MY COMMENTS:

My guess is that you started messaging her too often, and
she had that little emotional shift from "interested" to
"not interested".

It's very subtle, but when a woman feels like you're being
too "clingy" or too "interested" they shut off like light
switches.

Most men make a HUGE mistake when the woman gives some
sign of being interested (like yours did when she said to
you that she wishes she was with you having a drink)...
They immediately start paying WAY too much attention to
the woman.

In your case, it sounds like you probably started messaging
her a lot.

Your BIG mistake was when you asked her if she was purposely
ignoring your messages.

This is one of the worst things you can do, because it REALLY
demonstrates insecurity.

Don't ask a woman why she hasn't called you back, if she's
avoiding you, or if you're annoying her. And never EVER
mention that you're clingy, needy, lonely, or a WUSSY.

If you do one of these things, you will KILL your chances
with a woman instantly.

The help I would offer you is:

Pour a bucket of REALLY COLD water over your head, WAKE
UP, STOP ACTING LIKE A WUSS BAG, and get a life.

And don't screw up like this again!

Once you make a mistake like this one, it's going to be
100 times easier to go out and meet a new girl than to
try to get this one back.



***COMMENT***

Hey Dave,

On Attraction:

Just a couple of days back I sat to write down what
associations come to my mind when I hear the word
attraction. Then in your last newsletter you coincidentally
included some of your own precious thoughts on the matter
- so I combined them together and here's what came out:

Attraction is:

- A STRONG emotional feeling. It usually isn't a choice.

- Usually beyond rational judgment and control ("he's a
jerk but I love him" issue)

- Is like a puzzle and built up by various pieces (some
don't make sense) One major piece of attraction is
ANTICIPATION - and this could be created by
unpredictability, mysteriousness and of course the C&F
friend. There are mountains more to creating attraction
- read David's book!

- A reaction - a "CLICK, WHIRR reaction" (as in Cialdini's
book) which means that it happens most of the time with no
conscious awareness and typically in response to the right
"behavioral code" on the part of the man, i.e. you will
trigger attraction (as reaction) if you behave in the "right"
way, no matter what you look like or how much you make an
hour.

- Something you can't talk a woman into. Not even if you're
Cicero.

- Is a skill that can be acquired through learning! - Just
like you study maths or biology and try your best to be a
successful student you can learn how to cause women to feel
attraction for you. And Dave, I will petition my Uni to
create a new subject "Attraction Studies" and I will propose
that they should appoint you as the "Head of Department!"

- Everything! It's like a DRUG: If she is on it - SHE is
gone. If she's not on it - YOU are gone! (it's yours word
for word and I love it!)


The KEY is to THINK attraction. A lot of guys make the
mistake (I certainly did) of seeking ways to behave or say
things to a woman that they think will IMPRESS HER - Yes? -
a big, NO-NO! We should really concentrate on doing things
that are likely to CAUSE A WOMAN TO FEEL ATTRACTION for us -
and not to impress....

If you want to impress a woman by catering for her needs,
doing her favours, buying gifts and demonstrating various
kinds of devotion - she will, if you are lucky, feel
AFFECTION towards you, which is a dead end on the way to
ATTRACTION - don't go that way, it may hurt you later.

Whenever you approach a woman train yourself to think
attraction - make it your MINDFRAME - and always ask
yourself: "Is what I'm doing likely to cause her to feel
ATTRACTED to me?"

- And find some time, go out on the mall and ask the hottest
women you see to tell you how "ATTRACTION" is different
from "AFFECTION" and what each term means for them
individually - you'll have great fun. You can also dress it
up as a survey to ease the tension if you must.

And Dave, if anticipation is a major force in attraction,
you are the the major force behind my success with women.
I am still learning - and will never stop! You should try
and come to London to do a seminar so that we Europeans
could also bask in the light you emit!

And finally Attraction is a magical feeling that women LOVE
to experience so give them the pleasure of it - you will
feel good inside (pun unintended)

B
London


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nothing else needs to be said. Amen.



***QUESTION***

Hey man,

I've been using your techniques with some success. I've gone
from getting a phone number every month or so to getting one
or more every time I go out almost.

Thanks.

But, now I have a question. What venues "are game" for
macking on girls? I mean, we all know that bars and clubs
are practically designed for such, and an attractive girl
should *expect* to be macked on at such a venue. But what
about work? Or a train station? Or just out on the street
downtown? There are plenty of examples like these where I
have kept to my own business rather than bust up on a
complete stranger, or in the case of the workplace, I feel
like professionalism dominates. Are these places I'm
avoiding the use of C&F at lost opportunities?

Thanks,

DL in SF

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, first of all... it's easier to engage a woman in a
"normal" place than it is to engage a woman in a bar or a
nightclub.

There are usually fewer distractions, less competition for
her attention from the music, other guys, friends, etc. and
a LOT better chances of meeting a woman alone.

EVERYWHERE is game.

If you see a woman walking down the street, just realize
that you can have ALL of her attention if you just talk
to her.

And if you're interesting, charming, and funny you can have
AMAZING success.



***SUCCESS STORY***

Hi David,

I guess you get a lot e-mail from guys telling you the same
stuff time and time again. I would almost think you might
actually start getting tired of hearing the same stuff about
the cocky/funny approach when talking and conversing with women.
I have read your letters for many months now and listened to you
fellow followers "waxing lyrical" about just how effective being
c/f was for the them and how it has changed their lives. Being a
bit of a skeptic to all this stuff, I ended up leaning back and
laughing at these guys and saying "yeah right", you must be
fabricating these e-mails and making it seem to the rest of us
as though hundreds of guys are following your advice. Well, my
mind and impression of this stuff has been changed for ever. I
was at this really up-market restaurant the other night and
having a few drinks and dancing in amongst the ladies on the
dance floor not really giving a damn about any of them. I can't
recall exactly how the exchange started with this one little
goddess on the dance floor, but some how, unconsciously, all the
advice which you had been imparting in your letters lay dormant
in the back of my mind until now and it poured out of me, like a
dam wall which had collapsed under the weight of water (cocky and
funny knowledge) behind it. I was "playing" with this woman and
getting her to laugh to the point that she was almost crying with
laughter. I couldn't believe the effect I was having on her. I
found myself several times thinking if what was happening here was
for real. She was a really good dancer and as I knew a move or two
myself, she quickly and very forcibly grabbed my hands and wrapped
them around herself as she wriggled and writhed against me. Dave,
I think the restaurant was getting ready to light up after we were
finished on the dance floor. Dave, I am now converted in your ways
and you are indeed a sage when it comes to dealing with woman and
giving them what they want. They want to be challenged and they
want to be tested and they want to be pushed to the point where
they will ultimately submit.

Thanks buddy, I am eternally grateful for your invaluable advice.

O. from South Africa.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, ye of little faith...

I'm glad that you actually WENT OUT THERE AND TRIED THE MATERIAL
so you could see how it worked for you.

Good job, and I know that you'll have even more success now that
you have gotten a taste of how this game works.


***COMMENT***

Dave,

I'm 38 and have been happily married for 10 years and
have two children. Recently I have been looking for
ways to increase the attraction between my wife and
myself. I found your website and signed up for the
newsletter. I started using your cocky-funny routine
on my wife and our relationship has really changed.
We're having alot more sex and going on more dates
than ever before. However, there is one negative
point that I would like to point out that surprised
me. I am unknowingly being cocky and funny at work,
at the gym and other places. This seems to be causing
other women to become accidentally attracted to me. I
am now struggling to control my behavior in this
respect. Dave, I'm only human and did not realize the
power of your techniques as they relate to most women.
You should post a warning to married men that there
may be a price to pay for following your advice that
might not seem apparent at first but could pose
problems in the long run. Thanks for your time and
keep up the good work.

A.
Hartford, CT


>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, let this serve as a WARNING to everyone reading this
newsletter...

THE IDEAS AND TECHNIQUES CONTAINED WITHIN THIS NEWSLETTER
AND MY BOOK AND CD SERIES MAY CAUSE WOMEN TO BE
"ACCIDENTALLY" ATTRACTED TO YOU. YOU MAY HAVE TO "STRUGGLE
TO CONTROL YOUR BEHAVIOR" AS A RESULT.

Yea, so be careful.

[The best part is that I don't make any of this stuff up...
all of these letters are the real deal.]

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

DATING TIP Q&A: What if I'm Not "Her Type"?

***THIS WEEK'S QUESTION***

Dear Dave,

I was very skeptical of your approach, but I have been trying
C & F routine recently and it has been working like a charm.
Your CD is incredible with information that builds on your
book. An example of C & F happened recently. Women always
make comments of my age and how I appear much younger than my
age (i'm in my mid-thirties but appear to be 24-25). Before
reading your book and listening to your CD, I would simply
laugh or say thank you if a woman said I looked a lot younger
than my age. Recently I was out with my friends and this
good-looking woman said the same comment. My response was
"come on, I'm not going to fall for a line that. You women
just want me for my youthful looks". Then I continued busting
on her and left with her e-mail. My friends were all shocked
by my exchange with her and my success.

I have a question though Dave. What if a woman, in the
conversation with you, states she does not like a certain type
of guy; for example she says she likes tall guys but one
happens to be short. Can you give be a couple of examples of
turning a perceived deficit (height, lack of hair, etc) into
Cocky and funny responses?

Thanks a million,

Disciple in Training in D.C.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

First of all, I really enjoy the way you've turned the
issue of looking younger around and framed it as a woman's
pathetic attempt to pick you up and use you.

This is CLASSIC Cocky & Funny, and it does all the right
things... it creates sexual tension, humor, and a challenge
all at the same time.

Very nice.

But the part of your email that I really like is the
QUESTION you've asked.

You're asked:

"What if a woman, in the conversation with you, states she
does not like a certain type of guy; for example she says
she likes tall guys but one happens to be short. Can you
give be a couple of examples of turning a perceived
deficit (height, lack of hair, etc) into Cocky and Funny
responses?"

Here's something that you must remember:

IF YOU BEHAVE AS IF WHAT A WOMAN THINKS OF YOU IS IMPORTANT,
THEN YOU'LL BE VERY LIKELY TO DO SOMETHING TO MAKE HER NOT
BE ATTRACTED TO YOU.

Remember, ATTRACTION isn't a "logical" process. It really
doesn't make very much sense (until you understand how it
works, that is).

Just because a woman SAYS that she doesn't "like" a
certain "type" of guy doesn't mean that she can't feel a
POWERFUL ATTRACTION for a guy of this "type".

Are you with me here?

ATTRACTION is an emotion.

A "type" is a PREFERENCE.

They are TWO TOTALLY DIFFERENT THINGS.

Here's a good example: Women are universally more
interested in taller men. If you ask a woman what "type"
of "height" ISN'T her type, she'll say something like
"short guys" or "guys who are shorter than me" etc.

I have NEVER met a woman in my entire life who said
"I like shorter guys". Never.

But guess what?

I have at least 4 or 5 friends who are in the 5'2"
to 5'6" range that are UNBELIEVABLE with women. They
ALL date beautiful women who are taller than them.

So what's going on here?

ATTRACTION is what's going on.

So when you ask me how to use a Cocky & Funny line to
turn a "perceived deficit" around, the FIRST thing I have
to say is "Stop thinking of it as a deficit".

First you need to stop caring what a woman thinks of you
ALLTOGETHER. Completely.

If you care what she thinks of you, then you're probably
going to start acting like a total WUSS, and you're going to
screw things up anyway.

Women aren't ATTRACTED to men who look to them for
approval. Women are ATTRACTED to men who are strong,
independent, and not affected by the opinions of others
(this is a generalization, but it's basically true).

So based on this new perspective, here are a few ways
that you could handle a situation like this one...

1) NOT CARE AT ALL

One of the things you could do is just address the
comment at all... as if it didn't even exist.

A mistake many people make is thinking that they MUST
take every communication that another person takes seriously
and then RESPOND to it.

Not so.

You don't have to do ANYTHING if you don't want to.

So if a woman says "I like tall guys" you can just act
as if it had never been said, and continue with your
conversation, getting her email/number, or whatever.

By the way, this concept can be EXTREMLY useful in
other situations as well. For instance, if a woman starts
getting upset about something and being overly dramatic,
one great thing to do is NOTHING AT ALL. Just sit there
and don't respond at all. Then, when it settles down a
little, just continue your conversation as if nothing
had happened (Oh, and stop hanging out with dramatic,
overly-emotional women too, you dork!).

2) BRING IT UP BEFORE HER

In this case, you're talking about height. One way to
deal with this is to bring it up before she does.

As soon as you start talking say "Well, you're taller
than me... I'm over it, are you yet?"

This says a few things. It says that you know what's
going on... it says you're confident... and it shows that
you're not afraid to deal with it.

It also addresses the issue in such a way that you'll
know where she stands on it.

If she just CAN'T get past it, she'll tell you.


3) MAKE IT HER PROBLEM

Here's a place to use Cocky & Funny.

You might say "Wow, you're kind of a freak. I think
something like 1% of women are as tall as you. It must suck
trying to find nice pants, huh? You have to wear all those
weird pants made for freaks and stuff."

Or if she's talking about a trait that she's attracted
to, point out the negative sides of that trait in a Cocky &
Funny way.

Maybe she says "I like men who know how to treat a lady
special, take her nice places, and who pay for everything
to show that they're a gentleman".

You might say "Oh, so what you're telling me is that
you like men who basically pay for your attention with
money and gifts... how romantic."


...The one thing that you'll find at the bottom of all
the ideas that I've just presented is FIRST OF ALL, NOT
CARING WHAT SHE THINKS OF YOU.

I know that it's a paradox... you obviously want her to
like you, but you have to not care what she thinks of you.

Well, get over it.

Women aren't attracted to men who are APPROVAL SEEKERS.

And if a woman throws out a comment like "I like tall
guys", you must first learn to NOT CARE, and not let it
impact you emotionally.

Then you'll be free to redirect the conversation and
decide if she's the kind of woman that YOU would like to
go out with.

By the way, when you are interacting with a woman, one
of the MOST IMPORTANT FACTORS that will determine whether or
not she will feel ATTRACTION for you is YOUR BELIEFS AND HOW
YOU COMMUNICATE THEM.

And you are constantly communicating your beliefs with
your body language, voice tone, words, topics, questions,
and everything else you do.

And I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David D.

DATING TIP: "What Should I Do If I'd Like This To Turn Into
A Long Term Relationship?"

>>>THIS WEEK'S QUESTION:

David, you have helped me a lot so far, and I feel like I am
somewhat of a different person now compared to before by
reading your dating tips etc. I met a girl not too long ago,
she is a couple hours away from me, and I put to work a lot
of what you had said since talking to her online, and during
my meeting with her, and it all went very well. We spent two
awesome nights together, and I gave her a ride up to the
city on my way home, and the whole time she was playing with
my hair and holding my hand. I was sad to say bye, and I
tried keeping my composure saying bye to her and since when
we have talked on the net, and I have tried "leaning back"
more...it is hard. I even have been trying to talk to and
meet other women (I might have another fun day tomorrow
lol) but all the same, I like this one in particular, and I
am unsure of how to bring up and try and head towards a
relationship with her (at least talking with her about it)
without starting to look like a wuss. I know from
experience that once the wuss factor kicks in I can kiss
any chance goodbye and will just be a LJBF for the girl.
Do I just try playing it cool and hope she comes to me,
and just try going with other girls in the meantime, or
do I approach her...and if I do what do I say? I know she
does have some feelings for me, I kind of brought it up
(minor wuss episode). I want to on one hand be able to
know how to deal with women before getting involved
seriously with one, but if I met one I want already, then
I would be happy with that. I think I would enjoy a long
term relationship. What should I do man? Thanks for
everything, youre the best.

JR



>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a really good question... In fact, I think that
a lot of guys really wonder "Is there anything I should do
DIFFERENTLY if I'd like this to turn into a relationship?"

I need to mention a couple of things here before we
go into this topic:

1. I don't normally talk about "relationships". This isn't
because I think that there's anything wrong with them, or
have something against them. In fact, I think that
relationships are great, and if you're fortunate enough to
find an exceptional woman (and you're the type that wants
a relationship), that it can be a very fulfilling part of
life.

I've just decided to focus on the "meeting and dating"
part of the equation. There are 100 books out there on
relationships, but very few on how to meet women in the
first place (and in my experience, most of the relationship
books aren't that great either).

So don't take my lack of addressing relationships as me
thinking that you should avoid them. If you want to have a
relationship, go for it.

2. The reason why I'd like to address this question is
I think many guys wonder if they should do something
DIFFERENT if they'd like to pursue a relationship with
a woman as opposed to just date her a few times for short-
term fun.

I've also noticed a pattern: When a guy starts to
"like" a girl and feel the "I'd like to be in a long-term
relationship with this girl" feelings, this can be a
powerful emotional influence. Guys often start acting
differently WITHOUT EVEN REALIZING IT, and then justify
their new behavior with the good reasoning of "I really
like this one".


...Soooo, I'm going to answer YOUR question by
answering the question "Should I do anything DIFFERENT
if I'd like this to turn into a relationship?"

And hopefully in the process you'll get a good idea
of what to do in your situation.

I have an idea... let's look at this from a few
different perspectives.

Let's think about some related questions, and work
through them to come up with an answer.

Here are a few that come to mind for me:

"If I act like I'm NOT interested in a relationship, will
that make a woman less interested in me?"

"Are women automatically "turned off" by guys who aren't
interested in relationships?"

"Are their cues or hints that women look for to see
whether you're interested in a "short term" or "long
term" relationship... or a one-night stand?"

"Will a woman who thinks that you're interested in a
"relationship" act differently towards you if she doesn't
KNOW what your intentions are?"

"Is it "OK" to be NOT interested in a relationship, but
still want to meet and date a woman?"

"How do women know when men ARE pursuing them for a
relationship? And how do women typically respond to this?"

"Is there an attitude towards this whole subject that
not only works best, but is also the most healthy?"


I'd like you to take a minute and answer these
questions the best you can, based on your own ideas,
experience, knowledge, etc.

These are great questions to ask yourself on a regular
basis, because they make you THINK about things in a
different way.

This ability to THINK ABOUT THINGS FROM DIFFERENT
PERSPECTIVES will give you a much clearer outlook when
you're dealing with a situation like this one.

Now I'll give you my general answers...

I personally think that women have a basic program when
it comes to men that are potential romantic interests that
says "If he chases me, run. If he doesn't chase me, chase
him."

Of course, this is a big generalization, and it doesn't
always hold true... but it's true enough in most situations.

If you call a woman all the time, she'll probably not
call you. If you take a woman to dinner 4 times in a week,
she probably won't be inviting you over for dinner at her
place.

On the other hand, if you go out with a woman and she
has a GREAT time with you, then you don't call for a couple
of days, or maybe you call once for 3 minutes to tell her
that you're busy and make plans for a few days later, SHE
WILL BE THINKING ABOUT YOU ALL THE TIME.

I also think that women have other little hints that
they look for to see if you're interested in getting into
a relationship.

Do you talk about having kids? Do you ask about her
family and relationships with them? Do you answer HER
questions about these things in a serious way, as if you're
being interviewed? Are you acting stilted and nervous, as
if something huge is depending on her liking you? Do you
call a lot and get her gifts? Do you check up to see what
she's doing all the time, even though you don't know her
that well?

All of these things are hints that women use to tell how
"relationship minded" you are with her.

If you do seem like you're into a relationship, then a
woman has a much bigger decision to make, and will be
taking all kinds of things into consideration... little
gestures will take on new meaning.

If you're ONLY looking for a "relationship", then this
will come across in all your dealings with women. You'll be
asking different questions, answering questions differently,
and playing to the long term. This can create all kinds of
problems when done "too much too soon".

My personal experience is that women will act much more
"real" if you don't put any pressure on the situation. It's
when you're acting like this is either "marriage or we're
breaking up" right from the beginning that you're ASKING FOR
BIG TROUBLE.

Another key point I've realized is that JUST BECAUSE I
AM OR AM NOT LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP DOESN'T MEAN THAT
I'M GOING TO KEEP FEELING THAT SAME WAY A WEEK FROM NOW.

I've had times in my life when I've been single and
thinking "I'm not into a relationship right now", and then
I met a fantastic woman that changed my mind.

I've also had times when I wanted a relationship, but
had more fun being single so I didn't pursue one.

Best idea: Approach the whole topic with the attitude
of "I'm open to whatever great opportunities present
themselves."

When you're with a woman you've just met, don't put the
pressure on. Lean back. Be cool. (ESPECIALLY if the woman
is unusually attractive... attractive women are used to men
falling for them too quickly, and this turns them off)

If the topic comes up, say "Well, I'm single now, and if
I meet a woman that I really like, then we'll see what
happens." A lot of guys don't want to come across as being
"afraid of commitment". But don't go overboard to prove that
you're not... because you'll come across as a Wuss-Bag if
you try too hard. A woman won't run away from you if you're
not calling her 10 times a day. In fact, she'll PROBABLY run
if you DO call her too often.

Another perspective I have is that a LOT of relationship
problems are the result of people who don't know each other
getting involved too deeply and too quickly. This is another
great thing to MENTION if a woman pushes you on the topic.

But back to the particular situation at hand...

I think you're doing EXACTLY the right thing (except for
the Wuss episode, of course).

You have a woman that lives a couple of hours away that
you've known in person for a couple of days. You're not
going to be able to spend much time with her ANYWAY.

If I were you, and I REALLY liked her, I would call her
a couple of times a week, and see her every week or two for
a few months. Get to know her better.

And in the meantime, if you want to see other women, go
for it. Do what feels right to you.

What you're doing now is OBVIOUSLY ATTRACTIVE to her, so
KEEP IT UP. Don't change what you're doing because you
ASSUME that she wants you to act differently towards her to
"signal" that you want a relationship.

The relationship will evolve on its own, so let it. You're
not in middle school anymore. You don't have to send her a
note that says "Will you go with me?"

But always remember, don't turn into a WUSSY if you do get
into a relationship. If you do, you'll either find yourself
being dumped, or wake up one day with a ring through your
nose and a leash around your neck... and an unhappy woman in
your life to boot.

That's my story, and I'm sticking to it.
And I'll talk to you in a couple of days.


Your Friend,

David D.

DATING TIP: How To Flirt With Women And Why...
I want to talk about the concept of "flirting", and why
it's SO important that you understand exactly what it is and
how to do it with women.

To begin with, women know what flirting is, and they
respond VERY differently to flirting communication than they
do to typical social communication.

If you understand flirting and sexual tension, you can
begin conversations with women and have them INSTANTLY
feeling ATTRACTION for you.

If you DON'T understand how flirting and sexual tension
work, then you're either going to have to become famous or
make a LOT of money to be successful with women.

I'm going to suggest that you learn how to flirt well,
then do it RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING in your interactions with
women to SET THE RIGHT TONE.

Think of flirting like playing.

Remember when you were a kid and you used to "play fight"
with your friends?

What's the difference between "play" wrestling and "real"
wrestling?

And how do you know the difference when it's happening...
when your friend runs up and pushes you down, then jumps on
you and tries to pin you?

The answer is YOU JUST KNOW. It's obvious to humans (and
other animals, by the way) when someone is "playing" and when
they're serious.

Flirting is similar.

If you start talking to a woman and say "Hi, you're very
pretty. You probably have a boyfriend, right?" in a normal
tone of voice, you're NOT flirting.

On the other hand, if you say "Hi, I realize that you're
probably shy because you get no attention from men... so I
thought I'd come over here and pay attention to you..." it's
OBVIOUS that you're not being serious. This is flirting.

By the way, flirting IS NOT simply telling jokes, or
trying to be "cute".

One of the concepts that I teach is called "Cocky & Funny."

Cocky & Funny is simply a powerful, concentrated way of
flirting and creating sexual tension with a specific kind of
humor.

It's so funny to me how some guys write in because they
"can't see themselves being Cocky & Funny around women"
because they don't want to come across as jerks.

This really cracks me up... because it's obvious to me
that these guys JUST DON'T GET IT.

So let me explain this whole thing a different way...

If you know how to communicate the right way, women will
respond to you RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING with a HIGH LEVEL
of sexual interest and ATTRACTION.

When you know how to incorporate flirting in a Cocky &
Funny way, which is really a form of "adult verbal play",
you tune in to a certain frequency in a woman's mind, and
cause her to go into a very special kind of emotional state.

One of the keys to effective flirting is to "get it". In
other words, you have to actually get out there and practice
so you get a "feel" for how it works.

I think a lot of guys give up when they try a cute line
or technique and a woman responds by saying "You're a loser."
Instead of just realizing that they need more practice or
that the woman might have just been in a bad mood or even
one of those horrible "I don't have a sense of humor" cases,
they take it personally and decide to just have it mean that
they're a failure.

But take my word for it... once you learn how to flirt
effectively and communicate in the language of "adult play"
you WILL SIMPLY NOT BELIEVE how women will respond to you.

Here's an example of some of one of my favorite topics to
"riff on" when flirting... the topic of getting married and
us being in a relationship... and I'll give it to you in the
form of a sample dialogue. Keep in mind, I might have a
conversation like this one with a woman that I just met five
minutes earlier...

Her: "I have a good job, and I make good money"

Me: "Nice. I like that in a woman. Want to get married? We
could leave for Vegas right now and be married in about 4
or 5 hours. I need a woman with money."

Her: "OK, that sounds like a plan"

Me: "But wait a minute... do you think you can support the
both of us on your income? I really want to be a stay at
home husband... you know, keep an eye on the TV and such."

Her: "Oh, no... I won't support you."

Me: "Well, then I'm breaking up with you. It's over between
us. I was going to marry you, then divorce you a week later
and take half your money."

Her: "You can't break up with me! I'm not even
your girlfriend."

Me: "That's all the more reason."


...do you get what's going on here?

I'm taking a normal conversation topic (her job and income)
and redirecting the conversation in a flirtatious, Cocky &
Funny way to create a fun mood and sexual tension (by
suggesting marriage, divorce, and breaking up over her not
supporting me, etc.).

If the above example doesn't make any sense to you, then
take that as a sign that you need to get out and practice
more. Try it on a waitress or two.

When you ask for something and she says "I'm sorry, we
don't have that", just say "OK, this relationship isn't
working out... I'm going to have to break up with you."

In fact, you can say this in just about ANY situation
with ANY woman where she's saying something that you don't
like, and it's funny.

When you communicate like this, you're FLIRTING, you're
TEASING, and you're initiating a DIFFERENT KIND OF
COMMUNICATION than most men initiate.

And as soon as the woman you're talking to "engages" you
in this kind of dialogue, THE GAME IS ON.

There are a LOT of ways you can flirt, and a lot of ways
you can be Cocky & Funny that DON'T REQUIRE WORDS.

If a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow, look back
at her and do the same... only exaggerate it.

If a woman puts her hand on your arm, look down at it,
then look up at her in a surprised way, then raise your
eyebrows as if you just had a major "ah ha!" realization...
then start smiling and nodding your head as if you just
realized that she wants you. This is a powerful combination
because it's funny, and it exaggerates the meaning in her
touching you.

There are a MILLION ways to flirt like this, but the point
that I'm trying to make is that you NEED TO START DOING IT
RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING OF YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN.

It will set off all of your conversations with women on
the right foot, and start a dialogue that creates sexual
tension and ATTRACTION.

If you DON'T learn how to communicate with women like this
you'll have BORING, "NORMAL" conversations that NEVER lead
to sexual tension and ATTRACTION.

Remember, women can tell INSTANTLY whether you're flirting
with them or not. If you are, and you're doing it in a subtle,
charming way, you'll get amazing responses.

One of the keys to flirting and creating ATTRACTION
effectively is projecting confidence and indifference both
in your voice tone and body language as you do it.

And in order to project these things you need to have the
right understanding and BELIEFS about how male/female
ATTRACTION works... and then be able to project them through
your conversation to women.

In my new CD audio series, I explain the most important
beliefs to project, and exactly how to project them so the
woman you're talking to senses INSTANTLY and at an
UNCONSCIOUS level that you know how to communicate on many
levels with her... all through body language, voice tone,
and words.

Of course, I also teach many, many ways to tease, use
Cocky & Funny, and flirt with women... including all of my
personal favorites. One great benefit of listening to the
audio series is that you can ACTUALLY HEAR ME LIVE teaching
how I communicate. As you can imagine, this is basically
priceless. Anyways, go check it out:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/advancedseries

And make sure you get a copy of my eBook "Double Your Dating".
It's full of the "basics", and it's the best place to start.

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook

Both of the above web pages contain several samples, and
I encourage you to go check them out when you visit.

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend

David D.

THE MAILBAG: Wussies Don't Attract Women!


***QUESTION***

Dave,

I got your book and I've read it twice. It's helped me to
pinpoint areas where I need to improve and basically
understand some of why women do what they do. However I have
a situation. Normally, I'm a smart ass, I'm always making
smart comments, and a general joker. The problem is, when I
go to a club or a bar, with gorgeous HBs [Hot Babes], my
mind goes blank. It's almost like my brain locks and all i
can do is look without anything to say. Needless to say it
frustrates the hell outta me. Any advice? Should I do some
affirmations? How do I overcome this?

Signed,

Pissed off in DC


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I think your problem is really pretty simple.

You are experiencing something that I have been through a
bazillion times. In fact, I think that most guys have been
through this cycle at some point in life.

One of the ideas that I teach is "Have one good default
thing to do in each common situation".

In other words, it sounds to me like you just haven't taken
the time to work out a basic system for yourself that will
allow you to meet any woman you come across in one of these
situations.

Here's your homework:

Take out a piece of paper right now, and write down your one
singe favorite way to start a conversation with a woman.

Next, plan out EXACTLY how it should go in your mind.

Next, mentally rehearse this scenario over and over and
over until you have it clearly in your mind.

Finally, go out tomorrow night and use this one introduction
to meet 10 women.

The next day, sit down again for a few minutes and think
about how it worked for you.

Think about ways you could improve your approach, and if you
come up with some good innovations, go ahead and do the
same process of mentally rehearsing the new ideas until you
have them down.

One thing that really makes me laugh is that MOST GUYS SPEND
MORE TIME REHEARSING THEIR VOICEMAIL MESSAGE THAN THEY DO
REHEARSING SCENARIOS WITH WOMEN.

You need one good, solid, default thing to do in each common
situation with women. So pick one, and refine it until your
mind no longer goes blank!


***COMMENT***

Hey, one of the things I noticed about stupid guys who can't
get laid or even a phone number is that they aren't around
women enough. Having your own business, or doing sales makes
you realize that you have to let people, or in this case
women know about your product, you. I am always amazed by
guys who whine they can't meet any chicks and then stay home
and masturbate on a Friday night, or even worse drink at some
dive bar where there are no women. This may sound rudimentary
but go shopping once in a while, be around them; there are
insecure women everywhere for the taking, especially on a
Sunday afternoon, if you know what I mean.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Preach it, my brother.

Sometimes I don't mention the obvious enough, and I thank
you for reminding me and everyone else of one of the basic
fundamental truths of being successful with women.

Thanks again!



***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Hi,

I read some of your articles that I found very interesting.
My brother shows me it and tell me a lot of things that he
had learned. But I used to ask him, what can I do to attract
man. He suggest me to ask you, maybe you can give me some
advice or show me a good link for women.

For about 13 years, I was part of a very strict religion.
Now I'm out of it. I'm 28 years old and still virgin. I feel
very naive about relationships and sex and I'm looking for
good advices about these topics. Which websites would you
recommend me? Is your program going to help a female? I
would really appreciate your help.

Thanks in advance.

D.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, if you want to get the virginity thing handled, just
go out any night to any bar in any town and walk up to any
guy and say "Hi, would you like to have sex?"

It goes without saying that you'll want to use protection,
but as a woman I don't think you're going to have much of
a problem meeting a willing man!

lol...

I thought your email was interesting because most guys
assume WAY too much about women, and they don't realize
that women are insecure, inexperienced, and uncertain in
many situations as well.



***QUESTION***

Dave,

First off, fantastic book! It's the Holy Grail of Manhood,
methinks! I have plenty of girls getting a rise out of my
C-F attitude--it doesn't make sense at all but, like you
say, to them it's magic. For example, a few weeks ago I
approached a really attractive girl (about an 8.5) at a
stopwalk downtown by busting on her about her platform
heels she had on (made some reference to Studio 54), got
her digits and told her we should have coffee sometime--she
loved the idea. When we met downtown for coffee, she said
there was a particular shoppe she would like to go to, I
firmly said 'No' and took her to another one. It was
fantastic Dave!!! The day was beautiful and, yes, there was
much more for dessert that day than my Biscotti :)

Now, I just graduated college and work in a large
midwestern city. I'm a goodlooking guy, well dressed, smart,
pretty nice job, stylish...the whole package, right? I also
have a thing for older women...MILF's if you will. I've
recently been hitting this martini bar where quite a few
attractive (and well-to-do) women go. I've been reluctant
to use the CF technique that I use on college girls on
older women, as they probably don't play the same 'games'
younger ladies do. What is your advice? Younger girls are
great and energetic, but those 35-year old's have something
you only get with age...experience.

Thanks Dave!! Can't wait for the next book!!

D, Indianapolis


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Mature, intelligent women LOVE a Cocky & Funny man.

I think you're going to find that sophisticated women are
FAR MORE receptive to your new charm techniques than
their younger counterparts...

But be careful. Older women are more experienced, have
been through more games, and know what they want and how
to get it.

You might be writing me soon to ask me why your new
girlfriend has you wearing a collar and barking like a
dog.


***QUESTION***

Dear Dave,

First off, props to you on the book. The book is really
about how to take control of your life and get what you
want from it. That's awesome. I dated this really hot chick
that was in med school. I did the whole cocky and funny
routine. Works like magic. Here's an example: "I love you,
V." Me laughing ... I love me too. That's when I had to bail
on her. She even bought me some pimp Versace gear.

I am stuck in a difficult situation. Due to the way I look,
dress, and talk, girls assume that I am a player. I am very,
very inexperienced however. I have had a few times where I
am about to seal the deal, and some girl will ask me, "How
many girls have you been with ?" or "You are a player
aren't you ?" I have never sealed the deal and if I tell
them this they don't believe me and some will just get mad
and leave. I am not sure what I should say in this
situation. I think some of your book is based on being able
to kiss properly such as the kiss test or the c+f comment,
"I don't even know if you kiss well. " I do not even know
how to kiss properly. I can be cocky and funny and can
attract girls but then I don't know how to be cocky and
funny and bring up that I have never done anything. Please
help me resolve this because armed with my determination and
my improving skills.

V-Man


>>>MY COMMENTS:

You're too much.

She even bought you "some pimp Versace gear"?

Nice!

OK, you say that you've read my book, but you must have
missed page 62. I explain exactly how to deal with this
kind of situation (questions you don't want to answer).

Here, let me get creative for you...

She asks: "Are you a player?"

You answer: "Are you trying to hide the fact that YOU are?"

One key in situations like this is to NEVER give a woman
a direct answer.

Use your Cocky & Funny skills to come up with 5 good answers,
and use them.

Maybe say: "Yes, I play sports... what do you like?"

As you can see, I like to turn questions and accusations
around and guess that they're trying to hide the fact that
what they're asking about is something wrong with THEM.

Just don't answer directly... and most women will give up.

If you get defensive and say "Oh, no no no... I'm not a
Player at all..." most women won't believe you anyway -
even if you're NOT a player.



***QUESTION***

Hey Dave, well, like everyone else that's written I must
say your book helped, even before when I read your letters
every week they helped. I've had a lot of success. Well I
would of never expected myself to email you, cause there was
really no point, cause your book helped a lot, but sadly...
that day has come, where I need help.. oh yes. Ok, Thanks
to you I got jiggy with it, got girls, but I fell head over
heals with this one girl. Make a long story short. I went
out with her, she'd always have fun, but still I wasn't
always at my full potential cause she was the one that made
me feel all tingly inside and I had just gotten your book.
But, there was this one occasion where I listened to my
friend.. he said "tell her you like her".. but I knew I
shouldn't cause you always say never tell a girl you like
them. Well, you guessed it. I told her that. And everything
started going down hill after that. And to make matters
worse, I finished everything off with her, and well said
some things I regret. After that happened and tried to
forget about her, but she IMed me once saying she wanted to
give me back something I had given her for her birthday,
but she didn't want to give it to me personally. Still had
fun teasin her, but nothing. Then I went out with some
girls got #'s to keep my mind off her. Went on vacation.
but nothing. 2 months without her drove me crazy, so I
emailed her a couple times 3 to be exact. Made them as
cocky and funny as they could be. But no cigar. Now I'm
just doomed. Sure people have told me to move on, and
probably you'll say that. But I've tried, but I feel like
she's the one. But she despises me, or so I think. So Dave,
is there something you can tell this grashopper to try get
her back or try to do to I don't know.. it's tough though.

Sincerely,

B.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ouch.

As you know, you've done a VERY VERY VERY bad thing...

YOU TURNED INTO A WUSSY!

Here's your homework:

Take out an entire blank notebook full of paper and write
the following by hand:

"I will not act like a WUSSY. I will not act like a WUSSY.
I will not act like a WUSSY."

When you've filled the notebook you may stop.

Get it?

WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES.

And of course you've gone and made the situation worse with
each move you've made... probably to the point where there's
not much you're going to be able to do about it.

Just get on with your life, and let this be a lesson to you
and anyone reading this. Don't act like a WUSSY! Don't tell
a woman you "like" her too early on. Don't call her too
often. Don't act clingy and needy. STOP THAT!

When you act like a Wuss, women lose their ATTRACTION for
you... and they can't even explain why it's happening.

So stop that!



***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I have to say first and foremost that you are a genius.
While I have had some very good looking girlfriends, it
never dawned on me the reason that we were never together
very long was because I acted like a wuss, and got way too
clingy. I am not a great looking guy, but most girls (even
really good looking ones), have described me as being
"cute" (consequently, I have realized that a guy's looks
have very, very little to do with being successful with
women--maybe like 5%). I have been putting your tactics to
work lately and I have to admit they work like a charm, as
I have gotten more email addresses and phone numbers than I
know what to do with. I am a House DJ in a nightclub and
this affords me the perfect opportunity to talk to good
looking girls since I am approached by or talked to at
least 3 or 4 times a night by such girls, either asking me
questions about the music or if I have a certain song.
While I don't have a lot of time to talk to them (usually no
more than 2 or 3 minutes), I have been able to get their
email and phone numbers very quickly using your techniques
(even when their boyfriends are with them at the
club...hahahaha...more on that later). Basically, I start
busting on them about something or other and get them
laughing (usually because they don't know the name of the
song and start trying to imitate it or sing the words in
it...), and then I come out with "So, are you single?".
Most of the time they tell me "no, I have a boyfriend".

Now this is an important point for a lot of your readers.
Everyone, listen up!

Just because a woman says she has a boyfriend doesn't mean
it's true.

I have found on numerous occasions that women I have
gotten emails and phone numbers from have been single, after
they have told me they have a boyfriend. It almost seems
like they are using it as a test to see what you are going
to do. I really don't get it, but I stopped trying to
figure it out, just follow your advice and don't let it
worry me. Most of the time when they say they have
boyfriends they offer no resistance when I ask for their
email and phone number. (Forgive me Dave, I haven't followed
your advice to the "T". I admit I haven't attempted the "it
was nice meeting you, I need to get back to work." and then
as she is leaving say "Hey! do you have an email?" The
method I use has been working pretty good for me, but I will
try doing this when I meet women outside the club,
especially the ones at the gym I go to-- which I haven't
really approached yet)

One case that stands out in particular happened last
weekend when this extremely hot brunette with a body to die
for (probably 9.75/10) came up and we started talking.(the
guy running the lights almost started drooling) She told
me right off the bat she had a boyfriend. I asked if she was
tired of him yet, and she giggled and said "no, we've been
going out for about 3 years, we've had our ups and downs,
but things are going allright now.", smiled and then said to
me "you are so sweet though" and put her head on my
shoulder. She then immediately asked me "Why, are you
single?" I laughed and said "Maybe. Why, do you know someone
who might be interested in me?" She smiIed again, and I
knew I had her at this point. I then said "Don't you think
it's going to be hard to think of your boyfriend when it's
so obvious you are attracted to me?" She smiled again and
kind of cocked her head sideways, but didn't say anything,
so I followed up with "Wow, three years is a long
time...when's the wedding date?" She said "Oh, he isn't
really the kind of guy I'm looking to marry...", and I said
"then stop wasting your time with him and give me your
email address." She gave me a "deer in the headlights" look,
like she was in shock at what I said, but then immediately
said "OK", took the pen and proceeded to write it down.
While she was doing this I said "and go ahead and write down
you phone number too." She said "OK" again and wrote it
down. Then she handed it to me and said, almost reluctantly
"I have a boyfriend you know...". I then pulled a line that
one of your other readers used in one of the newsletters
(these newsletters definately come in handy! Sometimes I
almost fall out my chair laughing at what some of the otehr
people write in with...hahaha), saying "Look, I understand
that must be a major accomplishment for someone that looks
like you. I can't imagine any guy that would want to be seen
in public with you. He probably got tired of you begging..."
She acted hurt, slapped me in the arm and said "you are so
mean!" My song was running out at this point, so I told her
I needed to get back to work, and she kissed me on the
cheek, rubbed her hand from my shoulder down my chest and
said "you better call me..." and left.

In the past I would have just talked to her for a minute,
found out she had a boyfriend and then stopped talking to
her, but after reading your material I just keep going, and
I am realizing that most women will still give out their
information to a total stranger even when they have
boyfriends. I was shocked to find this out! I asked one of
my woman friends about this and she laughed and told me that
most women aren't entirely happy with their relationships. I
asked her why do they keep going out with that person if
they really aren't happy and she said "because nothing
better has come along..." Amazing!

Thanks again! Keep up the good work!

M.E.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, well THE CAT IS OUT OF THE BAG NOW!

Yes, women will say ALL KINDS OF THINGS when you first meet
them... especially attractive women.

But as you've seen, these things often aren't true, or are
just smoke screens to protect them from having to deal with
a bunch of loser guys who want to waste their time.

Your email is great. It should be read 10 times by any guy
who is learning about this stuff, and memorized.

By the way, GREAT CHOICE OF OCCUPATIONS.

One of the very best things you can do for your success
with women is to PUT YOURSELF IN A POSITION THAT CAUSES
THEM TO APPROACH YOU.

Be a dance teacher, a musician, a pottery or yoga teacher,
a DJ, a bartender, or a women's shoe salesman.

This is an amazing way to really improve your skills with
women and skyrocket your success.


***QUESTION***

Dave,

Your material is golden. The c+f routine and tips have
done me wonders, but you know they work so ill get to the
point. I have been working on this girl for quite some
time (shes a ten and worth it), I built the anticipation,
got her to give me her phone number: she has asked me to
hang out and repeatedly emailed me askin me what im up to.
However! I waited a little while to actually ask her to
hang out(to make me look a little busy), but when I did call
her and ask her to hang out she said sure, and said she
would call me right back and never did!......and to make
things worse, she wrote me an email the next day tellin me
she forgot to call me back! shes so sorry, bla bla bla
ect........I know the girl thinks about me and I know she
wants to hang out with me, why would she do
that?......callin her repeatedly would be a wussy move: am
i right?.....I blew it of and gave her a c+f answer sayin
do u expect me to believe that, im startin to think I make
you nervous. I honestly don’t think she forgot, is this a
game?......This is the first 10 ive encountered since ive
used your techniques so I need some advice. I wanna make
this one count.

Thanks Dave
PLEASE WRITE BACK!

JR
New Jersey


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice... you're doing great.

Here's something to remember:

Attractive women are approached ALL THE TIME by men.

Some attractive women give out their number several times
every night they go out.

This is reality.

Often, attractive women will actually give out their number
JUST TO GET RID OF YOU.

Really.

Some women get an "ego hit" of power and self esteem when a
lot of guys are calling them.

But this leads to another problem... the problem of not having
enough time to see all of these men (or never even intending to
from the beginning).

You're going to find that a lot of women "flake out" when you
make plans with them.

I will say that the fact that she emailed you the next day to
tell you that she forgot to call you is a positive sign. If she
just wanted you to go away, she wouldn't have done this.

You need to bust her balls, make fun of her for flaking, and
tell her that she's on strike one.

You might want to tell her "Well, since you flaked out on me
once, now you have to take ME out. Here's my address and the
directions to my house. Come pick me up."

You need to let her know that it's NOT OK for her to be flaky,
and at the same time use her flaky behavior as material to
tease her with.

Be persistent. You'll learn how to deal with this as you date
more women.


***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Hi,

I have been reading your emails for about 6 months and
think you are totally, exactly, completely, right on target.
I just started dating a guy that I am attracted to and I who
really like, but I don't feel strong attraction. I realized
that it's because I'm a bit of a smartass, and most of the
time when I bust on him, he takes it - I really don't want
him to at all, ever! Do you have any advice for women on
how to get a man to "be a man"?! Is there something I could
say to him that would do the trick? Maybe a little less
blunt than "I really need a man who won't take my crap, can
you do that?" He doesn't have email (yes, he does have
electricity!) and I don't know him well enough yet to tell
him to buy your book - we've only had one date. I just want
him to stop letting me get away with being a brat! Please
don't tell me I have to stop being a brat - that would ruin
the fun. I look forward to your speedy reply - as we'll be
going on another date this weekend! Thanks for all that you
do for the women of the world. You are my hero. :)

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, yes. That's me...

David DeAngelo, the unselfish helper of women.

Well, here's the deal. Trying to teach a guy how to stop
acting like a WUSSY isn't easy.

I would suggest that you send him to my website and tell him
to read my newsletters.

I realize that it doesn't sound very romantic, but you have
a choice: Either help him to stop acting so damn "nice" or
tell him to get lost.

Hey, maybe he'd make a "Sweet, minivan driving house-husband"
for you?

Sounds charming, doesn't it?

NOTE TO GUYS: Women aren't ATTRACTED to "nice".



***QUESTION***

great newsletter

im still bumbed out on one thing though i have read the
book unstoppable confidence and it says the way to get along
with people is similarity cooperation and praise you are
telling me its being a total jerk i just dont get it please
help

j


>>>MY COMMENTS:

I am not, do not, and have not EVER told ANYONE that "The
way to get along with people is to be a total jerk."

Never.

No no no.

What I DO say is that jerks often create an amazing feeling
of ATTRACTION inside of women, and that there are ways that
the average guy like you and me can take some of those
things that "jerks" do, and use these powerful techniques
WITHOUT THE ABUSIVE PARTS to make women feel attract to US
instead.

Make no mistake about it, I don't think it's a good idea to
act like a "jerk" to other people.

But I DO think it's a GREAT idea to tease women, bust on them,
be Cocky & Funny, and play hard to get.

You need to pay more specific attention to what I'm saying,
and stop looking to pop psychology and self-help books to
teach how to attract women.



***QUESTION***

David,

First off, let me say that your newsletters and E-Book are
awesome. They satisfied nearly every inquiry I have had in
regards to getting started with women. Needless to say my
success rate has gone through the roof! I will be ordering
the audio series soon. ...Which brings me to my question.
This is a complex one, with story behind so please bear with
me.. Here goes:

I an recently single and jumped back into the dating game.
One of the first nights I went out as a single man, one of
my female friends and I kissed on a bet. I did not know of
the bet, but I thought nothing of it after I found out.
Although the girl that had kissed me was attractive, i had
no feeling for her, just as I thought there was no feeling
on her side. We will refer the this girl as Girl A. We saw
each other a couple more times, with added intimacy but left
things on a very strictly emotionless basis. She had
commented that she did not want me getting attached, and I
reminded her that there was no cause for her to worry. Some
days later, hanging out in a bar with the same group of
friends, I employed some of your most valuable tactics and
met Girl B. Things were much different. I was very
attracted to Girl B and I felt as though I had her attention
as well. We talked at the bar, and as it turns out she is
very good friends with some of my other female friends. We
all ended up back at a friend's apartment, and Girl B and I
sat on the couch, and talked for hours. We eventually
decided to stay over and sort of fell over. We made a week
attempt at sleeping and ended up kissing and holding each
other all night. It was everything that I wanted to
happen. Because I am a gentleman, I did nothing more than
kiss. I felt chemistry and did not want to rush things.
Besides, the anticipation is fun! The very next weekend,
there was a party at the same apartment. Both Girl A and
Girl B were present. Needless to say I payed attention to
Girl B. Contrary to my original thoughts, Girl A did not
like this. Towards the end of the night, girl A made a
scene and called me out to discuss this. After clearing up
the problem, I went back looking for Girl B, but did not
find her. I was advised that she was on her way to the car.
I caught her on her way to the car and asked her if i could
talk to her. after an explanation of the situation, and
assurance that girl A is out of the picture, she gave me her
phone #s and thats how we left it. Since, Girl B has been
reluctant to return calls and get together. A situation
that had worked great from the start is now compromised by
someone else...

How can I win back the affections of girl B. I felt a
connection with her, and would love to get back on the right
track. Our mutual friends have not been of assistance so
far. I try calling, but I feel as though if I called as
much as I'd like to I'd look like a wuss. I have had no
problem with setting up mystery. I drive a hot car, play
semi pro sports, and use these things carefully and only
discuss when asked. Don't want to look too arrogant! What
else should I try, or how should I act to achieve the
desired result? I know getting another girl, or even
flirting in front of her, while not impossible would kill
any chances... While "Cocky and Funny" got my foot in the
door, I don't know if it is right for the situation.

Your Thoughts...

E.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

Your email is profound. There are many lessons that can be
learned from it, and I want to point out a few of them...

The first one is that JEALOUSY can actually LEAD TO LOVE.

This situation where girl A didn't have any "feelings" for
you until she saw you with girl B is the RULE, not the
exception.

If your significant other breaks up with you, one of the
best things you can do to get them back is to:

1) Act like you're OK with their decision to leave.

2) Start dating other people and let them know about it.

This combination alone is usually enough to make them come
back to you.

JEALOUSY IS POWERFUL.

It's FAR more powerful than most people suspect.

Jealousy causes people to do crazy things and feel VERY
powerful emotions... from love to hate.

Your mistake in this situation was this:

When girl A "made a scene and called you out to discuss
the situation" you WENT WITH HER.

If I was in that situation, I would have just looked at
her and said "You might want to consider acting like an
adult here. I'll talk to you another time."

I'm guessing that to girl B you just came across as a
whipped wussy who was cheating on his girlfriend, etc.

Girl B didn't know you long enough to understand the
relationship and have enough invested to FEEL jealous in
this situation.

Ironically, the best thing you can probably do is get
on with your life, and date other women.

And in the future, don't allow a woman to throw a tantrum
and control you and a situation.

Trying to "get her back" is a losing game in most
situations... because the act alone suggests that you're
needy (especially when you don't even know a woman very
well, and you're trying to "get her back" after one or
two dates).

The best thing to do is get on with your life, then call
her in a month or two to see if she wants to have coffee.

Don't talk about heavy things, and don't mention anything
about what happened. Just be casual.

You've learned a very valuable lesson, so remember it.

As a side note, I want to thank you for your email, and
thank you for the compliments on my book. Most guys think
that if they "drove a hot car and played semi-pro sports"
that they wouldn't need this material... but as you know,
if you don't understand how women and dating "work", then
almost nothing can help you.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.









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